You can polish a turd but at the end of the day it’s still a pile of shit.
Eh. Honestly if you couldn’t get the baby to bed without the pacifier it would have been quicker for you to just take the baby downstairs yourself to get it in the first place instead of sitting in the room with the baby and yelling through the house at him to get it making it take that much longer.
You can be upset but he’s kinda right, You might not have been “relaxing” but you were just sitting there with the baby. “couldn’t” do anything else till you had the pacifier. He was in the middle of a game~ which being online -he can’t pause it. I wouldn’t throw a game and die to get a pacifier either. 
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Some of these comments are ridiculous. No damn video game should come before your child PEROID!!! GROW TF UP!!
I would talk to him again and let him know that the way he talked to you was not ok. Suggest that he wait until after the bedtime/night time routine to play his game and then let him play uninterrupted for an agreed upon amount of time. Now obviously things happen and it might not always go according to schedule so that’s something he’s just going to have to deal with. I get both sides because I am a mother but I also like to read to relax. It drives me nutty when I’m interrupted during a really good part but you never stop parenting. My husband bonds with our kids by doing the bed time routine with them every night. He worked mid shift for years so that has been the only time he sees them for a long time. When my oldest was a baby he did all overnight stuff because he worked until midnight or 2am so that was his time! My boys LOVE their dad. If he wants the baby to bond with him then he needs to spend the time but he also needs to realize that until a certain age that baby’s life is going to be mom or whoever has the food, pacifier, cuddles, and food!
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It sounds like you are both very young and have a lot to learn in life. There’s a healthy balance that comes from both parents. Everyone views priorities differently and everyone has their own routine. You and the baby don’t live with the babies father; you have to take into consideration that he has his own routine and habits that aren’t going to change overnight and while that is the case he also needs to get used to having a baby as part of that routine. You are with the child 24/7 it’s a little different for you. I am not sure how much time he spends with the baby, but he needs to be included. A suggestion would have maybe been talking to him before he started the game. “I am getting ready to put the baby to sleep and I’d like you to be part of the baby’s routine so that you can do this in the future in case I am not here? Will you help me before you start your match?” He gets involved and your feelings don’t get hurt and the baby gets the attention that she needs. They aren’t mind readers and sometimes just need a little bit of healthy direction. You shouldn’t feel bad about expressing your feelings and he keeps it up; tell him to knock it off. Be honest, but not rude. You’ve got this mama.
Girl let it go. If this is your biggest complaint I’d say you’re winning. And I hate to say it but if your legs aren’t broken and you’re not busy, why did you need him to stop what he was doing to get it for you?
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Brittany Smith because she was upstairs and her bf was downstairs. I wouldn’t want to have to walk up and down the damn stairs 10x when he could have easily opened the door and grabbed the pacifier from the door dash person. Then he could have met her at the stairs and tossed it up to her so he could continue his game and she could continue with the baby. It’s called teamwork.
Would I deal with this nope BUT my husband isn’t a gamer either. My oldest son is a gamer and he will say to me mom I want to start this game do you need anything from me before I start because I won’t be able to stop. COMMUNICATION is key. Maybe if he did something like that and you agree then don’t interrupt him as your end of the deal. Unless there’s an emergency.
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He ain’t a man he is a child
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My husband & I play dead by daylight it’s online & you can’t pause it
When I’m in a round he’ll do things & when he’s on a round I’ll do things BUT
Look girl I have 5 kids ages 2,3,5,6,8 & I just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 6 I juggle a lot & that’s just apart of mother hood we do a bit more of the work & that’s the way it’s always been
Put your big girl pants on & clean the babies soother.
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You do know alot of gaming addiction comes from depression as it is and then everytime we get yelled at only makes it worse. Maybe you should check on his mental health a bit before crushing more. Also some of us had to give up all of our friends because of our woman and these are the only friends he has left to help him out. Just speaking from experience here
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God are you women that bloody lazy, you couldn’t of walked your ass down the stairs… give the guy a break. 
Throw the game out lol
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Yano, I dealt with that kind of behavior for way too long from my daughter’s father. I ended the relationship because his drinking and Xbox was more important than me and his child.
