My husband and I went through this about 6 years ago after his dad died. It almost destroyed our marriage. Yes, if you’re both into it it’s ok. But if one of you are not, and to the point it’s affecting your sex life, then there’s a problem. I almost left my husband. He was watching it all the time, at work even, and he didn’t want anything to do with me. It took me almost leaving before my husband realized how much of a problem it was. He did quit. And it took some effort. Just like any addiction he had times he wanted to do it again. He did actually quit though. I really don’t know what advice to give. Also like any addiction, he has to choose to quit. You can’t make him. And no, I’m not a prude. I used to watch it too. But when it started consuming his life, when he wanted that rather than real life, that’s when it became a problem. And at that point it became a choice of all or nothing. Now it’s nothing. I hope you can find a resolution that works. If you ever need to message for advice or to talk, feel free to pm me. It was a very hard road and I completely understand.
Lack of respect and downright disrespect to you and how you feel. Hun get an annulment because it only gets worse. If you keep accepting it he will keep doing it and will end up trauma bonded.
The problem with porn is that it creates a standard that many women can never live up to. It will have an impact of self confidence, worth, and trust. If you watched it together- and both enjoy it -that is your business- but if one of you is watching it and hurting the other by doing so-that is an issue. Since it is so early in your marriage I’d nip it now. Just what is it that he gets from it that you can’t give? That’s a tough conversation, but you need to have it. Good luck
I would be mad about the lying about doing it but the actual watching I don’t think there is a man who hasn’t. My husband and I watch it together but he also watches it if I go to sleep before he does and he doesn’t wanna wake me up or if I’m not home. He doesn’t hide it from me though
My hubs and I have watched porn together…if you are comfortable with it then watch it with him…but since it seems like he watches it by himself then I’d have a problem with it since he isn’t touching you afterwards…if hes that addicted to it then hell ya I’d be mad…the only reasons being because it could lead to fulfilling those fantasies that the porn girls do with an actual woman other then you…
So talk to him again about it and if he doesnt listen then suggest counseling and if he still doesnt listen then id give him an ultimatum it’s either the porn or you…then leave it at that…just my opinion!!!
I think everyone feels differently about porn.
Some love it, some hate it. Why does he have to not enjoy it because you don’t enjoy it??
Same thing happened to my friend she kicked him out and is happy with someone else now I would get rid if my partner was doing especially being sneaky about it!!
Two thoughts. You have said you’ve talked about it. But now he’s lying about it. Were you cool with it BEFORE the marriage and now you’re not? You said you’re newlyweds, so I’d assume that the sex was good before he started watching porn. Does he want to try positions / kinks that you’re not into?
I lived through my ex and his porn addiction for 8 years, NEVER AGAIN! I felt like I was the crazy one because my friends told me it was ok, but I wasn’t ok with it. It’s ok not to be ok with it.
If you don’t like it, it feels like he’s cheating. Counseling might be helpful
Get out while you still can once the lying starts it’s over from there
You have every right to be angry.
I feel like it’s cheating. And what else is he lying about?
Ask him what is in the porn that he would like you to do. Spice it up
In our marriage, porn is cheating. I’d be mad too and you have the right to be mad.
What he’s doing (porn)is wrong if it’s hurting you and he’s lying. You have every right being pissed
IF your husband is a BLESSING he wouldn’t be doing this!!
Thats disgusting behaviour , Watch it together or not at all!!
LOL. newly weds. And he sits qnd watches live point and wants nothing to do with you.
No thanks.
You have every right to be pissed and you need to cut him loose.
I wish I could nap during the day! I can only sleep at night!
You don’t need the help but he does, sounds like a p*** addiction, have you suggested him about getting professional help?
Take it from experience…run!!!
My ex husband was this way
If he’s lying about that, what else is he lying about…
You have every right to be pissed off!
