Broken relationship advice

I am with my boyfriend for over 7 months, before that we were very good friends and both liked each other and I just had a lil thing for him. Due to some circumstances we had to share house for a month or so with some other friends as both of our friends were mutual and we both met because of these mutual friends. Then, I decided to move out of this shared house as it was too crowded and he just proposed just before move out . I was in tears because I did not wanted to ruin this amazing chemistry but wanted to be with some one in my life ( I had a bad 6 yrs relationship which ended very bad with some other guy he cheated with other girls ). So , I was afraid for this new relationship but he convinced me to be together and my love for him went from 10% to 1000%. Our mutual friends did not wanted us to be together ( mutual friends warned us to stop have feeling for each other as it will ruin everyone’s friendship that is some different story) fast forward so we started living together my boyfriend and I were head over heals to each other He was not earning great and skipped work just to see me and ended going financially nuts so I helped him with his 1st car, gave him finance support etc. I even lost virginity to this guy Now, current date due to end of lease we decided to live in different house ( as he is not sure about our future) and wanted some space for career growth etc although he did visited my house every second day and so made me food some times. But I do feel he is occupied with something I can feel that from the touch, from intimacy. Couple of days ago he told me his feelings for me are going less and I can’t understand what to do I have put 1000% into this relationship as I was cautious from previous disastrous relationship ). His point is he won’t able to make me happy in future as first he has less feelings and no stable job . Because he doesn’t have a fix job he is trying day and night for every job opportunities but since we are immigrants it’s hard to find field job in IT and if couldn’t find a job probably have to go back to home country. I am so much into him I can’t go a day without him. I just don’t understand I am crying every second now even at work place.

As soon as he told you he wasn’t sure about your future, that should have been your first red flag. If a guy wants to be with you, he’ll make it happen. It sounds like he just doesn’t want to be with you unfortunately, or anyone general right now. You can always ask him why he’s acting this way, etc if you want to work it out but my advice would be to just move on. You’ve already been through a hard relationship the last thing you need is another.

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Thanks Shay that’s a great piece of advice.

I’m sorry if I sounded super straight forward & I know it’s hard, but why waste the time you have in the world having to be unhappy ya know. Be single, do things you love and have confidence to do it alone until you find your person