Make it a middle name.
I honestly believe you can do whatever you want…
Its your baby!!! Name it whatever you like
Guess it depends on the name. If it was a god awful name, I would adamantly refuse. But if it’s not that bad of a name, I would probably just concede.
If my aunty can follow tradition then so can you it’s important and special and I think you would have known before hand so if it’s not something you can compromise on then that’s unfortunate
If it’s that important to them what’s the problem. Sounds selfish to me 
I would name him what I wanted and not revisit that conversation
That’s YOUR BABY! Nobody grew your baby for you, no one went to the doctor in your place, and no one has to raise that baby but you so why give someone else the satisfaction of your hard work time and effort to not name your baby what you want? Take a stand and name your baby what you want even if it’s not what they want
I did it. I was pressured so hard and it effected my mental health so badly my baby would have been the V one and I know my partner at the time hated being named after someone else. So I named my child his own name and gave him the family name as a middle name.
I didn’t have a boy to name after my husband’s gpa Donald so I named my daughter Donna AKA Don Don
If your husband really wants this for your son then maybe think about his feelings as well. He probably thought his whole life his son would have this certain name. You could always give him a nickname that is special between momma and son. I think it’s important to take the fathers feelings into consideration also.
Names should be a mutual decision w your partner. If you don’t like the name then he should be accepting and look at other names with you that you both agree on or compromise on.
So this is what my partner wanted also I opted to have it as there middle names instead
Everyone saying its your baby like it’s not his baby too.
You’re the one carrying it for 10 months, name your baby what you want.
It’s your baby. Middle name?
If only one of you likes it I don’t see why it’s up for discussion
Don’t do it!
I have 2 Shane’s that live in my house my son and his Father and I Hate it!
I gave in and allowed it full well knowing I wanted his nickname to be Junior and him to be called junior but it never stuck and it doesn’t suit him. So now it’s Shane and shaneo it drives me mad. His also 11 in December and it still does my head in.
They play on it all the time.
It’s hard with medical advise or bills
Everyone’s constantly confused who I’m talking about.
Use the name as a middle name.
It’s easy for them all they have to do is stick it in and wiggle it.
You have grow your baby and you never know it may be the only one you get.
They will get over it.
If it’s that serious don’t cave in. You get a say in what the baby is named but so does your husband. Find a dif name the kids father likes and agree to one that way.
I named my son as how my ex would want to name him. But we already discussed before we even had a baby. He’ll name the boy and I’ll name the girl. But if it’s horrible name, then go on with your way🤷🏻♀️
I’d go with their tradition. Why not? It’s something that’s important to them and I’m sure they’ve talked about this tradition throughout his childhood. But it is your baby too.
Just curious, what’s the name?
- Isn’t this a topic that should have been discussed beforehand? Surely your SO would have mentioned it earlier? Or you would have known about it since it’s such a big thing.
- It’s your baby too. So you have every right to make half that decision when it comes to names. You’ll have to be flexible and vice versa. Either the name you want goes as a middle name, or the name they want goes as a middle name. But both of you have to be flexible. It shouldn’t just be one-sided.
Why would you have a kid with someone knowing they have a tradition like that and not want to be apart of it? That’s so selfish
Life is about compromise whether u like it or not. If it’s a family tradition and u’re marrying into the family, consider it as a middle name and present that to them. If they’re adamant that it should be his first name then that’s when u put ur foot down because in the end he should have a say but not all the say… especially when it’s more tradition that opinion.
We broke family tradition on my partners side. Not on purpose or out of spite but purely because there was a more important reason to do so. Our son is the first grandson on my side of the family and I fell pregnant with him not long after I lost my Dad in 2019. It was discussed from the beginning if our baby was a boy part of his name would be after my late Dad.
