Am I overreacting to my little brother removing me from Apple music?

So I’m 27, my little brother is 17 I’ve been taking care ever since he was a baby our parents would always b at work, so I’m the one who took over my moms and dads job, anyways So me and my little brother agreed that I was paying Netflix and he would pay for Apple Music so we can both save money and help each other at the same time. So when I make changes to my account I always let him know so he can put the new information into his Netflix account . So yesterday he removed me from his Apple Music and put his girlfriend, I got so upset and felt hurt because he didn’t tell me he was making any changes or he would removed me:( I feel like he could have told me but decided not too. I cried.): I texted my little sister and told her and she said “oh dang you seemed so hurt “ you guys think I overreacted over this or I’m right for getting upset ? Please no judgmental

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Am I overreacting to my little brother removing me from Apple music? - Mamas Uncut

I would ask him why he removed u

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Take him off your netflix

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should he have told you? yes, that definitely would have been the right thing to do. but you’re almost 30, he’s a teenager. of course he’s going to do those things & put his girlfriend first.

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He’s 17. You’re almost 30. 🫠

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Change the nextflix password. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander.

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Totally take him off your Netflix.

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I think you have some growing up to do if you’re crying over Apple music. Take him off Netflix and get your own Apple music account.

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You had an agreement… if he doesn’t hold up his end of the bargain, take him off your acct.

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Id remove him from the Netflix :woman_shrugging: me and my husband have the same agreement with his mom with Netflix and Disney plus and hulu. She stopped paying for hulu and Disney so we changed the Netflix password :woman_shrugging:

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I’d be upset too and I’m a petty B so I’d change the Netflix password. A deal is a deal.

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Take him off ur Netflix

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He’s 17…get over it and pay for your own stuff. :woman_shrugging:

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I can see where you would be hurt. He should have told you. Actually, he shouldn’t have taken you off of his account. He and his girlfriend could have just enjoyed his together.

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Take him off your Netflix then xx

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You are 27 years old and crying about apple music😒 grow up

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Seems like there is a deep rooted problem

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You are 27 and acting like a baby :sob:I wish these were my worries :joy::joy::joy:grow up

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Cringe. Talk to him, he’s a teenager and obviously pleasing his girlfriend. Communication goes a lot further than acting out of anger.

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If u don’t got the money for Apple Music don’t use it ?? Ur almost 30 years old :neutral_face:.

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He’s a teenager. Pay for your own things

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He’s 17. So take him off your Netflix.

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I mean a deal is a deal. If he took you off apple music, you change the netflix password and not tell him.

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definitely overreacting.

I don’t understand why you are crying about it because it’s not that deep. Just change your Netflix password and get Apple Music

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My own kid did this
Meh whatever
I was a little petty and changed passwords and logged all devices out but other then that no big deal

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You’re 27, you should be paying for your own things and not relying on your 17 year old brother at all.
Yes, you are overreacting. He is a teenager, probably didn’t even think it would bother you. Just get your own account.

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So change your Netflix password and move on. He’s young and following his hormones. He’s not thinking of what is the courteous thing to do.
Or you could just be the grown up and ask him why he removed you and didn’t tell you. Then proceed to change your password.

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Your weird hes 17 and your 27 grow up and get over it Apple Music’s not that big of deal lol :joy:

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Major over-reaction! Take him off Netflix acct. Maybe tell him that the proper way to handle would have been to tell you. Remember he is young…you are an adult.

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Change ur netflix password. U had an agreement he broke it.

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…. You’re 27. Get it the fuck together. You’re crying because a 17 year old removed you from their Apple Music account? Are you that broke you can’t pay $10/month? This is pathetic. Like come on now, you’re being dramatic af. If you’re that mad, take him off your Netflix.

Take him off of Netflix and get your own Apple music. Simple.

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Change your Netflix. My sister and I have the same deal and we are on our 40’s lol

You have every right to be hurt.He should have told you but oh well get your own apple account and move on.

No, I would be hurt too. He should have talked to you before he did it…

I have a place for you in my Apple Music family if you wanna send a DM.

