For context Me and the husband have been together for 8 years married for 6, and have 2 kids together a 6yo and a 3yo. All this drama happened back in November. He works nights and we only have 1 car so when my oldest got sick and had to be taken to the ER late at night I had to call my family for a ride. My brother took us to the hospital a 15min ride from our house. We came to find out the next day that he was positive for Covid. I took my children and I to get tested and we were negative, that same day we were supposed to go hang out at my in-laws and after my husband talked to his parents we headed that way (his parents knew all about the covid test). When we got there his 2 sisters looked pissed. When I tried to make conversations the youngest talked to me with attitude. After like 5 mins her and my husband got to argue and she went after him like punching and kicking him (In front of my youngest) he never tried to hit her back nor hurt her. (I grew up with an abusive father that hit my mom so this was a huge trigger for me) Never before this I would imagine that she could do something like this, our relationship was amazing, i even considered her a sister. Anyway so we grabbed our stuff and left, I was livid and deleted both sisters from all social media platforms. A few days later (for Thanksgiving) my mother in law reached out to me to let me know how none of the “other ones” wanted to catch covid and how it was best if we stayed home. Of course I wasn’t even planning on going in the first place but it still hurt big time. My family had been sick with colds even before all this happened and I was hit with it too so I was barely getting out. My father in law decided that since we couldn’t attend nobody else could so he cooked and had everyone pick up the dinner to take home instead (as a way to no leave anybody feel left out)… my kids had 2 test done each both negative. I had 4 all negative as well, Im hurt specially because they’re the kind of people who dont wanna get vaccinated, go out places like restaurants, bars, arcades without masks, have friends over all the time, and even live with people who travel out of state every weekend for work “to party”. Now my husband and his sisters have patched things up, they even hung out a couple times, which its cool with me they are family and will always be. But I feel like they need to apologize to me. Now Christmas is coming and we are all supposed to go to my in laws, Im ok with my husband taking the kids for a bit but he wants to stay there the whole night and dont understand why Im upset. So Am I the wrong???
Also I found out that they had told their children to not play or get close to my kids that day, which made the kids ran out of the room when my oldest enter the room they were playing in, they tol him “ewww” when he tried to talk to them and ran way from him like he was some kind of pestered thing, he was very hurt and cried and kept asking why no body wanted him there.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. AITA for refusing to let my kids go to their grandparents on Christmas without me?
So you went to your in-laws after being in contact with a covid infected person. You are an asshole.
What time passed between the first covid test and when you found out that your brother was positive? To be fair I can kind of see where the other family is coming from. To be safe you want to quarantine at least 2 weeks. Covid won’t show up right away on a test once exposed. There is an incubation period that is, on average, 7 days from the time of exposure.
Honestly if you came to my house the next day and I found out the day before you had been in contact with someone who had covid I would’ve been incredibly pissed and you would not be welcome at my home anymore period because of your blatant disrespect. I don’t know what your laws are but if you come in to contact with someone who has covid you’re required to go into quarantine for 10 days. You can get out early by testing at day 2 and day 7. Maybe I take it seriously because I’ve had family die from it but to me his family didn’t do anything wrong. You did
Does it matter who is right or wrong? Both sides could have handled it better
That’s so toxic i would go NC
It sounds like an unfortunate occurrence. Put it behind you and kearn from it.
Incubation is 10-14 days. Getting tested within a day was a waste of a test.
I don’t understand why they wouldn’t want you there if you had negative tests. Sounds like everyone is overreacting.
You should not be going to someone’s home if you have been around someone who as covid. That is so rude
Shouldn’t have went to begin with
Your family is posted at you bc of your poor judgement. You al should have stayed home back in November. I would be pissed too.
I don’t understand why you didn’t stay home in the first place of course people are going to be upset. Beyond that they should have been an adult about and told you not to go in the first place and then if you went quietly and politely pulled you aside and asked you to welcomely return when all tests were negative. It sounds like they are going above and beyond to not let feelings get hurt to include you and you’re looking for reasons to be excluded. They even went as far as making everyone else leave because you couldn’t be there. Sorry this is the 1% of the time YATA. Go and take the kids and let it be water under the bridge. They obviously care about you, your kids and your feelings. Rare.
If you would have stayed home after your exposure none of this would be an issue. I am unvaccineted …but I still follow precautions. And part of those precautions are not allowing exposed people near me or mine. But what an amazing thing your FIL did to make everyone feel included and make sure everyone had a holiday meal while staying safe. Thinking you owe them an apology.
You and your husband’s family could have handled things a lot better. Your family absolutely should have stayed home instead of potentially exposing your in-laws. Your in-laws should have set boundaries with it and then came and talked to you like an adult. I feel like you all need to have a serious conversation on what has happened without pointing fingers since both were wrong.
They literally tell you after a rapid test to wait the few days for the test that goes to the lab. Any place you get tested tells you this when there’spossible/probable exposure. I would kinda be mad at you too 
Should’ve stayed home… however the sisters abuse should be taken seriously depending on her age. That’s behavior I would not want around my kids. And of course your mediate family shouldn’t be separated all day. And I’m not saying to stay home just bc of Covid, any illness people should stay home. Kiddo was just at the hospital they should’ve been home and resting for many days. Everyone needs to grow up in this situation and apologize for their parts as well as do better in the future. Even colds can be serious for others. You guys need to stay home and just enjoy Christmas Day as your own family. You may find it’s less stressful and more enjoyable.
