Am I overthinking?

I have 2 kids; the first one is from my 1st husband. We separated when he was 3, his dad and family dissapeared on us like my kid never existed after our separation, even blocked me from social media and everything. I remarried and my hubby took on the role of a father figure for my son, he loves him as his own. So my eldest never felt the need of his bio dad. We now have our 2nd son and everything is great but im assuming my ex's family (not dad) looked us up on Facebook and decided to come back in my now 8yr old life. My ex MIL apologize for not being there for him after her son stopped seeing and helping me out with him...at first me and hubby were hesitant to allow it because we feared they would disappear on him again but allowed it because all the little cousins would call him and look for him. The kids are not at fault for grownups mistakes so we allowed it. Everything seems go well between them until the other night. I had posted some Christmas pictures on fb with the boys and our horse. One of the pictures shows my youngest (1yr) by himself and somehow my ex MIL screenshot the pic and send it to my husband (we are not friends on fb or anything). I think it was an accident she send to my hubby but why have the picture. Should I confront her about it? Why would she screenshot pictures of my son that has nothing to do with her. I would understand getting the picture of my eldest but why do u need it for my baby. I want to say something but im afraid its going to affect the new relationship my eldest is building with that side of his family. Maybe I'm just overthinking but My ex's family believes in witchcraft and black magic so im scare its to do something against us/my baby. My husband was upset but kinda brushed it off but its bothering me.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Am I overthinking?

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I personally wouldnt think much of it. Maybe she is making a nice family picture album,working on a gift for ya’ll…if it is bothering you that intense then just be an adult and ask her about it.

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Firstly I highly doubt it’s got anything to do with hexing u guys.
Secondly regardless of whatever relationship ur child is building with them I’d still say something. That’s weird and sketchy that she screenshotted a photo of a child that has no relative to her and sent it to ur husband. Accident or not it’s still weird and I’d be questioning it

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You need to look at your privacy settings and your friends list. If it’s strictly friends that can see your profile then it was one of your friends on FB that gave it to her. If your settings aren’t that strict that may be how she got it either way, I would feel uncomfortable as well. Why is she sending a pic to your husband? That’s just weird…

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So delete the family from social media and YOU control what pictures are being sent.

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You know you can be friends with her on fb and hide your posts from her? I would have to say something. What she did was rude and disrespectful. I would simply ask, why did you take a screenshot of “input name of child”?

My boyfriend has 3 children with his ex and she would steal my pictures all the time and post them on her page like she took them. (Not sure if she still does. I have her blocked.) It was weird as hell! I never said anything because they are her kids too but I never understood why she didnt create memories with them and take her own pictures to post… My nieces pictures were also stolen from facebook. People are weird girl.

My advice would be to speak to her, she has no rights in taking a picture/screenshot of a child that has no relation to her. I would also like to know how it was an accident sending it to your husband if you/him are not friends on fb or anything!

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Let it go! She probably showed another family member your 2nd child in conversation. She probably thought the picture was cute. Either way, not worth it.

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Well if you don’t believe in it they have no power. But however u can report it to Facebook and she won’t have said screenshot anymore. I would monitor my son’s behavior when returning from there because if they believe in witchcraft u don’t want them teaching him that nonesense. I would also let her know it’s not acceptable to screenshot your pictures.

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Its nothing to do with witches or magic. Perhaps she thought it was hè grandson in a past picture maybe. If you are uncomfitable ask her why she has the photo. You dont have to be mean or nasty about it just ask!

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I would never expose my children to toxic family if I could avoid it…

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Maybe it was an accident. Lots of older people have no idea how to make a screen shot or sometimes do it on accident etc. I wouldnt do anything yet but I also would pay attention to it.

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My exes (first two kids) mom, came back into out life after few years asking and begging to forgive her for what her son did. As much as I don’t like her she was nothing but blessing. Doesn’t bother us often, bought ticket to Europe to see them, sends Christmas presents, I have one more child with new hubby and she even buys presents for the little one. Saves all pictures of all kids I send her, and treats all of them like her grandkids.

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She probably thought it was the oldest as a baby or she’s wants to accept the youngest into her family as well since it is her grandson brother and meant to send it to another family member to introduce him. Just ask her. But you need to look at your security because if she was able to get your kid picture then anybody on the internet can as well.

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Was there a 2nd pic of ur son, I’ve screen shotted a few times where I’ve swiped on accident but maybe she was just showing someone what he looked like, just ask, could b innocent, why create waves when not needed, I have tons of screen shots of random people lol just showing or talking about. Nothing ill about it. Just when texting/ messaging sometimes people ask

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This is why I stopped posting pictures of my family on fb. I have accidentally screenshotted and liked things I never meant to but regardless I don’t post personal pictures anymore because I don’t trust ppl in general and the internet is just too scary and no matter how many controls we think we have. If it’s on the internet it’s not safe.