Join in with him show that you can enjoy it with him
Get out it won’t stop
Your not crazy, porn is cheating & it hurts our hearts. In marriage your not to lust after anyone elses flesh other than your spouse. Me & my guy been together 19 yrs, I was blind to his prn addiction is I never snooped through his phone. 18 months ago I started menopause & he started physically rejecting me, then I kept finding ssssoooo many nasty prn in his phone. Took alot of crying & praying to emotionally detach my heart from his filth… Don’t bash or shame him, just express how much it hurts you & you feel like he’s cheating(cuz he is, technically) Cry in front of him, if he gets angry it may be time to move on. Prying for you🙏
So if he’s going against your wishes your feelings, sneaking and all that, he’s cheating on you
Your post says you are newlyweds and I’m going to guess this didn’t start when you got married. A lot of women feel “dirty and ashamed “ watching porn and you feel what you feel but your husband feels what he feels as well. Don’t knock it until you try it, you may find some aspects enjoyable. Another thing, there are quite a few women with their heads buried in the sand as to what their husbands would and wouldn’t do. Examples are always in the news…I believe I know my husband but if he does something criminal or just insane then I really didn’t know him. But talk to him first and try to work it out because from what I’ve read I don’t think he’s changing.
I wouldnt say u don’t have a right to be mad or hurt. I’ve dealt with this in my marriage… we will be married 2 years in April. However I’d much rather have my husband be interested in porn than going out and physically cheating on me. Atleast I know he will not be physically touching these women. He still have every bit of interest in me, I do not have to worry about that. He knows I don’t like the thought of him watching pork, but it happens. But you have every right to be hurt by it… everyone is allowed feelings. But I’ve been there, understand the struggle.
I am astonished by seeing how many are saying things like, “you’re only newlyweds and he is already watching porn?” and, “In a marriage, he is supposed to have you fill that need.”
What atrocious statements!
First off, if he is watching porn like that, then he was an addict to it well before you married. What has changed was you being allowed to know about it, and even then it is mostly hidden as a result of the shame.
Second, if your role is his personal porn star, then it isn’t a marriage at all.
My advice…
You need to stop being angry about the porn addiction. It is counterproductive…
Thinking of it as a personal bretrayal of you, and your vows isn’t exactly truth… Think about it… There is a reason you are sepatated from it and it is attempted to be kept hidden from you.
Does this mean it is healthy? No.
Does this mean it should be encouraged? Definitely not!
Let us face the simplest truth… You love the man, but hate the sin…
Emptying the anger will allow you to become part of a solution. Now as an addict, he must both want and be a part of that solution. Fighting though will only send him running to the release of feel good chemicals in his brain.
You need to become the source of his comfort… If you want to salvage this at all. I mean, you should not tolerate this and if he isn’t willing to fix it with you, then you deserve to be healthy and that would mean being apart from this, and him…
A lot of counseling and reconciling will need to occur. You will have to set aside the emotions of the moment while really understanding and acting upon your deeper emotions, as a very conscious and difficult effort. This is going to take time to correct.
So here are my questions for you to answer yourself.
Are you able and willing to quit behaving on “reaction” to impulse emotions? Instead, summoning up the deeper emotions inside and upon God for guidance?
Are you willing seek counseling and religious guidance and to put in both the time and effort that are required?
If you answered no to either question, then you are best moving on.
If you answered yes to them all, then the next step is to sit down with him, and if you can someone he respects, and ask him the same questions…
If he answers no to any, then he doesn’t want it and you cannot make him; so it would be best to move on. If he answers yes to them all, then make an sppointment and commitment, hold him accountable to his portion of it always never let him avoid truth, understand relapse and its role in personal growth, and then pray ceaselessly.
My God bless you 
Hummmm i would leave
Umm, I’d be super pissed
Watch it with him makes sex better
Oh sugar, just be done.
It’s cheating. Period.
It’s the lying about it. I’d be pissed! I hate liars!!!
Watching it to me is not a big deal, hell I watch it lol however when it starts effecting your sex life together then it becomes an issue and you have every right to be upset. I don’t know how you have approached him with it but if you are attacking and yelling about it try even though it might be hard but try to talk to him calmly about why it is upsetting to you with him not being intimate with you and maybe watch it with him once and awhile to see if that helps
If he’s not having sex with you and paying for live sessions, that’s a deal breaker. Annulment is an option.
