Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Custody question!
Effect the child’s sleep really it’s only half hour difference. People need to grow the hell up man just to piss the other parent off for pleasure
The Mum is completely in the wrong. For the sake of 15 minutes let the child see their dad. Just sounds like the mum is being petty.
I think you should bend a little he is her father and it won’t affect her sleep schedule that much
It’s an extra 15 minutes, and if it’s only until 730iah and she goes to bed at 8 how does that affect her sleep schedule?
Ya’ll fighting for 15 minutes. God da*m, when the hell do you get your head out of your ass and be thankful she has a father wanting that time?
Its literally 15-30 min difference. Dont be petty!!
15 mins is not too much to ask for. Your child has a father who wants to be a part of his life, it’s good for the child. I can’t stand my kids dad, hate him, but he shows up for these kids and they know they have a dad who loves them. Did I mention I hate him lol. It’s hard but give him the 15 mins. But don’t let him mess with you too much.
If child goes bed 8 -8.15 then How’s it affect. For that slight change yes she’s in the wrong. And child may just wake a little later, if up at 5 barely huge issue.
For 15 minutes? Seriously? She’s in the wrong and sounds extremely bitter.
Yes you’re wrong so stop being pity cause if a judge sees you’re being petty it won’t look good on you at all. It won’t affect her sleep schedule since her bedtime is at 8/815 and he wants to see her until 715/730. Stop being petty
Oh wooooow…I wish my ex husband would even acknowledge his children. Sounds to me like petty karen over here just Cuz your bitter dont take it out on him or the kids, it won’t end well on your end… I’m just saying
The mom is in the wrong it’s only 15 minutes difference… be greatful that the dad is even in the picture
I don’t always approve of my sons farther but when he wants to do something for our son than why fight that? Be lucky men even want to be involved
It’s petty to not allow that. Mom & dad should work together not make things harder bc in the end it’s about the kid being able to see her dad. 15-30 min change shouldn’t negate that.
However if mom is high conflict which it sounds like, its best to stick to the court order that way there is no arguments. If dads unable & mom won’t accommodate, dad has to forfeit that time unfortunately.
What if it was mom that had visitation? Would she like not being able to see her child because the dad was being petty? Do what’s best for the child. Let him/ her spend time with dad…
Life circumstances change. Post says he fought tooth and nail for an extra hour. Sounds like he wants to have a relationship with his kid and mom wants to limit that relationship. Yes, mom is being petty, IMO.
I wouldn’t fight so much against the small things. You have to remember it’s not about hurting the other parent or making their life difficult or hard, it’s about coparenting a child that didn’t ask to be in the middle. Try to get along for the child/children!
Yes mom is wrong for acting like a Petty Betty! Life changes happen. She is making for a ridiculously hard co parenting journey. She should actually be ashamed of her self for this pettiness.
Unless he is abusive and a piece of crap, then your being petty. It’s 15 minutes for God’s sake.
Moms being petty af. Get a grip. It’s 15 minutes. Your crotch fruit will adjust. Stop being bitter.
If he’s wanting to be apart of the child’s life let him.
Yes. Stop making issues over such simple shit! Sorry but it just sounds like you want to keep the pot stirred & it’s not really even about your son getting his sleep. ITS 15 MINUTES!!
Yes, here’s wants in his child’s life you will regret not letting this happen when your child is older and realizes you kept them apart
Everyone is saying that the mother is being quite Petty, do you guys sit back and kind of question how long is the drive to get back to the house. So if the father takes the child and has the child until 7:30 and then it could be a 20 to 25 minute drive back to the mother’s house. The child is only going to have a few minutes before it has to go to bed. What kid is honestly going to come home from the other parents house and go right to bed they’re going to have energy they’re going to talk about their afternoon. Now if it’s just a few minute drive yeah that is kind of a little selfish but nobody’s taken into question how long the commute is
Yes it is petty however if the shoe was in his foot I can bet he would deny it. Been there done that they usually love more the fight than the time with the kids
The amount of mums screaming for the dads to have ANYTHING to do with their kids and you have mums like this… adjust the kids routine by 15 - 30 mins… they will adapt. Or imagine he said nah can’t do it at all?? To answer your question yes. It’s petty as f…
At the end of the day, this is about the kid(s). 15 mins will not destroy the world. I understand it can be frustrating but it’s also important to show our Kids what grace is, what flexibility is what compromise is.
