I would not go over on days he wants to play.and expect full attention the days I’m there or I’m out.im a gamer too so we used to both play while I was at my guys house before we moved in.its a problem now that I can’t play and he can 3 kids later.🥲but now he has 2 jobs so I let him play when he can as long as he watched anime with me and the kids
Cos they are lazy and selfish, plus ignorant and taking you for granted when they are like this! Dump him, you can do better
He’s prob bored. Sorry. 
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You ought to have a candid conversation with him about it. Express your thoughts and feelings about it in a calm manner, allow him to do the same, and then maybe you guys can redo his schedule to include you a bit more. It’s all about finding balance between your guy’s quality time together and your separate alone times. I will say that if he’s going to invite you over just to spend the time playing video games, that’s not fair to you and it’s a concern to bring up during your conversation. You guys are in the early stages of a relationship so it’s important to establish certain expectations and boundaries during this time, and also learn how to properly communicate with each other whenever a disagreement does arise.
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It’s a fickle matter. Its a hobby, but men and video games can be like an addiction. They can be on there for hours and hours and not get bored. In my personal experience, I was with a gamer for 3 years. We had 2 children, and I had another from a previous relationship. He’d go to work (but he absolutely hated it) I stayed home all day, every day to care for 3 kids. When he came home all he wanted to do was play video games. Understandable, the man worked all day, he deserves to relax.
However, it got to be a problem when as soon as he walked through the door, and I mean AS SOON he’d turn the Playstation on and he belonged to it for the rest of the night. Literally. He’d stay on that thing until 3, sometimes 5am. I was doing online classes at the time and there were times I needed him to supervise the kids so I could write and essay or do an exam, it was like pulling teeth. “I JuSt wOrKeD AlL DAY I wAnT tO rELAx” YOu’vE bEeN HoMe AlL dAy, YoU cOuLdNt fInD TiMe tO do tHis At aLl??!?" 
not even 5min so I could simply take a shower and have time for myself.
He was the worst, and mind you I’ve had boyfriends who were almost as bad(and no, that isn’t even the worst of it from him) it can be a real problem. Guys have literally died playing video games from being on that damn thing for days at a time not sleeping, not eating and only surviving off redbull because they’re on a raid or whatever.
Turns out, my ex wanted to play so much because there was a girl online he wanted to talk to. (His ex) whom he left me for 🥲😂 if gaming is not your thing then I’d leave honestly. I mean most people would say play with him, but if he doesn’t know when to stop then personally I wouldn’t enable it. It’s not a problem that he plays, it’s not a problem that he likes to, but my God, you have to learn how to prioritize your time. And they get so wrapped up in it they lose track of time.
Stop going over for a while.
Let him miss you. See if he even does, by the sound of it, he doesn’t seem excited about you anymore, if he’d rather play his game than spend time with you. Just see.
Be grateful that’s actually what he’s doing.
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It may be easy to meet him where he is, but sounds like time to date outside the house! This way you don’t have to worry about the game. If that doesn’t work bc you want more time and he doesn’t give it then make a choice.
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Maybe only hangout on the days he womt play. It isnt rude he is playing but kinda rude to have a guest and play. Also yes I would consider someone I was dating for that little still a guest and maybe not totally comfortable entertaining themselves in your home
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Wait til you been with them 10 yrs plus …
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Would you rather he play video games or play with other women .
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Yes that’s an issue. Leave.
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It’s hard to say. Obviously this is something that bothers you, which is perfectly ok, as your feelings are your own. My suggestion is to not go on the days he is intending to play games while you’re there, but I also want to say that this is not likely to change in the future, so if it’s something that truly bothers you, think of the long term and if you can deal.
Perhaps he should come over to your house instead? Or make plans to go do something.
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If you’re only 4months in, it’ll only get worse. This is the red flag girl and it’s early. Dump his ass
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You’ve only been together four months and he would rather play video games than spend time with you?? He’s not that into you. Get a clue.
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Learn to play the video game and play with him. I’d rather have a man at home playing videogames then a cheater 🤷
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There’s a Facebook group called Lonley wives of video game addicts…
Even tho your not married it could help… it’s an addiction my husband plays a game on his phone non stop…I can’t say it gets any better mine didn’t use to play games then he started playing more
Not only is it not acceptable, it is rude! Find someone who wants to spend his time with you
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Dont go around at all
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I like how y’all are saying it’s an issue, so tell me this…would you rather have you man out at the bars every night doing god knows what or at home playing a harmless video game? My boyfriend is a gamer you know what I did? Got myself the game and played with him…we have a blast playing. 
you can’t expect him to be interested in what you are interested in if you don’t try to understand what he’s interested in.
