How is it not appropriate…? 
God bless that man for having put up with you long enuf to impregnate you and coparent with you.
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Appropriate??? How is her being a T-rex not appropriate? Let her be the damn dinosaur and stop just looking for shit to complain about 
Atleaat he brought a costume better than not bringing one
At least he brought something 
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I mean my daughter wanted to be a piece of pizza …lol now shes a teddy 
Don’t be so hard on him, hey it was probably just a really stressful week for him we all have them and sometimes running around for a costume is the last thing you want to do, you obviously love it so you should have been the one organising this month’s ago, at least he got the costume. Think about the positives in your life 
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Did you even bother to tell him what you thought was “appropriate”? the fact he did and came through I feel should mean a little something though no?
sounds like my daughters father 
but anyways I’ve learnt to just do it myself, can’t rely on them
So it sounds like he kept his word and got her a costume. He followed through and you are still giving him a hard time? Come on now do you really think you have a reason to be upset or are you just being petty?
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What’s wrong with a dinosaur?
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This is why I take care of everything. I cannot depend on my ex to do anything in a timely manner and he refuses to communicate. He barely has time with my son anyway suppose to be 6hrs a week but since August 20th he’s only seen him 1 time. He didn’t even try to communicate with my son this week knowing since September 27th he was going to miss this week due to my oldest have Bowling Traveling Leagues so we were gone Friday after school to this afternoon. I do not depend on my ex for anything at all not extras, not visitations and not even child support as far as I am concerned I am doing this on my own.
If he works all the time then you can’t blame him for not having the time to get her one. You could’ve gotten one just in case and a TRex costume is freaking awesome. You’re tripping.
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What’s wrong with being a dinosaur
You are totally wrong to being upset. Hell my daughter this year is mickey mouse and you know what I never complained about it as my daughter and her dad picked it out she loves it. Stop being picky as clothes and toys have no genders.
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I understand the frustration but honestly I would be happy he even got her anything. I get being busy for sure and maybe he did just grab something but atleast he made sure she was covered. There’s plenty of times I’m just too tired or too busy and I’m like ehhh whatever and grab something, anything that’ll work. You could always just throw a pink bow on it or something to make it girly. Either that or get one that you like yourself. She had a costume so it’s a win imo.
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I need more info here. Like did your little girl want to be a t rex? Pr was she like begging to be jasmine and he just got that costume and was like ooopp heres a costume.
Either way like its great that he got her a costume no matter what but if she doesnt want to be a trex then i get it.
Get over yourself!!! be grateful he cared enough to get her one and is apart of her life, not every child is that fortunate to have a dad that cares ffs…
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I’ve never heard t-rexes referred to as inappropriate 
if a costume was not decided/agreed upon beforehand I don’t see the problem. Little baby trex ? Sounds cute lol
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Be grateful that he bought her something
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Damn ungrateful is real.
Put a pink bow on it n be a girl t-rex. This is petty.
Yes you’re wrong lol what exactly is appropriate and why wasn’t that appropriate? What was wrong with it. You sound petty. Stop it. Bigger fish to fry to bitching about a dinosaur costume.
So yes you’re very wrong. And you even exchanged it??? Lmao wow you’re special
He literally got her a costume. How is that unreliable. The OP needs to pull her head out of her ass.
So why ask him to do something if you’re just gonna waste his time and don’t yourself…you sound petty like the OP
Mmm nope it doesn’t work like that
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Tell him if he wants a sitter then he needs to find one & take the kids to them. He shouldn’t take advantage of your family helping while BOTH of you work… who keeps them when you’re off work? My bet is YOU!
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He can spend time with his kids
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I would on the condition he take over your daily duties when he returns to work. And I mean everything, a whole week since he got to have some rest, only fair you get to as well, and none of that “too tired after work” bs.
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Absolutely not, he can spend time with his children.
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Now that’s funny didn’t know parents got alone time
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Tell him to step up or step out he helped make the child he can help raise the child as well or get gone.
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doesn’t work like that. he can spend time with the child. tell him no, you’re not taking little one to your family,
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Hell no. He needs to take care of his kids too. Wth
Uh , NO ! That’s called parenting…
Woah, dumpster fire. My husband always says, our kids, our responsibility. He would work midnights then get off work, come home right before I’d leave for work, and watch the baby until I got home rinse repeat. This dude is very not ready to be a dad.
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Not sure it’s something to be upset about. You choose to stay at home with the kids while you were on a work break, maybe he wants to use that time for something else. Maybe he just needs a break for a few days. I mean, being a parent and working is exhausting, everyone deserves a break sometimes. As long as the kids well cared for.
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Nope, that’s part of being a parent.
I could understand if he wanted a day, but all week? 
