So a little back story, my husband has cheated on me in the past, we have tried to move past it…he has, he thinks I have, but I still do not trust him. I don’t remind him of it daily, and I keep everything to myself, but it is something that eats at me every single day. Well, over the weekend, my husband was out literally all day, with his friends, phone off (He said it was dead, but he charged it all night). He was supposed to be out on a boat all day fishing, but when he came home, he did not have a sun burn. So I feel like that was a lie. Anyways, that’s not even the best part, he came home with a tattoo of my name on his arm…So now I feel like he only did that so I wouldn’t be mad about the fact that he was out all day with his phone off…I don’t know, I just have an odd feeling that he is lying again.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I understand why you feel the way you feel and I think its time you have a talk with him about what has been going on,. I hope you can work it out and feel better
Such a sad relationship. If you aren’t happy, why stay in that relationship? If you cant trust him and it “eats you everyday” why the hell are you trying to stay with him?
When they cheat- leave. Life is too short to be taken for granted and lied to.
If it smells like a fish it’s probably a fish!
If you can’t trust him, there is no relationship
Maybe the girl he’s seeing has the same name
If you said AGAIN. You should already be packing.
You didn’t ask if u should leave of not. U asked if he could be cheating. Answer is, I’m not sure about the cheating part but he for sure is lying.
Ask him about it.
If you sont trust him why are you with him? If he truly changed why would he put himself in a position to make you question him?
Trust your gut instinct 
Once that trust is broken its very hard to get it back. Some guys are just wired that way they need extra marital affairs. Good luck.
Weird. Definitely sounds like he spent the day doing wrong but getting a tattoo for you on him would be a very extreme measure to try to “cover” it up!!
I was cheated on. When this happened I had to make a choice. Live with this and truly forgive him and move on and make it work or leave. I knew I could never get over and would live with it everyday as you are doing so I left. Its unhealthy to stay in that relationship.
Suspish but if you live every day wondering and it stressed you that much… is that any life to live? Might be time to either address things head on or find real happiness 
What kind of life (and marriage) is that to live? Constantly worrying that any odd behavior is a sign of betrayal? You deserve so much more. Find the man who never makes you question his integrity or his loyalty; he’s out there. This one is not for you, girlfriend 
If he was fishing he’d come home a sweaty mess, smelling like fish, sunburnt and ready for a shower. Not cleanly home from getting tattooed. He’s lying. Rather he’s cheating or not, your distrust is 100% valid!!! Ask to see his phones location history.
if he has a iphone, you can check his icloud account and see its last known location before he turned it off or it died. I believe samsung has a similar feature as it is attached to google play and google maps. I think the best thing for yall to do is go to counseling. When the trust is gone its really hard to overcome that and start to get it back. Mabye he doesnt need day trips with his friends for awhile. Or at least have location services on and regular calls to you until your relationship is repaired from the damage he did.
If you can’t move forward , you have to move on .
Long term the relationship can’t survive without that trust. Not saying you are wrong or right in your feelings but you need to address whether you will ever be able to move past it. It’s not worth it to be in a relationship where you are suffering and scared.
Did he smell like sunscreen? If not then he never went fishing, so ask him what he did all day and if he says fishing then you know he’s lying.
Well then…
a tattoo of your name seems like a grand gesture 
and thats a red flag in my opinion… definitely go with your gut babe
Personally, for me cheating is 100% a deal breaker. People in general are notorious for trying to cover their own guilt up when they are in fact lying/ being shady and to me the tattoo sounds like just that. If it wasn’t planned or he didn’t mention any type of surprise hes likely trying to cover up guilt he’s feeling. I always go with my gut feeling when I feel something is off- it’s usually right.
Get a tattoo of some other dudes name and all it even.!!!
You need to have counselling 
Why ask people on Facebook if he’s cheating? Unless he’s cheating with one of us, how are we supposed to know? Relationships are built on trust. If you don’t trust him, it really doesn’t matter if he was cheating or not, it won’t work. You have to commit to trusting him 100%, or commit to separating 100%. That’s it.
You don’t trust him, trust your gut. Leave. Do you want to still be going through this in 5 years? 10 years? 20? If the answer is no, I think you know what you have to do. What you SHOULD do. Good luck.
