One And Done On The Fence
My son is 9 I will have another soon
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I only have one. I had two miscarriages so after that I had my tubes tied. Sometimes I wish I had another but my daughter has siblings on her dads side
I donāt regret it. Iām able to pour all of my love and attention into one kid. I know myself enough to know I wouldnāt be able to do it with multiple children.
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Speaking as an only child, my childhood was lonely, we lived in the country so friends were not close by to play with. As an adult, when my mom got sick, the pressure was on me alone to make huge decisions about how to handle her treatment and what should or shouldnāt be done I had NO ONE to consult with and it was scary for me to have everything on my shoulders dad hasnāt been in the picture since I was a baby and mom is healthy now but that was a time I wish I had a sibling to help with the decisions and I know eventually Iāll be in that position again and it scares me to go thru it alone again
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I only have 1 child, a 5 year old boy, and he is my everything. Iāve always thought one more would be good. But the way my schedule is I really donāt see how I could handle 2 kids. And I honestly donāt think my nerves could handle it.
He waited 10 years to be a big brother, and 2.5 years later theyāre still close as ever 
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I am an only childā¦ My mother was also an only childā¦ I married a Man with 4 sisters and 1 brother!!! There are pros and cons each wayā¦ As an only child I really know no difference!! But I can tell you that being married to my husband for 30 years & watching the dynamic of a family of 6 childrenā¦ I wouldnāt want siblings!!! Glad my mom and dad choose to make me and only child!!
As my mom always told me growing up! Itās okay to be a only child!!! Donāt let anyone tell or make you believe other wise! She and my father made the choice for meā¦
Not to mentionā¦ Every board game I had growing up as a child. Each game has EVERY piece to it in the original box! I am 53 yrs old!!
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I have 4 half siblings that are considerably older than me (did not grow up together and they were all adults while I was still young). We are not very close although we do care about each other and reach out virtually.
My husband has siblings but they do not visit very often.
We both are VERY close with the rest of our family (parents, aunts, uncles etc) but there are very few with kids the same as ours.
We are very greatful to have multiple kids and we hope to pass on and foster strong family ties with them. Our biggest hope is that they will be there for eachother as our family passes and they are left alone.
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Iām a only child and I love it less drama in my life canāt miss what I never had Iām also very independent
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So far I donāt regret it my daughter is 8. Sometimes the thought does cross my mind but it easily banishes, I honestly donāt see myself re leaving the whole pregnancy thing and the terrible 2ās. My daughter has two siblings from her dads side and two stepbrothers from my fiancĆ©. She loves when we have just us time and honestly I do too.
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I grew up with no sister and my only brother is not the type to hang out, heās very closed off so I feel pretty alone. My mother had 5 sisters and they are very close, they always have someone to reach out to, just thinking Iāll never have that as a sister, Iāll never be an aunt, never have an aunt for my kidsā¦ Itās pretty depressingā¦I didnāt want that for my kids, my mother said she always wanted more but didnāt want to put herself thru thatā¦ 
thanks for only thinking of yourself mom. I have 4 kids and am considering the 5th soon, they are a blessing and they love having each other. Iām blessed to have them, God helped me every step of the way because yes, it is difficult but once theyāre a little older they are so helpful.
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As an only child I hate it. It sucks not to have a sibling connection. I ALWAYS envied people with siblings. I had relied on friends way more for a sibling connection, which I donāt get because we arenāt siblings obviously, but as I got older I realized it was an unrealistic expectation on my friends. Itās hard to be an only child but I donāt know how it would be to not be one. So if your heart is set on one child then do it they will be fineš just kind of an insider perspective no judgment on what you choose!
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Iām 67, and a mom of 2 Sons. I wish I had more.
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I had a second child when my son was 10 ! He would always say he wanted to be a big brother !
The only regret was such a big age gap
I was only going to have one child but then felt guilty he wouldnāt have a sibling
They both now are 22 and 12 !
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Well I have 2 siblings but mom was abusive with me and my brother joined in, my sister just couldnāt do anything to stop it, it all ended when my parents split up, I went to live with my dad and brother the abuse continued when dad wasnāt home, on my dads side I have like 10 half siblings but am not close to anyone, since I moved to grandmas I havenāt been in touch with mom or siblings nor do I miss them, with my husbands family itās so different they have their fights but resolve it in less than a week and are close people, sometimes I feel awkward 
but I have 2 kids 5 years difference and they fight all the time, but seem to like each other for short period of times 
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I come from a family of 4 siblings my mother is one of 5 and i have 5 children. We have a total of 105 immediate family and alot more extended and funnily enough we ALL get along really well. Thats thanks to my grandparents who taught us all these ways. We never fight or argue. Everyone has their own opinions i say the more the merrier. I love family its very important to me and its how you teach your children from now on to be in life and how to treat others is how they will get along. I have 14 neices and nephews and all our kids get along so well and love spending time together. School holidays we swap kids to each house if we all cant get together etc
My kids are girl 12, boy 7, girl 6, boy 4 and girl 6months old.
I love having my only child because I can put my everything for her. I do want more children but just not right now. Iām not going to rush into having a another child because Iām not ready for another one. I want to be more prepared and settled and not rush anything. Having one child isnāt that bad. I had a very rough pregnancy and laber. And to be honest I donāt know if I can go through that again. I basically almost died .and thatās very scary. So Iām definitely taking my time to be more ready . I will love all my children fairly. Having one child isnāt bad. And if I end up not ready then thatās ok. Everyone is different. Donāt rush into something youāre not ready for.i love my only child and they grow up so fast.
Good luck dear and please donāt rush into anything your not ready for .
