Grow the fuck up and get over yourself. Don’t invite the neighbor if you’re too petty not to allow all their kids to attend.
If a so-called “friend” invited me to a birthday party and told me not to bring any one of my kids I would not be going at all.
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This is crazy. Older kids deserve fun too. Designate a 20 minute or however long time for the older kids to jump while the younger ones do a different activity. Equality for all even children
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Yes you are … I’m sorry… but my kids wouldn’t be left out at that age. If one can’t go neither can the other. Mind you mine are 10 and 6 and that will change as they’re older. But at this age it would hurt the other children’s feelings and I’d never allow it. Do separate times for the little ones if you need to.most parents know that families have multiple kids and they’d invite them all. Imagine if the roles were reversed and someone tried to do it to your kid!!! You ought to be ashamed. ADULTS do it too!
Let them jump separately…
You can’t let her know without being rude— because it’s rude lol
Omg, your party your rules. On the invite let them know the party will be geared to 5 year Olds ect. “Kiddie games and prizes” seems like a lot of patents just want free babysitting lol. If it’s little kids it should be little kids. I understand your concern. And make the invite in the smaller child’s name only. The grown ups should get the hint. Age appropriate activities should bore a 10 or 12 year old anyway
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You communicate you let her know that the age group for this birthday party is YZ. And the bouncy house that you ordered is for that and due to safety issues you are going to keep it for the young ones.
A) bounce houses have no age limit
B) they didn’t hurt anyone last time, you being afraid they MIGHT doesn’t mean they did or will
C) you can do timed bounces for different age groups
D) if I was told not to bring any of my children none of us would go
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If my knee and back could handle it I’d still rock the bounce house, 
Take turns and that doesn’t have to be said in an invite
How about have a time for the big kids . Littles have an hour big kids another just rotate .
Im 29 and still like to jump in those 
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I know adults, including myself, that love bounce houses so…the preteens are not “too old”. Invite them all or not at all. If they get rowdy then kindly ask them to be mindful of the little kids or kindly ask her to remind her big kids that there are little kids in there too.
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There’s no age limit on fun. But I’d say don’t invite them at all since they’re not welcome
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10 is not to old for a bounce house. Heck I will go into one now and I’m in my 40s. Have you talked to the older kids? I would simply say littles are in for 20 minutes than older ones in for 20…also talk to your friend or neighbor and tell her the concern of older kids playing with the little ones. I’m sure she would get it.
Show her this post, she may not bring any of the kids 
Let me guess you don’t give candy to teenage trick-or-treaters either do you ?
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are you kidding I’m 25 and want a bounce house party for myself.
You’re rude. That’s it. Good luck.
When are people going to stop expecting 10-12 year olds to just not be kids. They have the rest of their lives to be grownups. Let them be little for as long as they can. If you’re really worried about little ones safety I’d suggest swapping out every 15 minutes.
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I’m 33 and if I get in a bounce house all kids better stay out my way but my 11 year old daughter is def still a kid…idk what u think kids do at that age but it’s definitely not acting like an adult 
I’m 22 and loveeee a bounce house just have some rules in place so the little kids don’t get hurt but to exclude them bc “big kids” you sound like a Ahole seek help 
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I get it. I have kids with big age gaps myself and the older ones as too rough. A 2 and 4 year old and a almost 12 year old, all boys. I would simply and politely state that certain activities are for the younger children and you would appreciate the older children to not participate in them for fear of younger ones getting hurt. I think communication is key in this situation.
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Kids are being kids set some rules they can you can only use the bouncy house for this long 30 mins then you gotta let the little ones have to use it for 30 mins
And you find another activity one the other is using it
10/12 is a child. If you don’t invite the siblings then don’t extend an invite at all. Tbh, it’s rude af if you have the space and choose not to based on age or size. There just isn’t a nice way to say “your child is too old to play” when it’s a legit child. The best way is to separate them as others have said.
My daughter is turning 10 and her party is coming up this week. She asked for a bounce house, so no I don’t think that they’re too old. Why don’t you set times for the big kids play then little kids play and switch on and off? 
Can you limit time for the older kids to be able to jump? It is your home your child birthday party or express your concern to the children and your neighbors
How gross. Why tf wouldn’t KIDS enjoy it? Y’all be the same people claiming kids act too grown too. 
neighbor needs to cut you off tbh.
