Am I doing the right thing?
I have a 3 year old son w my now ex. We got a court order for 50/50 custody Bc I had every intention of having a healthy coparenting relationship. I faithfully brought my son on his days and allow them to speak anytime they wanted. Overtime he took our breakup really hard and would freak out on me…blow me up…call my job and really harass me, blame me threaten me and just make life hard. He would blame me for taking his life away as he knew it…lost his car, job snd fell into drug abuse for a few months.
He was emotionally abusive and very roller coaster with his feelings towards me and my children. I have one daughter who is not his and I could see his emotions started to affect her when we were together. Part of why I left. I didn’t want my kids to see someone emotionally unstable around us. We were miserable.
Since we’ve left, he’s always lived with his sister who is an active drug user…no job or car and no money at all…Dif apts and sometimes hotels
I worry for my sons well-being snd he begs me to bring my son by so they can see each other but he lives far from me and I don’t feel it’s my responsibility to make it happen each time he wants to see them on top of that he scares me Bc I never know how he’ll be towards me or us
He’s facing a second family violence felony with me for climbing my third story balcony, smashing all the windows and doors and vandalizing my apt and getting physical w me
Even after I was following the allotted days until he would call me and tell me I’d never see my son again. Then I started keeping my son away Bc it was too much stress dealing w his hot and coldness towards us. I know he loves his son and I want them to have a relationship but I feel he needs help and I don’t want my son around his sister who does drugs and is unpredictable and up at all hours of the night. Am I doing the wrong thing? Keeping my son away?
I know they deserve a relationship but it’s like he gave up on his life after I left snd I don’t feel like that’s a good father figure for my son. But he makes me feel bad when I do talk to my ex…al I wrong?