Honestly your boyfriend has a lot of red flags… please consider leaving him. It’s actually very rare for ex’s to get along but when kids are involved it’s a very good thing. It’s a good example to the kids of how to act, a good example of communication. I think you’re doing a great job and should not change this for him. Do things how you have been that work and you both like… if your boyfriend has an issue with it, that’s on him and he knows where the door is. You’re doing nothing except showing a healthy example to your kids.
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The boyfriend seems a little on the immature side being able to be friends with your ex and co-parent is the more adult thing here. It’s better for the kids all the way around. I think you need a more mature boyfriend.
Yes you can especially if you have children you have to get along for your kids …actually me and my ex are great friends
Sounds like you need to put the ex in front of boyfriend. Bc thats what he needs to be.
Childish.
Get rid of the boyfriend
Throw the boyfriend away
I think you need to leave the boyfriend if he has an issue with you coparenting and everything. There is no reason why you guys, you and your ex, can’t get along especially with kiddos involved. The boyfriend just sounds like he really needs to go.
Seems like the boyfriend is a problem. Yes exs can be friends. Your boyfriend sounds a little controlling. He knew you had kids with someone else before he got with you so he has no right to tell you how to co parent.
My glad my boyfriend not like that he know me and my kid become good friend for our kid
Yep. I’m good friends with my ex husband and his new wife! We co parent and co grandparent. We do all of the celebrations together. It’s healthy!
Dude, tough shit. You’re co parenting and getting along, anyone that doesn’t want that for you doesn’t have any of your families interests at heart, just their own. Selfish.
You should absolutely be friends with him esp if you have kids!! Dump that BF he will do nothing but cause problems forever it seems… set a good example for your kids & co-parent well with your Ex! Best of luck.
Tell him to grow up!
It’s awesome that you can co-parent and have a friendship with your ex! It makes life with your kids so much more peaceful and easy! My parents were better friends/parents after they divorced. It made holidays and weddings etc. the best for everyone involved! It sounds like your boyfriend is the only one who has a problem! I’d tell him to grow up or get out! Sorry, but that’s really what it comes down to! Good luck!
Kick him to the curb!!! You have a HEALTHY relationship with your ex. This new guy sounds like a jealous controling toxic person.
I’m good friends with my ex(son’s father). I’m even good friends with his girlfriend.
My boyfriend trusts me to hang out with them for my baby.
Also, I’m friends with my ex from high school. He was our landlord too. We play video games practically every day.
Yes, my boyfriend knows about everything. All of it. And he even is friends with the both of them too.
It really depends on your relationship. There may be some things your husband is uncomfortable with.
Your current boyfriend sounds like he has issues. He sounds controlling. You can still be friends with your children’s father. He was in your life longer then your current boyfriend. I’d kick him to the curb!
Tell him to grow up or throw away the whole man
The boyfriend is wrong here. He needs to grow up. It’s best for the kids for you two to get along.
Me an my ex husband are better friends divorced then we ever were married we growed up an realize we have kids an grandkids together there was no use in that fighting petty crap so yep its great to be friends for your kids
Sounds like you might a slept with that ex (after the breakup) and left that part out… but I could be wrong. Doubt it though.
Kind of sounds like the boyfriend is a soon to be high conflict ex himself. I know lots of exes who had amicable splits and remained friends. Like yeah it’s uncommon be why does it have to be? It’s so healthy for the kids that you still have a good relationship with dad, and how he treats you is how your kids learn how to treat all women in their lives. It’s a gift that you’re both friends despite being exes. Don’t let some douche take that away.
Kick the bf out. He’s controlling and toxic.
Your boyfriend needs to grow up!
My ex and I remained good friends and coparents. A couple of guys I dated had issues with it and they didn’t last long. My ex recently passed away and that makes me cherish that relationship even more as our 13 year old daughter only remembers us getting along. And we can have great conversations of things we did together with him even after we divorced. I would look at it from the perspective of your children with him.
Your boyfriend is a narcissist and you should leave him.
You need a new boyfriend… regardless weather your friends with you ex or not, you have kids together, you have to find a way to get along with the kids… me and my ex are not friends but we know how to behave for our kids.
Yes you can be and should be friends with your ex. It sets a wonderful example and beautiful unit fir your children to grow up in. Your current boyfriend sounds immature and controlling. I would second think on him. Anybody wanting to cause friction in a harmonious family ( even if broken up family) does not have your or your children’s best interests at heart.
This sounds horrifying for you and all of the kids involved. I’m surprised that your ex has put up with it this long because my husband probably would have taken me to court for full custody if they were living with a control freak like that.
It sounds like he is jealous of your relationship with your ex and if it’s been this long he probably will be too immature to ever get over it. I wish you the best of luck!
My ex n I have always been great friends his family always included new hubby and all of our kids holidays camping trips we all went together!
Does he have a reason to not trust you? If not he’s wrong.
