I was with my partner for 15yrs up until March. We have 4 children together. He never wanted to get engaged or married. I ended the relationship bc he wouldn’t do anything to help me with the kids or anything to help me around the house. When he came home from work he thought that that was his day over. No matter how many times I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling he wouldn’t listen. His attitude is the woman does everything about the house. He had no bond with the children and they didn’t bother with him back. The problem is he started seeing someone 3 weeks after we finished and now I’m unsure whether I made the right decision. Am I just feeling like this bc he is seeing someone else? Would I feel like this if she wasn’t in the equation? I know things would go straight back to the way things were if we got back. I feel like I deserve so much better. He’s coming over all the time and talks and acts like we’re still together. Is this just a rebound and is he using this girl ?
I feel for you. The difference is that he broke up with me when I was 5 months pregnant and I stayed “with him” for 2.5 years after that or so before ~I~ walked away from the…thing we had. I went into a relationship only a few weeks after, but I am still with him 2 years later and about to marry him. If he is/was neglecting your needs and wasn’t trying to right the situation, then you left for a darn good reason. It’s hard because you want to make the relationship work but frankly…he doesn’t. Stay strong. It gets easier as time goes on. I promise. You will probably question yourself about what you could have done to make it work. The answer is simple - you couldn’t do anything and it’s not your fault. Write that down somewhere where you can see it to remind yourself that it is not your fault. You did what you could. Good luck girl!