I would make it work. Being flexible is apart of coparenting and 15-30 min will not make too much of a difference.
I personally thinks it’s very wrong and petty to deny him access to his child over something very trivial. He obviously wants that time, or he wouldn’t have fought for it. Just because he has a personal schedule change(possibly a work scheduling issue) doesn’t mean he should be “punished” for it. In all honesty I don’t see the real issue. She is still home in lots of time to bathe and get ready for bed. I honestly feel like mom is just looking for something to use to pick dad apart.
Yes…. Yes you’re being totally unreasonable
15 minutes is not that big of a difference. He wants the visitation with the kid. LET HIM HAVE HIS TIME.
If it affects the child’s sleep, then why not allow the child to spend the night at the fathers and come home the next morning.
I think she doesn’t see that this father wants to spend time with his child when there’s many that don’t. A child might be young but as they grow the child will eventually see everything and understand what is happening and might come to resent the parent.
It’s 15 m mom should be ok with it she’s trying to make things difficult
I would do until 730. It’s her dad. My kid video chats with her dad every night at bedtime beds at 630 we video chat at 630 until 730 because by the time he gets home from work eats etc it’s about bedtime. I’m not going to take away from my daughter that’s foolish and selfish.
Yes she is wrong. It’s not that big of a difference.
Why doesn’t he have him over night on the night he has him 3-7? That way he can just put him to bed at his home and not disturb any ‘sleep pattern’
The fact that an extra hour with the child had to be fought for tooth and nail already baffles me… why would a little extra time with the child need fought for so damn hard? Ridiculous. Yes, mom is being petty. It’s not like it’s an hour or more difference. It’s 15 minutes for crying out loud. Get over yourself. You’re not the only parent. Grow up.
If it a custody agreement/order processed through family court, then it’s binding unless both parties agree with the change.
Usually they allow a 30 min time before and after times scheduled for traffic or other delays. My advice stop being a bitter petty person and let the kid have time with the dad without trying to control the dad
You snooze you lose I think.It works both ways.
Nothing wrong with what he’s asking. Things change and you have to be flexible with each other. If the shoe was on the other foot you would want the other parent to work with you. It’s about the child. People really need to stop being petty. Be grateful he’s being a father.
I think the mom is being petty and selfish
The child won’t notice 15/30 minutes. Pick your battles. He could be saying he didn’t want to see the child at all like 1000’s of parents do all the time. It could be far worse.
Mom is being petty if dad is within the same town and get to school/daycare on time before work the next day the child should just sleep at dads house on those nights. Win win dad gets his time and child’s schedule isn’t interrupted
Doesn’t sound like it DIRECTLY effects anything other than her control lol
I don’t understand these women that fight to keep their kids away from their dad. I wish my sons dad would come around and actually want to see or spend time with my son. It’s 15 minutes. Give the man a little bit of leeway. And “it will affect the child’s sleep schedule” how much can 15 minutes really affect the kids sleep schedule or are yall just trying to think of any excuse to make it harder for this man to spend time with his kid?
This is a dad that obviously loves his children and wants to be part of there life … for the sake of 15 minutes give it to him … if ye can co parent well … down the line if ur stuck atleast u no u can ask there dad …
Wow! Grow up and realize it ain’t about you adults but the child and having time with each parent.
The inability to see dad and tension between the two parents will affect sleep schedule more than 15 minutes— believe that. Through the years you’ll need to bend or break. Pick your battles, but document them.