It’s important for kids to see their parents getting along when co-parenting. Your boyfriend should be happy that you’re able to be mature and be friendly with your ex, cos should you split he will know you can be civil! The worst thing that can happen when couples split, is for the kids to witness hostilities so you’re 100% doing the right thing
My ex was at mine and my bfs house for our sons birthday party. And came in afterwards so his other daughter could hang out longer….your bf needs to get a grip
You having a great relationship with your ex is for the kids. They need to see that and if your new bf can’t except that then he can kick rocks it’s not about him. Kids always come first. Regardless if he’s the father of one of yours kids.
Im definitely not friends with my ex no need he’s the father if my child and we strictly co parent. Communication is strictly about our child. He’s my ex for a reason 
Red flag. Your boyfriend is obviously immature. He should want you two to get along for the kids. What’s more is he should want to get to know him and get along with him as he is also in your kids life. I’d run. He is not the kind of man I would want around my kids if that’s his train of thought.
My ex husband and I are great friends, our relationship is better as friends than we were married. Sounds like your current BF is the problem. He sounds like he is a control freak, narcissistic, immature and insecure. That isn’t a healthy relationship for you or your children. You are better off without that toxicity in your life and your kids shouldn’t be exposed to that at all.
Get rid of the boyfriend. Controlling is what he sounds like. The kids need to see everyone get along.
I am friends with my ex and his wife he needs to grow up
I would have asked him how would he like it if the roles were reversed and a new man was complaining about him seeing his 2 year old
He’s a narcissist , end of !
It sounds like he’s threatened and perhaps concerned the ex may not stay an ex? He needs to grow up
Yes you can be friends with the ex , the boyfriend is just jealous
Run 
. Boyfriend sounds extremely controlling. He obviously has no trust in you and it will only get worse especially if you give in. Get rid if the boyfriend!
Man, that’s sad. Being able to coparent is important! I was friends why my ex, who we have 3 kids with, but I am no longer because he walked out on our kids. Sounds like he’s either narcissist, or cheating on you. I wouldn’t be able to stay in that relationship personally. Best of luck!
It’s about the children. If your boyfriend can’t handle your relationship then he needs to go. You deserve someone who supports you, not someone who makes life more difficult! Good luck to you… your children come first… always!
Your kids come first. It’s what is best for them, not your boyfriend. RED FLAG CITY!!! All of this is coming from his own insecurities. That’s on him to fox. Not you
Your boyfriend is controlling and you need to get away from that.
My ex husband and I tried to be friends but his new wife killed that dream. It makes it 100 percent easier for the kids when y’all are friends he should get over it. That’s just childish as fuck. My boyfriend now could care less he trusts me and understands my ex and I have a kid together and that’s all it is. If my ex showed up to the house my boyfriend would be nice. I mean my ex husband isn’t around much so my bf helps raise my oldest and my bf and I are having our first baby together in November and he’s like do you
Then your new boyfriend needs to go. Your children need to see a combined coparenting relationship. Just because you are no longer together does not mean you can not work together to raise well balanced and loving children. Boyfriends come and go but the father of your children will always be in your life. As it should be. Find someone who believes in this and supports it.
Tell him , he’s acting like a bitch
Not friends but fuc*** buddies yea 
DONT come for me
Yeah your boyfriend needs to go that’s insane
Exes should get along and the kids should see that. Tell your boyfriend to grow up.
He needs to get over himself. The best thing for your children is to be raised together by both parents even if your just friends. It’s not about you and your ex anymore, it’s about your children!!!
Leave your boyfriend. He sounds annoying!
Been divorced 30 years from second husband and 49 from my daughters father. Both are my friends my second husband now stays here in the winter . My daughters Dad knows he has a room here too. My last husband passed 3 years ago . But welcomed both my exes
He needs to grow up. Or get out.
Your kids don’t need to see you arguing etc over dropping them to their dad.
I’m not a mother but I’m a step mother. Any good relationship between u and your ex husband is great for the kids
I’m friends with my ex and get along great with his current gf. Your boyfriend needs to grow up or get dumped
Kick the bf to the curb! He’s trying to control you there are so many parents out there me being one that wish I could get along with my x for the kids but every time I try to speak to him he puts me down so I just don’t anyMore
Leave him…… obviously he has no respect, and that’s not great for your kids to see
your kids come first. Dump him, and take the other kid that’s yours with you. Your children’s routine should not have to change because your boyfriend is an a$shoL@
Lose the boyfriend. Red flags. He is controlling.
Sounds like the boyfriend knew this when you guys first started to date. He needs to be respectful that you and the ex have a healthy co parent relationship and that he needs to realize it can’t be his way and to grow up and let things be. At least you are honest with him. I would talk with him and make him see that it has been this way before he came along. Do for you and your kids not to make a boyfriend happy even if you do have a kid with him. Sorry I think he needs to think of your other kids well being also. My opinion. Good luck.
I say lose the Boyfriend he is being a child…
Honestly, I’d have left the first time he showed his ass. Any MAN wouldn’t care.
Throw the new boyfriend away
Yeah that’s a bad sign.
A step parent should be someone who’s willing to do anything to have a good and happy co parenting situation.
He can’t control you like that, there’s nothing wrong with it and he’s trying to ruin a healthy relationship.
