Can a doctor refuse to take a childs tonsils out?

Anyone else have a child with huge tonsils but the doctor wont take them out bc they are never sick and do not hurt? they are so big and swell they sometimes touch…is this normal for a doctor to refuse?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Can a doctor refuse to take a childs tonsils out?

Get a second opinion preferably from an ENT specialist

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Yes they can but your more than welcome to get a second opinion. My daughter has large tonsils also and they don’t bother her at all. We go to the ent once a year for a check-up.

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My husband and I are in our 30s. I had mine out and my husband did Not. Mine were taken out because I had so many infections, ears, sinus, throat. All that. My husband never had issues with that, so they didn’t take his. To this day he has more problems with getting sick, tonsil stones, infections, and at his age he could go steril if he has them removed. I say, push for it.

Practitioners are not obligated to treat a patient if they choose not to. You need to see a different doctor for a different opinion. If it doesn’t bother her, why havw surgery? She may out grow it.

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Yep, mine were always that way massive. When I was a kid I’d get tonsillitis twice a month and they still wouldn’t take them out and now I still have large as tonsils.

find a new doctor. i got my tonsils taken out in 2014 and it was the best decision ever.

If they’re never sick and never hurt why would you want them taken out? I’m confused

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I’m confused
If the tonsils are swelling the child is sick
If you don’t have each instance documented by the Dr they will not remove them based on your word alone

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Taking someone’s tonsils out isn’t healthy it protects him from getting sick so listen to the doctor!

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They rarely take them out unless they are constantly infected. I should have had mine taken out as a kid but they refused and I was stuck with them. Finally got them taken out in my 30’s, the surgery was horrible but so worth it in the end. I rarely get sick now

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Honestly get your child tested for sleep apnea and if they have it they will take them out my daughter has signs and symptoms of sleep apnea we have a sleep study coming up and if she does infact have it they will be removing hers… she’s 6

Her symptoms include migraines caused by lack of sleep constant waking up in the night time with no full nights rest groggy and cranky during the day snoring loudly and nightmares

Her tonsils are very large as well so I’d see with your child’s pediatrician about a slee study if any of these things are happening

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Tonisles are a line of defense against infections. Don’t remove them inless needed.

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The Dr can refuse any procedure that’s not a medical necessity. Same with insurance. So ask yourself, if it’s not causing any problems is it worth putting your child through the stress and pain of it all……and end up paying out of pocket for something the kid doesn’t need.

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My sons were huge you couldn’t see his Uvula he was 6 when they took them out

Some doctors won’t remove them because then they’ll be getting really close to the trach and you can literally bleed to death.

Nope, mine is the opposite. I have never had an issue with my child’s tonsils, he is 3 and never had tonsillitis or anything but because he needs grommets and has stage 4 enlarged tonsils the surgeon is pushing for us to remove them. I didn’t realise how many issues were actually related to his tonsils so I’m glad then surgeon mentioned it! Depending were your located but Dr Sims is amazing if you need a new recommendation :slightly_smiling_face:

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My reece is a prime example I’ve had him in the docs years ago to be told he would grow into his tonsils fast forward about 4 years he’s now booked in to have them removed as there grade 3 and he can hardly breathe he also has sleep apnea and epilepsy ask for referral to ENT but the go has got to refer you I went in and refused to move until they did xx

My almost 6 yo son has enlarged tonsils. Enough so that we are always “made aware” of them. We’ve had at least 5 different peds/ped dentists who have noted them, and recommended I try going for tonsillectomy. When i do bring it up at his appts, its always the same answers. “Since he isn’t getting sick often or showing signs of this or that i dont see a reason to take them out.” But so many others are telling me to do this, even at his iep meeting for speech therapy.

Unfortunately whether they take them out now or not- they will probably need them out later on- that happened to me

Why are you trying to put your child through a surgery they don’t need?

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Yes go to a different dr! So many drs refused to take mine out when I was young I got mine removed at freaking 23 and it’s sucked so badly the dr asked why the hell did the drs take them out earlier and I told them idk they just wouldn’t. Go to a different dr and get a second opinion tbh

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I ended up having mine out at 23. It’s was horrific . The little kids were eating jelly and I was barely surviving on some pretty strong painkillers. Not a fun surgery as an adult.

1)yes they can 2)you do not know more or better than the Dr. If he says no then wait

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Dandelions or rose pedals. It will help.

My son’s were removed when he was 17 months old. They were enlarged and blocking his eustacion tubes so he was having one ear infection after another and the doc was having to pierce his eardrums to drain them. He said it would damage his hearing if that continued. My son never had another ear infection.

