I’m exactly like this.He acts like it’s no big deal like really?I want to clean without being interrupted lol.Some days I have to tell him if I dont answer,it’s bc I’m doing this or that
I miss my man when is working, I get one lunch call and texts through the day and can’t imagine my day without this.
Don’t understand what is your problem here.
Depends if it’s out of love and concern or control and checking up on her every move.
Wow, you sound like a really great person to be with!
Infantile neediness disguised as micro-management, either way it must get annoying
I don’t mind calling or texting. But if your going to nip pick on things, then I don’t want to talk to you. That what I would say to him. I also stay at home mom. If I don’t have something done my man doesn’t say a word. Even when he works all day, he does the dinner too and he doesn’t say a word about him having to cook every single night. It will get worse if your man is nip picking now, can only imagine what he will say next, you know. I sure in the heck would not want to deal with any of that crap.
Everyone thinks me and my hubby are beyond weird. Lol. We live together and work together. We are together 24/7 pretty much. It works for us. Even if one of us needs to stay home, we keep in contact. Her hubby prolly just misses her and wants to check in on her and the home life. She deff would be bitching if he didn’t call at all.
I use to speak constantly on the phone with my ex it bugged my sister when we was together lol 
My husband’s work keeps him so busy, he will work through lunch most days, so he doesn’t get a chance to call. But when he does, I go all fangirl, and RUN to that phone. Love it when he calls
Get a divorce… sounds like you prefer to be alone… then you can do everything all by yourself without anyone checking in on you throughout the day to see how your day is going. You sound bitter
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I like talking to my man while he’s at work. 
I can understand being annoyed if he’s calling just to nag though.
Maybe it’s just a husband thing. Mine is our SAHP and he’ll sometimes send me multiple messages when I’m at work…it drives me nuts lol. But I don’t tell him that because I know he’s just trying to keep himself from losing it (we also live with and care for his elderly aunt, who our daughter adores. But she constantly narrates what the baby is doing, answers questions for her, etc and it grates on our nerves…her presence also makes kiddo act a little wild).
I have asked him not to complain about the aunt when I’m working, because there’s nothing I can do to help right then and it pulls me away from work mentally. But otherwise, I just let it go.
I call my wife many time a day to make sure she is ok and to see how my kids are going , looking after kids is hard and just giving her my support
Not a mum babies long grown and out of house …now have furbabies we talk to each other constantly whether he is at work or not …we have a little business so sometimes it’s business related sometimes not …we love being in touch at all times …
Most women complain because their husbands don’t check in.
You should be grateful you have that type of communication bc a lot of relationships lack that🙄
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I think a lot of women here are looking over the fact that he calls to ask her why she hasn’t done things yet or why she is allowing the kids to do certain things… that would get rather annoying, pretty quickly and I do believe that if we were also getting phone calls like that, we would be angry too. It’s not him calling to talk to her about how she is or how the kids are. It’s calling her to make sure he’s still maintaining a level of control when he’s outside of the household. Or at least that’s what it sounds like from my perspective and due to the fact that I have a similar experience when it comes to my ex. I used to get livid every single time he would call me because I knew it would just be him complaining about me not doing enough. My soon to be husband is the opposite. When he calls, I run to the phone. I wait for that call, even if he calls me 9+ times a day. When you’re appreciated, things feel different. It doesn’t sound like OP is appreciated at all. It sounds like her partner just wants to call and give her reminders about his expectations.
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Maybe you’re more annoyed with the questions and quality of the conversations. If he’s calling and being critical…I’d be annoyed as hell too. If he’s calling to genuinely wanna talk and hear your voice…then I’d be all for it.
Yesss it can be quite annoying especially when your trying to do your duties and parent the kids. Also don’t call just to question me and make sure I’m doing what needs to be done 
! So on that I agree, buuuuttttt maybe just tell him your busy and you’ll see him later. Maybe he needs more duties at work since he’s so bored
Makes me think I’m on his mind all day and that’s nice.
I guess I’m in the minority but this would bother me too. We can talk when you’re home.
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What’s next he is breathing too loud
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ive had same thing not as much now i did get annoyed.he will call occasionally now especially while at work sometimes.i kinda yelled at him when called all the time especially when i was sleeping and he was calling me from work as he was working 2nd or 3rd shift. begininng of our relationship.
