My three year old won't listen to me at all

It’s especially bad in public. He will it sit still, he will yell, he will hit. He will throw himself on the ground if he doesn’t get his way and throw horrible tantrums. I feel like I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried gentle parenting, I’ve tried being more disciplinary and assertive and I’m not getting anywhere with him… is this normal or possible behavior problems? Has anyone been through this and have any advice?

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My son started going through this at 4. His doctor suggested therapy and a strict routine. Good luck

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Gental parenting takes a long time to work. If you didnt gentle parent from the beginning, it takes a long time for your child to figure out you’re there to help them, instead of making it worse. Alot of people think gentle parenting doesn’t work on their kids, because all your kid knows from you is how you’ve taught them. Weather it’s yelling at them to listen, spanking them, putting them in time out. That’s how you’ve taught him. If you’re going to reteach your child something, stick to it. It’ll work out. It just takes time. But gentle parenting works. And nobody can change my mind. I’ve been doing it with my son since he was around 1, he’s a great kid. You just have to keep going, and remember it’s worth it in the end.

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Stores are big experiences for Littles. There’s a lot going on and it might be sensory overload. Best you can do is stay consistent in your expectation with him. If he behaves in the store give him a small treat when he gets home.

My 5 year old has huge fits with aggression hes developmentally behind socially my suggestion get him evaluated and get behavioral therapy now before school

If you can’t control your kid, don’t take them out tf? The shitty parenting is astonishing.

It’s normal, I mean, I think most kids go through this. My son was like that, minus the throwing himself on the floor thing. I was a yeller, and then something switched, I tried gentle parenting and it took about a year for both his dad and I to get it down and him to work with us. Dude he is the best kid now, I have zero complaints, he’s amazing always. So keep trying. Consistent dicipline.

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Start throwing a fit along with him… kids hate that lol

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My two sons are the same way. And they are 6 and 9. I had to keep them home from school today because their just to the point they don’t listen at all anymore. They cry they fight. When their home all I do is find myself yelling at them and im completely fed up with it. So they are cleaning their room right now, then we’re going to clean my bar, then back home to do school work online. And their going going sit the rest of the day tomorrow and Saturday till their dads come. I’ve had my point reached past the point. Idk if it’s behavior, or if their boys will be boys, or if they act just like their fathers. But I have to do something it’s not even enjoyable to have them around anymore. :confused: :sleepy::sob: so just try your hardest and do what you can do. Your not the only one

I guess that’s where the term “threenager” comes from… :thinking::sunglasses: Kids that age are really motivated by visuals and reward charts using stickers. I would prepare him before you go out by telling him what’s expected so it’s not overwhelming or a surprise when you get there. Maybe go pick some stickers together and get him to put them against things like “stayed with mum in the shop and didn’t run off” etc. Good luck! This is a tough age as they’re fighting you for their independence and still find days out tiring :heart:

My daughter was like that at that age. She’s 5 now and grew out of it.

Its mostly just a stage to be honest my 3 yr old dors the same thing except sometimes worse because of shit his birth mother is doing

Do you yell, scream, hit, basically throw tantrums when he’s not acting the way you want him to? Do other adults even strangers? I know people will laugh at this. Kids mimick how they see you behave. My youngest used to be calmest baby & toddler anyone has ever met. We moved to a bad area when he was 1 1/2. One of those communities where strangers think theyre entitled to tell people with different skin colors how to raise their kids. These neighbors would scream at him & me, literally drag him away from me on many occasions, hit him, steal from him etc. My happy baby became an angry preschooler. He’s mentally screwed up by this neighborhood. Anyway find out where the anger is coming from. If he’s mimicking your reactions to things you don’t like change yourself. If a relative or community is being emotionally or physically abusive to him move AND get him counseling. It’s going to take a long time to help him.

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Yes it normal my son is 3 years I also experience same problem but now when he is starting I just pinch him then he co oparate

In the same boat but mines not too bad in public. Mostly at home. He gets spanks but that doesn’t seem to work and I am also at a loss because he won’t listen if I try anything other than spanks and it really hurts me to have to give spanks

My 3 year old is like this as well. I gentle parent so it’s extremely hard trying to maintain my patience and repeat myself. But remember that this is how they express themselves, they are still learning, and they aren’t doing it to be a jerk to you. We don’t hit and try not to yell, because I wouldn’t want someone to hit me or yell at me if I was having a rough day. Give yourself grace and remember this won’t last forever💖

Not a popular solution but I spanked mine when they did that. I have only had to spank my kids twice in public. I would take them to the bathroom spank them and anytime they try to throw a tantrum in public all I have to do is say I am gonna take you to the bathroom and they straighten up. I would highly suggest getting a handle on it now as it doesn’t always go away as they age. I have seen 8 and 9 year olds yelling at there parents in the store because they got away with it when they were little. Teaching a child how to act in a store is probably one of the hardest things I ever had to handle with my kids until they hit teenage years. Teenagers are a whole different monster.

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he’s a toddler that’s normal