I think its funny. Your quick to point out how they dont wear masks, no vaccine etc but yall went over there after being exposed.
Sounds like you shouldnt judge anyone.
Also it seems like just a big mess. On both ends
You started it now want them to apologize? You should have stayed home in the first place. This is 100% on YOU
If a person is toxic you shouldn’t feel any obligation to spend time with them, regardless of whether they’re family or not. If your husband wants a relationship with them he should have one, that’s 100% his choice, but you don’t have to have one.
As for your children, that needs to be a joint decision. If your husband wants to take them to see his family then you shouldn’t stop that, however I do agree that if you’re not comfortable with them staying the night and being away from you that your husband should respect that.
This is taking covid or tests completely out the equation and just talking in general, if it were me I would have stayed home and isolated. It’s too late to do that so you now need to think about the best way moving forward. Don’t waste your time on people that are going to put your down, belittle you or make you feel like rubbish, life is too short 
This thread isn’t going how the OP thought it was gonna go 
Honestly I tested negative and three days later tested positive🤷♀️ you shouldn’t have gone in thr first place if you were exposed, specially in such close area. I dont believe any of them should apologize to you. You put them all at risk, yes they may go out and refuse to get vaccinated but that is their choice, not yours.
I’m sure it was awful for you all to have witnessed the sisters violent behaviour, especially given your own personal history but you’re not owed an apology for the inner workings of someone else’s relationship, she wasn’t violent towards you! My favorite uncle died in a car wreck, I would be horrified and emotionally triggered to witness someone purposely driving their car into a wall! But I wouldn’t then demand an apology from the driver! … unless they were aiming for me! And honestly, this whole situation reads like a total car wreck!! 
I personally wouldn’t want my kids around someone who has been exposed to covid. It definitely got out of hand with the hitting, but I’d be pretty agitated if someone knowingly exposed my family…it takes a few days before covid will show up positive on the test
So she hit him, she apologized, they are cool. Where’s the issue with you? She did not hit you. She did not argue with you. She does not owe you an apology.
I get that him (your husband) and his sister are cool but, they should and just family at least apologise to the kids for their behaviour. I would still go and see how they are and go from there, maybe it was a once off drama filled day
You should have stayed home BUT his sister getting violent was so far over the line. Hell, yes, you and your kids deserve an apology. And honestly, as a parent who had an abusive parent, I’m telling you no way in heck are my kids going around someone who is without very specific non negotiable rules in place. I would have literally lost my mind on his sister especially if my kids saw it. You and hubby need to seriously talk, cause that behavior from her is not okay.
If your child was positive you shouldn’t have gone anywhere ….
What a dis functional family
Covid has broken up families it’s a horrible viris I had it it took two and a half months to stop having symthoms some get no symthoms and some dies from it it a confusing viris I have been treated awful from waitresses nurses doctors everyone is tense I have had people give me a peace
Of there mind on wearing masks or not. Or to vaccinate or not After all this I have to tell you just because your not sick if you are exposed you should give up get together for 10 days That is just the right thing to do
I’d be pissed if you brought a COVID positive person to my home anyway. If you are positive you are supposed to quarantine for 10 to 14 days so that you don’t spread it to others. And you took them around non vaccinated people to play with their children? That’s irresponsible as hell!
Just because YOU don’t want to go doesn’t mean HE can’t take his children to see their grandparents.
Messy messy messy 
It’s kinda sad how so many cannot read. It was OPs brother that tested positive, not her & not her kids.
Regardless of how they handle covid, you went to someone’s house immediately after knowingly being around someone with covid. Covid can take a while before showing a positive so I 100% understand everyone’s attitude towards you.
But if they typically act that way I wouldn’t go around them. However for this particular incident I have to say I believe you were in the wrong and I understand everyone frustration with you.
Sounds like they’re just trying to cause trouble. If they don’t wear masks or get vaccinated, they’re clearly not that worried about covid. I would keep my kids home with me. Especially since his family seems crazy and violent.
Yes you are the @$$ hole. You have to quarantine when you are exposed. I would have knocked your block off too.
Wow this isn’t on them this is on you ! You were exposed and didn’t take precautions! I don’t blame them the physical stuff didn’t need to happen but you were definitely wrong
And at least the FIL was doing take out dinners to make everybody feel more comfortable!!
You were wrong. You may not have tested positive for covid, but you were exposed to it. You should have went home, not to their house. It can take a week to show symptoms. You could have had it & not known because you tested too soon to exposure. They don’t owe you an apology
I personally would be pissed if I found out my sister in law had a child test positive for Covid and the following day was there with the other kids. It takes more than 1 day if exposed and got it to show positive. It was incredibly irresponsible on you and the in laws to allow it. I wouldn’t hit her but I’d be pissed and would probably not speak to her or the parents who allowed her there.
Family. Inlaws. Let it go.
Life is too short better to be put behind you .go patch it all up .I would .arguement got overheated .people say and do things .they have made it up .go love be the better person .and just enjoy the day .