Life is too short, and he’s got pretty deep issues to go through a lifetime as his backup to WiFi. 
Big deal watch it with him then he won’t have to sneak around. If you don’t like to watch it let him at least he’s at home with you.
You have the right to feel anyway you choose to feel. If it’s bothering you and it makes you angry than you have every right to be angry with your husband. You don’t need strangers to justify that for you. You’re going to get mixed answers here but it comes down to your own personal boundaries in your relationship. Some people have no problem with that kind of behavior while others have zero tolerance. If his behavior pushes or breaks your boundaries you need to make it known and put an end to that behavior. In a relationship there should be respect and he should respect your wishes for it to stop. Have an open and honest conversation with him and touch base on whether or not he has an addiction because that can be fixed. Set clear boundaries and if he can’t respect them then do what you have to do. Only you can decide what is acceptable and what isn’t in your relationship though.
To me it’s not the porn itself, I personally have never had a problem with it, to me the problem is him lying/hiding it and affecting yalls sex life. If hes hiding it then he obviously knows hes not doing something right. People have different things that bother them and if this is one of yours then there is absolutley nothing wrong with that and he should respect it. Every relationship has to compromise. This could fall under “men will be men” or there could be a deeper issue. I believe communication is key here.
I’d be more upset at the sneaking and hiding.
Porn can ruin your marriage. Marriage365 has a really good course on that!
How about watch it with him 🤷
Out of curiosity have you told him not to watch it or things like that? Could be as to why he’s sneeking it… there’s plenty of free live ones free sites etc…
lying on it isn’t ok many people watch porn etc. some couples enjoy together it’s nothing abnormal but something is making him feel he has to lie about it maybe get to figuring that out etc could have been the way you approached him to make him feel the need to hide it. .
May ve he is lying because is afraid of how You react . But the serious problem with live is how much Money he is expending and the danger that evolves into an addiction and start expending serious amount of Money.
Run and don’t look back.
If a spouse has to lie or sneak around when doing something THEY believe their own behavior is out of line or there wouldn’t be a need to hide.
The sneaking and lying would pxss me off more than the porn itself.
The live porn is crossing the line. Pretty sure you have to pay for live porn sessions too.
Private investigation
Start your own live channel 
I always thought it was normal for a guy to watch porn. But at the point it effects the sex life, yep, there’s a problem. I think I would be pissy then
Yeah the live part is what cross the line for me who care about porn but watching it live and paying for it is to far … maybe offer to watch with him videos like normal people lol
You have every right to be pissed! I couldn’t handle that at all. Good luck…
There is nothing wrong with watching porn. If he is more into it and ignoring you then it becomes an issue
See a lawyer it will scare him
If your newlywed why the hell would he want porn for lol my husband watchs it but I also say if you can watch that you can do me after watching…new moves etc spice it up. 