I broke my husbands family tradition with our last boy but he was on board with it… they are literally all J names every man since like 1930 lol all of them. We have a Jordan but with our last I just had a time we couldn’t find one we liked that no one had… we landed on Tanner no one was mad the understood… we’re now expecting our 3rd boy (5th kid 
) he’s not a J either
If it means something to your husband then why not. That is his baby as well so his opinion should be considered. I wanted to name my son after my husband and his dad and call him by his middle name however apparently by shear coucindence they are both the third born son so my husband wanted to keep that as the tradition so we agreed. Traditions mean a lot to some people and is something that alot of people take for granted sometimes(not saying you do but it happens alot) and I feel they should be honored when possible.
I think this must have been known before having children with this person. I would go with the tradition.
My oldest son is named after his father, not a big deal if you ask me. You can always have more kids and pick the names for them.
Naming a baby is special!
The baby’s dad and in-laws do not get to make that decision regardless of the mother’s feelings! In fact the in laws don’t get a say at all!
Naming a baby is mum and dads decision, and it’s a decision that needs to be agreed upon not forced upon!
Stick to your guns hun and do not be forced to go along with something that you’re not happy with.
If you let them force you with this, it won’t stop there!
You two need to Agree. Everyone saying it’s “her” baby. NO it’s THEIR baby!! Y’all only say it’s his when you want child support 
If it’s such a big tradition you should have known ahead of time. What’s the name? Is it really bad or something? Maybe compromise and have it a middle. But you need to discuss this between the two of you
That’s where compromise comes into play & what “couples” do!! His dad should have no say cause he took no part in making the baby in YOUR belly…
Also what happens if you have a family tradition? Do your decisions not matter at all with your SO also knowing you have a tradition in your family?
My son sorta has 4 names his -first name-grandfather’s name which is just an initial- my uncles name- then last … he uses first, the initial and last of course … I was not bullied per se but definitely guilted into including the second middle name but we just don’t use it… it’s on paper it’s known in the family he has a name from them… I know you want to break the generational name passing and you’re ok for feeling that way but they also feel strongly as it’s their family tradition…maybe there is a compromise that the tradition is passed but not officially used? Not to be a dick but did you know or realize the name thing was such a big deal before becoming part of the family and conceiving? Or was it a weird surprise thing?
What kind of name are we talking here? As long as it’s not an old ass name, why not? My fiance has an old ass name and I told him right away, we are not having any juniors if we have a son lol such a tricky situation, go with your woman intuition girl
Maybe do a middle name kinda thing
I used to call my friends and had to specify sr or jr for both the girl and the boy. Idk why anyone names their child after themselves
My husband and I have 4 children. They all have grand parents and great grand parents names. Either first or middle names. I love it. I understand namesakes aren’t for everyone but it was important for my husband and his family so I agreed. My children are now 25,20,18 and 10. I don’t regret it one bit. Communication is key!
My dad is Theodore ( lastname” the 3rd. Two boys on his side( my cousins) have that name as a middle name. I have two nephews and one neice and I am having a boy. I’m doing it in memory of my dad. The middle name will be Theodore.
Why not name the baby what they would like but you get the nickname?
I’m sure this topic has come up before starting a family, and if it wasn’t something you were set on, it should have been addressed before having kids. Maybe have it as his middle name or something. It’s a commitment, a partnership, so that’s a decision that should be made by both of you because after all, the baby is a part of you both. I’m sure it will all work out in the end, and what really matters is you are blessed with a beautiful healthy baby…
Just because its their family teadition doesn’t make it yours 
especially if you aren’t married.
Maybe let it be his nickname? That seems to be good middle ground.
If your going to have a relationship with this man for the rest of your life you need to learn to compromise. There will be more than one argument and more than one child. Maybe. Don’t call him that name. You can always nickname him. I’m assuming this is your man’s name and his father. So not so much a tradition. My son has the name Marion. It been handed down 8 generations I believe. It’s pronounced with the i silent. But everyone thinks it’s pronounced Marian. I hate it. But. He was also named after my husband’s best friend. So I prefer that better. 