I pay for 6 and literally have a few slots open.

No charge… just free Apple Music.

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I’m pretty sure at the end of the day what’s upsetting you is that he didn’t communicate with the one person who’s always had his back. Regardless of his age. It’s the principal. Yes, he’s young but he should know what hurt your feelings. This will pass and I wouldn’t ruin my relationship with my brother over it but he definitely should be aware and reminded to be mindful. :v: your feelings are valid. Just don’t sit there too long. :purple_heart:

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Well change your NetFlix password then. Why make a mountain out of a molehill ? There are too many other things in this life to get upset about. I’d ask him why and then just let it go. Boy’s in " love " do stupid things.

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Nope…not overreacting.
He needs to be taught to honor his agreements.

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Take him off the Netflix and quit crying.

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People think it’s silly and maybe it is to some but I completely understand why you’re upset. I’m SUPER close to my brother (we bought houses 3 doors from eachother) it was always us two and it was something y’all shared together. He’s growing up and spreading his wings and that’s probably some of the sting but remember he’s a kid and probably just trying to impress the little girlfriend :joy:. I’d call him and be like dude. If you don’t put me back you about to lose Netflix! Also I’d say btw it was crap for you to do that! My brother doesn’t have me pinned on his texts and I got mad yesterday lol it’s just sibling love haha

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You had a deal. He broke it. Take him off your shared stuff.

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Stephanie Theophilopoulos :joy:

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just change ur password he ‘s not thinking with the right head right now

I mean have you said anything to him? If you haven’t he doesn’t know it hurt your feelings. You are entitled to feel hurt, although I know I wouldn’t be too hurt if it were me. I would ask him about it and then if he doesn’t want you on his Apple Music, take him off of your Netflix. It’s only fair. He isn’t holding up his side of the bargain. He doesn’t get Netflix.

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Yea you over reacted. You’re an adult pay for apple music yourself.

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I don’t think you are over reacting at all….
You have every right to be hurt but this, and personally I’d be petty and remove him from Netflix honestly :joy: and not say shit :woman_shrugging:t2:

I think you should take him to court.

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  1. adult vs child
  2. Change Netflix pw if ur really worried
  3. See #1
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An agreement is an agreement. You had every right to react :two_hearts: He is old enough to be held accountable! Don’t listen to half these idiots.

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Change​:clap:that​:clap:Netflix :clap:password​:clap:

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Hes 17 . Hes not thinking with his brain lololol

Delete him from Netflix. :woman_shrugging:

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Soooo take him off Netflix,dont tell him…and dont cry

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I mean…I’d be upset. Just remove him from your netflix

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At 17 he’s just thinking with his hormones (mom of 3 boys). He’ll miss the Netflix when you change the password-I’d advise you not give it back when they break up. It will help him in the long run.

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He’s 17 he probally wasn’t thinking too much into. My daughter is 16 and I don’t ask her to share anything with her 25 year old brother but it’s cool that yall are soo close. Communication immediately is best. Not going to a sister or another family member and word gets back to him is how trust and conflict come about. Just speaking as an old mom of 6.

So remove him from Netflix

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Uhhh slight overreaction, not sure that tears needed to be shed…I understand being slightly upset about it. But if you guys are that close maybe talk to him and not ask randoms on social media. It’s an app…not a serious life decision. :woman_facepalming:t2:

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Just take him off Netflix. Yall had an agreement. :woman_shrugging:

Psh just kick his butt off your Netflix and drink a glass of red wine sis

Take him off your stuff

Sounds like not Netflix and chill for little brother. Hope they enjoy music more :woman_shrugging:t3:

Take him off Netflix & you may have over reacted a little but that’s okay! :hugs:

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Just remove him from your Netflix then :woman_shrugging:

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Obviously the people on here telling her to grow up and putting laughing emoji really need to go back and read and are the ones who need to mature she put at the bottom asking people not to be judgmental which is exactly what you are doing. What is this middle school or adulthood why don’t you grow up and respect her by not judging.

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Put him in time out and no snacks for the rest of the day ! How dare he !