My son is this exact person he plays video games all the time except when he’s working and he’s 30 he’s addicted to his game always has been but he has ADHD failed 3rd grade and has low attention span in class and in life general he gets his adrenaline rush from his games it’s weird and he’ll stay up all night playing he’s a beautiful son with a big heart but because he does lack focus he’s single unfortunately so either you love him for who he is or leave him
Well it’s an issue for you sadly. If you aren’t ok with the gaming situation I would move on. Four months is not worth the fight it will be if you try to stay and make a stand. It sounds harsh, but trust me, I am 100% right.
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Well if it bothers you and you have spoken how it bothers you then that’s a problem. If he has set out time to be with you and then reneges leave go home don’t say a word just go. See how long it takes him to notice you left and then tell him well since you broke our agreement there was no point in sitting at your place being ignored.
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I mean maybe learn to play so you can share in this hobby of his together. If you really liked him you wouldnt stop him from being himself. Also you dont gave to see him on the days he plays his games or whatever go do your own thing. He had a life before you and he will gave a life after you. Its the sane thing for you. Why would you stop him from doing something he enjoys .
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come on now…4 months in and your already crying over a video game. Stop it
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Have you thought about offering or asking to play the ps4 with him? Its a way to spend time with him.
Maybe he doesn’t need you that much
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Try playing a game with him. Or go find anything else to do outside his place.
To be fair, it’s not just guys that do it. Get into the games he plays with him. Guys love the “gamer girlfriends.” I’ve been with my Partner for over 4 years and we’re both big time gamers. You can spend time with him while doing his favorite things just like he can do for you. Learn to cope with it or leave. After 4 months, it’s a petty thing to be upset over anyways. He’s a gamer… let him enjoy it 🤷🏻
There is two scenarios here from my point of view. 1- he’s just really gotten into the love of gaming. And he would be amazed if you reached out and asked him to play with him (which I fall into this category) 2- he has something personal going on that he may not want to talk about or deal with and is using the game as a way to get release. (Which I fall into this too) if you ask to game with him and he doesn’t seem pleased then you might need to have a chat and make a clean break 🤷 hope this helps.
Leave. If this is an issue during the “honeymoon” stage of the relationship is only going to get worse. I wouldn’t even be asking this I would have left already. This early in a relationship is not even worth the headache. At least not to me. But I’m still single at 38.
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My fiance & I have been together for over 2yrs. He is a gamer… I know how much he loves it… we don’t live together & when I stay the night at his house I always bring my laptop & watch my shows… we just love each others company. We don’t need to always be right on top of one another. Maybe try looking at things from a different perspective.
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This is a look into how the future will be. He will continue to plays video games always. As someone who’s been married 26 years, it’s hard on a new relationship, but for a 26 yr relationship it’s great! I have my own time to do the things I want with my girlfriends. And I’m fortune enough to be able to get my husband to stop his games to do things with me when I ask. Good luck!!
He’s been playing his whole life, your dating for four months
It only been 4 months and he rather play game then spend time that is a issue I play vidoe game when someone is over vidoe game is the last thing on my mind
Do not date little boys
Date a real man.
Sadly your relationship will continue to suck.
Do not settle for less than you deserve
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Maybe ask him to Come to your house or go out somewhere in place of staying in, have him male the effort to see you
You’re not that invested in the relationship at 4 months in. Doesn’t seem like he’s invested at all. He’s in a relationship with his games.
I know people who’s spouses would rather play games than anything else. Even work.
My advice is to get out now! No need to keep getting let down and hurt!! He’s not worth it.
You knew that’s what he does. Like it or move on.
You should be the only star in his life if you do not live together. Plenty more fish in the sea.
