With my first baby, I had a baby shower but I didn’t use a registry, and I was extremely grateful for what I got. With my next 2 children I didn’t have a shower. I’m pregnant with my 4th right now, and had a baby shower for her last weekend, where I did have a registry. I made the registry knowing that most the things on it, even though they were needs, most things probably wouldn’t be bought off of it. Sometimes needs are something that won’t fit others budgets. Only a few things I asked for were bought off my registry and that’s fine because something is better than nothing. The things that were bought for me that weren’t on it were fine too, wither it was something is personally buy or not. A registry is a suggestion on what to buy you, not a demand that you only buy this and nothing else, or don’t come! When it comes down to it, you made the baby so you are the one responsible to provide for the baby, and should be grateful for anything you get! It’s extremely rude in my opinion for you to have this outlook, and if that’s how you feel, you shouldn’t have a baby shower at all. You don’t deserve one 
Wow. Ungrateful and actually disgusting behaviour.
Oh wow. Simple solution DONT HAVE A BABY SHOWER and you go buy everything you want. Saves people’s time and money from buying stuff for an ungrateful mother.
I get everyone the same exact baby shower gift which usually isn’t on their registry but they all love it once they open in. I always buy the meds name brand and organic for babies because people don’t usually think about it so if you didn’t put it on your registry you’re telling me you’d take back $60 worth of different meds and medical kits for your child so when they wake up at 3 in the morning with a fever you don’t have what you need for your child. Be grateful people spent their money on the baby you chose to have and provide for.
What a selfish, self centred post. I am so glad I am not in your circle of friend/relatives.
If you need to have a baby shower to get the things you “need” maybe you should hold off on having a baby 
I’m sorry but yes you ARE wrong. This is the most unbelievably ungrateful post I’ve ever read 
If you are that picky then apparently you don’t need any help getting said baby items. Cause if you couldn’t afford it then you’d be grateful for anything. Just wow lady.
I’m just going to take a wild guess that 99.9% of the comments on here will say something like this:
- You sound ungrateful.
- You should be thankful to have friends and family that would take time and money out for you.
- If what they buy, you don’t need, take it back, exchange it, or give it away.
- I bet you give your significant other a very hard time.
- I hope you are only like this due to hormones and this isn’t your true character.
And what I have to say to all those comments is this:
THEY ARE 100% CORRECT AND JUSTIFIED! 
Wow! You need to check yourself!
Umm, did you learn nothing from your wedding? When it comes to gift giving, you get what you get and sometimes you get garbage 
. BUT, If someone goes out of their way to get you a gift, be polite and thankful. There are subtle ways to drop some hints, but you can’t act like a baby when you don’t get your way. Just be thankful someone likes you enough to buy you something and attend your party.
you never know what you “need” your first time around
Baby shower zilla yikes. Just be grateful and say thank you my goodness.
Yup. Your wrong. Sorry to be blunt but you should 100% be grateful for what others gift to you. It is a GIFT! They did not have to go out and spend their money on you and your child. Maybe they wanted to get you the mattress you wanted but they were out of stock or it was a steap price for them. And they hoped you would be grateful for their generous act. People may buy clothes for your child that you aren’t 100% fond of but at least your child is CLOTHEd! If you want something specific but it yourself. There are many things I received that were not on my list but I used them more then anything and I didn’t even know I needed them until I had them. I was 100% grateful whether I liked items I got or if I didn’t. I was grateful they cared enough to celebrate my little one and our growing family. If you can’t be grateful them don’t have a baby shower🤷🏼♀️
“You can’t tell people what to give you as a GIFT!” - My mom.
A registry is great because it gives people an easy way to give you something. But you ultimately can’t control what they will buy you. You decided to have a child, that comes with costs, don’t expect everyone to “pay for your baby” .
Lol I never buy anything from registry’s. I feel forced. Lol I like buying what I want to buy
So I did the whole pregnancy wrong. I had a suprise baby shower meaning I didn’t know I was having one it was lovely and the gifts bought were lovely also. But I never ever wrote a registry as I think it’s darn right cheeky to say hey you can come to my party but I wany either x y or z by all means give guests an idea by a list but don’t expect them to foot the bill of your baby. Anyway enjoy your day and remember not everyone has thousands to spend on a gift list. Just be thankful you have friends and family around you willing to help out towards your bubs.
Not everyone can afford stuff off a registry or don’t have means to go to the store you put registry in.