. You can always choose what you want to call him. But put the family name on the birth certificate . God bless. Don’t stress. 
So similar situation, my first sons dad was Thomas Neil (last name I’m not giving) the third, when we found out we were having a boy and I absolutely refused to name our son the 4th. I strongly do not believe in naming children after living family members (first names) because I believe it is basically a curse for one of the two to die. With BOTH my exes they were the 3rd, and both their dads died at very young ages. I absolutely refused to name our son the 4th. I told my sons dad that before we got together even. He still threw a fit and tried to get me to agree to it. We did not end up naming our son after him. With my current husband when we had our first son together he wanted a junior despite me explaining my feelings on it. We also did not end up naming any of our boys after my husband. I strongly believe against it. Traditions or not, I just can not bring myself to do that. We ended up finding names for all the boys that are perfectly suiting of them. Nixon Anthony is a super hyperactive sweet little mamas boy. Cavan David is hyperactive and also a sweet fun loving mamas boy who just wants to go everywhere. Judah Theo is very very demanding and wants to be held all of the time but LOVES kisses, hugs and to have his hair and his belly rubbed. All three love to snuggle and all three are crazy little mamas boys. I couldn’t picture them with any other names. My point? Name your child what feels right to you. I’ve gotten grief for not repeating “naming traditions” with my boys and I’m okay with that, now nobody can imagine our boys with any sort of different name and aren’t mad. My ex got his junior with someone else. And my husband realized that my believe seems pretty accurate even within his own family, even though they never believed in that.
Call him by his middle name and choose the name you want that way, while leaving the first name to tradition. This is what my grandmother did, her name is Janine Marie Yvonne, and goes by Yvonne
I told my husband when he could birth a baby he could name it! I took his suggestions to heart but the final decision was mine!
I would stick to tradition if it makes him the 3rd . Should’ve been talked about before hand
Absolutely not. You what the nurse is gonna do when he says what he wants to name the baby? She’s gonna look at you for confirmation. Name your child what you want to name it and if he really loves you it wont matter
I’ve never been a fan of juniors or passing down names. I know my moms side of the family they definitely liked the Theodore names so there are 3, and would have been theodora for my mom but it sounds ridiculous. I would question why the name is so important and maybe compromise on a name 
or use it as a middle name:)
lol Matt Mccowen at least i let you name him after you buuuuuut we still call him Emerson like i wanted to name him poor boy ain’t going to know who he is Matt , junior , Emerson or MJ 
not about Sr,Jr.or etc…but some what related to ur issue…my partner’s name,his Dad and other kids(he has kids from past relationships) names have a “Fran” on the start of their names or his whole name “Francis” …he expected that I do the same…well…being me the stubborn girl that I am…I named my Daughter…"AYESHA"
PS…maybe you and your partner have to talk…besides…its the both of you who will decide…and have the final say…
Just fyi, jrs/seniors/3rds get medical records all kinds of mixed up if you all live close. I have and will always use that as my reasoning to not have a jr. Maybe one name or something similar, but not the full name
I think there is one question missed… does your husband want this because he really wants it, or because his parents are pushing for it. You need to ask that and go from there. But also remember he is the father and you both made this child and you both should have a say.
My ex’s family had a middle name tradition for the first born son for 8 generations (ex was first born). I was fine with that but my ex wanted our first son to be a Jr as well I was not ok with that. because I saw the problems my dad went through being a Jr. We came to an agreement that our son would have a name that started with J like his and the family middle name so he would have the same initials as him. It’s called compromising.
When I was pregnant with our 2nd son my ex wanted him to have a name that started with G like his dad and we let our 1st son pick out his middle name. Our second son ended up with the same initials as his grandfather.
With my family Alice Elizabeth is a name tradition. When I had my 1st daughter I broke tradition I gave her a different first name and kept Elizabeth as the middle. My family was absolutely fine with that because they hated the name Alice🤣. And his family didn’t have any female name tradition’s.