Sounds like OP is upset because she feels he makes it seem like she isn’t cleaning or doing things. However, just speak to him about it. Lol. And how it makes you feel. I mean you got married because you love each other and can communicate with each other, right? 
If you don’t want to talk to him on his breaks at work, trust me… He will find someone else who does and call them instead. Don’t take him for granted.
My partner is my bestie he calls me every lunch break 
I love when my husband calls me three to four times a day when he’s working so I know he’s alive. He builds bridges for a living. If I don’t hear from him then something happened
It shows they still care. I would love a random call/text throughout the day. Mine doesn’t call… It’s ok. Wish they did though sometimes…
No? I have the opposite problem, I often don’t hear from him much if at all. I would not be mad if he called me to have a chat, I’d love it.
I guess it depends. When I was a SAHM I took the times that my husband would call during the day as supportive because he knew that I was spending all day without adult conversation. But if I felt like he was doing it to “check up” on me (as opposed to checking IN) I might feel differently.
Either way, if it’s bothering you, maybe just have a conversation with him and find out WHY he’s calling. You list a few things like “nothing is new” which sounds conversational and then make it seem like he’s checking up on you so I don’t know his intentions. But I would ASK him before assuming that he’s questioning you and what you’re doing
With the questions he asks. It seems like he wants control.
I’d answer his calls 99 times a day!
My boyfriend doesn’t call or txt me ever! Like never so id love it. 
<3
On the other side. I work and husband stays home. I call him when. I’m stressed or annoyed at work and just hearing about his day makes me feel better. Also I sometimes call because I feel guilty that he is dealing with the kids. But mostly I call because I want to hear his voice because I love him. Sometimes the conversation goes to nit picking if that’s where the conversation goes but typically I’m just trying to make conversation. I feel guilty for not being there but then also feel guilty for interrupting his day with the kids. It’s really a no win but my guess is it’s a good thing he is calling.
My husband used to call me three or four times a day… You don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone
Perhaps it’s just because I’ve never been a huge “talk on the phone person” but this would get on my last nerve.
Got a question?
Call and I’ll answer it for you…then say goodbye and hang up.
Need to tell me something important that CAN’T wait until later?
Call and tell me…then say goodbye and hang up.
Simple with me.
CAN RELATE! In my case, he is technically the stay at home parent, but I work from home full time. I can’t go out to do groceries or run errands without him calling for one thing or another…ALL of which could be texted. Drives me insane. We’re together all day everyday. Give me a little breathing room. I’m on the phone all day for work, so being on the phone when I’m gone just for an hour or two grates my nerves so much more and he knows this because I’ve told him so many times.
I can understand if your hubs was calling because he misses you, but calling just to nitpick? Nope!
Lol well I wish mine will call me to talk to me 
and me how my day went
Me and my hubby talk multiple times a day either texting or calling on our lunch breaks call eachother as soon as we’re off work I’m not a stahm but I love talking to my husband
Get over yourself lmao 
I love when my husband calls me he can call me 100 times and I’d answer everytim3
My husband everytime I leave the house or when he leaves and even worse when he has the kids
When my partner worked at night he use to ring me at night and we would to for 2-3 hours and I didn’t care loved it made me feel like he was at home. Day time he would ring me during the day anytime, just didn’t talk as long as he g add more work during the day and if he didn’t ring I would ring him as it wasn’t normal for him to not ring, he’s so cute
I wish I had someone that cared to respond back most the time I get few texts at most. Be glad he’s actually caring
Go hug ur husband. Alot of us done even get a text. Another of them still don’t call or text come home and shower eat sleep. I’m sorry but it’s ungrateful.
Someone is taking care of bills so you can have ur babies.
Be grateful not many men will do this anymore.
Mmmh no I call my man sometimes 20 times a day for stupid shit 
but he will also call me 20 times a day for stupid shit. I enjoy talking to him an although we live together. He is literally my best friend. Theres days we talk all day thru phone an text an then there’s days we barley speak to one another once.
Be happy my husband never txt or calls to ck on me nor our kids…
Totally understand, It’s not your thing. Express this to your spouse.
And ask him to not call as much!
Ask why he feels the need to call a lot?
Both sides and feelings matter!