Be glad you had someone to come to your shower… I never had baby showers
Lol that’s really ungrateful. A registry is just an idea it’s not a definite & if somebody bought you and baby ANYTHING that’s a blessing because no one has to provide anything for your child besides you and the father. Also if you bring the item back and say it was a gift and it’s unopened they will give you store credit 
The purpose of a baby shower is to celebrate a new life being born… not your weird need to control the gifts you receive. I kinda hope you get like 10 Diaper Genies 
Friends take a long time thinking about something special they’d like the baby to have. A registry is only for those who want to choose something you picked out.be great full for anything you get.most gifts are picked from the heart.you do sound pathetic.
This is probably the most ungrateful thing I have ever heard!! People are not responsible for buying you all your child’s needs thats your job as the parents baby showers are for fun to celebrate the mom and baby and not just for the gifts !! Congrats on your new baby youbwill learn alot real quick and I hope having a baby will help you grow up
If you are going to serious bitch about free stuff then maybe you should just buy for your own baby
Girl… I feel ya… I have learned from both my wedding and baby shower that it is very frustrating when people don’t buy what you want… the clothes. I didn’t mind so much but the rest… I agree
Wow! Your poor husband 
imagine what he deals with lmfao
You should be thankful that people even think enough of your rotten self to even ATTEND your shower. Wow. Childish. If you want specific brands, BUY THEM YOURSELF! Not everyone can afford what you WANT. I just can’t even believe this is real.
Hahaha WOW! I can’t believe what I just read! I bet you were the type of person that thought you were all that in high school lol
Entitled Cunt…
Need I say more!
Seriously…
It’s called a GIFT for a reason… my money my choice. If you don’t like it donate it, I’m sure a mother somewhere out there would love a free gift!
Buy it yourself if it’s that important to you!!!
I honestly never buy off registries . I like unique stuff. If u don’t like what I give ya give it back . Someone else would appreciate it
Since when was it the job of the guest who attend your baby shower to provide for your baby? You buy the essentials that you want for your baby. Anything that’s given to you as a gift you should be grateful for, Especially considering we are in a global pandemic that has effected so many people financially. Buy your own damn cot mattress like the rest of us mothers you ungrateful Entitled person.
Is this what parties are for?! Just to get stuff?! Or is it to celebrate whatever it is that you threw the party for? I believe the guest have no responsibility to clothe or supply you with ANYTHING! When you throw a party or baby shower in this case it’s because you want to celebrate your baby and share that happiness with the people you love not just to get presents! You don’t know what people go thru to be able to afford those cute onesies they gave you from the bottom of their hearts for you to just shit on?!! You are very entitled and ungrateful
Yes, that sound ridiculously selfish. Be grateful for receiving things people take time out of their lives to purchase for baby. It’s not about you or dad, it’s for baby. If you were my child and posted that, I’d take everything I purchased back and tell you to buy yourself.
Wow you should buy your own stuff and baby showers are to celebrate the new baby coming
Ask for gift cards instead then.
I’d say baby showers are to celebrate. I didn’t get hardly anything from my registry but I was grateful for the people who came to celebrate and it was nice to be surprised with the things they picked. They showed up for you and the baby. They shopped for the baby, not you. We bought the bed, car seat, stroller(big stuff) and we bought the things we wanted a specific one of.
Did you stop and think about the price of the stuff you picked out. Most people don’t buy high priced
Stuff for baby showers.
Oh boy! Entitlement to the fullest
Yeah, you’re wrong! And you sound ungrateful and entitled! You should be thankful for anything you receive.
I don’t buy from registers because it is a lot of trouble for us older people who are not tech savvy.
I never had a baby shower…
Had 3 kids…
We survived…
You sound like you are privaliged…
Buy your own stuff
Ungrateful is all I have to say. At least you are getting a baby shower. I NEVER got one baby shower for either of my 2boys… had to either get it myself or had to have hand me downs which in my opinion is waaaaay better then brand new
And you’ll find out that NOBODY buys the big shit at baby showers. Unless it’s like your mom lol. Baby showers are normally like clothes. Bathing things. Etc. lol good luck though
Rather surprise someone with gift than know what you getting cause you put it on damn list !! Boring !!! To know EXACTLY what you might get it take fun of it for me!!
I just want to say its not a 100% your baby will even like the bottles you want to give them so having like 2 other brands might not be a bad thing and be grateful for what ppl are giving you because they dont even have to go to your shower to begin with
Then dont have a baby shower and buy you own taste of things!!
Heres a few scenarios to consider. 2x mom here… Here’s a thought if it was a baby of opposite gender she may need different things. Boy vs girl. Specific Brand baby may be alergic to a type of diaper. Clothing: dont like a type of animal or print. When you have a baby you’re style of choice or type of lifestyle will play into this. Put yourself in her shoes if you’ve had a kid have you ever ended up with too many of something either returned, exchanged or regifted an item. I had my 1st we got a ton of New born clothes he only wore a nb size home from the hospital and went straight to 0-3 month clothing. We exchanged sizes for the same clothing. Yes be grateful. But at the same time if her lifesyle is say always on the go, or lives in a small space and gets a big highchair that doesnt fold. Its not functional for her lifesyle. There is 2 sides to every coin. Be kind.