But my personal opinion is family name tradition’s are something important and not to just be brushed off or disregarded. And lots of times there is an amazing story and history behind the tradition. You might want to ask that as well it might change your mind.
My own father thought for some reason i’d give my son his last name and not my son’s fathers last name and he blew up when i said it wasn’t happening.
Husband kind of has that same tradition in his family. I hate it. His fam names the first born son after the father and the middle name is the fathers brothers name. I said I’ll be damned if we’re only blessed with one kid I don’t get a say in the name. Luckily we had a girl. Dreading if the next ones a boy. Let me know how you get around it!
Offer it as a middle name.
My son had first 2 middle and his last name
Youre the mom if you dont want the name u dont want it dont be forced into it
Whatever you do, come to a COMPROMISE with your husband. Do not go around his back or dismiss his thoughts like some have mentioned above
Mama gets priority in naming the baby.
And two generations isn’t exactly a long standing tradition when it comes to naming kids. Maybe make that name a middle name?
I had my daughter name picked since I was 12 Ava. her dad and so talked about names and so still went with Ava.
Yeah, do what these women are telling you and dont let him have a say in anything because it’s YOUR child. 
I let my son’s Dad name him. In turn I named both our daughters.
He doesn’t look like a Jose. But he’s proud of being named after his dad.
If you don’t want it then compromise, but don’t dismiss it if he’s a present dad xx
Personally I would offer it as a middle name. I think 2 being named that isn’t exactly a tradition but you should both have an equal say on naming the baby.
Please don’t decide to not to take his opinions into account. He is a parent too. You need to compromise
it’s not about what you want, it’s about what’s best for the child.
We named our kids together and with meaning. Others had no weight in our joint choices. In fact my mother HATED what I named my last 2 kids. Lol
I have the last say on the name… unless they gonna birth the child … I’m being serious too… I don’t follow family traditions or culture either. If I did my kids would be fucked. I’m pretty much the only one with more then one special needs kids. My family low key is super jealous too, because I do it solo and I’m doing great. Hubby is following suit too because we do best solo…
My fiance’s a Jr and I just didn’t want my son a 3rd or named Scott. So I swapped the first and middle. So instead of Scott Christian we named him Christian Scott. And then with the last name his dad’s full name is still in there but it’s still his own too.
I think you both should not talk to family about names or let others influence you.
You and the babies dad need to sit down and have a good talk and come up with a compromise. Do not discuss the name with anyone else. It really isn’t anyone’s business. Once the baby is born and officially named, then you both can announce the name. But until then, keep it between you then it isn’t an issue because what is done is done.
You could always put it as a middle name… I have 5 middle names cos everyone wanted me to be named after them apparently and my children have their middle names after family members however my first has 1, my middle has 3 and my 3rd has 2 
Do y’all plan on having more children? If so if compromise and name one child the family name and keep it moving… it’s a child both of you created, communicate with each other if it’s your first child come up with a name together and name the second the family name… you don’t want to create animosity between you two over a name.
If you don’t like it, then don’t that should be end of conversation period. You both need to agree on a name
Just call him by his middle name, my son has the same name as his dad because it was their families tradition even tho I didn’t like the name
My OH is called Adam after his dad… and he wanted Lynn in our daughters name after his mum,
So I created her her own name in honour of all of them and named her Adalynn, if this helps xx
Dont name your child that or conprimise. I certainly wouldnt call my child a name i didnt like but i also didnt get to call mr 2nd the name i wanted me and the dad went over different names and found 1 with both agreed on and i gave him the name i wanted as a middle name
My brother was named after my father, but was called his second name all of his life. Maybe compromise, and add it in somewhere. It can be his first name, but he can be called by his second name…
In Most states the mother has naming rights check and see if it’s that way in your date
We have three generations of Rebecca as the first name and the fourth one has Rebekah as her middle name,we all are proud to be named after one another
Name this kid Chad everyone will be happy.
