Am I being sensitive?

People are so frigin rude. “Well I’ve never gone through any man’s phone” well awesome! Good for you! I guess this post makes you feel so good about yourself and making her feel like a piece of shit.

Definitely hiding something

I don’t go through my partners phone but he’s got no issues if I pick it up, answer it, check a msg etc amd same for him with my phone…
No big deal.

Sounds like you have reason to want to look if that’s how he reacts…

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Not being sensitive if the damn man is gonna wrestle it off of you the moment you pick it up especially if y’all have been together for 16 years.

He’s cheating no doubt about it

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Yeah girl take you a lil peek at that phone when he’s asleep

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As my girl Bailey would say that’s suspish.

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Flat out ask why he cares…read his response carefully

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I don’t go through my hubbies phone, but I have answered it or texted for him while he’s driving. He wouldn’t care if i did.He pick up my phone and will look at stuff in it all the time. It sounds sketchy to me.

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Ehhhh. We both know each others passwords and neither of us would ever mind the other using or looking through. :grimacing:

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My mama always said if you go looking for something to be prepared to be ok with what you find :woman_shrugging:t2:
I don’t go through my husbands phone but he does hand it to me & ask me to respond to someone or look for something for him. Maybe you should sit down & ask him why he’s acting like a teenager over a phone :woman_shrugging:t2:

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If there was nothing to hide he wouldn’t care.

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My husband will ask me to answer his phone or check a text for him.

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Yes deff. He’s hiding something

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He’s hiding something for sure.

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No not at all you have all the right to feel that way !

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If he’s literally fighting it back from you he’s definitely hiding something. He can act annoyed and just tell you that you can ask for it next time or something. But panicking and wrestling for it back usually means there’s something on there he doesn’t want you seeing. I’d end the relationship over it cause he could literally be leading a whole second life and if he can’t show you this one Time (don’t give him the chance to walk off and delete things) then what is so so bad that he can’t show you his phone? Then from there on our set terms and boundaries for these things so no one looks bad or has to overthink things

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If he has a issue to where he is physically wrestling the phone out of your hand, that means he’s doing something he knows he shouldn’t be doing an doesn’t want to get caught…

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I can’t stand even my kids touching my phone… doesn’t mean I have anything to hide! Is he not entitled to a little privacy? Do you follow him to the bathroom as well?

If he is literally ( in a serious way ) physically trying to get it back from you, ohhh most definitely somen is up…
That would’ve been delt with right then and there, like wtf dude?

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I mean I hate anyone touching my phone lol but I mean if there’s nothing to hide he should Def let u have his phone just to ease ya mind definitely sounds fishy to me

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Most people don’t actually have a problem with their partner using their phone on being on it, so for him to be acting like that I definitely think somethink is up.
My last partner let me use his phone and one time I picked it up and he immediately grabbed it from me and said what did I need…
Turns out he was cheating on me with a co worker! Trust your gut. Not your heart.

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I’m kinda wondering why your grabbing his phone.
I don’t touch my husband’s phone. Even when it goes off. Unless I see that the person is MIL or one of our children. Otherwise I hand it to him to answer or leave it alone and tell him it went off.
If you feel suspicious then sit him down and discuss it. Don’t yell, or scream. Discuss the situation calmly an rationally like mature adults. If he flys off the handle and starts acting suspicious then tell him so. His attitude and actions speak for themselves. Tell him that.

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Hope that it’s just porn

I can not stand anyone touching my phone I have absolutely nothing to hide I just like having my privacy respected, if I’m with someone that wants access to my phone they clearly don’t trust me and that is a problem.

He’s either really doing something wrong or just very protective about his stuff. I’m guessing the first tho.

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He is hiding something.
My husband of 16 years started doing this….(not the wrestling tho). He kept trying to justify it with……I didn’t trust him, he always had an answer to cover his phone obsession.
Behind my back, he was cheating on me with a ‘so called friend’. He was telling her we were separated. I have a disease similar to Parkinson’s/MS and he told her he was only living in house with me and our son to look after me.
They are married now and have child. Btw he had a vasectomy after our child because he wanted no more and she had a partial hysterectomy after complications from her first 2 kids. ( she was married but her husband cheated) My ex had 3 kids to first wife.
I was totally blindsided but am sooo happy now. He was a total narcissist
I get the privacy thing, but isn’t that what good communication is about?

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Sounds sketchy. Not that we do, but if he wants to look at mine or vise versa there’s no problem.

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Those that have nothing to hide: hide nothing. He’s definitely hiding something.

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Oh he hiding something

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I want to say something is up because I know that is the “normal” response but I will say that even though there is absolutely nothing I have to hide on my phone and anyone can use it at any time, I am fiercely protective of it. But this is due to my own past trauma. I was never allowed to have any privacy whatsoever as a kid, teenager, or young adult. My parents, guardians, and past partners have never respected my right to privacy. I have even gone so far as to burn my own journals out of spite because I’ve had partners in the past who wouldn’t stop snooping through my things trying to find them. So I see my phone as my one thing that is my private space. I have the conversations I want to have. My own passcoded journal on it I can keep with my at all times. My own photos at my fingertips. I would absolutely wrestle someone over my phone even though there isn’t really anything I have to hide on it.

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If he only recently does this then that’s not good. But if he’s always been that e at then maybe he likes his privacy.

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If you want me to hand my phone over, just ask

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You kind of got your answer! Hes hiding something!

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He’s probably hiding something

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Some people just like privacy. I don’t enjoy people touching my phone especially the amount of private conversations I have on it that are no one else’s business, and my partner is the same.