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I’d think your parents needed a break… they’ve already raised their kids…now yours as well…have your husband take the kids to his own parents home…give your parents a break…
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Parenting is a shared responsibility. 50/50. If he isn’t going to use his “alone” time to do the things that would still keep you busy after returning from a full day’s work, then you have a selfish husband. You didn’t make those kids alone. You both work for that home. 50/50!
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Typical.
Not ok, but I see alot of “dads” pawning their children off with other’s on their holiday, their weekend. Its ridiculous.
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I’d be upset too . It would be different if it others weren’t watching them , but when he’s home ? I could understand a day or two , but not the whole week . You didn’t have those kids alone , it’s 50/50 . If you can do it , so can he . I’d refuse and let him take care of the kids .
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You have every right to be upset. Your husband isn’t a dad. He isn’t interested in taking care of his children, yet he expects you to. He wants his alone time. Give it to him. You & your kids will be better off without him. I bet he won’t even want visitation.
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Wait what !! Absolutely not !!
And what’s does he need to do that’s so important that he has to leave the kids with grandma and grandpa who have them all the time for a week straight sounds like he’s up to something shady nope he’ll no I would pack his bag for him 
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Wow. Wtf?? He is the parent of that child. He should take some responsibility
hes funny tell him to suck it up and look after his kids!!! Some Men seem to think parenthood is a choice
I completely understand what ur going through! I’m right there with you! My husband will not take care of our son at all. Period. It doesn’t matter how sick I am… or what I need to do. Not even 10 min… he will not watch him. He wasn’t raised to care for anything or pick up after himself. I blame the in laws for how he turned out entirely.
I choose to function as a single parent. And thank God for my family. It’s the only way I can get through the day. If I have no expectations then I have no reason to be disappointed or angry. 
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Selfish SOAB … did he really want kids ?
Tell him this week is the baby sitters week off. Family or not, they deserve a week off every now and then
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Do you know if he is even capable of taking care of the baby? Some men truly never learned. If he knows how and just won’t, I would be afraid to leave the baby with him, what a selfish a**hole. Yeah I’d be rethinking my whole marriage.
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If he wants that, he can do it. Not fair
Sounds like just another child you need to look after. I’d not be having anymore kids with a man who won’t look after the ones he already has. And the but does he know how to care for a baby line is just silly. He has been in the babies life as long as you. If he had any involvement in that babies care at all he would know how.
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I would absolutely NOT take him to family… he can step up and be a father !
Everyone deserves a break every so often. It’s needed for your mental health. Do half the days with kiddo home, half the days either family. Parents often forget how to be adults once they have children
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Parent of the year.
Some men aren’t able to look after kids because we as mothers tend to do majority of the work when it comes to our babies and the men just fill in where we need them so they really don’t know how to do it alone … don’t leave them home with him unless u have witnessed how he is with them without ur help
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Tell him absolutely not and it’s time to Father up! He can take care of those kids just the same as you or your family can. Parenting isn’t at your convenience and he needs to grow tf up. Ask him what would he do if you died,
pawn them off on family?..
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I would not take them to family and would make him do it and tell the family if he asks to say no bc they know he is off and they have plans while he is off and able to watch it
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…. If they wanna watch your kid, I’d let him. I take my son righhhht to daycare on my days off if we don’t have anything planned and I just want a day to myself.
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No don’t he has responsibilities to make him watch his kid
I mean you had an opportunity to do same and chose not to:woozy_face: dad can take him to hes family’s house if he wants for a couple days if they are OK with it:woman_shrugging:
You’ve got two kids, not one.
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If this was a burnt out mother the comments would be sooooooo different … just saying he might need a break for some reason
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Why can’t dad have a few days off? If he is stressed or burnt out for some reason then why not let him have time alone. Men don’t always communicate when they are burned out.
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This always cracked me up! HE THINKS ITS BABYSITTING!! tell him NO!!!
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He needs to step up and be a daddy
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No the family needs a break too that’s just taking an advantage of your family
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Can’t he take them to family’s house, he could take your son a few hours a day but for the whole week, that’s excessive!
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I’d say a couple days is definitely reasonable but I’d also think it would be nice for him to have some time with the kids. Think a compromise would be fair. You definitely should have taken a couple days for yourself!
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Tell him to grow up 
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Yes one of those you can tell him his parents can get ready for him and the kids that’s where he’d be living. I used to be soo upset wondering how I could pay rent and childcare when the dad refused too watch them and how embarrassing it is to have someone come in while he sits there…
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He is apparently unaware that he is also the child’s parent and needs to act accordingly.
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No,he might need a break to,do maybe a couple days but overall it’s his time with the kids.
Uhhhh that’s a big fat NO
I understand wanting some days to yourself. Maybe they kiddo can go for a day or two?