Co parenting is really hard and him ruining a good thing isn’t worth it…
It could end up really effecting the kids.
I think if he can’t change and it’s been getting worse you need to leave him.
What if it was the other way around?
Ditch the boyfriend.
Ew, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. My husband & his ex don’t get along at all, though they are cordial for their son. I, on the other hand, am friends with his ex. Her & I do all the communicating and plans for exchanging, etc. Would your ex be willing to be friendly with your boyfriend? It’s for the kids sake.
Sounds like he’s insecure. Maybe even jealous. Co-parenting is extremely important. Don’t let him ruin that
Your bf sounds like a giant douche🛶
That’s not good to have around your kids. And if he has a problem with your ex dies he have a problem with the children you and ex have together
He sounds really insecure. Which is not your problem. I would give him an ultimatum, & if it becomes a fight, leave him. I’m friends with my ex, we were together for 7 years. My husband isn’t insecure though, he thinks my ex is pretty cool 
Girl he needs to go! That’s such toxic bullshit. How the hell does he expect you to parent well if he is being a damn child.
Tell him the kids comes first. And that your still friends with their father. Sometimes it doesn’t work out as a relationship, but does as a friendship. If you’re co-parenting great the way you and ex have it set up, don’t let the bf intervene in it. Yea, you have a child with your now bf, but that doesn’t mean he can control something that was set in place before he came along. Just because all the other people he knows hate their ex’s, doesn’t mean everyone is the same.
Your BF is an asshole.
Your boyfriend needs to grow up.
If you and the kids dad are friends enough to co parent great then that’s awesome. Your boyfriend is probably feeling insurcure that you guys get along so well for ur kids sake. Tell him to get over it or hit the door.
Yea he needs to go girl
I’m great friends with my ex-husband. It’s called being civil. Your boyfriend should try it sometime. You gotta be able to co parent and get along. I’m so sorry your boyfriend can’t understand that honey.
My ex and I are good friends and we have a 28 year old son together and 2 grand babies. He remarried and I’m remarried and he gets along with my husband now and I get along with his wife.
Your BF is very childish and immature . You most definitely can be friends with your ex - what a wonderful example for your kids ! Please do not conform to BF desires ! I am good friends with my grown kids father and wouldn’t have it any other way - it has been an answer to prayers ! And my husband is fully supportive!
He has trust issues…and those are HIS issues. You have to decide if you want to comply with those “issues”(making those your issues), or if you want to remove yourself from that “controlling” situation. Everyone has a past, but when kids are involved, your past is your present UNTIL you no longer have to co-parent.
The boyfriend is irrelevant…I would tell him to grow up or move out
That’s ridiculous. Especially if the ex hasn’t done anything to make him feel like that. Insecure. Jealous. & controlling. How childish.
If you can be friends & get along, that’s amazing for your children.
Tell your boyfriend to grow up! I’d be wondering what he’s doing that he’s that insecure.
My ex husband is my best friend. He even went as far as to become a God father to a child I made after our divorce. My current partner and my ex husband gets along really well because we all have kids together and we have to be the adults. My ex comes to pick the kids, my current makes him coffee or tea if am not home. He comes in and have a chat for a bit before leaving etc, don’t need to enemies just because your not sleeping together anymore.
And a friend posted that post about “toxic monogamy”
Your boyfriend is way too controlling and sounds very jealous. He should want you to have a good relationship with your kids father. Lot of red flags here and it’s not good that you kids are around that. Your kids should always come first and if he can’t deal with that then you need to end things.
Your boyfriend is Toxic
Say bye to your boyfriend if you can’t co parent how you have done it for years then piss him off his got issues
Tell him to grow the %!$Ă— up
Sounds like the first baby daddy is a keeper 
Me and my now husband coparent with our ex’s and my ex is friendly but his ex is still a piece of work.
My dad took my step and half siblings on vacation with us. He would pick us all up from my moms. lol so yeah your bf is being really petty.
Sounds like a stressful situation, I wouldn’t put up with that. He sounds insecure and jealous.
BIG RED FLAG FOR BOYFRIEND!!! You had kids together , you will always have to deal with each other. You get along for your kids . You will be connected somehow for life. Your mature enough to do this, the boyfriend has no say !!! My ex husband and I were married for 16 yrs , we have 2 sons and a very nasty divorce. We get along fine now , been divorced for 15 yrs. He’s remarried , we text and talk , I try not to be disrespectful to his wife. Our sons are 23 and 27 , youngest is Autistic and will always need help.
Pack your boyfriends stuff and leave it outside! If he can’t see y’all are doing this for the kids, he IS the kid!
for you and your ex for coparenting so good with each other!
My parents divorced many moons ago… it’s amazing how they’ve always gotten along! Having my parents and bonus parents at everything for my child makes it so much easier! Wanna know why they made things easy?? For ME!!! Not child deserves that!
Get rid of the boyfriend
Sounds like your bf needs to grow the fuck up. Tell him you’re going to continue to do things the way you have been, if he doesn’t like it, there’s the door. The fact that you are co-parenting in a way that the kids still see you as friends, is amazing. Don’t change for any man-child. Keep doing you.