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10 is too old??? Wow, my son’s friend had a party this summer, she had a bounce house. At 48, I was NOT the oldest one who got on that thing 
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I have had parties up to 14 years old with bounce houses the little ones anf older ones if an issue take turns but usually the older kids know and are careful
I don’t know about your kids but my older kids always helped the little ones to bounce a little higher and made sure they didn’t get hurt. What kind of kids are you raising that don’t think about the little kids? And yes, my 12 and 10 year old helped the little kids to bounce a little higher without getting hurt. No wonder there are 10 and 12 year olds walking around with guns.
10 and 12 year olds are still kids!!! They are old enough to watch out for the little kids or possibly take turns with the older and smaller kids. I have a 3 year old and 12 year old so if it’s a family friend’s birthday party I wouldn’t go if I had to exclude one of my kids to go.
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Don’t invite her or have specific time set aside for only little kids and only older kids to play in the bounce house 10-12 is not too old to play in a bounce house. I’m 27 and still play in the bounce house. If the older kids are being careless and not paying attention to the little ones their parent needs to handle it and if that doesn’t happen tell them and their parents they can’t play in the bounce house because they’re being too rough with the younger kids
I didn’t know bounce houses had a age limit
If you’re not going to invite all don’t invite not even one then
Yes you’re the 
hole
you can rent a bounce house that is smaller that is made for only little kids . so u can say only little kids can go inside . but if u get a regular bounce house 10-12 year olds are not to big to play in them . my 14 year old wants bounce houses for her bday , a big one and a little one for the smaller kids .
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10 and 12 year old are NOT too old for bounce houses. I’m so mad at that comment! Wtf. I’m 31 and I will get in whenever I want!
I totally get the concern.
Either set times for age groups (1 hour for up to 6, next hour for 7-10, next hour 11 and up, etc), or just place a height limit on the bounce house and tell people when you invite them.
Tell people upfront that there will be a limit on bounce house use for everyone’s safety and enjoyment and ask them to please let their kids know ahead so there’s no surprises and hopefully no tears.
Side note: last bounce house we had, at the end of the night we had the grandparents inside bouncing and having an absolute blast. You’re never too old!
You are wild lol all you have to do is put a sign up and ask kids at the party to not get in the bounce house it’s for 5 and under… then have something for the older kids to do. Include everyone. If you were to exclude half my kids I wouldn’t even bother showing up. Corn hole, games whatever for the older kids. Include everyone!
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This whole post isnl rude. My huge ass family always has bounce houses, and the older kids love it, but also share and have separate times, big kids for a while, babies for a while, switch
Oh wow! I mean… they are still KIDS and deserve to have fun. My advise is to pull them aside, tell them that you want them to have fun, but just remind them that they are bigger and need to watch out for the littles. Even encourage them to help the little ones. Kids 10-12 love to be helpers. If they are too tough tell them! If they won’t listen, then I’d tell them to come out. But please let them have fun. Give them a chance. If you feel more comfortable. Make them switch off and on every 20 United or so. Big kids, little kids. Hire a teenager to monitor the bouncy house if needed.
Wow yes. Ur the a s s hole. I can’t believe you consider yourself her friend. 
my friends and ALL THEIR KIDS get treated like my own. They’re always welcome. Don’t have a bounce house if you’re so worried about it. Honestly you sound miserable to be friends with anyway
We’ve done this with littles (14-18mos) and bigs in that age group. Separate jumping times or times that the bigs can be in there but not jumping, just playing with the littles gentle is a great way to teach the olders kindness and consideration towards those smaller or in need of assistance and helps the smallers learn how to brush off a tumble versus getting distraught.
Just limit the number of bigs allowed in with the littles and give them rules like bounce on your knees—no jumping. And swap out bigs for the experience or as needed.
And now the bigs that jumped with my littles? Are the kindest most empathetic kids and continue to help my kids explore and have fun in a safe way.
Only the kids that were invited should come otherwise the parents must ask first
10-12 is prime bounce house age. Whenever we have parties siblings are always invited. The way you made it sound was like they were 18 year olds or something. Let all the kids come.
Tell them only the younger kids can use it or have an hour designated to the older kids 
there are better ways to deal with this than excluding people and possibly breaking friendships
My 12yo and 14yo still like bounce houses. My niece’s mom did bounce houses at her 3rd Birthday and everyone including parents were on them. Give them time without the small kids and the small kids time without the big kids. I mean you can voice your concerns and let her decide but if you tell her not to bring them, she may not come.
