Idk how that means he’s cheating. Maybe he’s watching to TRY an get hard
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Many men, in fact all will have issues with obtaining & keeping an erection at some point. It may start young but usually age 40 on. It is NOT the partner’s fault- it is normal!!! Best way is to be seen by a urologist!!! Don’t shame or blame. There are some treatments that may help if he has ED- erectile dysfunction. I was a urology RN so be sensitive—this is very upsetting to men. Don’t assume any cheating or anything else until evaluation done medically.
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The last year we found out my hubby has bladder cancer-so he can’t get it up much less control his bladder-If he’s cheating on you …you’ll find out. Just do what’s best for you-love and hugs from Indiana
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He might be addicted to porn. It can actually end up being what gets him excited and the “real thing” just doesn’t do it for him.(Which, I know, doesn’t make sense, but it’s a real thing.) Start reading up on porn addiction. He might have to totally stop watching porn and it might take some time to come back around, but eventually it can happen if he sticks to 100% not watching it. Porn addiction can lead to a very unrealistic expectation in real life, which can lead to being impotent, and may make him feel self conscious about being impotent. It’s definitely not you, it’s him. If he can’t do it on his own, he needs to seek help.
I think maybe he has a porn addiction. Men literally cannot get hard or turned on for their spouses when they have this. I’m not sure about the cheating though. Either way you should file for divorce and move on cause it’ll only get worse. Good luck!
It’s time to have a real sit down talk with him. Maybe it’s gotten boring for him and porn is a rush and exciting for him . The lust stage wears off quickly in a marriage unfortunately. Have any of your habits changed ? Try some new spicy things to see how he reacts , catch him off guard with a spontaneous sex or oral.
It been proven in studies that men who watch a lot of porn , over time they can’t get hard for their partners because it requires a lot more “stimuli”
Cuz we aren’t porn stars ya know lol
Diabetes can also cause difficulty, please encourage him to be careful.
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Personal opinion here, porn is a relationship killer. I never cared about that stuff when I was younger but as I’ve grown up, I’ve realized that any man who would rather get off to another woman than the woman laying next to him wanting his attention, does not have an ounce of care or respect for her. I don’t think you have a cheating problem, I think you have a loss of interest because of porn addiction problem.
Not trying to sound rude here… certain marriage issues should be kept from media. However, since it is here, it’s best to talk to him. I don’t know nor want to know the “spice” level. Some men watch porn cause something is missing and not sure how to approach the subject.
I’d ask him if he’s having trouble getting it up and demand him to stop being so shady and open up. If nothing changes, or doesn’t go to the doctor for his condition then he may just have a porn addiction which is most likely to not be helped so you should just divorce him.
Definitely the age to experience problems with erections. May not happen everytime or May go through spells. Doesn’t mean he doesn’t desire sex, why he’s watching porn. Please don’t cause to much drama over it will make it worse. Have him see the doctor for meds.
Maybe he’s watching the porn to try and be consistently hard when he builds up his courage to try… It’s not surprising that he’s refusing to see a doctor about it… Maybe you could talk to your doctor about ways to help him achieve his goal.
It just sounds like he’s watching porn instead of having sex with you
Kick the soft stick bastard out!
Go to the gynecologist and get tested for sexually transmitted diseases.
Ur probably not young enough for him anymore
Get rid of him quick
He’s addictived to porn!
My ex was a cheater who was also a porn and sex addict. Having dealt with all that I can honestly say I don’t think he’s cheating. I think he’s having his own insecurities. He probably is having issues getting hard or maybe he is addicted to porn. That alone will cause him to not be able to perform. Being married, you should be able to talk about these things openly. If you are not being satisfied and he’s not willing to discuss solutions then it questions the integrity of the relationship. If it were in reverse, he knows he wouldn’t be happy about it.
I have a friend who has this issue and has such a hard time keeping females around because of it, he watches porn just to try finding ways to get it up, his brain will say he’s turned on but his body just doesn’t react the same, it’s sad as he puts his all into relationships but he has a hard time in that area… I’m not saying he’s not lying but just sharing a view from another perspective… I hope for your case this is the situation
He may be stressed or maybe your too much for him
It’s the porn. 100% can ruin a sex life and a marriage. It did mine.
Maybe he’s using porn to see if anything can get him hard .
Porn and men go together
And will quite honestly
Wank while watching them
Try watching them with him
I would ask him to go to his doctor and get some blood work done. This happened to my husband with never wanting sex when he used to be a sex maniac. His moods changed totally from what he used to be. At first we thought maybe he was depressed but our doctor did bloodwork and it came back that he had very low testosterone. He now goes in for a shot once a month and is back to his normal self again . It’s worth a shot, you have nothing to lose by asking. Goodluck 
Porn isn’t good…he should be communicating with you about his libido… maybe be create a date night and have an intimate conversation with him and ask him if he watched porn…see if he admits it…
It is what it is
You get it
Get a really good toy and go to town, make him jealous. Woman don’t need men!
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I BELIEVE HE IS CHEATING ON YOU BUT WITH HIS HAND
You just got married in may and now he doesnt want sex but you two had no problems before you got married
I think he developed a porn addiction if he is watching it in the morning, every dam break, and whenever he can no wonder he isnt interested in sex and if he isnt even touching you anymore
You need to really sit down with him because its just going to get worse…you have to talk him he needs help he needs therapy…guys with major porn addiction stop being intimate with their SO and eventually start seeing hookers…
He is making excuses to see the doctor but us he actualky going…and is he saying he has a problem but in fact he does but he doesnt realize its the constant watching of porn that is causing his problems
He has to realize he has a problem and needs help…and you have to make him by giving him a choice either we get help together or this marriage is over and it hasnt even really begun and there is a problem
So do the talk as soon as possible
Hes too young for that kind of problem. Something is up.
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He’s not cheating with a person but he IS a porn addict.
Horrible horrible advice here. Best thing to do is to talk to him. Everyone here either thinks he’s cheating, he’s incompetent, he’s gay or it’s you. I think it’s best to just talk to him. No one knows your relationship besides you two. If it still doesn’t sit right seek counseling, if he’s willing too as well. If not… than there’s your answer. Much love your way girl it’s a tough road either way. 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼
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My man is 43 and I’m 28 and this us well now he left me the day I had his son!! But still