Yes the mother is wrong. Life change hes still trying to be there and see his kid. Suck up the little bit of sleep
Aye fuck the women for doing this to dads that wanna see their kids
Yes she in the wrong an ext 15 minutes wouldn’t hurt goodness somebody is just petty and bitter it’s what’s best for the child
Sounds like the mom is being petty. 30 minutes is not that big of a deal, being petty and throwing a fit about every little thing will affect your child more.
Whats worse, changing the sleeping schedule or not having time with dad? U seem a little bitter, changing bedtime routine by half an hour isn’t life changing, not having a dad is!
For your child you make the adjustment of 15 minutes…its a no brainer.Mom is being bitter and controlling not doing it and is only hurting the child.
This could be a great way for mum to have a break and have dad start the bed time routine 3 nights a week.
I don’t see the issue with what he is asking personally, life happens and things change, yes it may interrupt child’s sleeping pattern, but the child is young enough and will quickly slide into a new routine. Personally if you want to continue co parenting on best terms, try it for a bit. If you refuse, he could potentially drag it back through court. Do you really want your child going through court again for the sake of 15/30 minutes
Yes, she’s wrong. He’s the parent too
I think the fact u have to ask about an extra 15/30 mins is down right ridiculous n despicable. The dad wants his child jus needs a small time change. I mean come on!! It’s 30 mins at the most. Get over urself mom n work with the dad so ur child has both parents in their life.
Mom needs to grow up
Its called compromise…geez these damn people and their control shit…grow the fuck upa
Really? There’s parents out there that would kill to see their kids & you’re worried about 15 mins? Geez. Im glad I’m not coparenting with you. What a ridiculous post
The fact that there’s a dad fighting to see his child says it all. This child is loved and whatever mom can do to support this love from dad will come back a hundred fold. Your child will thank you someday.
The mom is power hungry. A father shouldn’t have to fight to see his child.
Child is getting older, sleep times change. Let dad have the kid, be glad he wants to.
So petty. Grow up and realise it’s about the child and not you.
I think mom is power hungry. Lots of chat about dead beat dads, and the ones that try : struggle. This man is trying to accommodate all of his commitments. Those 15 minute will not be detrimental, in fact the child will adapt.
This is silly. If you’re worried about bath/dinner ask him to do it before he sends her home so she is ready for bed when she gets home.
As a paternal grandmother that spent years & alot of money to help my son get equal time with his kids , I believe you are being petty. He needs an extra 30 min that is all. My opinion it will be harder on the child to be kept from Dad than the extra 30 min he needs to bring child back. We finally have 1 week on 1 week off . There are so many men that get blamed for leaving their children when it’s the mother that makes it impossible for them to be fathers. It’s hard to be an active father every other weekend… to only have your children 4 - 5 days a month . Ask yourself Honestly how you would feel if you only get your child the amount of time he does. Dad’s matter and some guys would be better Dad’s if the MOMS weren’t making it hard. 15-30 min is all he needs … have him put her pj’s on and have her teeth brushed and read her a story b4 u get her back. Give the man a chance to be a good father for her.
Yes the Mom is wrong. Why not adjust the schedule? Obviously the father wants to be in the kids life if he already fought for extra time. Why not work together so the kid can be in the father’s life regularly. Most fathers don’t fight that hard. And it’s only being adjusted by 30 minutes.
Omg be happy their’s a dad that cares
I really don’t understand mums who can’t co parent! Makes me mad! I hate what my ex did to me and I dislike him a lot, BUT he is a good dad to our son, 15/30 minutes will not effect bedtime at all as a mum to a 2 year old I can attest to that! Remember you cared about this man enough to make a child with him even if it went wrong you still trusted he would be there just as much as you for the child. You have to bend and grow so the child gets the best from both parents.
Yes …she is wrong …and selfish
Mom is being vindictive and petty.