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I wouldn’t go. If I can’t bring my kids count me out! Just speak up and ask her to tell her kids to not get in the bounce house. She can control her own children. However, they should not be bringing additional guests.
I would switch on and off. My son is small compared to other kids. He will be 11 he loves the bouncy house. Last one that my son went into, kids were mean, kids were pushing shoving everything. A kid did something to my son my son did it back. Lol. I said we don’t do that. I guy said next time we are separating the older kids from the lil ones.
Either straight out tell her, (no older kids) or let the kids be kids. Or teach or kid to be tough. My two year old gets in with older kids and jumps. Also tell the older kids to be careful for little ones or they have to get out.
not wrong.
“invitation only extended to those invited” is commonly used on allllll of my events 
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No matter how you go about that; it’s rude to ask her to not bring her older kids; those are her kids. My oldest is 13 and would still get excited about a bounce house. Maybe set times for age groups inside the bounce house instead? Either invite them as a whole, or don’t invite them at all. Just because they’re “older kids” doesn’t mean they’re not still kids.
Your bloody existence is rude
You don’t tell a parent only bring certain children . How do you think that parent is going to feel. How do you think your making that child feel ?! But I guess it’s only your kid who matters here. If you can’t invite them all it don’t want too don’t invite any of them. There’s no good way to tell a parent to exclude their child! It’s a neighbor so is she supposed to leave them home alone to watch out the window while he rest of the family is having fun?
And to say a child is too old for a bounce house who decided there’s an age limit ? So if a 10-12 year old is too old what are they supposed to be doing running the streets? In my opinion you’re a terrible person for even considering asking another adult to disregard their child!
Let me guess you pick and choose what age group is too old for treat or trick too!?
. Get a life
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Yep. You’re being an asshole. Period. They’re kids… you can ask them to wait their turn while the little kids are in there but as a 31 year old, 125 lb, grown woman, I jump on them all the time with my kids… they aren’t gonna do a thing to that jump house by being in there 
don’t even invite the neighbor if everyone isn’t invited. RUDE.
10/12 age group is still a child.
They are still allowed in/on bounce houses in public settings (like street carnivals ect).
Your fear of littles getting hurt isn’t exactly AHole-ish as a bounce house is a situation where it’s easy to bump into someone else…however that’s probably not something any of the kids were thinking about because those are logistical concerns generally reserved for adults.
So…it is pretty AHole-ish to sit there and act like the kids did something wrong…by enjoying something designed for kids.
In fact they actually make bounce houses that aren’t suited for younger children.
And unless the host of the party said ‘don’t bring your older kids’ the mom didn’t do anything wrong either.
As to whether you’d be wrong to say ‘don’t bring the older kids’
That really really depends on too many nuances to put into text.
Realistically though, exclusion isn’t exactly the route I personally would take…
I’ve had 9 kids at my kids birthday party…2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 9, 10, 10, 11.
We didn’t have any catastrophes.
It absolutely can be done safely.
Have more than just the bounce house as an activity.
Have them take turns.
Some bounce houses will mix ages but have a body limit.
Some will have age groups alternate.
But you don’t have to exclude them for ‘safety’ reasons and using that as an excuse is pretty AHole-ish.
Sorry nut I am nearly 40 and love a good “bounce house”!! 10 and 12 are still bloody kids. Have a chat with her and ask her kids to be mindful of the littles or give then some time just for them to go nuts.
If you can’t invite all of them then don’t invite any. If they all come just politely tell them the bouncy house is for kids under a specific age.
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Not me and my husband at nearly 30 getting on the jumping castle having a ufc fight that the kids join in on at every party 
spilt the kids into groups, have other activities for the kids while they wait their turn. 10/12 year olds are still kids. We have 18 grandchildren on my husbands side ranging from 14-1 the younger ones are tougher and tougher then the older ones most of the time.
Set a time limit for the little kids and then the big kids. 10/12 year olds are still kids, they’re gonna love bounce houses. Hell, I’m 32 and would still get in one. Lol
Honestly my 13yr old doesn’t go to little kids parties unless it’s family… &I have 4 other kids 10, 8, 7 &5 months… but if I was told or even asked not to take my older kid especially by a friend I wouldn’t go, again big chance he wouldn’t wanna go anyways but I’m not going to go somewhere that my kid isn’t welcomed… 
now parties of kiddos friends I only take the child thay is invited most of the time.