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I would be happy to show my partner anything he wanted to see on my phone. I’ve got nothing on there to hide so he can have at it if he asked. I would be pissed though if he invaded my privacy by assuming that he can look at it without asking me. Probably doesn’t help you, but just in case it does give you another point of view

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Sounds like my cheating ex! He did the same thing.

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I remember my ex was in a bath and I went in for a pee picked up his phone to check the time and he nearly jumped out the bath to grab it turned out he was cheating for months, definitely a red flag

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Have you had reason to be suspicious? Have you kindly asked if you could see his phone? Would you give him your phone? It doesn’t automatically mean he’s cheating … but he most likely has content or pictures he knows you wouldn’t approve of. :wink:

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Think you’ve got your own andwer here, is it normal or is he hiding something??

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Doesn’t mean he’s cheating but maybe looking at porn or something… but I don’t like to assume I always say it can make a “donkey “ out of you … just ask him what is he hiding be very honest

some people like to have privacy. i won’t let anybody touch my phone. i’m not in a relationship but if i was i still wouldn’t let them. it doesn’t always mean something dodgy is going on.

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Does he do that to you ?

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He is guilty of something dear

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Nope. You are not being too sensitive. Something’s up.

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He is definitely hiding something…unfortunately. I know how heartbreaking that can feel.

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He may be hiding something or he may be pissed off at your insecurity and your attempt to remove his piracy. If you think you are being cheated on and can’t trust who you are with time to sit down and talk about it and probably end it.

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Nah. Go on and leave him. You already know.

If the guy is genuine then he wouldn’t care about that

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No if he didn’t have anything to hide he wouldn’t have a problem with it.

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His phone his privacy but if he has given you reason for not trusting him then I would understand why you want to go through his phone .talk to him

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I have differing views on this…
It is totally easy to say “I wouldn’t care so he’s hiding something” and I get that …because I’ve said it/felt it about my husband in the past…really. Been there. Done that.
And to a point this is correct.
If a person is literally always so guarded with Thier phone they get defensive when you so much as move it when you’re cleaning or something…or gets upset if you glance at it when it goes off…that’s a huge red flag.

However. The more I sit with this…the more I realize that while I literally have nothing to hide whatsoever I would be uncomfortable with my husband consistently and constantly trying to take my phone from me to go through it for the purpose of being nosey.
Like it would feel…skeezy.
It would feel…like he was saying I need his permission to have/do whatever (have games…have social media…have conversations with my best friend).
Eventually I would get to a point of being extremely possessive and guarded with my phone.
Not. Because I’m doing anything wrong but because it would feel invasive.

I think you really need to sit down and figure out which situation this is.

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Why are you grabbing his phone to look in the first place. Has he given you a reason? I just dont get that part. People deserve privacy. If i feel like i need to “snoop” then there is a problem already.

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Should be no reason why you can’t pick up his phone. I don’t think you should go through it just to do it. If he’s actually getting physical to get it away from you seems like a huge problem. And probably is up to something. Get smarter about it if you want to go through it lol

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I mean. Is you deciding to go through his private/personal property a new thing too? Cause if so I’d keep in mind that people can be traumatized from folks going through their things. I personally follow a rule that’s if I feel like I need to go through your phone, I’m done.

Yes he’s hiding something.

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Definitely suspicious! Everything is probably deleted or hidden now. Never doubt your gut instincts! Just ask him why he acted like that and watch his reaction closely if there is any deviation from his normal behavior you have your answer. And if he hands you the phone now like I said it’s deleted or hidden.

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Why does everyone seem to go through their partners phone ? I have enough trouble managing my own phone let alone be bothered snooping on a partners phone but I am very happy single and old but still learning so much

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Its odd but talk to him

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Okay it may seem odd if you usually do it and he doesn’t react that way but it honestly took me almost a year with my current boyfriend to let him have my phone cause my ex had a tracker and went through my phone constantly to make sure I was isolated so if you did it random without doing it before or to be noisy I think he has a right to his personal belonging and acting that way being together doesn’t automatically give rights to go through your spouses belongings time can heal things but trauma can still be trauma even if your not doing anything wrong so it depends on the case here but everyone automatic to assume it’s suspicious to protect your phone if anyone touches it your still two different humans even after being together that long

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Yeah if he wasn’t hiding anything he would mind you picking his phone up. Don’t let him lie.

It would make me wonder. On the other hand I’m a private person and I don’t think I would like to have my partner looking through my stuff without asking. Still, I think I would ask why he reacted that way. I would watch his reaction to that question carefully. If he acts suspiciously, I think you’ll recognize it.

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Why are YOU picking up his phone…???

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He’s hiding something

He panick reacts to you going on his phone … yes that’s a suspicious action for his suspicious activity. You should be able to grab it and he just smiles at you or he shouldn’t even blink. A phones just a phone unless you use it for "private activity " !

Why are you checking his phone? I’d be bloody annoyed too. What if the roles were reversed?

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He’s definitely hiding something !!

A good trick to see if he’s cheating is pick up his phone and run to the bathroom. If he tries to beat the door down to get it back. He’s cheating

My husband and I grab each other’s phones all the time he will use mine for the internet if is is on the charger or I can grab his and use it if I want we trust each other 100 no need to hide anything on your phone unless your guilty of something

I’d be annoyed if my partner kept picking up my ph to check it too.I’m not doing anything wrong and never cheated in my life.No trust end it

My ex was like that. He’s cheating or hiding something else like how he texts his friends about you & your kids.