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i had that problem when my child was younger they wouldnt take them out fast forward to 10 years later and we just had the tonsillectomy they caused her so many issues… u should seek another opinion

My son had this out when he was 4/5 he had sleep apnea so they took tonsils and adenoids out. He couldn’t even eat shell pasta as more than 1 shell clumped together made him gag

Mine used to be so enlarged as a kid and when I was young I got the worst case of mono doctors in my area ever seen, after that they got smaller. But everyone is right, it’s a defense against most illnesses and will help fight off.

Tonsils play an important role in preventing infections. They do serve a purpose. If they aren’t causing problems they don’t need to come out.

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I delt with this I had strep 3-5times a year an now an adult still have them but instead of strep I get sinus infections all the time. Not sure if it’s related but seriously concerning when I was little but doctors wouldn’t do anything.

I had this and my doctor wouldn’t take mine out. Fast forward to when I was 19 and in college I ended up having strep throat once a month, 4 months back to back and they finally scheduled me to get them removed. I then developed an allergy to amoxicillin after that.

They can refuse. My sons pediatrician felt my son needed his out because they were so big that it was impacting his speech. The first ENT refused to do it because he never got strep, she would only do tubes because he always had ear infections. His pediatrician still felt they needed to come out & referred us to a different ENT & luckily he agreed to do it. It really helped him.

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Contact ent yourself. Have them look. My daughter just went thru so much as her normal doc said they looked fine. Took her to ent and he removed her tonsils and adenoids within 2 weeks. He said those are huge and need removal.

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See another Dr to get a second opinion

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If it’s possible for him to keep them, that’s good. But, it won’t hurt to get a second opinion. See if you can get in with an ENT (specifically a pediatric ENT if possible). That way, regardless of what their decision is, you can feel more comfortable trusting it.

Had mine out at 13 I think but my mom had to bring me to like 3 different Drs before they would listen. But I kept getting tonsillitis over and over it was miserable.

I had monthly tonsillitis and or strep throat for over 20 years before getting my tonsils out at 33. It eas an Ear Nose Throat (ENT) specialist to finally decide pull them 16 years later I have not gotten one infection. That being said request a referral to an ENT they are the ones who specialize in tobsil problems. There may also be other medical issues causing the swelling. Good luck.

Mine were so large as a kid and I got strep all the time, but my doctor never recommended it. It took my orthodontist giving me a referral to get them taken out, and that was finally when I was about 16 years old.

Maybe listen to the doctor or get a 2nd opinion. Why are people always try to tell doctors how to do things? :confused: no wonder kids under 10 are being allowed to change genders :roll_eyes:

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Definitely get another opinion! My daughter had hers out when she was 5, she wasn’t sick bit they were inlarged so Dr suggested to remove them to assure no future issues. Never go on one Dr’s opinion over something that concerns you just because it doesn’t concern that dr.

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We had an ear problem and had a Dr just telling us to use drops or olive oil! Got a different Dr who organised the surgery needed. If it’s causing an issue make this clear.

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1st Dr told me my son’s were “fine” - they were huge, touching, but he was never sick either. He had some snoring. At 5, got a 2nd opinion and they said yes, those need to be removed ASAP…maybe get a 2nd or even 3rd opinion. Your mom, you know when something feels off.

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Doctors will not remove healthy organs

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They won’t remove without reason. Them touching from time to time isn’t an issue as long as it’s not affecting normal function (no sleeping or eating issues). My oldest has had tonsillitis so many times and they still won’t remove them. Your tonsils serve a purpose and they don’t like to just take out body parts if they don’t need to.

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The lil one I nannied had snoring issues and some ear infections but she struggled with eating and speach impediments. They finally took them but it took several visits to ped ENT. The reg ped dr recommended. Get a 2nd opinion esp if ur kiddo snores or has been slow to speak. Here it was affecting here hearing. She also began to eat more than soft foods and became a much better eater.

I mean if they don’t cause issues why have them removed :woman_shrugging:t3:

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Get a second opinion and move on.

The strain on the NHS is so great that a low clinical benefit operation such as a tonsillectomy will not be carried out unless the patient is suffering acute pain and illness on a regular basis. If the tonsils are large but non problematic then there is no cause for their removal.

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Yes my daughter’s Dr in Templeton said she needs them removed. But he wouldn’t do it until she was a little older.

My son had sleep apnea because of his huge tonsils and adenoids. Maybe get a 2nd opinion, however if they are t causing any problems why would you want them removed?