Eh if its a first time mom ill buy from the registry. But yeah I got things not from my registry that I regifted lol
You sound really ungrateful.
You’re not wrong. They’re not wrong either though. You’ll think you want all these things and be relieved when people buy stuff they know you will need because they been there and done that. I was at least☺
Be grateful for what you get. Jeez
I will always buy off the registry because I know it’s kinda frustrating to do a list and then have no one follow it.
Why don’t you just be grateful you recieve any presents at all!
Or you could be grateful
I would be grateful for ANYTHING you get. No one is required to get you anything. I’m the same as you where I prefer the necessities, however, if someone gets me onesies that they thought were cute I would be so thankful! Plus, your baby will go through tons of them so they’ll be used. Also, most stores will do an exchange for merchandise credit even without the receipt.
You’re being honest about being selective or particular. But,
sometimes people can’t afford that crib mattress, or more than a 20 dollar item, that was given with love. So, if you prefer, just ask for gift cards for where you want to buy things at. You’re not being rude, just remember that others have budgets and try to be respectful about that when planning gifting suggestions. It can work without having to offend your family and friends.
Baby showers are to celebrate the baby and bringing gifts for the baby not for what YOU need. Get over yourself and be thankful
Baby showers are about more than just gifts 
you should understand as a parent that you are responsible for all your baby’s needs and no one has to get you anything off any of your registries because it isn’t their child. A baby shower is about celebrating mom and the new baby, spending time with loved ones, and being happy. Gifts are just a side bonus you should feel lucky to get.
Wow… people shouldn’t even show up to your baby shower…
Sounds pretty selfish. I would be grateful they even attended let alone got a gift
You are very ungrateful you should be grateful for whatever you get
Oh my god! You are toxic and self entitled!
I’m surprised you have any friends for a baby shower!
You sound like a total ****!!!
Ummm as parents it’s you and your husband’s responsibility to buy the things you absolutely need for YOUR baby. If someone else buys it then cool, but if not don’t throw a damn hissy fit about it. No one is obligated to even give you a gift. Be happy that you’re receiving anything at all. You sound very ungrateful and need to check yourself🥴
You can normally exchange new items and get store credit, but I wouldn’t really want to buy you anything. You sound like an ungrateful brat.
You know what I tell my kids?
YOU GET WHAT YOU GET
AND
YOU DONT THROW A FIT!!
I thought a baby shower was to celebrate the fact you’re having a baby. The gifts are a bonus and not expected at all. I didn’t even have a registry I just appreciated what I was given. I like you sound very rude and un greatful.
You could learn a lesson from my 6 year old who walks around saying " you get what you get and don’t pitch a fit"… No, she didn’t get that from me … I had a baby shower for my daughter and then 3 years later I had one for my son… both were thrown by my sister. I didn’t make a registry with my daughter, but I considered it with my son. Ultimately backing out, because there was no way I was asking my friends or family to buy the things we were responsible for getting ourselves. Tbh, I’d have been satisfied if I’d ended up with diapers only .
A baby shower is to help out but mostly to celebrate the birth of the baby. If you only want those specific items maybe you should just buy them yourself. No one owes you anything. You decided to have the baby. If anyone buys you anything you should be grateful.
I think you are being very ungrateful. You should be happy with whatever you receive.
sounding spoiled and entitled. I would never ever look down on a gift. Maybe that’s what they could afford. Grow up
Buy your own shit. Baby showers are so uughhh nowadays anyway.
I’m probably gonna get a lot of hate for this — but I agree with you. I was a little frustrated when some people didn’t follow my baby registry when I had my shower 4 years ago. I knew some people would get a couple onesies and pjs on their own - and that ended up being fine because luckily they all thought to get a variety of sizes. I appreciated that people took the time to attend the shower and to bring a gift — but there ended up being quite a bit of stuff I ended up donating or selling. I was only living in a 1 bedroom apartment, with my husband, when I was having my daughter — I simply did not have the space to keep/store all the blankets and other items I didn’t register for that some people took it upon themselves to buy. So in fact, they ended up wasting their money - where as if they had followed my registry they wouldn’t have. I also made sure to include a variety of items at different price points because I didn’t want people thinking they had to spend a lot of money.