Weāre a one and done family, itās hard enough āadultingā and we want to be able to do cool things like travelling and let her try all sorts of after school activities. Donāt think weād be able to if we had another. But, it is hard work, you are their parents and friend, so you need to find that extra time that they would have w a sibling. Still no regrets though. Everyone is different - good luck! 
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No regrets, at all!! We have a very happy 11 year old!!
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I have one 15 yr old. Always wanted more. Still do but too old. I regret not having more but love the close relationship we have.
Iām an only child and I loved it. Iāve never wanted any siblings.
I waited 9-10 yrs between each kid because I just donāt have the patience for more than 1 at a time 
. I have an 18 yr old 9 yr old and a newborn
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I have only ever wanted one child but now have 3 to girls an a boy an there bond is amazing i know when itās my time there always stick together no matter what as I love my brother an sister an still close now I was raised great so Iām raising mine even greater
I have one child out of 5 pregnancies. Each pregnancy was quite traumatic. Wish had more children but that did not happen. Donāt like the idea of my child with no siblings or moral support when I am not around.
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As an only child myself, I have 2 children and I get so fed up with their constant bickering 
itās not something I ever had to deal with growing up which Iām glad about! My children love each other to the ends of the earth, but I aināt sad when I only have to deal with 1 at a time as others have said, theirs pros and cons for both, it just really depends on what you want as a family
Iād love to have another child but itās not working for us but I love my little girl so much I have suffered multiple miscarriage over the years and the twins I lost in 2015 left me with such bad infections I nearly died I was told Iād never be able to have child naturally or with help
Then I met my now husband and feel pregnant 7 weeks into our relationship we are blessed with our rainbow and If we are blessed with more or not itās not a big issue for me I still got the chance to be a momma and for that Iām grateful she has us to herself she has the chance to have a life filled with chances and opportunities she possibly wouldnāt have off we had other children I can see our lives with another yes I wish we had another so she has someone to play with but her cousin is a month older than her and they are so close to each other she kind of has a sister our family works for us
Never regretted my girl or the fact that sheās doesnāt have a sibling whatās meant to be is meant to be xx
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We thought we were one and done.
Our 2nd son was not planned but to be honest we couldnāt imagine our lives without him! I love having 2 boys, their bond is unbreakable.
My babe is 8 this yr and I always think about having another but single life makes it hard and I feel the gap would be too big now in between the siblings
My oldest was an only child for 10 years. Although it was easier to provide for her financially, you could tell that she was also lonely. There were no other kids for her to play with where we lived and although I played with her, I guess it wasnāt the same. She had a sit and spin that she played on, and she would gather her āfriendsā (stuffed animals and dolls) so they could ride with her. She was also always asking for a sibling to play with. She got a baby sister when she was 10 and she was so excited to have a little sister. She was even the one that named her baby sister. It is a big age gap, she is almost 16 now where as her baby sister is almost 5, but she takes baby sister on walks, gives her her old toys, watches movies with her, etc
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Four kids here. Had my oldest (13) then waited 6 years to have my next three (6,5,4). My oldest was desperate for siblings and now I think is regretting that wish sometimes when his sisters all gang up and bug him. My husband and I always wanted more than one but I can honestly say four was never āthe planā. Wouldnāt have it any other way now though.
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I wanted another child but my daughters dad left me and now Iām too scared to have another in case it happens again 
My son is 10 and is a only child and will remain a only child. My son. Told me he donāt want no siblings an I donāt have any more kids so win win lol
Iām the oldest of 10 (split family), I have a 6 year old. Thereās definitely pros and cons to both sides. Siblings keep each other entertained for sure but we also fought like hell. On the flip side, my one is easy to care for since thereās only one but the poor kid is along away from other kids often and is bored so he lashes out. I feel bad that heās gotta self entertain so often but I donāt think itās smart of me to have another one in my financial situation just so heās got a play mate in a few years, since he couldnāt play with a newborn anyway
I was an only child and hated it, so I promised myself I wouldnāt stop at one, but I was wholly unprepared for the one I had (special needs + attitude + strong willed) so I have 2 only children at 10 years apart. lol
ā¦Of course now I have a toddler and a teen, soā¦ 
My mom donāt regret it and she even mad at me for having my second saying ppl should only have one ne child which makes me think she doesnāt like my second cuz she always says I should of only had one since she only had me. My daughter now 5 and she still says I shouldnāt of had her. Cuz ppl only need one child. But me being an only child I wish I had a sibling. I am so upset with my parents for not giving me a sibling. So to me my kids having siblings are huge for me.
I was an only child and was always super lonely. I always wanted siblings. I have a son and daughter and 2 bonus girls now. They have an amazing bond and it brings me comfort that they will have each other after I am gone someday.
My son is 8 and I wish I had another. I think he would have learned a lot from having a sibling and then he wouldnāt be so lonely. Also makes me sad to think one day he could be all alone when we are gone 
My 6 year bonus baby was an only child for 5 years, she always begged both me ajd her father, and her mother for a sibiling. She hated being an only child. Now she has 2 little brothers, one by.me.and my husband and one by her mom. Shes the BEST big sister and is super happy/proud to be a big sister. Plus i had 3 brothers and i love my brothers so much, so thankful i had them growing up!
I am an only child and I hate it. The perspective of the child. My mom couldnāt have any more. But I still hate being an only child.
I think I have 6 or 7 siblings I donāt know I was adopted raised as an only child have 2 daughters now a single mom my kids fight but love each other thereās a 4yr 25 day difference I wouldnāt change them my oldest wanted a baby sister sometimes itās I canāt stand her then itās sissy play with me