Wow some of would appreciate the calls.
I worked right beside me and he’d still send me random memes and stuff. He died 4 months ago and I’d give anything for one more text
Is that your biggest complaint? Count yourself lucky that he wants to talk to you! So many husbands/ fathers are absent from the lives of their families. Be happy that he’s invested in your lives!
Seriously what…? Time to reconsider your marriage if you complain about phone calls 
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My fiancé is a truck driver he calls me whenever he can just to talk I would be super annoyed too though if he was calling just to ask those questions
He’s insecure & thinks constantly calling you will prevent you from cheating. It’s a form of control.
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No. I love knowing he’s thinking of me and the kids. I see nothing wrong with a few texts and a phone call.
You take for granted that your husband is coming home at the end of the work day.
The second he stops calling you it’s gonna be a problem you’ll be wondering wait why is he calling me anymore? Maybe he’s entertaining someone else
Look at all the women wanting to be interrupted with phone calls from a husband because they don’t get it ever. Watch how quickly that would change if their husband’s called them for no reason all day long or even better yet like this op husband calling for status reports of what she’s doing. “Why isn’t this clean yet?” Like wtf? Maybe start saying “because I’m on the phone with you and kinda hard to clean one handed genius”. Big difference from a I love you text than constantly answering a phone for someone I want to talk to face to face at dinner cause you know, live together…
He could be calling some other bitch instead of you so feel grateful 
Sounds like he’s using these calls to micromanage (best case) or control you (worst case). I wouldn’t answer.
Why don’t you just marry someone you actually like?
Well if he only calls to antagonize you then I would be annoyed too. If he is genuine and calls cause he cares what’s happening then you suck.
I love getting calls/texts. Mine works an hour away so he lets me know when he gets there safely and leaves so I know about how long until he gets home so I don’t worry. And he calls or texts to tell me how his day is going and that he’s okay because his job is very dangerous
My husband calls me so many times a day. He will ask what I’ve managed to get done today, but definitely not in a bad way. We have 4 kids and I’ll mention what I need/want to get done the day before. When he asks that, and the answer I give, let’s him know what kind of mood I’ll be in with the kids when he gets home. Or bc I’ll ask him to remind me, so he’ll ask if I got so and so done. I don’t go more than an hour without hearing from him. Sometimes the conversations last a good bit, other times it’s just to say I love you. I absolutely love this. My ex husband wouldn’t communicate at all. Even made it a point I don’t need a phone bc he doesn’t call me, and all calls can wait til he’s home and I had to ask permission to use it.
My husband now (the love of my life) is so sweet, I cant stand not hearing from him. We own a business, which allows him to do what he wants. He called me while under a car, taking the transmission out for a customer, to complain about how rusted the bolts were 
. We spend every minute together when he’s home, or off, and still have plenty to talk about when he’s gone.
This has to be a fucken joke…??? Me husband and I live together have 3 kids and still talk at least 10-15 times a day. Because that’s my husband we love each other. DO NOT UNDERSTAND PEOPLE y’all are weird af
If he’s checking up on you and the kids, that’s one thing… but if he’s calling to just gripe at you, I would stop answering his calls 
And y’all wonder why we as men don’t wanna talk to y’all. Cuz y’all be like this. Be happy that man calling you. Worry when don’t. Guarantee you some other bitch will appreciate it
Seriously? My husband maybe will send me a message on messenger. I literally look at my phone wishing he’d contact me more. But he’s a busy guy so I understand.
My husband calls me twice
On his morning and afternoon breaks
Otherwise then that he will text me about our autistic daughter who’s in a home
I text her 1 on 1 @ 2 pm weekdays
He will text me with her name and?
Sometimes I have to wait a bit
Then his anxiety starts
Then I texted him
She was good ect
Other than that he doesn’t contact me unless it’s an emergency this goes ether way
Just tell him you have to get housework done and kids takin care of
And can’t really talk now
Good luck to you
No, I enjoy it.
