For your mutual child…or one with someone else?
I am confused.
Either way…have a new card issued and change the PIN… for That and All cards!
Have locks changed on your doors.
Go to a DV, Battered women’s center for counceling and learning to have a back bone…and to stand up for and keep yourself and children safe.
If he threatened or abused you to to coerce you to give him the card/ pin… report that to support enforcement.
Wether they will take the time to prove he was doing withdrawls… vs tell you to change pin / card I don’t know.
From Now forward…Report everything that occurs so there is a paper trail.
Honey. IDK where to start on this one. Seriously.
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Your ex can’t force you to do anything. Just block him lol
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Why didn’t you file a police report and go straight and report the card stolen? They would have given you a new one.
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Nope. Shouldn’t have gave him the card
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Forced you?? What would he have done if you just said Hell No!?
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Forced you? Like gun to your head? A mother fucker would have to kill me to get my child support card!! 
No u gave it to him … if there was physical force u would have involved police. This is ur loss . Just learn the lesson. Unless there’s a gun to ur head u don’t have to do shit
Is what you are saying is that he took state issues benefits, that should have gone to your children and spent it? If you gave him the card and PIN, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on unless you can prove he is the one that made the withdrawals.
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Forced you to give him the child care money. Report everything
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Report card lost and get a new one asap
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You gave him the card. You could have also called and reported it lost or stolen and gotten a new one
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Call your child support office and tell them what happened they should be able to walk you through the steps necessary
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Switch that check to deposit to a new bank account or report the card lost/stolen and don’t give it to him no more
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why did you give it to him, and why are you telling people about it now? talk to a lawyer
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For those of you saying "Honey, he cant force you… what do you mean “by force…” yes he can, my EX beat me and stole my kids socials, phone and my cards yrs ago. He was over 190 lbs 5 11’ while I was 120 5 2’. YES, THEY CAN FORCE YOU not just violently. Just because you don’t think it’ll happen to you. It doesn’t mean it hasn’t and won’t to others. Please don’t judge, just give advice IF you have it 
Go to yout bank and repot it. They can open a investigation and hopefully they can help you with proof. Change all pins and order a new card, also, put a restraining order on him hun. Hope all goes good for you
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Rather he forced u or not u should have reported it and had him locked up I was abused and until u stand up for urself u will find every excuse u can and even allow him to do what he wants to u report it asap and get and stay away from him
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You let him do it, so I don’t think that would make a difference
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You couldn’t call the police and press charges against him? and get a new card. Where is the proof?
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Legal counsel is advised.
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Yes your attorney can and should
Talking to your lawyer first. If he/she cannot help you, please get in touch with Child Support.
Never, ever again, give your ex the child support card!!
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Cancel the card and request a new one. Not sure why you didn’t do it immediately after he made you give him the card and the first withdrawal.
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Go to the bank and stop the money from being taken out. Ask to speak to a social worker there or someone that can help with your situation.
Never heard of a child support card
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I’m sorry but if your attorney can’t figure it out the get a new one, he should had already advised you to filed charges against him for the theft. Like seriously?
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I don’t think there’s much you can do at this point other than report the card lost or stolen and get a replacement card.
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I mean you handed him the card and gave him the pin. IF he actually forced you, you would need proof of that…otherwise you got nothing
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He might have forced you but you could have called child support and had that card canceled!! Your attorney probably won’t be able to help you with that the judge is going to say well you gave him the card! You should have canceled it and reported it immediately
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You let him take the card. They will say it’s a civil matter.
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You can tell who had and hasn’t been in an abusive relationship just by the comments 
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It is a civil matter & I don’t think anything can be done. However, there’s always that small chance … Just ask your attorney & see
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I would never have even give it to him threats or not… Talk to your attorney but this honestly should have been reported the first time it happened.
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Not sure what state you are in but in PA that’s not something that would be relevant in custody court. That is a child support matter. However, you willingly handed it over. You didn’t have to. He was ordered to pay you so it is rightfully yours. If it bothered you then you should of reported it to the police if you said no and he acted irrational. Now that would be something they would take into consideration in custody court is any legal matter with police or rash behavior that is proven by law. If he still has the card you can call your domestic office get the number to report the card stolen and get a new one. Don’t roll over and be dumb about any situation that has to do with your child no matter if it’s the biological father or not.
No one should be able to force you to do anything
Cancel that card, request a new one and you can ask the bank for statements highlighting the withdrawals. If he has access to this bank account you need to open a new account he cannot access and yes if you can collect the proof you can seek legal counsel. You definitely need the take the proper steps to secure that money though
You can get bank statements for all the withdraws, ask the bank if they’ll pull footage of him using the card, and any text messages that would prove this occurred would help. Talk to your attorney and explain the situation to him. Whether you have hun the card or not he is court ordered to pay child support and what he did is illegal. The money is supposed to be used to support the child.
Cancel it and give him that other card.
Subpeona the cameras for the days he went to the bank. Also next time he asks make sure you record everything.
Does he still have it. Cancel it today and please tell is how he reacts. Better yet record that shit.
They have security cameras at the bank! I don’t understand how he “forced” you to give him the card. At that point I would of contacted my local police. How long did this go on? If it was more than 1 time then this is all on you.
If my ex would of “forced” me to give him anything, I’d would of forced my foot in his ass and throw him out of my house.
Statements from ALL of thm !!!
What the hell girl!!! You should have called the cops or your attorney. Better yet would have called child support and told them. Sounds like you waited for months. Your bank would have a video on the ATM showing it was him not you
If you’re trying to make him pay you back you’re SOL, but you can obtain proof from video surveillance at the atm or inside the bank. I’m just going to guess this man is also very abusive and controlling. Just take your losses and enjoy your new start at a happy and free life. Make sure you’ve gotten a new card with a new pin and new security questions. Last resort would be if your child is old enough to testify to this, or a family member. Plus old text messages between your ex and yourself that may have conversation of you asking about your money. It sucks and it isn’t fair but you’ll probably never ever get your money back.
Report card stolen once he uses it press charges