If you ask him, realize once it’s out there, it can’t be taken back. You have a few choices here, move passed what he did in the past and stop feeling suspicious, decide your decision based on his answer—“yes, I messed up again”(you decide to part ways, or give an ultimatum—you stop affairs now or I leave, and stick to it) or if you truly love this man and you can look at it as an opportunity for an open marriage where it isn’t cheating anymore, it’s exploring different casual types of romantic relationships. Either way, you aren’t stuck, you just have to look at all paths you can travel rather than see things as a means to an end. If you try to find a light in all options, you might not hurt as much and feel like you still have power in this circumstance.
Good luck on which ever you do. Stay healthy mentally!
No trust
No relationship.
If you don’t trust him it is constantly going to eat away at you.
The not knowing everytime he goes out
Always follow your guts boo, you deserve to be happy
Always trust your gut
I would have to say always trust your gut instinct. It is very strange that he would have his phone off all day if he had charged it the night before. That would be a huge red flag to me. I’m not telling you just to run and leave but I do think you guys need some kind of counseling and if you can’t afford to do that then you need to keep an eye on things. You don’t wanna keep living like this because once trust is gone it can never be regained. Who wants to spend the rest of their life or even another year or two not being able to trust him and wondering where he is when he’s not at the house. That’s not a way to live
Sounds like he thought he was showing you that you are important to him by getting a tattoo of your name on him. Seems like he was trying to surprise you
One thing I’ve learned over all the years… Always listen to your gut 
That feeling is your gut telling you something is up ! If I were you I will be looking into it .
Name tattoo means relationship is doomed!
Trust your gut. From personal experience when you take them back it condones their behavior and they don’t stop. And it is unfair to you to live that way.
Well the tattoo shows he was thinking of you and if he was cheating I doubt he would have got the tattoo it would cause problems with him and the other girl
He may have got the tattoo because he knew his bullshit about the day out fishing with the boys was proper shady… and he knew u knew it… so he has to step up and do something extraordinary to get u to believe him… or he may have felt guilty…
Either way ur not silly…
The fact he didn’t catch the sun is a massive giveaway
. I hope u questioned why he hadn’t…
Trust ur gut… u know him better than anyone… and as soon as they start acting differently or behaving differently u pick up them vibes… even subconsciously… the “gut” feeling… u know him … u know the signs… just be up front…
Sit him down and say enough with the bull crap I know u lied this is ur only chance to come clean before u lose everything… dont lose eye contact and really mean it… dont let him get away with it again… or at least show him ur no longer a mug… gd luck chick xx
Trust your gut. I went through something similar and I tried to ignore my gut, but it was right. I was just being used.
Ok so he’s out on a boat all day:thinking: but comes home with a new tattoo I’m confused. He got a tattoo on the boat:thinking:
A trusting relationship is like Humpty Dumpty’s shell, you can glue it back together but it will never be as strong, if you think something about his “fishing trip” is suspect grab both his hands and look him in both eyes and tell him your trust is fragile still and ask for his reassurance that he was indeed on a fishin trip, his reaction will tell you all you need to know, too defensive = guilty, too dismissive = guilty, unable to retain eye contact =guilty, supportive and understanding of your fragile trust = good
Listen to your intuition
Trust yourself. Investigate.
Tattoo shop on a boat? 
I always heard if you get this tattoo on yourself of the name of someone you’re with that you’ll end up breaking up I know this too because me and my husband got each other’s names tattooed on our arms and what happened divorced now I got the tattoos covered up my daughter same thing her and her husband got names on each other’s necks and they ain’t together either
No sun tan… and ur questioning this . Nah sis… leave his ass
Put 360 on and then you can see were he is and were he has been as long as his phone is on
Trust your gut!! 100% trust your instincts
Name or no name - leave to find peace of mind!!
I have always been told to trust your gut cause it’s most likely telling you the truth I’m sad to say I know when I trusted my gutt yep my husband was cheating when he swore he wasn’t …I trusted him and It broke my heart get out while your ahead don’t let him fool you
Maybe the new girl has a name like you!!! … 
Trust your guy! Always trust your gut.