1 I know he is alive and didn’t get hurt on a job.
2 I’m glad he is thinking about me and the kids.
3. It is nice to talk to someone other than a child.
I love when my husband texts or calls me through out the day. I look forward to hearing from him every chance he gets
Mine calls me while he’s at work and will talk to me or we’ll sit in scilence while I listen to him work (he’s a mechanic) and it doesn’t bother me til something doesn’t go his way and then he gets upset and is cussing at whatever he’s working on. Then I try to hang up. Lmao. But I don’t mind that we even just sit there barely speaking. He wants to call me bc he’s thinking about me and just wants to hear me breathe through the phone. That’s fine. I think it’s cute. Lol.
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Absolutely not. My husband and I talk 15 times a day at length. All for him to come home and spend the rest of the night together. I can’t stand not talking to him. I still get excited when my phone rings because I know it’s my husband 
Sixteen years and he is still the my favorite person to talk to as much as I possibly can. Also love knowing I was who he chose to call at that moment.
I am not a SAHM but I used to be. I did get annoyed sometimes because we would be on the phone not even talking and I’m trying to wrangle the kids or whatever but I grew to love it because that’s how he wants to spend his free time or time away from work talking to me, shows his priorities and heart.
Better learn to appreciate the fact that he thinks of you,he could be talking to someone else. Figure out why you get so irritated at the phone calls
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My husband calls throughout the day, but it’s always just to make sure I know he’s thinking of me. 
No my husband calls me on his breaks I think its nice that he wants to talk to me.
No my husband gets 3 breaks a day and comes home on every one of them to eat and visit. Sometimes it’s annoying because I have to plan my day around it but ultimately I love it because I love spending time with him and I never know how long we will live so I’ll take every moment I have with him. I’ve almost died a few times due to medical issues so I know how fast we can just be gone though.
My partner always calls to check on me or the kids, ask if he needs to bring anything home or sometimes just because he has an idea or a thought he wants to share with me. To me it shows he is thinking of me, want to hear my voice or thoughts.
But if you really don’t like it, just don’t answer.
My ex husband never called me he was calling/texting other women. But my boyfriend texts on every break. I enjoy it very much.
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Maybe hes avoiding getting hit on at work by calling home? Could he be a good guy whos bad at conversation?
You’ll miss it if he he dies suddenly. Love it and that’s probably his way of showing you he cares.
I love our calls …he is always checking if i’m ok
My husband use to call me when he was working usually lunch time or if he had news ,he’s passed and oh what I would give to hear his voice:pray:
When I first got with my SO he would stay on the phone with me all day!! Which was fun, at first… But then he was being bossy all day, telling me what to do, how to parent. Then would come home and do the same thing. It was like we never had space apart. I love him very much! But space helps (we have 4 kids all together) so I put a stop to it. It was too stressful! His feelings were hurt for a little bit. But a few days later he was understanding. But I completely get what your talking about! A text a few times a day is great! But being on the phone while taking care of the kids, dogs, chores is way overwhelming!
Well aren’t you just a peach. I bet you are amazing Company for him when he gets home after providing for you and the kids.
My husband and I text each other and call all day he leaves around 4am and I’ll get a text at 4:15 when he’s at the drive through getting a coffee lol
I think you need to reevaluate your life… he’s making you a priority and that’s an issue?
I don’t know…this sounds more of a control thing than an I love you thing. Calling to check in or talk to this kids is one thing but asking questions like what she listed, sounds like he’s controlling and makes it clear that certain things need to get done or he’ll continue to call. If it wasn’t a negative conversation, she probably wouldn’t mind if he called a couple times to check in.
My fiance used to call on break and on the drive home, now just the drive home. But I appreciate that he thinks to and wants to call and talk to me…
Prime example of taking things for granted that other people dream of.
Do you even like your spouse ?
Damned if they do and damned if they don’t . Some women
I would love if mine called me we used to talk/txt all the time
Nope, I would love if my husband do that
I really had to convince myself that this wasn’t me asking the question. Lol
Girl you’re crazy. I love these calls.
My abusive ex used to do this and it would take so much time away from our kids. You pick me’s are living in la la land.
If it’s calls to just check,hey hi ect then I love that!
But if it’s to check in on how much I’ve done then f**k no
My hubby would never do that
Nope. Micromanaging isn’t love.
Lmfao. I’m right there with you. I absolutely despise talking on my phone and I despise small talk, so unless something important happens, don’t call me. Texting is fine. But don’t call me 5x a day just to say hi. Esp if I’m trying to clean or something.