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Maybe she loves your baby because he’s family to her grandchild.

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I agree that it is awkward for her to take pictures of your youngest that has no relationship to her but honestly people are shady and into everyone’s business. She probably did it to show you had remarried and have another child period. Or it could have been to show the ex that the youngest looks nothing like your other son. Who knows maybe your ex thinks your oldest isnt his. People do dumb st all the time. Yes she shouldn’t have done it, but that’s what happens when you let shady people on your Facebook, or in your life. You cant control what they do or why. So either stop posting pictures on the internet for the world to see or stop letting shady fus on your page.best of luck

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Honestly I’d tell her not to screenshot pictures of the kids. Especially if sending to your ex, and the younger is not his. Stealing pictures of minors could get people into trouble if you choose to press charges. I’d change privacy setting and block them from my page they took it from tbh.

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Change your settings. Let friends know NOT to share your pics. OR post no kid pics on fb, share thru messaging individual ly.

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We have people in our family that have ex’s including myself…just speaking for myself , I keep family genealogy, my daughter has 4 half brother’s…I have a picture of them all. I don’t use it for anything more than just that.

I’d say something just for the sake of keeping things clear. You can ask about it without being accusatory. And just say, this kinda has me feeling some sorta way and I’m hoping that talking it out with you helps push that feeling to the side.

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My child wouldn’t go near them if they were into witchcraft

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If you aren’t friends then maybe your Facebook profile is not private? In that case then I would lock it down.

You’ve been reasonable enough to allow contact so it’s a bit odd that she’s taken the picture of your other child but maybe it was accidental. I would just politely ask why she sent it/has the picture and go from there

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Block your account up so she can’t take them. It’s probably public make it to only friend.

Block them. If you are nervous about it, it’s for a reason

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I’d :100: be saying something!!!

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Just ask why
“So _______ told me you sent him a pic of my youngest… I’m just kinda wondering why?”

And cut them off again because there was literally no need for that and if they believe in black magic and things like that and ESPECIALLY if they practice that stuff then all you’re doing is protecting your kids by keeping them away from that mess

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Why not just ask her? Make a decision based on her tone & explanation. People are often very telling of their intentions. If she gets defensive about it, shut the whole damn thing down and focus on your own family.

Just don’t allow your son to be with any of them alone.

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I wouldn’t sound the alarm until there is a real reason. You can’t control other people. So unless there is an obvious issue I would keep it to myself. But look at it like a mystery mouskatool :rofl: a useful tool we may need later. Keep it in your mind in case any other real suspicions arise.

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That’s when you delete and block everyone.

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You are under ZERO obligation to have these people on your Facebook!! That is a door to your private life that no one except who you want there is entitled to. Delete her immediately. She can text and call like a normal grandmother. If Facebook is where she draws the line of communication with her grandson then she doesn’t deserve to be there in the first place.

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In my experience I let my mother in my child’s life when he was born (after not being there for me her only daughter growing up) but I gave her a chance to be a grand mother to my boy. She was great the first 7 years. Then she quit coming around for no reason and now my son hasn’t seen her since 2017. I regret letting her come back into our lives. So with my experience i wish I would’ve never gave her another chance if they can walk out once they’ll walk out again.

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My daughter’s father’s mother used to do that… she would take pics of both my kids off my fb (my son has no relation to them) and make them both her fb profile pic or cover photo type of thing. It was super annoying but harmless.

Change your picture settings to only allow people you trust 100% to see them

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I would ignore it for now and give her the benefit of the double for your oldest son’s sake ‘but’ if she does it again … I definitely would address it.

I sent pictures of my newborn to my son’s other side of the family. They are still relatives even though there is no blood relation, but it is crossing a boundary with her sending him a screen shot without your permission.

Block them on fb… y’all don’t need exes families on the fb… communicate through calls and text like normal send pics of your oldest son to them through text and that’s it. Them people only came back in your life to be nosey cuz they seen u and your son doing great in life. Never should have allowed them back in. Even your kids dad doesn’t always mean well.

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You need to set boundaries before they start crossing lines.

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I agree with the part you said about its not the kids fault. But you moved on with your life and they should respect that don’t have anything to do with them. Sounds like they are starting trouble and there is no need… Delete the facebook life is more information than that. Then she can’t do anything to you and change phone numbers. Her being in his life wasnt that important to them years ago not worth probelms she is causing period.

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Burn some sage and talk to the ex mil like an adult. If she chooses to get nasty about it. Block contact.

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If it bothers you you should say something but I would caution going off the deep end or jumping to conclusions right away. My two oldest daughter’s father passed away a few years ago and their family didn’t quite ghost us but it was close. Fast forward abit I found another man and had a baby and now the girls’ paternal side is warming up to the idea of our baby. Trying to include her and such. Their grandfather even asks me for pictures of the baby. So perhaps it’s something similar? She should have asked you first but it may be harmless.