Your gut is usually right
Go with ya gut! You know what it is!
I mean it definitely sounds like he’s lying about being on a boat all day but that doesn’t necessarily mean he was cheating. You need to be open with him about the trust thing and work on that together if you actually want things to work. Letting it eat you up inside while he thinks nothing is wrong is only going to make things worse. I was you and I couldn’t do it anymore. If you really don’t have it in you to trust him again or go through another cheating scandal (if he is in fact cheating) you really need to just leave. For your own sanity.
Maybe its his new lovers name also??? Omg sketch
GPS ghost his phn then go c where he goes?
seems extreme but them gut feelings should be trusted
Did he smell of sunscreen
If partners can’t be honest and say how or what they feel to one another then what’s the point of being together. Always state how you feel no matter what; honesty is very important and can ruined everything once lost…The best guidance comes from the lord, talk and pray with him and he’ll lead you where you’re suppose to be.
You’re still holding onto before so it could be that past that makes you think he did again or he could’ve been. A group of women on the internet won’t help you to be honest, only you going to him directly will. Talk to him, not the internet. On the internet you’ll get assumptions from strangers that have no idea what the truth is.
… Regardless of whether or not he’s cheating again, you say it’s on your mind and you keep it to yourself. That’s not fair to either one of you. I know things like forgiveness can take time, but how long has it been? Do you believe that anytime he leaves the house, he just may be cheating? That’s no way to live. Good luck with whatever path you choose.
Leave him and child support his cheating ass
Who was he with? Can you ask him/them questions like, “hey, how big was the boat & was the sun beating on y’all all day?” If it was a large boat, it might have had a canopy or covered part, hence no sunburn. He might not have had cell service in the middle of the lake/water. Ask where he went to rent the boat & call the place to see if who rented a boat for X day. If it was with someone who owns a boat, call someone in his family (wife?) to find out more about the trip. Ask if you could have a girls trip. Do some research.
Did you ask hubs what possessed him to get a tattoo at this particular time?
Get more therapy & counseling to find out if you can ever let his cheating go or not. If not, you have to leave as you will always be second-guessing him, and that’s no way for either of you to live.
I’m sorry, good luck, and I hope you find some peace and happiness whatever you decide.
Never go against gut instincts. They’re always right, pack his stuff and tell him to leave.
So was he fishing before or after the tattoo cuz they don’t take that long unless it’s an impressive piece which was a full day sitting !! They wouldn’t tattoo him stinking of fish, and he wouldn’t be able to fish with a fresh tattoo. Definitely not right
Cheaters don’t stop they just learn how to hide it better
You’re probably right focus on yourself and maybe think of ways to finally leave him. There are men out there who are so inherently loyal you just don’t even have that worry anymore
Could he have just been having a day out with mates and used the boat story as a rouse to hide the surprise of the tatt? Every little thing is going to make you suspicious. You have to find a way to deal with it and move forward. If you don’t have trust or honesty with each other then you gave no relationship and you need to call it quits. Talk to him. Give couples counselling a go and if you still struggle then you need to end things. At least that way you know you have tried every way to make it work. You may still live him and to end things will bloody hurt but you can not live this way. You will make yourself ill with stress and worry and won’t be able to relax and enjoy the relationship like you should
I’m sorry but that man doesn’t love you your just his security blanket you need to walk away if a man cannot be honest about his where abounds and has you questioning why? It’s time to let it go me personally wouldn’t like to live a life of lies and always wondering if he’s with another woman
You clearly have not forgiven and look at how suspicious you are… Its no way to live hun whether he has cheated again or not I would be out before the second guessing and thinking the worst ate me up xx
I think you’re letting your feelings of insecurity override everything else. Just because he didn’t have a sunburn doesn’t necessarily mean he wasn’t. His phone turned off - could be for a number of other reasons. You need to deal with this & talk to him. If you don’t it’s going to drive you crazy. Good luck !