I only have a problem with porn when he starts paying for it. There are TONS of free porn sites out there so no need to be paying for it
You have a right to your own feelings. If that is something that bothers you and you are uncomfortable with it, he crossed the line. I’d be livid. It’s destroying your sex life
I’m going to start off by stating I personally don’t watch p*** or get turned on by it. But I don’t demand others to not watch it or get mad at them for watching it. Because honestly even though you’re a newlywed Grown Folk are going to do what Grown Folk want to do married or not. I mean I know for one I’m a grown woman and I will do as I please and I will not ask my husband’s permission to say hey I’m going to eat lunch with my girlfriend. Because he’s not my daddy to sit there and go Daddy can I please. I’m grown it’s my grown decision to go eat but some people are grown and they’re grown decision is to watch nasty p*** videos LOL now what I want to share with you is what you call pick your battles. You want to pick your battles in your marriage you know what I’m saying that is something I’m still trying to teach myself and I have been married 13 or 14 years now really feels like 15 or 20 but not anyways. Anyways first of all you told this man to not do it okay sometimes that makes people want to do it. Like my husband for example if you really accused him of stealing something and he didn’t steal it he will steal something just to show you. Same difference okay this person is going to watch the p*** just to show you because you said don’t do it. Honestly there should be no reason for him to lie about it or sneak around I mean I don’t agree with paying the money to watch p*** or anything like. that on p***. Honestly your money is well spent somewhere else. That’s like when you have a relationship and your husband tells you you’re not allowed to have friends or go anywhere or do anything and then you have another relationship where the girlfriend goes will you can’t talk to nobody or go hang out with nobody or do anything. First of all everybody is grown and they have their own mind and they don’t need anybody’s approval technically. I had a girlfriend who spent eight years of marriage not being able to have friends not being able to go do anything not even able to change her body to make herself feel better and when I say that I mean get a breast reduction that kind of thing. No he didn’t want them big boobs to go away for his selfish reasons he didn’t care if it made his wife feel better or not she was not going to do it because he said she was not going to do it. And that is not how you have a relationship or a marriage. I got my tubes tied that was my decision my husband or no other man would have ever told me no I was not getting my tubes tied. I mean I’m grown with my own mind you know what I’m saying and everybody is here for a purpose and it’s up to you to find your purpose with your own mind as a grown person. And you can’t find your purpose if you’re controlling somebody or they’re controlling you. Because that mind is only focused on either you being controlled or you’re the one controlling somebody else. Honestly you have a right to be mad if he was hiding it and sneaking it yes but I don’t agree with you saying will you can’t do it because technically they have their own mind and they are a grown person you know what I’m saying and you can’t get through a marriage controlling one another.
For me and my personal relationship, I tell my partner no live porn and no paying for porn. Plenty of sites for free.
If he’s doing something he doesn’t want you to see
Then he knows it’s wrong bet he wouldn’t b ok with u doing that yes u have every right to get mad he’s getting off to other woman onnly a naïve idiot would be ok with that
I’d be pissed too. You have me to look at and bang, what do you need porn for?? Just my opinion. But your spouse lying and being sneaky about ANYTHING is a reason to be pissed and concerned.
My question is: was it like this before you got married? You’re newlyweds so I can’t imagine you’ve been married for very long so in the time before you’ve been married, was this something that he did and you just turned a blind eye thinking it would stop when you two got married? Bc then, you can’t really be super surprised that it’s still happening.
The lying and letting it effect your sex life is something I’d be upset about.
But actually watching the stuff? As long as no money is spent on it, i don’t really see the problem.
Maybe he has an addiction? Lieing and hiding it is not ok I watch porn and I’m a female and my fiancé watches porn we don’t hide it from each other at all
If he is using porn and not being intimate with you, he has a problem. If he was just watching porn normally and now you’re not having sex because you flipped out, then you’re the problem.
Pornography addiction is real and it is damaging
Get an annulment. He won’t change.
Check is emails for dating sites…
Honestly. Make an only fans account. Two can play that game.
Join in… May freak him out or you’ll have the best sex you’ve had in awhile…
I’d be pissed he’s paying for live porn when there is so much free porn at his disposal!
what!? No you don’t have a right, the only time you can be pissed off is when he’s jerking it to girls on his social media, offer to watch it with him, bet your whole marriage will change then!! If you’re involved with him then it’s not going to lead to anything it’s going to lead to more excitement in the bedroom! Clearly he’s hiding it so it doesn’t upset you, if he feels like he can’t tell you anything then yeah he’s going to hide it!
And start saying YES more, sex is supposed to be fun and helps with relationship Intimacy, it will bring you two closer. This is your husband you guys should be able to have fun in the bedroom, try new things, keep it exciting!
Giving them shit for satisfying a need you are refusing to satisfy WITH them is what leads to cheating. Big difference between watching porn and talking to and spending time with other women lol
Try watching it yourself without him… old saying “don’t knock it till you try it!”