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There’s no better gut than a mommas gut, if you feel off about it, say something. It doesn’t have to be mean, just a “hey, I’d appreciate it if you didn’t send pictures of my kids to people , im not sure why you sent that picture to ‘husband’ but I just wanna make sure people we don’t know don’t have pictures” keep it simple until she tries to flip it (if she does).

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We all have that friend who is a bit “witchy” talk to that person and have them help you with a protection spell for you and your family. I can DM one for you and no I don’t want money for it… I know how you must be feeling knowing they practice and you don’t. It can be scary and make you feel vulnerable to the unknown… For those I have offended by this post, I am truly sorry and that was not my intention but please keep your judgements to yourself, and scroll on by… sometimes you have to fight fire with fire and if their intent is not good with that screenshot then this family needs protection on the same level as the attack… Just sayin… Let me know Sugar . I will keep you in my thoughts and with my power. I wish you Love and Light… Blessed Be.

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I mean if you guys aren’t Facebook friends that means ANYONE can get the picture. I post pictures of my daughter but I also don’t share all of those publicly. There are settings so you’re pictures and posts only show for friends.

And its clear that she made no mistake here. It’s not exactly easy to “Pocket dial” a picture. There are a few steps to go through before sending a picture… flat out ask. You also need to be asking yourself if these people are filling your sons head with garbage. Black magic is a little much, and regardless of if it works or not I wouldn’t want my 8yr old learning about that.

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Oh my! You had me until you mentioned witchcraft! I wouldn’t let them anywhere near my children and I’d block them on all social media and lock yours down so random people can’t see your photos!

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Block her too, she sounds like a troublemaker.

Ignore for now but change settings so she can’t see much of your fb or your husband’s for that matter. Keep your private life private

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No biggie, block her from seeing anything personal… you can exclude just her or specific people

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Ask her why she saved pics of baby and sent it to hubby?

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Pray over your children God will protect them when mom is not around

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I wouldn’t be comfortable with that. If she wanted it so she had pictures of her grandsons brother then why not just ask? She was sneaky about it & screenshot it. It sounds weird. Go with your gut.

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Unfortunately if you want to be in complete control over who has pics of your kids then you need to keep them off of social media

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You can ask nicely what it was about or let it go. Maybe they are just interested.

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They haven’t contacted you and your son in over 5 years?? All of a sudden you have another child and they want to be family again?? That sounds shady as fuck. Honestly, you shouldn’t have allowed contact. You’re right, it’s not the children’s fault but children do tend to mimick the behaviour of their elders. I’d say to keep everything private on your social media and do not allow your ex husband’s family to be associated with it. It was wrong of her to screenshot and takes photos from your page of your child. That’s creeper status. I’d be extremely careful.

If it bothers u speak up about it. Ask her why she had it. She probably meant to send it to her son so they could gossip. Let her know her place

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It may be something innocuous as showing the similarities between siblings? :woman_shrugging:Saying the boys look so similar?

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Just change the privacy settings on pictures you don’t want shared. So that they can’t even see them.

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witchcraft is not evil, nor should it be, It’s do no harm. Please do a little research on that. After that, your first son needs to be part of his family & they are his family, If & when he is older & doesn’t want to be in their lives anymore, than that would be his choice not yours

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I would say something your gut it usually never wrong. Plus she shouldn’t be taking any pictures

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Absolutely Say Something!! You are being tested, Stand Strong Protect Your Child… Continue with the Relationship With Boundaries!! Do Not let Anyone run over You :heart:

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If you don’t want people to see your kids pictures don’t post them. At least change the privacy settings so only your friends can see them. As far as the witchcraft goes take the time and learn the truth it is neither good or evil. If you are a Christian the way Jesus healed to some is no different than witchcraft.

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Keep pictures of your kids off social media. Once you put them on there anyone can see them and save them then show whoever they want. I don’t post mine for that reason. I haven’t in 2 years and I won’t again. I’m a private person though.

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Don’t put your kids on social media

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Move on away from them. Keep both your kids away from them. That would be my advice x

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Maybe just ask for a relationship off of social media for now and that way u can control what photos she has if u block everyone off ur fb so they only see what u send

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Don’t question or ask if you should confront her, that’s your little boy who has no relationship with her and that’s a breach of privacy. You also need to confront her about the fact how she screenshot your child’s photo without permission. If it was a accident she would have deleted the photo and not sent anything to your ex… she did it intentionally, which is also quiet creepy. Make it known and have full boundaries only to have photos of the child they are related to.

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Maybe she wants to make sure she is treating them both equal? Or showing that he had a sibling. If you really are curious, just ask. To me it doesn’t seem like a malicious thing. If you don’t want her taking pictures the only thing you can do is take the pictures off or change the privacy settings.