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Let that man play his game
He ain’t in the streets doing other stuff 
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Honestly he will only start to play games more and more the longer y’all are together.hes really holding back how much he actually plays…some people will say well atleast he is home playing games,happy and safe. I do agree but if you are a person who loves attention you are not wrong just end the relationship 🤷🤷
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Sooo I was married to someone addicted to world of War craft. I thought, ok I’ll let him play. He didn’t have much of a childhood and he’s not doing something stupid behind my back… big mistake. It ended our marriage, even after me telling him and taking to him about it. Ieven took the computer tower away and he got so mad I thought he was going to hit me. Have him an ultimatum too, our marriage or the game and his exact words “I’m not going to stop playing”… I even tried to play but I just couldnt get into it. He completely ignored me, no conversation, no date nights at all… so I left him. We tried to make it work but I stopped loving him. Talk to him about it and if he doesn’t think there’s a problem then it’s time too move on.
Get in your car and leave when he starts paying. No fight, no tears…just drive off. He will figure it out real quick or he won’t. Either way you’ll know his priorities
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Run while you can…I started the same way with my bf, 13 yrs ago and he still plays all the time. If it’s creating issues now, it will later as well.
If a game is more important than you, why beg for attention? He’s made his choice. Move on.
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Men usually play games as their outlet, my partner does, especially after work. I just let him play it and spend time together when we can, it gets annoying sometimes but it is what it is… we live together and a ring and 5 yrs later, he still plays it. I too am a pc gamer so I understand it… maybe plan a day together outside of his house so you can spend time together or if its really that much of an issue (it won’t get better) I’d probably just cut your losses and move on.
Leave it only gets worse
Play with him and conversate and dine and wine. Then suggest other dates
This is his hobby and what he likes to do. Luckily there are millions of men out there that don’t play video games, try finding one of them. There are a ton of women that love playing video games just as much as men, he needs that type of woman in his life, so make room for him to find her.
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The fact you have had to make a schedule for the times he games and the times he sees you is bizarre, your in the honeymoon period normally during this time you spend as much time as possible seeing each other, I think you are into this relationship much more than he is, sounds like he can take it or leave it tbh, you should just leave if you go over and he’s saying one more game, don’t even say just say you are going to the bathroom and leave, see how long it takes him to phone you to see why you left, alternatively ask him to come to yours or to meet outwith the house and do something together, I don’t think this relationship is going anywhere and that you are wasting precious time 
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Lol all these people saying leave. I’m a gamer. All the gamer guys end up with non gamer women/girls. Or those bimbos that pose with controllers that don’t even know how to game. 
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My ex always playing his games too I just play them with him and he enjoyed me sitting with him and watching him because that was his hobbie. Even though we aren’t together (due to distance) we are still really great friends and we still game together
It’s early in the relationships Encourage him to prioritize time for you.If it continues keep your options open.
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Play with him. At least he ain’t running the streets or worse. Find a game you can both play and join him it can be quite therapeutic. My husband and I play several games together actually have a few we don’t play unless we play together
My husband loves his video games. I don’t mind, I just use that time to do what I like to do. I’ll watch my show or read a book. When we first started dating, he didn’t however usually play before we lived together. We usually went out on dates. If I came over or he came to my place, we’d watch movies & talk/get to know each other more. 4 months is really early still, you guys are still getting to know each other. Tell him how you feel, that you want to get to know him better. Suggest going out, even for a walk or make dinner together. Don’t complain about his gaming though. That’ll erk his nerves lol
Get him out of his home. Sometimes him playing games is better than him always being out. If you can’t take it no more, dump him. If not make an ultimatum. Time being spent with you has to be well given. He should be able to do so and you need to let him enjoy his hobbies. His world isn’t all about you. Your relationship is too new.
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Move on. He will not change for you or can you change him
Sounds like a young teenager, um , throw the whole boyfriend away ??
Yes he has an addiction and it sounds like it is not you .
Sorry to say but you are in a relationship with a gamer. Games to them is like heroine. He is who he is love. Over time he’ll spend less time on his games…maybe. I know grown men in their 40s and gaming is life to them. I have an ideal, why don’t you join him in gaming. Ask him to teach you. Sometimes if you take passion in what he loves he will reciprocate.
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Just. Dont. Go. To. His. Place. Anymore. And. Move. On. If. He. Call. You. Tell. Not. Playing. Games
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Girl, DO NOT wait around for his attention. Get out there and do stuff you want to do. Do not plan around him or in spite of him…just go do YOU stuff…read a book, hang out with friends, etc. And do not report to him what, when, where. If he actually cares, he’ll make the time to spend with you. Simple as that.