Fear for your little kids? Interesting enough- moving on to the actual problem here. 10/12 year olds are kids that most of the time through direct communication will understand that they need to be careful with the little kids. Hell, I even tell my youngest that it’s his job to watch out for the little kids while playing at the park to make sure they don’t get hurt or if we are at the trampoline park to keep an eye out for them. If you are going to have a bounce house, you can set up a timer and when the timer goes off it’s time for the littles to have their own turns. It’s okay to have rules and boundaries and give the kids some credit they aren’t out to mow down your little kid and bash them in the bounce house like a mosh pit. Your feelings are your feelings and I am not going to tell you that you can’t feel them, I will however, tell you that I think they are a little on the silly part and possibly stem from helicopter parenting and lack of socialization out of fear of hurting someone’s feelings by telling them to watch out for the little kids.
Yes that’s rude wtf no matter the age they are still ****ing kids…you invite all or none
Obviously you don’t remember being a kid! Shame on you!
You’re probably one of those that thinks 10 and older are to old for trick or treating too aren’t you?! They are still kids so no they aren’t to old for bounce houses. Imagine yourself A a parent 5-10 years down the road with an older child and a younger child being told your child can’t come with you to a child based event because of their age and imagine how you’d feel. Consider if the parent even has anyone to stay with that other child (as not everyone is ok leaving one even that age home alone) while she attends your child’s party.
Sure you can impose an age cap on your party as it’s your party. If that’s what you really want to do then add that to the invitations. Just put across the bottom of invitation no siblings please, no siblings over 9 or bounce houses for children under 10 and then there isn’t any need for verbal communication. Just don’t be shocked when your child’s party ends up being small because of low attendance.
Wow !!! Your an @$$
I stopped reading at 10/12 tr old supposedly too big for a bounce house!.
FYI!!! 10/12 yr olds are still kids. That are aloud to have fun. SMH how hard is it to just have smaller kids take a turn then older Kids .witch 10/12 isn’t really that old
Bounce house injuries build character
Im a grown a** woman and you bet your butt i will be on a bouncy house!! Get 2 seperate bouncy houses, one for the bigger kids and one for the littles. If any of my kiddos were excluded from a party, you wouldn’t see me or my kids there
How is that age too old for CHILDREN TO HAVE FUN
While I do understand where you’re coming from with this, I would never do that but also the older kids i had around my little kids were always very good and respectful and they watched out for them and played carefully not forget the little kids werr there and make it dangerous for them to play. And no thats not too old, bounce houses are fine even for adults to use. 10-12 year old kids are a perfect age for them because they get the most use out of them compared to 3-5 year olds. But anyway I would never tell a friend or neighbor that they can only bring some kids and not the rest. That’s actually kind of mean and she will take it the wrong way. If they are like way older like teenagers then she should know not to bring them to a toddlers party anyway. I assume your kids are toddlers because they are the ones who are not coordinated enough to be safe on a bounce house with older kids. But if your kids are older than toddlers than there should really be no concern for their safety if the older kids are only 10-12 year Olds because kids age 4 and up can control their movements well enough to jump around with 10 year Olds. I would just watch them all jumping together and if you don’t feel safe you can just say ok the big kids gotta get off for a little while and let the little ones play. And let them take turns. We have a bounce house and slide at every single party we have in the spring and summer and I’ve literally never ever had this problem with kids ranging from 1-15 years old but I can guarantee that all the kids won’t be on it the entire time and there will be plenty of time for taking turns. Just speak up and say hey you guys need to be careful of the little ones. And tell them to get off if they won’t.
You can’t only invite half a family. There isn’t a good way to ask her this. As a mom I wldnt allow one kid to go if the other wasn’t also invited. My suggestion would be to have someone man the bounce house. Everyone gets x amount of time and when the big kids are in there I wld reduce the number of kids total in there. Chances are the older tkids would be in line together anyways
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10-12 yr old are still kids.
You would be hurting their feelings.
Imagine how you would feel when your kids are that age and someone excluding them.
I alway hated hearing people say to kids “…Your too old , Your a big kid , your too big/ old for this , that”. yet we tell them not to grow up so fast. .Just supervise them. Thats it
With all due respect you are the a-hole here. I’d rather my 10-12 year old want to play in a bouncy house!! People like you strike me as a person that when they see a child that age doing more “grown” things you say they’re being “fast”. If you want them to not grow up “fast” then let them be KIDS which 10-12 year old still are!!!