The tonsils being swollen means nothing honestly unless they’re causing problems. Reputable doctors don’t just remove healthy organs just because. If there are no problems and no pain then they’re fine to stay. I’ve had this issue personally and I’m now almost 36 and still no problems with it nor pain yet it swells from time to time.

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It’s normal if not a issue like not sick. Only would with reoccurring issues. They don’t like taking tonsils out especially kids

Mine were huge and I could easily make them touch as a kid but they didn’t give me issues. Once I went to college they started to get infected a lot - that’s when they finally removed mine

My daughter has large tonsils. The doctor noticed them atbaround 2 and she’s 5 now. 2 different pediatricians and an ENT specialist…they will not remove them just because they are big. The tonsils have to be causing problems like sleep apnea, or strep so many times in a certain period, to be removed. All we can do is keep an eye on her.

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Yeah, mine. Reasoning is (or was back then) the child had to have Strep throat 3x/yr……I consistently had it 2x/yr & still many “oh your tonsils are large” comments :roll_eyes:. They’re fine to stay if there are no problems.

My kids dr wouldn’t remove hers. I kept bringing it up for like 2 years they said she was fine cus she never had strep even thou they hurt her. I finally found a new dr and they were like OMG poor thing and a month later they came out. I would switch drs

Most insurance won’t cover taking them out until it’s been so many times of having strep throat

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My son just had to had his removed. The norm is not to remove them unless there is an issue now. My son was in pain for over a week. I would not recommend putting your child through this unless you have to. He is absolutely fine and the pain was manageable but as a mom, I don’t want to see my child in the slightest pain. I wouldn’t have put him through the surgery just because of large tonsils. He has sleep apnea that we had to do it for.

Some won’t recommend surgery as getting tonsils removed can be a very risky and dangerous especially for young kids. If it doesn’t cause any problems it’s probably better to just leave them.

Get a second opinion though if you feel like you are not being listened too.

It took me 6 yrs before they took out my daughter’s tonsils

Happens frequently even for children who are sick all of the time. I don’t k ow why you would want unnecessary surgery but I would trust the doctor.

One of my children doesn’t sleep because his tonsils are so big. I’ve had 2 pulmonologist say he needs his tonsils removed. But 3 ENT surgeons refused.

You want doctors to do an unnecessary surgery on your young child? Why would you want your child to go through all that when you said the tonsils aren’t even causing a problem except being big. My daughters were big for a very long time and they stayed in until she started having problems and was diagnosed with sleep apnea from it at 5. Seeing your child in that much pain is terrible and a lot of doctors don’t give any pain meds except ibuprofen/tylenol until the kids are a little older. My daughter was extremely miserable for a week, drinking water made her cry. I wouldn’t wish that experience on anyone

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Back in my time (I’m 38 so early 90s) I had mine out and so did my brother’s because doctor’s believed it helped with kids not getting strep and we got it a lot. My step daughter got step a lot and we thought having hers removed would help but the doctor’s refused. Said it’s not as common anymore because it doesn’t prevent sickness like previously believed. That makes sense because I still got strep throat, even as an adult, especially working in Healthcare.

Definitely get a second opinion.

We removed my daughters because they were so large she was having night terrors because she couldn’t breathe properly laying down. I would go to an ENT

Need to see a ENT specialist

It’s called kissing tonsils definitely get them removed it can effect speech etc see a specialist

It’s not unnecessary if they touch! My 4 year old had his removed because they were so swollen that he didn’t have much room to breath! I would either get a second opinion or make an appointment with a ENT (here we have to be refunded to a ENT) but definitely get a second opinion if they swell large enough that they touch because the child could stop breathing!

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My kids doctor said studies have show that removing tonsils don’t have any great affects so leaving them is always the best answer so there is no Anastasia wich is dangerous and no recovery time

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If your child isn’t getting tonsillitis, then they DO NOT NEED the surgery. Like are you serious? Why do you want your child to have a surgery they don’t need? As someone who had theirs taken out, it’s terrifying at a young age. I was 9 and the incision site actually ripped open 3 days after the surgery, causing blood to leak into my stomach for 5 days. Imagine throwing up blood as a 9 year old. I thought I’d die, and I did NEED the surgery.

You need to chill lady.

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Are they having any breathing issues? If they are suffering from sleep apnea or tonsillitis they will likely leave them be until they become a problem. You could always go for another opinion but I think you’ll find that’s the answer

My first question is did they recommend anything else to try first? It could be unnecessary. Sometimes finding and managing the root cause alleviates the need to have them removed.
Like managing any allergies?