I know a family that does this, every other generation, they switch using the name as a first or middle name, she found a variation of the name that she liked and they agreed to it! Maybe you can do something like that. It’s important to the family, you may not love the idea, but I’m sure you knew ahead of time, and I’m sure there’s a way to compromise. Not just your baby, think about the dad as well.
My husband’s family tried to do the same. His mother tried to protest the fact I wanted and did call my son Wentworth with no middle name. Apparently not only did she hate the fact that name can’t be shortened she was adamant I needed to use her husband or his dads name (can’t remember what one as it was 12 years ago now)
This is your child and your pregnancy so you do what you like.
I had to eventually say I married your son not you and I won’t be told what to do.
Both my kids have a part of their dads name in the name, my eldest is Rhys-James after his dad Ian James my youngest is called Jaxon Johnny-Alfie after my grandad and his dads grandad z
I don’t like being like everybody else. So, I named my kid what i wanted and made her unique. Same is boring.
I wouldn’t name my child a name that I don’t like. Husband can compromise just as much as wives can. We’re picking mutually agreed upon names and that’s it.
If you say no then it’s no. Stick to your guns x
For only a couple of generations?
Girl that’s not tradition that’s your fiance being named after daddy
I think you are being selfish. Talk to your husband. My ex father in laws dad was Douglas Hobart, ex father in law was Donald Douglas, ex husband is Donald Ray and my son is Nathaniel Ray. I would like for this to continue. The son that I lost had 2 middle names. You can honor your husband(the father of the baby) by using the name(s) for the middle name.
My exes fathers name is John…we called our oldest son Seán which is Irish for John…my mother and his mother were Margaret we called our daughter Meghan which is Gaelic for Margaret, there are ways around it…or you could just say no or use the name as a second name
Compromise. I refused to have my partners family name. With him being muslin his family tradition is that they are all called Mohammed ( they use their actual middle names as what people call them on paper is Mohammed). I refused to have this I carried the baby and I did not like it. So I compromised and said I will have an Islamic name as long as I like it. X
My husband sides …all starting their name with letter A… so i just continue the tradition…
Idk how anyone here can say to forget what the father says like he means nothing at all. . Yall what’s wrong with the world. . He has a say too esp when he wants to raise HIS child. . You don’t want to name your child a name that’s been passed down generations (which I’m sure you were aware of before getting pregnant) then compromise, so you both get what you want. And be blessed you have a man that cares enough.
Your child, do what you want! Don’t let his family pressure you. Your man needs to have your back.
My family has those sorts of traditions? So did my ex’s.
I don’t have any daughters so I haven’t had to go with my families traditions (first daughter has mothers middle name, then daughters after that have sisters/ aunties middle name. my niece, sister and mother share the name Marie. My other sister and her daughter and our aunty share the name joy etc).
My ex and his dad, granddad, great granddad etc share the name john/Jon. And my 3rd son has the middle name John
Break the “tradition” , when your husband abuses/cheats/lies its best your son doesnt have the same name. Trust me.
If you really don’t like the name, don’t do it.
You could give him the first name but pick a middle name you really like and go with that? Or if it is day Oliver call him ollie? It’s a tough one. It’s the fathers kid too. Xx
Geez all these women saying to disregard the father of the child… that’s how you end up single, because if you disregard something like this you’ll disregard him in other ways. Same goes with men. The father should have a say on what the child’s name will be. It’s his child too. Compromise, communicate. Just because the tradition hasn’t been going that long doesn’t make it any less important to their family.
My little brother is named after 4 generations of Arthur George’s so he is the fifth, and yes in his name is the fifth. That doesn’t sound that long but it is. Traditions have to start somewhere. I feel like this is something you BOTH should have discussed before a baby was in the picture. Now y’all are at odds.
Good luck with the naming.