You just sound like an asshole… if the kids weren’t being mean or rough and everyone was getting along why is it a problem? Also 10-12 is definitely not too old to enjoy a bounce house… would you rather they be out drinking and smoking at that age? 
it would be a different story if these kids were mean or rough with the Littles but you just said yourself they aren’t…
Nah I’m with you!!! So we got a trampoline last year and my kids are small 4/5 at the time and the neighbor kid Would come and jump with them and every single time he would someone got hurt! He’d be jumping super high and my kids would be crying and stuff! I flat out said when they jump he ABSOLUTLEY cannot jump with them! I also feel like it’s their stuff so they should feel comfortable to jump as they please! My littlest guy would get right out as soon as the neighbor kid came inside and refused to get in an would sit on the side! Of his own trampoline!!! ABSOLUTLEY NOT!!! It’s a small kids party and they should feel comfortable your party you make the rules #PERIOD
I am 25 an if theres a bounce house I’m definitely getting in.
Yall will complain kids arent kids anymore then complain about them being kids? Make it make sense. Invite them all, or none. They’re big kids and it’s a learning lesson for EVERY child. Toughen up the littles and teach the big kids to be careful of the littles.
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Yes, you are the asshole.
you sound stupid. jus bc their 10/11 they can’t have fun? they are still kids.
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I’ve had bouncy houses almost every year. My kids range from 4 months to 13. Adults go in, Older friends. If it’s getting rough, you take turns. Say ok, older kids out for 20 mins! It’s pretty easy.
10/12 to old for a bounce house?! That’s crazy. I have a 6, 9, 13, & 20 yr Olds and they all love 2 bounce. Have them take turns if ur worried about them getting hurt. Personally if I was ur neighbor/friend I’d be upset that u would think my kids would hurt ur kids
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I had a bounce house at my 21st bday. We just took turns between the littles and us.
Invite them, but inform them in advance that there is a weight n age limit for the bounce house and that they won’t be able to participate in that part of the festivities.
Or You can have someone monitor who goes in and out by size n age groups, giving everyone a chance to jump.
And advance warning…
My grandson was 3 and got a spiral fracture in his leg from a bigger child bouncing close to him, just the impact from the force of the bottom of the bounce under his feet broke his leg, (no foul play)
Dr said it’s very common and only children of the same weight should jump at once.
Ask her to bring the child you want there!
Put an age on the invites
You cant it’s rude.
They are children not almost adults. Let them take turns if so worried.
Let them take turns. duh, tf
I completely understand, I went to someone elses party and they let the bigger kids in and they didn’t care and the bigger kids hurt my baby, he ended up being okay but it’s rude and inconsiderate. If the bigger kids can’t mind the small ones, they don’t need to be in there period. No one cared, I haven’t been back.
I would just have them take turns. So you don’t offend anyone. Especially since she’s your neighbor
10/12 year old kids aren’t too big for the bounce house. Why are you afraid? Just because of their size? They weren’t mean & didn’t hurt anyone. It sounds like you have this messed up idea these kids are too big so you want to discriminate against them. You can’t tell her not to bring them. But expect her younger kids not to attend either. Also expect your friendship to end.
I personally wouldn’t go where all my kids weren’t allowed
Yeah you’re the asshole. The part about you being mad they allowed their kids in their bounce house rubbed me the wrong way. If you were that worried about it, keep yours out. This can be handled where everyone can be safe and enjoy the bounce house. But telling them not to bring their other kids just doesn’t sit right. These are 10-12 year olds. Not 17 and 18 year olds. Since when do bounce houses have age limits on who can enjoy them to begin with?!
Split them into groups 10 to 12 year olds are still young children…
I personally would not go to any party where my older children weren’t invited. If you don’t want them there then don’t invite your neighbor at all.
Also no they actually aren’t too old , all you would have to do is let them take turns, it’s really not that serious.
10-12 is not too old for bouncy houses, it’s the perfect age for bouncy houses, hell I have an 18 year old and he still likes to bounce. We own a bouncy house and I always just tell the older kids to be careful with the little ones.
I wouldn’t bring any of my kids if all aren’t allowed. I wouldn’t call you an Ahole or anything I would completely understand but we just wouldn’t attend