No tell him if he wants to send the kids to his family then he can pack his stuff and go live there
Classic selfish prick
Dads who think watching their kids is babysitting is a child in a grown man’s body. If he needs help attending his kids, he should visit his parents house. I see this as a learning opportunity for him to step up his role as a parent. You shouldn’t have to worry about your family watching your kids. Tell them to make plans so that he can’t use them. Time for him to grow up if he hasn’t already.
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Listen mama you made your choice to keep baby home with you and have to respect if your husband doesn’t make the same choice as you. That doesn’t make him a bad father. The same way as a mom I get tired and need a break I recognize my husband is human like myself and gets tired too. It’s not fair to expect more than a person can give. Does your husband have a full time job? 8s he always busy? Then he will be exhausted. The same way we would be rooting for a mother to get some time and jo judegment etc let’s not be double standard. Same rules applies to a father and that doesn’t make him any less. Stop with the step up and be a daddy comments. Be fair. Mothers have checked their kids into daycare solely for the purpose of taking a day and we don’t think any less of them cause they’re moms and so are we so why are we so hard on the msn in our life who is working so hard to provide and take care of our needs. Why can’t we treat him like a human being? Why is his feelings not valid? It’s because society expect more from men is why men don’t show their feelings and so many men feel the need to shut everything in and be "macho and strong " . Men have feelings too and it’s time women stop and realize that. The only difference is Anatomy
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Here is my thought. If you pay said family member then yes go ahead and take him. If you do not. Then don’t. IMO that is taking advantage of the help your getting. I’ve been on this receiving end.
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No he can take care of his own kids when he is off.
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So you’re mad that you didn’t get a break on your week off and now your husband is gonna take advantage of it.maybe he has stuff he needs to get done that he can’t while watching the baby. Grow up.
No let him look after he’s son it’s bonding time
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I’m not sure…When I was working my family watched my kiddo and they did it for free, so I tried not to take advantage and have them watch him when I wasn’t at work very often.
Now if he’d been going to someone and I was paying them I probably would have felt a little differently.
Or if he’d been going to a daycare where you pay to hold their spot whether they’re there or not I’d have sent him.
I tend to agree with the perspective that the kiddo should stay with him…First to not take advantage of the family members whose watching him especially if they’re doing it for free…
Or if they’re getting paid…well that’s time that he doesn’t have to go and money you could save.
But at the same time I don’t necessarily agree with being upset-upset.
I think this is the kind of thing that you both need to sit down and discuss.
Take the time to really hear the others perspective and opinions.
Take the time to hear why he wants time alone.
Then explain why you don’t agree with him taking the whole week (hopefully it isn’t just simply you didn’t do it so he can’t…because in theory you could have if you wanted to at least a couple days)
Then maybe try to find a compromise.
Maybe a couple hours each day or a couple days. Especially if it’s really important to him.
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He’s a child too I guess. He should want to have his kids around on his time off.
We dont have children to push them onto someone else. This is his time to be a Dad. To spend time doing things with his children he cant do when he’s working.
Tell him no…he can have alone time when the kids are in bed
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Bullshit like this drains your love for them until it’s gone.
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Bull make him watch the kids
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If your family is watching your child for free then no, you both should have the children when you are off, if you need a break then ask them to take the kids for awhile so you can have time, if he needs time for himself then he can ask and drop the kids off. Everyone needs time for themselves for self care.
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My husband had vacation saved up and has been off about half of December.
He works outside the home M to F and myself 2 to 3 days…
The list of stuff he had to do…mow/mulch the lawn, repair/maintaince on our cars… household repairs…he hasn’t really had much time where he hasn’t been “working”…
We have sent the oldest to Gymnatics camp 2 days both weeks and the youngest We’ve utilized her daycare days (she goes up to 3 days a week)
If I had family watching them I would check and see if they needed the time off or could do one or two days…if they needed time off I would utilize drop in daycare or find a teenager off school to watch the kids. Or if they are old.enough have them help him some.
we took 2 days a went to the beach as a family and I’ve worked my normal days as well plus part of Christmas where they where with him
We both have done it everyone needs some them time. I have so many projects that are good luck with a 2 year old. I just pay the daycare or whoever n do my thing.
At my old job I would take 2 pto days a month just for me time. Hubby will take days here or their n do the same. We pay daycare or whoever so as long as they are available n they are getting paid it’s none of their business. Daycare also asks that the kids don’t miss days.
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Nope. What a child. Wow. The fact hed rather have your family keep him vs himself blows my mind. Probably wants to be alone so h e can nap , poor baby. What a MAN CHILD. girl hes gross vibes already from what ive read
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Nope! Their his kids and your family 8s their for you and your husband when your both working. Tell him to grow up.
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Get a new husband!!!
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I’ll never understand men who don’t want to be with their kids. Kids deserve to be at home when mom or dad are off work. They arent here to be dumped on other people.
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Uhm nope, my husband knows better than to pull this mess!
He needs a break too. Compromise and take the kiddo to the sitter for a couple of days.
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