I have no problem with porn BUT when it gets to a point where it effects your sex life it is a problem and you have a right to be upset about it
I feel like we all have different opinions but I wouldn’t be mad about the porn I was just be concerned and frustrated that there isn’t any intimacy and that he’s hiding it. That’s a little questionable 
I would talk to him about it and see what’s going on if it’s something you can do
I’d be mad as live porn is usually paid for.
Just disconnect the f&%$# account. No computers, no nothing
If he’s paying for it he’s pathetic and you need a new man. Lol
Men watch porn, women watch porn. I’d say get over it. Watch it with him if anything. You will be amazed how much better sex life can get by watching it with him. Buy yourself a toy also. You will be amazed the amount of orgasms a toy will give you
No, you’re right for being upset. Hiding things this small already is a huge red flag and anyone who tells you otherwise is completely naive. If you have to hide it from me and lie about it, then you’re doing more than just watching porn and I know that for a fact from my own experiences. Do not let this go, or it’s going to turn into something much bigger and honestly, it probably will even if you don’t let it go. Just my experience.
You are not crazy. Porn can destroy trust and a marriage. I’m sorry that you are having to go through this 
it’s a very hard thing to go through. Other people may have different opinions but you are never wrong to feel hurt if something hurts you or is beyond a boundary line you set and are comfortable with. In a relationship communication is key especially about things like this. Some people may not care, take it seriously, or they may think that it’s no big deal, but you are not wrong for feeling hurt by it. Your feelings are valid and Porn is an immoral and devastating thing, it contaminates and twists something beautiful that was created for marriage, a procreating bond between husband and wife. I understand your feelings and have been through similar situations in the past. I’m here if you want someone to talk to 
Also lying too is not okay, especially in a marriage, I dont have any particular advice about what to do but I have a few articles I could share with you that may help. They helped me when I went through similar situations in the past
Don’t stress it happens to a lot of newly wed couples it’s natural
Ma’am if you feel Disrespected its bc you are being DISRESPECTED! He KNOWS good and well what he is doing is WRONG! There’s absolutely NOTHING wrong with YOU, and YOU have been given every reason to be PISSED! You have talked to him about how HIS BEHAVIOR makes you feel, and unless he is Cognitively impaired he striaght up doesn’t give a Fraction of a fuck about His Marriage or the Impact HIS behavior is having on it! No woman should have to BEG her husband to RESPECT her or THIER Marriage! My advice is Divorce him, Let HIM explain WHY his BEAUTIFUL newly wedded wife walked out on him. If this dude wants to be ALONE looking at PORN touching Himself GIVE HIM WANT HE WANTS SISTER, No doubt in my mind YOU can do better! And for the record, NO it’s not NORMAL, NO all guys Dont do it and YES ITS A Valid reason to leave.
If he can’t tell you about it and knows he shouldn’t be doing it but does it anyways, it is a form of cheating. Same thing happened to my relationship multiple times before he stopped and we had to do intense marriage counseling because I had no trust at all. If it’s hurting you and he continues to do it, he has no respect for you. I have spent many days bawling over this stuff and it felt like he didn’t care, one day I had enough and I left for 2-6 months. I physically and mentally couldn’t handle or deal with that pain. It takes a long time to build trust and forgive for something that so if you do go to counseling don’t expect change over night. Although you should see change in actions and you’ll see that in the way he treats you
If he is sneaking and hiding about that what else is he sneaking and hiding. Do your self a favor. Walk now not 10 years from now with kids in the mix and wishing you had left sooner
I’m not kidding I would get out I did. that crap listening to him I’ll stop other women’s number s on phone, pics. It don’t stop. I wouldn’t let him touch you he will give you a disease from one of his others. Don’t keep going. I’m so much better off now without him
Get rid of him. He has no respect for women.
That’s cheating. Go get you a new dude.
Yes be mad, I caught my husband doing this but he was actually talking to these pieces of trash on his cell phone, I stopped it by canceling his phone, his tablet services. Since I control the phone plans and the checkbook he was out of luck and I told him if it happened again his ass would be out the door.
Ever think of …Maybe “you” suck in bed??
get over it…its porn, hes nit cheating on you and hell couples go through periods where porn is better than thier partner