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I livestream my game play on COD and get paid for it. I am a single mother with a full-time job as well and video games are my way to de-stress and wind down in the evenings. With that being said, if my son really needs something that can’t wait five minutes for the match to end, regardless of if I have to get up in the middle of the stream and die in game, I’m doing it. You should be a parent first. I think the OP has a right to be a little upset at how it went down but to which degree depends on how she spoke to him when she had to do it herself. It’s in our nature to defend ourselves if someone speaks to us in a hostile manner.
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I’m a gamer mom. Sounds like he’s playing PUBG. It can get intense and when you have group playing with and down to the last few mins it feels like all or nothing, you’ve worked to get to this point. And there is no pause button- everyone counts on each other.
That being said I have always let ppl know I play with I have kids and if I stop playing suddenly it’s because my kids came first. When they were little it didn’t matter if they just wanted to show me a piece of lint, my hands held them and my body turned towards them.
As they got older I started making them wait a few mins, just as I was teaching them not to interrupt conversations.
My kids are 15 & 17 now and both still game with me. My husband is a gamer. We all do games together- I love it. They love it. But they learned early on priorities are.
I have also learned to wait patiently when they are in a spot they can’t pause and have worked hard to get to because it goes both ways.
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You accept his behavior as ok because you said that he is not hands on. Obviously you’re ok with this. So what’s the issue? You put up with this behavior and you will continue to do so
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Screw that. My youngest daughters dad is like that. He can get off his ass and help. And for those laughing and saying you should do it anyways cuz you weren’t busy, well clearly you take care fo this child 100 percent of the time. Mothers are allowed a couple minutes to their damn selves. Shame on them. I play games myself, if my child needs me, I stop what I’m playing and take care of my child. Why are dads just “excused” for this? Like holy shit. It takes both people to create a child. He should of got off his ass. Plain and simple. Leave him, believe me, he won’t ever change.
My fiancé plays video games. But If I need something and I’m not busy, I’ll get it or do what I need to do 
but my fiancé has died or quit a game plenty of times to take care of our daughter
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Drop the manchild headache
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Whether he’s a “gamer” or not, you deserve someone who helps out, becoming a parent means putting the child’s needs, ESPECIALLY before your wants. It was an extremely simple favor. Honestly not even a favor, it was something he should have just taken care of. Being a parent is an always job, not a “when I feel like it” job because he’s too distracted playing a game. cringe how immature. I wonder if he tells his boss “in a minute” because he has something else he’d rather do first
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Video game addiction is real… my advice would be to find a man that acts like a man, not a child.
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He’s just not into parenting …
It won’t change …
sorry -
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He should be a present father. My husband plays video games-after the kids to to bed. Sometimes he plays on the weekend-rarely, and only for a hour or two while our youngest is napping. You two should sit down and work out a schedule for his gaming. And whatever time he gets to game, you get the same amount of time to relax however you choose while he takes care of the baby. He shouldn’t be playing and leaving all childcare to you.
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He doesn’t care to be involved. Decide how you feel about that and go from theee
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You didn’t conceive that precious baby by yourself. My opinion, and it’s just that, he needs to step up as a father or step away! Just physically being “there” is not being a father!
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You don’t need 2 children to raise. Find a real man.
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I’m a gamer……if I’m playing something & my kids need anything I don’t hesitate to put it down……it’s part of being an adult, he needs to grow up
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That game system would have to come up missing honey we got robbed here is the baby try playing with him
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He is a man child who needs to get his priorities in line and grow up. When you take video games over your child then you are vile and shouldn’t be a parent. Smh.
I’m all for enjoying video games but not when it impedes being a parent which should be your #1.
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Power off
Or id smach it
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Next time just put that baby in his lap and leave the room
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Fuck him and his video games!
I don’t understand how someone can put a game before a baby and family.
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You definitely had a baby with a child. If he doesn’t want to do his father duties then leave
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Everyone is bashing the dude here but…
like yeah he should have stopped the game and helped because you asked…but… you weren’t doing anything, he was, and you’re mad he didn’t drop it to do something you CLEARLY were able to do yourself??
Is it not your baby too…?
There’s more to this that’s being left out🤷🏻♀️
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I’ve never been with a man who plays video games. I don’t understand any of this 
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He may be her father but sure sounds like he is not a dad. I will say it will only get worse. You can do better, and deserve better.
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I would have switched the game off by the plug. What an immature boy! I hope he grows up soon xxx
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He doesn’t deserve to be a father.
