So I just got told I’m a bad mom cuz I PAID my sitter to watch my kids this weekend and next because I went out to eat and am drinking without my kids witch I haven’t had a break for 3 ish months. Am I in the wrong here cuz the person who isn’t a parent nor a parent of my sitter and has a problem with me “ pawning” my child off so I can so called drink. I’m a newly single parent and it’s hard and I just want to b with my new boyfriend and drink. He also has a 13 year old. No I was not drinking around her
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You ensured that your children were with someone who could properly care for them so you could have time to yourself. Regardless of what you were doing, you made sure your kids were taken care of. The person with an opinion can shove it 
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You paid a care giver to take care of your kid. And as long as your child was safe and taken care of nothing wrong with that. You are entitled to a break.
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As long as you balance it out, you’re fine. Mom’s need a break too.
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Moms need a break too ,life is about balance because being a good mom wears you out and one must rest so they can bounce back charges and revitalised .who chooses to be 24/7 all up in and around their kids,fine don’t allow them to make you feel bad about taking a break
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You are a grown adult. As long as your kids are taken care of and you’re not out drinking and driving, it’s no one else’s business!
MOMS DESERVE BREAKS! It is not “toxic” to need self care. Yes your children should be first in your world always, but that just means they must be taken care of and loved. It doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to love and care for yourself till they’re 18.
Just because you’re a mom, doesn’t mean you can’t also be YOU. I feel bad for those who lose themselves because they had kids.
Mother of 5, enjoy that damn time & drink for the both of us 
no that does not make you a bad mom! We are human, we deserve & need breaks too!
So you paid for a sitter to have some time off, you weren’t drinking around your kids, or have the new boyfriend around your kids or drink around your new boyfriends kid? Disregard this childless person’s opinion and pat yourself on the back for doing it all the right way!
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No every mother is entitled to a break go out and enjoy yourself you have someone looking after your child its no one’s business but your own what you do… you don’t need permission from anyone
And if someone saying that to you they are no friend…
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Not at all! I have 3 kids, my youngest is 6 weeks old and I cannot wait to go out to eat and drink with my friends😂 but I’m sleep deprived so I’ll wait🤣
No, you paid the sitter. You’re allowed time for yourself. Being a parent isn’t your only identity. & A person who isn’t a parent doesn’t have a valid opinion on what you should & shouldn’t do. There’s people leaving their kids with grandparents for weeks on end. You’re entitled to a break, especially since you’re paying the person.
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Ugh Jesus. We’re not just moms. We are people who had lives before kids. We are allowed to do things without our children.
Whoever said you were sounds toxic. Cut them off lol.
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Nothing wrong with taking a break as long as you aren’t handing your children over to people constantly
I was recently separated… when my kids were with their dad or my nieces would look after them once every 2nd weekend I went out to a club, for a drink, to grab lunch or even a date night with my girls… at first I felt guilty because it was also said how can I leave my kids… however after awhile I realised as a woman I need ME time!!! That does not DEFINE me as a mother, a child /children need a happy mother… and if going out once in awhile respectfully, and your kids are still your priority & well taken care of… Why should u worry what people say!!!
WHAT 
since when was it a criminal offence to have a break once in a while