Could something as simple as a video game ruin a relationship
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Games in general. I couldn’t be with someone that has to be plugged in to a game all day. 
No. Video games can’t ruin a relationship. What ruins the relationship is not putting in time or effort into the relationship. So. If he/she is playing the video game for an hour but gives their partner the whole day besides that one hour, it shouldn’t ruin the relationship. Now. If he/she spent the whole day playing video games and only gave the partner one hour of the day to spend then yes.
Communicate time together but also communicate time apart.
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It they are playing them
Nonstop and not giving you any attention or helping around the house etc most definitely… i am so happy mine doesnt like video games
Eh. This really depends. If the person is on all day long without giving the other person attention, then yes that’s a problem. Other than that, no. My man plays video games at night to unwind and have fun. He still talks to me so I don’t care lol. I use to play video games all the time so i know how it is.
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Yes. Seems like a lot of guys work and play video games and that is it. It replaces the drive to actually do things. Any of the things.
Absolutely yes an addition of any kind can and this one is the worst because it’s not technically considered a drug but it’s addicting for some people have actually died playing them for to long a few 
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Depends who you ask.
This goes without saying that if the person spends all their time only gaming, then yes it will. Same goes for anything in life.
Regular gaming, no.
ETA: Video games in general, no lol.
Absolutely. They ruined my marriage. Well helped anyway
No. People and their insecurities in not letting people have hobbies do. People who drown themselves in hobbies and ignore their partner do too.
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Addictions frequently ruin relationships and gaming addiction can be as bad as any chemical addiction there is
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Depends on the gamer and the relationship itself 
Would need A LOT more info for anyone to make an informed decision
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Grown men unable to tear themselves away from a video game 
My teen in my basement!
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It can if you let it, and you don’t communicate. Most weeknights, I lay down first about 8:30 and watch my shows, my husband will play Madden or something for an hour or so. That’s fine with me! He needs that alone time, and so do I . We’ve been together 20 years.
No. We both play video games together in our free time. Usually when our kids are asleep.
We both work full time jobs. He’s a sanitation driver/field tech, working 8+ hours Mon-Fri sometimes the weekends. I’m a preschool teacher working 8 hours a day M-F.
Our kids are 7 & 2. Both go to school. So our free time together is spent doing what we both enjoy. A video game and conversations about how our day went.
I divorced my ex because all he wanted to do was play video games in his free time. He worked 3rd shift so as soon as he’d get off work, he’d play video games until he got tired. Then he’d go to bed and not wake up until he had to, eat something really quick before work and then go to work. Lather, rinse, repeat. At the time, we had a newborn daughter so I was basically a single mom since he wouldn’t help with her at all.
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If you let it…have the conversation w him if you feel hes playing “too much” or let him know how it makes you feel. Make sure to express first how much you love him… then head into the issues 🩷
Yup. Talking to other people expressing interest, lack of nurturing to current partner. Absolutely it can.
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“Things” don’t ruin relationships, attitudes do. How is that person’s attitude regarding games vs their S.O.? Do they seem to care more about their hobby than their S.O.s feelings? Don’t blame the object when it’s the person who is failing. So no, games can’t ruin a relationship.
I’ll add that my partner and I play games together, often, and it’s a great way to spend time together while having fun. But neither of us put the hobby above one another. It’s about balance and consideration for your partner.
Absolutely. When anything becomes more important than the partner and takes away from time spent together then it ruins the relationship.
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No.
But disrespect, resentment, imbalance, or/and misunderstandings can. And those can be masked by arguments or disagreements about video games.
It’s not usually the video game - it’s the lack of attention, it’s the lack of equal help in the home/family, it’s the lack of responsibility (a person who only wants to play video games at the expense of not taking care of other responsibilities or just flat out being lazy), it’s the prioritizing of finances, it’s spending more time online than with your partner…
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No …people ruin relationships
If you let it yes. Personally my boyfriend and I play video games together
Yes just like any other addiction
Yes just like social media and cell phones can. People get addicted. Period. And it’s a whole issue these days.
My thing is it’s fine to like to do something…… but when it’s allllll you want to do and you disregard everything else then it’s a issue.
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my boyfriend and i play super Nintendo together
Haha, only if you’re petty enough to let it.
If it’s an issue you shouldn’t be with someone who plays video games…
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Yes it can. It was one of the reasons my marriage to my ex husband started to go down hill. I now hate Call Of Duty!
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It could in some cases but I think it has to do with the level of maturity of both partners, and if there is a lack of understanding regarding priorities. I think that’s when it becomes a problem.
My guy is a video game nerd he’s been waiting like a billion years for StarCraft to come out and hes been so excited but he goes to work every day and does spend a lot of time with me and the kids and he doesn’t treat me like shit when I do interrupt him.
He only spends a few hours some nights or on weekends downstairs playing but if I need something he does it. It never impedes on our relationship, he’s not addicted. Half the time I don’t need him or I get busy I forget where he is so I could care less 
that’s his fun… and he enjoys it. 
just like I enjoy getting my nails done and watching Chicago fire when I can…he gets it. 
I know there are some guys or girls who definitely struggle in that area and that’s definitely problematic. But asking if video games themselves is the problem, no. It’s the person.
Anything can ruin a relationship if you value it over the relationship.
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yeah especially if thats all they do and care about instead of family
If they prioritize their games over their partners or kids, yes. If that’s all they do every " spare " minute, yes.
Yes anything can ruin a relationship I’m a gamer my husband’s a gamer but if he let that take over his entire life then yeah I would have issues I like to play just as much as he does but he knows to put the controller down and help me if I need it and I know the same I love playing call of duty I love playing stardew Pokemon mortal Kombat etc I’m a gamer always have been but I won’t let it take over my life and I won’t let him have it take over his life he plays on his days off and his free time that’s what he enjoys doing when he gets a chance he works a lot and I’m okay with it as long as he can put it down when I need his help and he does because to him me and my kids being more than a damn game that’s supposed to be a relaxing activity to unwind not something that takes over your whole life