If your child is having issues, seek another opinion. I’ll be the first to say that you have to advocate for your child if something is wrong, because VERY often doctors are half-a**ed and don’t listen.

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Must see an ENT. But also, it is insurance companies that won’t pay for them electively. Have to have proof of 6 or more cases of confirms strep in 1 year and or sleep apnea and issues like that. It’s not doctors refusing. It’s the insurance. Go see an ENT. I work for an ENT.

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Ask for ENT referral. Also, if your child sleeps with their mouth open, snores at night, or wakes throughout the night - those reasons can sometimes be enough for doc to pull them. I absolutely would not let it go if you think it needs to be done.

I’ve been in for tonsillitis 3 times, still get tonsil stones, still refuses to take them out, I wouldn’t even say no to going to another city just for it but no one wants to remove them. Definitely go for another opinion.

My sons ped was telling us no… he was sick constantly, they were always touching, swollen, red/purple. So I went over her head and took him to an ENT and he said they definitely needed to come out.

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I had a doctor refuse to take our daughter out since she was a year. Her tonsils were abnormally large for a child’s. As soon as we moved from Florida I got a second opinion from a doctor at Vanderbilt in Tennessee and they did the procedure agreeing that it should have been done when she was younger. She had it done when she was almost 7

I was 15 before they took mine out. I had been sick with strep or tonsillitis 8 times in 3 months. Theu finally took mine out… Takes a lot

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I’ve always had big tonsils (I’m 37) the doc told my mom unless I’d got tonsillitis or strep throat more then 3 times in one years, they was no reason to take them out. They are still large today but don’t bother me, I’m rarely sick and about once a year I’ll get sore throat from weather change! If they aren’t any medical reason, then they will not put a child through surgery!

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My 6 year old daughter is about to have hers removed next month. What are some things that I can do to help her while she recovers?

I actually lived through this myself… I still have my tonsils, and they still touch when my throat swells. But I have never suffered from strep or other things that are problematic… I thought it was crazy when I was younger that they refused to remove them. But am thankful now.

If there are no medical issues related to them, a doctor isn’t going to take them. It’s not medically necessary and insurance won’t pay for it.

My daughter had hers removed, but that was after over a year of repeated strep throat diagnosis.

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My son snored like an adult they were so large…always ear infections…took them out at 3 years old…

I had strep constantly as a kid and early adult. They were huge. They finally took mine out at 22. They say the older you get the harder the recovery on it. I recovered faster with my first baby than my tonsils :flushed: plus I lost so much weight.

Go to an ENT for that.

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My four year old has huge tonsils constantly get a sore throat with the air infections and her and she refuses to take them out. She’s had two sets of tubes she still gets your infections and the doctor still refuses to take them out. I hear that once your tonsils and add noise come out the air infections for the most part disappear

Get a second opinion

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They to mine out when I was like 2. They even to my adenoid out. All the years I’ve seen an ENT no one ever told me there were different types of tonsils. At the age of 39 I got tonsillitis and was confused how and why since I did not have tonsils. My adenoids grew back after all these years. So that might be why a doctor waits til it really needs to be done before they do anything. No need to do it if they come back and not having issues. But either way it wouldn’t hurt to get a second opinion.

Yep. No reason to remove if there’s no problem

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My kiddo used to never be sick but last year she was sick for 7 months STRAIGHT. Constant runny nose, some times vomiting, coughing, etc. I took her to the doctors several times and they kept saying ‘allergies’. Well her dentist had told me to bring up her tonsils. So I did. One doctor said they were perfectly normal for her age (mind you, I doubt even a pencil could fit between them if tried). The other doctor said they were quite swollen but unless they hinder her breathing they would simply monitor them and if in December they’re still swollen we will discuss what to do.

I guess they don’t want to do surgery if they don’t have to unless it’s dangerous for them or always infected. :person_shrugging:

All I know is the kids’ tonsils are quite swollen all the time.

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My son has the same issue. His tonsils are enormous but they won’t take them out. Every time we go to a new doctor and they do their run down they say man, you’ve got some big tonsils, but nothing ever comes of it.

I have cryptic tonsil which causes tonsil stones but never got sick as a kid, so the doctors would not remove mine.

Yes, I was sick every 2 months my whole life. Doctors refused to take mine out when I was little. I finally got them out when I was 24. It was a brutal 2 week recovery - so much worse as an adult. I recommend getting a second opinion. My quality of life is so much better now.

I was 30 before I had mine removed. I had strep so much but they would never remove them. At 30 I finally went to see a surgeon because I was tired of the tonsil stones. He removed them without hesitation. I’d ask for another opinion.