My bf is a big time gamer too but if something needs to be done with baby or house he helps first or stops his game. I don’t interrupt him when playing because he doesn’t interrupt me and watches the kids when i am watching a show or something. If there is something I could do myself, I’d avoid the argument and just do it myself.
Don’t stay over any more. You’re wasting your time and the babies. You both deserve better.
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He sounds like a big man child.
Tell him to get off his lazy ass and do something worthwhile with his child!
He needs to grow tf up, step up or step out!
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He’s being a child. Why did you make a baby with this person??
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I would of disconnect the internet! Some men smh I know the feeling sorry girl disconnect that shit next time lol
Turn it off by the plug.
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Yup. I would be done. Have fun being single.
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Oh no Apex is it? 
That game is such a trap
How would it be if you didn’t have time to see to the baby , if you had to play a game that took .
Wow what’s wrong with them playing a game and waiting til the match is finished before they help with something, what if the role was reversed you would say I’ll do it once this game has finished. Don’t get me wrong all dad’s should help with their kids but is it really something to get so uptight over?
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Just a thought… sounds like thier msy be a bigger issue. Guys love yhier video games n we feel yhier unimportant. However its thier downtime. Suggestion maybe instead of getting mad you both sit down figure out wt works best n have a scedule… thst wsy you both agreed too it n hopefully you all will be happy.
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Get out now. He’s still a child.
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I would have broken the game console, or, take the cable away to turn it on.
However, that is not the mature thing to do. So, probably I would leave him with the baby for a couple of hours or look for therapy counselling.
If it gets worse. Take the game away, you need to make firm your position. Otherwise, this behaviour it will get worse over the time 
and he will not grow up and take responsibility. It takes 2 to make a 
, although you are the mum he needs to step up and provide for your child.
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Guy perspective here and I hope it’s considered. I don’t feel he takes the relationship or the baby seriously at all. Reason I say that is you mentioned you went over to his place which tells me you two don’t live together. If I had a baby with someone I would want to be a family and all live under one roof. Not sure what your financial situation is or even support (like parents etc) but me personally I am a provider and would want to take care of you and our baby. Don’t know how old you two are but it definitely does not seem like he is ready for any of this. I don’t have a son (two daughters) but if I did I’d tel him how you must be ready to deal with the consequences of your actions. If you are ready to lay down with her you need to be ready to take care of her and your child if that situation occurs. Long winded which I apologize for but I feel like you should maybe have another serious talk or two and if things don’t change I would end things with no hesitation. He decides he wants to step up at some point let him be a Dad but you don’t need someone like him with the way he is acting.
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Next time just unplug the wifi quick
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lol let it go . as some one who is married to someone who plays video games all the time it isn wprth it fighting over. my Husband never trally interacted wkth the kids whe. they were babies. now that they are older he helps out alot more. but whats the big deal about getting up qnd getting the door?
pick ur battles. this is one u should let go. its not worth it
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Oh wow! How tude of him. His baby should definitely come first over a game. It sounds like he needs a pacifier himself. You got yourself a grown-a** baby there. Does he at least financially help out?
This boy needs to grow up. If he doesn’t, you need to move on.
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The baby can feel that she comes second to his gaming…
Take your baby home and do it yourself.
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You had a baby with a child
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My boyfriend loves his game and plays after work and on the weekends but will hide in the game to run and grab me anything I need for our daughter…
it really comes down to his priorities not being right. I would be pissed to if I were you
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I’ve been told this by some drs. Men aren’t wired like women, which means they aren’t gonna be 100% involved with baby right away and they need situations to have that click, which means they have to spend alot of time with the kids.
He will never be a dad. He’s selfish. Why would you be with a man that won’t even help take care of his baby?
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Not sure what’s up with women dating a man child. I would would of smash the game system and told him to get tf out. Your not wrong for needing help. Men are just lazy. You have to decide of the relationship is worth it.
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Baby comes first if he can’t be a dad and help out . I would get up get the pacifier and unplug the game throw the game out the door. Kick his butt out of the house.
Leave. Been there, done that. He won’t change. Your raising one baby and shouldn’t have to be raising a man-child also. Praying for you girl
You’re with a boy , not a man.
Y’all crazy saying she could of gotten it…welp so could he she had the baby trying to put her to sleep so she was doing something more important than him. Just bc y’all are gamers does not mean I have to side with dude… he was wrong here and childish. Since when is putting a crying baby to sleep “relaxing”.
U can be a gamer and a good parent/partner.
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