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Does he have anxiety or depression issues? Some people (myself included!!) Use gaming time to escape our anxiety and our issues. I can put my games away to do the things I have to do, but once I sit down I am always playing something on a device. My husband is not a gamer but understands why I play. Maybe check in on your boyfriends mental health and see if there is something you can do to help him!
Men don’t want to be GROWNUP, I would kick him to the curb now
.pack up anything he has at your place and drop him off at his Mum’s or Chucky Cheese
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He will never ever change.
My ex husband was the same.
At the beginning he barely played as he was trying to lure me in and then boom once comfortable he started to play more and more and more. Once married it only got worse.
At one stage he was playing 20 hours per day.
He lost his job because of gaming
And we almost lost our home because I was struggling with rent and bills.
The sex was non existent as he chose his games
Out marriage suffered
When I expressed my feelings, I got hit (I left him)
He cheated on me
He used to watch anime porn cos he could “still game”
He wouldn’t shower for days or weeks on end
Gamers don’t give a shit about their partners, all they care about is their games.
You deserve better.
Gamers don’t change even if they say they will.
I can’t tell you what to do little sister, BUT I can tell you what I would do. I would pick my purse up and walk the fuck out without looking back! No woman should EVER have to beg for attention from her man. Let that game controller suck his dick.
Wow so many daft comments on this page he plays on his playstation so what if your serious about him then this shouldn’t bother you I’m sure there are lots of things u do that bug him giving him a ultimatum is just stupid u going to due this in every relationship you have it’s your way or the high way then I gaurentee you will be alone if u don’t wanna sit there and watch him play go home go out with your mates
If he says he’s gonna spend time with you but gets on his game then you need to pick yourself up and go home. Just leave, don’t say anything…see if he comes after you, if he notices you’ve left. If he doesn’t then you have your answer…time to move on to someone who values you over his ps4!!
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If that’s the worse he’s doing, that’s fine. Same thing I told my son’s gf this wkend. If he works and pays his bills and stays outta trouble, there shouldn’t be an issue.
You need to be with someone who is not a gamer. At 4 months you still should be in the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship. It sounds like he is showing you his true colors already. Move on. He will not stop gaming it will continue spending less time with you. I dont think he cares about your relationship it sucks to hear but be glad you find out now than later when its further into your relationship and harder to walk away. Trust me I have been there. I did not walk away I stayed for 13 years and it was 100 times harder to leave and my friends warned me and I Didn’t listen. I thought they didn’t want me happy but they could see what I couldn’t. Good luck hunny
It gets worse…honestly unfortunately it DOES NOT get any better 🤦 Eventually to the point ur day dreaming about killing either him or the game console 
Gaming addiction is real believe it or not
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If he picks up his games I’d excuse myself n go out myself or find friends or just let him know when he decides he has time call!! Don’t go to his place where it’s convenient for him yo play games !! Don’t put a game system up at your place on nights you’re together??
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You like him a lot it seems so why not have him teach you and you play together then you can compromise where y’all play the game together then y’all go out and do something that you like
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The gaming won’t ever stop. take it or leave it. Just to let u know it really sucks being married to obe.
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Ask him to go do things YOU like too. Then ignore him while doing the things. Nah I’m just kidding, kind of. Have a serious talk about it. You shouldn’t have to sit there and practically be alone the whole time. I got married once and it didn’t last long for the same exact reason. The gaming wasn’t bad and then he thought he had me forever and he’d literally play right after work until he went to bed. It was a never ending cycle and I wasn’t putting up with it anymore.
It’s just a stupid, harmless addiction. Having said, the only way is for you to be more exciting than the games he play LOL
MEN ARE ALLOWED HOBBIES AND INTERESTS THAT ARE SEPARATE FROM THEIR GIRLFRIENDS!!! This bugs me so much. People commenting like “he clearly has an addiction” “leave him” “sounds immature”.
I’m sorry but in what gives you any right to gatekeep someone’s hobbies just because you don’t share their interest in it.
It doesn’t matter if he is your boyfriend or not. He is entitled to his down time spent in whatever way he chooses.
Honestly though think about it if your boyfriend tried to tell you that you spent too much time doing your favourite thing and if you didn’t quit and devote all your attention to them and their needs he’s gonna leave you because you clearly don’t care enough about you. You’d be absolutely fuming.