It wasn’t long ago where women were shamed for divorcing their husbands. The new norm is now shaming a woman for staying. You were placed in a very difficult situation and I would never tell a woman to leave her husband. Now, with that being said, is your relationship a good one? Is it worth salvaging? If you did not have kids or a home with your husband, would you still try to work things out? Only you know if your marriage is worth salvaging. What I’m picking up from what I read is that you were basically forced to sweep it under the rug. How did you find out he cheated? Was he really apologetic or did he try to gaslight you about it? What I would suggest to you is to separate. There are a lot of steps prior to leaving and or divorcing your husband. Is he putting in a lot of work in gaining your trust back like unlocked phones, transparent schedules with the exception of this fishing trip? All you can do is evaluate the evidence that you do have that your husband is really trying to make this work. Don’t fret over something you will not find the answer to. Now here is what I find fishy of his trip being an outsider, Him saying is phone was dead all day is a red flag. No tan 
does he wear a wedding ring? Check if he has a tan line. Ask for pictures. How long was this trip from when he cheated? If you do want to separate but are afraid he’ll be with someone else during that time, that’s also a red flag. Whatever you decide to do, don’t feel guilty for staying or leaving. You only know what you know and are making decisions with the limited information that you have. You must most definitely speak your mind about the hurt you still are harboring inside and if that makes him upset or angry, red flag. I wish you the best.
Once a cheat always a cheat,a leopard never changes it’s spots as they say,I would never trust a man if he cheated on me once that’s it,never go back twice!!!
Trust your gut it’s never wrong !
I honestly think he was trying to surprise you
If he is you will eventually know for sure. I would not accuse him if you don’t know for sure.
Maybe if people start going to church and bring religion back in your life you won’t have all these thoughts!
The only way your relationship is going to work, is if you could of truly forgave him for what he did in the past! If you can’t fully move on, there is no point in being in a relationship because even when he tells you the truth, your not going to believe him. Get some therapy and make the decision of, do you want to live in a relationship that you’ll never be able to fully trust him, or find someone that you can make a happy life with!
It will never get better. You have to let it go or move on with out him. Keeping it bottled up isn’t good or healthy… Its gonna make you hate him. I didn’t finish reading the post. But you do have to follow your instincts on it. Coming from the girl who found out her now ex husband cheated on her for many years. I kept it bottled up it made me hate him which pushed him away and on to someone else my best friend actually. Oh he also got her pregnant during our marriage and she isn’t/wasn’t the only one during our marriage. We have an 11yr and 9yr old and this maybe baby between 5 and 9 years old boy. That mom was married to someone else. So he said forget for now… They don’t stop usually. The wife doesn’t always win usually. I thought he stopped he said he did. I started to believe then I found out she was pregnant. He denied it. Three days after baby was born he told me. We have been divorced for 5 years (on the 21st. Their first child just turned 6 on the 18th) we were married almost 10 years. I say he cheated 8 out of 10yrs and thats giving him the benefit of the doubt.
Okay, first off did this cheating happen recently? It takes time and complete transparency from the cheating partner. Trust is easy to lose and hard to regain. I do believe that cheaters can change, however, you should follow your gut. Ask him straight out!
The gut never lies trust it I wish I did x
Trust your gut feeling! Sounds like he is.
Can a cheater really change though? And can you ever truly get past that? I couldn’t
Trust your gut girl!!!
Always trust your gut.
If he’s done it before, he will do it again. Don’t tolerate that crap! His “story” seems fishy - pun intended.
Maybe it’s a declaration of hey you can trust me I swear. Maybe it’s a good con. Talk to him
If you know you know !!
And this is why you leave once they get caught cheating. You will live your entire marriage with the feeling hes lying and cheating.
You and the new chick have the same name. 
If he thinks you moved past it and now he’s acting shady again my guess is he thinks he can get away with it or doesn’t think you’ll leave if you catch him again
Sounds like bullshit to me. Walk away from that.
Cheaters almost always do it numerous times. Trust your instincts - they never fail you.
Always trust your gut!
Most people are sunburned and fishy after fishing all day. Wet clothes, etc.
Trust ur instincts ma…
The tattoo is really weird. Unless you both have the same name. Because it certainly sounds like he is cheating.
I’m sorry you said” AGAIN” … oh no no no baby girl… u pack your stuff & RUNNNNN!!!