How embarrassing to even ask this
I don’t understand what the dad getting the child from 330-730 instead of 3-7 affects the sleep schedule if the child goes to bed at 8-815. Have dad do bath time and pjs and then when child gets home you can do bed time routine and send him off to bed on time. Be grateful your child’s father wants to be apart of their life.
If that man is a fit father she’s a bad mother for keeping the child from him. Both parents are important and if he has the time and ability and wants to it shouldn’t be denied. When my ex didn’t have a place to bring them he would just randomly come by and want to bring them for ice cream or something and they could go whenever.
15 minutes with dad outweighs 15 minutes of sleep. Be grateful dad wants to see his child. My ex never did. Work with your child’s dad! Be blessed.
We have a routine. But my oldest is in kindergarten, she does karate and my youngest is 3 and she doesn’t have a bedtime, even my oldest bedtime is off. Does it bother me, yes because im a routine person and always has been. But its not about me, its about my babies. If he wants the 15, then give him the 15 and adjust bedtime accordingly
So the bedtime routine gets shortened 2 days a week. Not that big of a deal tbh. If this were my situation I’d be happy to give dad all the time he wanted since he’s clearly trying to be an active father.
Also why the change? Has his job or hours changed? Was he finding it hard to make 3pm work for other commitments?
It shouldn’t be a fight. You were both adult enough to create a child, work out your 30min timeframe like the adults you were then.
Extremely wrong and selfish. Half an hour is not a big deal. She should be grateful he even is being consistent in the child’s life.
It depends on your guys relationship. If it’s a really difficult one where neither one will work together and you don’t get along I would stick to the court order as is and if someone wants a different schedule go and have it changed.
It is petty however she doesn’t have to agree to it. Whatever is in the judgement is what she can stick to and dad can’t do anything about it without a modification. Not all mothers appreciate the dads who are actually involved and try to stay involved.
Yall could always add that time to the weekend he gets her. That’s what we do. Due to travel distance, the 2 hours during a week night doesn’t work for us. The kids would literally spend that entire visit time in the car driving back and forth. So we added the time to the weekend pickup and drop off times. They get picked up earlier for visitation and dropped off later when visitation ends.
Shes in the wrong she should be glad the dad wants to be in the picture. It wont affect the sleep schedule
That’s small amount of time is not going to affect anything. That is absolutely selfish of the mom if she were to deny the father that. Be glad he is in the picture even making an attempt to see his child. Get over yourself. That’s bitter baby mama drama
Surely adults can come to an agreement without being petty. Its an extra 30minutes. Child is still home 45 minutes before bedtime . Personally I dont see the problem
Its all very well having court agreements but shit happens and we cant always stick to it exactly to the letter. Work with each other for the good of your child for goodness sake
Mom is being selfish and petty if she doesnt agree to it. Ita a 30 min difference that won’t matter in the long run. What will matter is not spending time with their dad
If the father is a stable and fit father and it’s meeting all his parenting obligations, I see no reason why not to allow the 30 min time change.
Depends on the reasons. There is a lot we don’t know here to answer either way. Why can’t he do 3pm, can he get the child ready for bed, can he make up the time somewhere else, is the child unbearable if he goes to bed 15 min later…
I agree with Christie Taylormarsh
oh dear…. so maybe dad can bring the child in pijamas, I mean really 15-30 minutes is not that bad
Yes mom is wrong. Period
Hell Yeah mom is wrong
Yeah, Mom is wrong for denying ANY time. Grow up. 50/50 physical and legal custody is best. PARENTAL ALIENATION IS CHILD ABUSE!
It’s 30 mins Karen
Baby mama drama!
Ugh let it go. Children need both parents. Co-parenting is so important for children to see
And be glad he’s not a dead beat dad he actively involved and loving that child
IMO…petty af. Really gonna throw a fit over 30 minutes and it looks like it barely affects the sleep schedule. Why is it so damn hard to be considerate?