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Yes you’re overreacting. Seriously, is that the worst thing in your life you have to be concerned about? :unamused:

In your life time this will be like a blink of a eye, move on

take him off your Netflix lol

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So change Netflix info & be done :clap:

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I don’t see a reason too cry but I’d take him off my Netflix lmao.

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I mean, you kinda have a right to be upset, but he’s 17. He’s a kid. I swear males don’t get a fully developed brain until they’re somewhere in their 30s… if even then.

I would simply tell him that you two had an agreement - he pays Apple Music and you pay Netflix- and since he decided to end the agreement by removing you from Apple Music, you’ll be removing him from Netflix. Lower your Netflix plan to only you and get an individual Apple Music subscription and leave it alone.

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Not overreacting. Yous have a share deal and he should have told you. Deleting him off your Netflix is being petty. He probably has no idea it’s upset you.

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Overreaction but I see how it hurt your feelings- I’m sure the girl put him up to it, but apparently he doesn’t remember the agreement so take him off Netflix and “forget” to tell him

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Just ask him what’s up with the apple music. He may have just forgotten. & if he says he doesn’t want you on then communicate about the deal and if he what’s to stop then change your netflix password. Instead of brewing in your emotions, communicate.

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Just remove him from Netflix

Take him off your Netflix

You’re an adult! Grow up and stop acting like you’re still a teenager. He is 17 and that’s what 17 yr old KIDS do.

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Id be upset but an agreement is an agreement so he breached the agreement sorry no Netflix…then hes 17 brain isnt really working at full capacity lol hes got a girl brain and only girls…so hes normal…but a mom of boys we all know…just remove him from your app

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Well he is 17 which means for now his gf is more important to you. He doesnt have his priorities straight. Block him from your account and see how he likes it. I wouldnt be too hurt over this. He’s still a hormonal teen who doesnt have his priorities in order. A lot of teens will pick their girlfriend over their sister in a situation lile this. I would also take some time to explain that you two had a deal and he cant just walk back on that. As well as remove him from your account since he didnt keep his end of the agreement

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Remove him from Netflix and change your password. what’s good for the goose, is good for the gander they say.

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No, it was rude. Take him off Netflix and change your code

You are right for being upset he should have told you

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Just change your password and move on

Just cancel his Netflix…maybe he will remember your deal

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You’re dealing with a parent issue from a sibling perspective. A parent would recognize that a 17yo boy would make a dumb choice and not take it personally, but as a sibling who thought they had an equitable arrangement and then got shafted for a girl, you’re understandably hurt. I get the history is tangled, but you and your brother need to sort out your relationship boundaries to avoid future conflicts.

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No your not, that’s hurtful and he should have had some thoughtfulness to talk with you first!! It’s the principle, unfortunately he is young and probably needs to learn by example, I don’t say this lightly but stop his Netflix and wait for him to react and then say see its not nice if it. Then have a heart to heart so he learns a lesson also.

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I wish my problems were this simple.

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I dont think her reaction was specifically because of the music. It sounds like she raised this boy and the least he could have done was say hey this is what I’m gonna do. I think its more the principle that made her react the way she did.

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Omg he is 17 let him impress his girlfriend by letting her on his apple account lol

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You over reacted .
Just take him off your Netflix and move on.

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You cried? Over apple music? Just take him off of Netflix and get your own apple music.

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It was bound to happen, just change Nexflix password n Forget to tell him. The girls always come first at that age.

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Remove him from your netflix. Change your password or information he has

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Pay your own bills! Childish

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Take him off your Netflix but yes you are overreacting…

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I think removing him from your Netflix is petty and passive aggressive. It’s not going to make anything better. Your brother probably was thinking something like - My sibling is 27 and can probably afford their own subscription, and I’m 17 and I wanna impress or take care of my girlfriend -. Should he have said something? Probably. Should you have gotten THAT hurt about it? Probably not. Either way a conversation between you and your brother has to happen about your expectations of communication with eachother.

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He breached the agreement. Take him off your Netflix. Period

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