Yeah, you’re wrong. These people are celebrating your babies life & nobody there has to buy you shit. It’s a celebration of life. Not a hand out. Can’t pay for your kid than maybe you shouldn’t be having any yet. I said what I said 
You must be a new mom to want everything perfect and what you want!! Wait till the baby comes and those nice fitted sheets and everything get ruined first blow out or first spit up or whatever happens with new babies you will change your attitude and baby’s also don’t take to one type of bottle a bottle you like may not work for the baby or the clothes and so on there is so many things that can change everything
It takes a village! The bottles I wanted I got, my baby HATED THEM! I was told my baby would be big, but she was born prematurely and weighed less then 5 lbs. I needs things I never thought I needed. I was able to return items and get smaller things my baby needed. If you aren’t sure of something put it in the “maybe pile”. Also my daughter used crib mattress for maybe 4 months.
Wow you sound like a dick. Also, you need the onesies. You must be a first time mom.
Oh wow. Maybe Some people cant afford what’s on your list and found a set of onsies that maybe are just a little cheaper for example. Or maybe they cant shop where you are registered Just be happy you got anything at all. Are you even considering what financial situation others may be in??? Sometimes they feel embarrassed to provide a gift receipt because you’ll know what that item cost. There are reasons as to why people get things other then what’s on your registry I think.
Yeah…you’re wrong and rude. Be happy for what you get or go buy all yours own stuff
You sound like you think you’re entitled. You are one reason why I don’t attend baby showers. You got yourself knocked up, buy your own stuff - if you can’t appreciate a GIFT, whether it follows your suggestions on a registry, don’t have a shower. People don’t owe you anything- and perhaps they can’t afford what’s on your registry. It’s what they want to give from their hearts- not their wallets.
Bring what you can afford
Sometimes the gifts they get you end up being your favorite and most used.
honestly this is the reason I try to avoid showers of any sort. Spoiled rotten brats. I would have smacked my kids silly, and my mother would have too. Just go buy your own shit and skip the shower princess.
How about not having one at all?!.
You should be grateful
for anything someone gives to YOUR BABY. I was going to write a post trying to see your side…but NO. Some parents don’t get SHIT from anyone!!!
It’s not about you! Anything you receive is for your BABY. If you can’t handle that, give her/him to us or adoption.
You are getting these things for free don’t tell that you are not getting some of the things that you need
By your second child, none of that would matter and you’ll look back and laugh at how naive you were. Bottles…just because you want a specific brand doesn’t mean your baby will want that specific kind. With my first child I had a bottle in mind and my son ended up only wanting the odd brand someone bought me at my shower. Clothing…style goes out the window at 3 am when you’re changing a onesie for the twentieth time that day…you dont care
Its a good thing you aint a friend of mine cuz you wouldnt get shit from me. Take what you get and be happy and REMEMBER you may want all these things for the baby but what if the baby dont take from the bottles you chose or the binkies. Or breaks out from the diapers YOU CHOSE and now you only have what YOU WANTED and have to go back out and get OTHER KINDS. Be greatful for what you get and suck it up.
1000 + people say you’re wrong…so… Be greatful.
Would it be nice and considerate of them to buy the things you requested off the registry? Yes.
Is it required? No.
You don’t want to sound ungrateful but that’s exactly what you sound like…
You fuh real… always learn to be greatful what someone offer as gift… if you dont like… buy your own n suit your self…
I think it’s ungrateful. I was very thankful for everything I received at my baby shower
Is this a real question?! 
Wow this is the most ungrateful thing I’ve heard in a long time! The purpose of a baby shower is to celebrate the baby! It’s not about the gifts! I hope you don’t instil these values into your child or your going to have a ungrateful little s**t on your hands.
Be thankful people bring you anything nowadays especially cause stores suck to go into. Also not everyone can afford stuff so at least they got the baby something. I didn’t do a registry for my baby and it was less stress on everyone!
I mean…
every little bit helps, just be thankful.
Return it for store credit if you really don’t like it
This sounds very bad mannered. This is not a bridal shower. Parents prepare for necessities. Guests should have the pleasure of the selection of the gift.
I hope everyone brings you off brand diapers… size 5
Soooooooo wrong!!! Ungrateful && selfish!!!
Yes, you’re wrong. A baby shower isn’t for you to get things, it’s for those you love and that love you to celebrate your baby.
I think a lot of people will buy off the registry but some people probably won’t and that should not b a problem can always take it back and get what you want
This right here is why babies I know get a handmade blanket and money/gift card. I see both sides of this. Yes, you sound ungrateful. But you’re also right. A registry, while very grabby and kinda selfish, is intended to make it easier on the parents to be. So they don’t have to make a zillion returns. I get it. But I also think a lot of parents put some crazy shit on their registries. It’s not a good look sometimes. You can harbor all the negativity you want about people buying non-registry items, but you do have to be gracious about the gift. Ya dig?