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Try wearing a Hamsa.
It protects you from the “Evil Eye”.
If they wish bad on you it hits them back 10 fold.

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I would start making a photo album on fb specifically just for the kids or the photos that you don’t want getting out and set the privacy to where only certain people can see them of who you select on fb.

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God grow up and ask HER not Facebook

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Just flat out ask her. Make 2022 your year for boundaries. You have nothing to lose by confronting her about it. Not to mention, you are an involved mother and if she wants to continue to be in her 8 year old grandchild’s life, then she needs to act like it.

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The ex mother in law hasn’t done anything wrong. You post your kids pics on social media. If they haven’t caused any harm to your son, I don’t think you should be ugly. She apologized and you should respect that. One day your son will be old enough to ask questions and make his own decisions. Remember how you was when at that age. It could all come back and bite you in the ass. Then your the bad guy. I have grandchildren with siblings from the other parents, and I treat them like they’re my own. What in the past is the past. I still have a great bond with my ex mil. I love her dearly, even though I too was hurt in the divorce, but apologizing is the bigger person, and accepting the apology is the better person.

Did you ask why she did it? I personally would like to know all of my kids/future grand kids family. Maybe your oldest talked about your youngest? Maybe they were curious? I mean you won’t know unless you ask, but I also don’t live your life so maybe I don’t know the whole story, but I would assume if you trust them in your oldests life, you wouldn’t think they would want to hurt your other child. So personally I would ask why she screenshotted the pic in a friendly manner and go from there. Also post any pics that dont involve your older son with a privacy setting. You can set it so it says friends except: [persons name here] and just put anyone connected to them.

Do you believe in black magic??

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Hubby needs to ask her for now asshe sent it to him
It is a little weird tho and maybe she meant to send to her own son to show him

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Block them all and set your account to private so they can’t see anything.

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And I would ask her about it.

If they believe in witchcraft and black magic they would not be around my child.

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If they are into witchcraft why would you even want your oldest around them. I would just bloke them from my fb and notpist pictures of my kids

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She might not be tech savvy and it was a complete mistake. Maybe she was trying to show someone how your youngest looks like how his brother did at that age?

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Tbh, you already know they creep on your page. Is it weird? Yes. But I wouldn’t even approach it. Just move on if all is amicable. It’s not hurting your family whatever she does. Perhaps your oldest’s paternal side was having a convo about how much the kids may or may not look alike & she went to find a picture of your oldest to show them. Also, depending on her age, she may just be fb stupid :joy:

This is the reason I dont post personal pics on fb. Even if you set privacy to friends only…all it takes is fake profile , a tag from mutual friends or someone hacks your account
She should not have screenshot your pics to share with your ex but she did…I wouldnt trust her again . Have words and share pics privately .

This is the reason why I absolutely don’t share any family pictures on Facebook. As for this situation. Her screenshot of your younger child, not her bio, and sending it to your now husband, step father of oldest, her bio, I’d be suspicious. I would definitely only allow supervised visits with them. If that becomes to much then think of your child and remove them from his life.

If she sent it to your ex husband it was not a mistake she deliberately did it.

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I would message her and say ‘hi, it’s probably an accident but just wondered why you got a picture of my kid and sent it to my husband’ if it worried you that much. Tbh it could be completely innocent and me and my daughters dad have compared how much our kid looks like to other family members, we aren’t together. They are your sons family but unfortunately with social media if your profile isn’t locked down then anyone can see, screenshot and share your pictures xx

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No no no no no. You are being too nicem they had their chance, y’all should never have allowed them back.

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Maybe she was thinking her grandson and his sibling look alike and wanted to show another family member :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Your #1 mission is to.protect your precious sons and your new family. These people have already proven they are shady if for nothing than abandoning you and their grandson for so long!! No excuses! Why expose your sons to them now? You need to isolate your new family or you can expect more problems. They don’t have your son’s best interests and they obviously never did. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Beware. Beware. Beware.

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Your instincts are right. Avoid any association with ex and his family. Don’t confuse your kids.

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Block them all from social media, have them call on the phone to discuss everything

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Why would u let them bk into his life after how many years. Yeah na.

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Yikes :grimacing: that’s why I don’t post pictures of my kids faces on social media anymore. I don’t care about Facebook people seeing pictures of my kids.

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Maybe she thinks the boys resemble each other and just wants to show her son? Maybe? Lol idk

Bring your children to the light. Your last 2 lines are kinda disturbing. The best thing to battle it for now is to pray and rebuke the negativities.

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That’s creepy
You need to confront
And pray for your child and family rebuking all curses in Jesus name

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This is why you shouldnt post personal pic especially of kids… cant get mad about it

Ps I think outa the whole post you saying your ex believes in witch craft and black magic is creepy… did you not know who you were having a child with!!!

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