So why do some women feel is it so ok to do it to guys. It is really disrespectful just disregarding what they love as pathetic or childish because you don’t like it and making them feel like crap because of your own insecurities. It’s not fair in the slightest. If you can’t handle a relationship with someone who has a passion for gaming then don’t be in a relationship with them. Which is a valid choice to make but don’t make out like it’s their fault just because they are a gamer.
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It just might be an indication as to what he would be doing 24/7…you could stay home? You could get up and leave if he starts games on planned time together? You could suggest couples therapy for game addicts? You could give him a taste of his own medicine by finding a game you like and play it during promised together time? You can look for greener pastures w someone w NO GAME SYSTEMS. Good luck…
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Games can be addictive. I used to be real bad but simmered down a bit. It could be alot worse atleast u know he’s not upto no good. But just stress to him that u wanna spend time together n his games will be there for later.
A lot of men are like this, at the end of the day you’ve got to ask yourself is it worth the arguments. Anything could happen tomorrow, avoid arguments that can be avoided 
just speak suttly express how it makes you feel, and if nothing changes then you know what to do if it bothers you as much as you say it does .
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The typical guy problem, once they got you, they won’t date you anymore. He can have hobbies, but if your time with him consisting you sitting at the side while he’s doing his thing, then it’s not a date. Don’t go to his home anymore, where he can access to his game. Don’t let him too comfortable not making any effort at all, if he’s not willing to move, u have fun without him, go out with your friends. Distance yourself, let him miss you, let him come to you. Bitter harsh truth, why does he still wanna date/make effort when a girl present herself straight to his home?? Don’t even have sex with him, make him work for your attention now
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It’s better than him out running the streets at least you know where he’s at it could be a lot worse than just a game
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It’s called lingerie lmao if that doesn’t work then I’d say talk 2 him at least b4 walking away…
My ex is exactly the same but he prefers to be on his own and play with his video games and I will say now I wasn’t that botherd I liked the fact we Cus sit in the same place and do our own things it was nice… it wasn’t the fact that we weren’t paying attention to each other Cus there would be times where he never played his games at all, i loved the company it was great but even tho he ended the relationship only lasted 8 months but they were the best eight months of my life and I’m still totally in love with the guy. 6/9/2021 would of been our 1st year anniversary but these things happen, I’m now in anti-depressants to help me sleep at night I’ve not had them for two nights I’ve ran out so I’m going be ringing the drs for a repeat pescription Cus I’ve been awake for nearly 24hrs.
Why do you stay then? Leave, go out with a friend, go do your own thing. He has checked out of your time, why give him more?
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“He’s not grown.” Advice comes from my great grandmother. Kids play games. At some point you’ll meet a MAN and he’s going to want to pay attention to you and respect you. Move on this guy isn’t the one.
Huge turn a gamer. I say have a conversation with him. That doesn’t work. Then text him of how you feel. Im sorry a grown man should be able to balance the two there is no excuse at all.
Tell him U want a man not a boy. Or just leave
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Stand in front of him naked, I’m sure you’ll get his attention
He used to play less but now plays more since you started dating… Hmm… What kind of conversations do you have? Maybe he is stressed and gaming is the stress relief… Learn what he plays and game along…
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He’s showing you what he’d rather do. It’s better to find someone who wants to give you attention. Never beg a man. You deserve better than that.
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Sounds like him and the PS4 have a great relationship, I think it depends on you. Or maybe start to play the game with him, and get bonding time that way.
Stop going over to his place. If he wants to see you, he’ll get the message. If you’re there and he starts to play a game, get up (don’t start a fight) and go home. He can play all he wants when you’re not there. Why isn’t he taking you out to do things you can both enjoy? Even if it’s just going for a walk and taking time to get to know each other better. Honestly, it sounds like there is some growing up needing to be done.
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When people tell you who they are, believe them.
What you are experiencing is a peek into your future with him. He is just too immature to have a real relationship and it appears he’s just not into you! I would get out of that asap and find someone new!
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You should be happy even
It’s early in the relationship, I’d get out now before your feelings get hurt anymore. Date someone with similar interests so you can enjoy the time together
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When I was dating my now husband he didn’t play while I was visiting him, instead he took me out to fun places. I would say leave if you’ve talked to him about it and he doesn’t listen. He’s a gamer and that’s basically what they like to do all the time, it’s more like his personal time but if he’s doing it while you’re trying to spend time with him then he’s not ready for a relationship.