Does anyone else get bored in their relationship after a while?

(5+ years) We love each other but I get bored with sex...bored doing the same things every day...talking about the same things every day? We both work, go home, take care of our toddler etc. Barely have time to go on dates. Tried to "spice things up" in the bedroom but there's no "spark" anymore. He's always the one to initiate sex, because my sex drive has been super low lately. I'm just wondering if any other couple goes thru this and what you've done about it.
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If itā€™s like that the relationship is over. Even with a busy life,after 20 years together that spark if itā€™s a neutral feeling like the first day should never go out. Me and my Mrs have been together since 16 and now 44 and everything is done together and the affection love sex multiple times per day is the same as the first date.

I donā€™t have a toddler but 6 years with my hubby and it happens from time to time. Just try your best to do small things to make it interesting again

If youā€™re feeling bored with life in general then try a new hobby or a new fun hairstyle or something before you decide youā€™re bored with your husband. Maybe youā€™re just bored with yourself. Or maybe you could try changing up your routines, you know, instead of ā€œmeatloaf mondayā€ you could try a totally new dish and cook it together? Instead of the same old TV shows yā€™all always watch, do a movie night. Things like that. Instead of yard work do an at home spa day together. It also might not be a bad idea to take a few personal days here and there. Let him go fishing or camping or whatever he likes to do and then you go have coffee or bruch with your girlfriends. Like one weekend each month is your weekend to yourself. Since you have a small child, you could take turns. Remember this above all: your happiness is in YOU, not someone else. You know the saying, ā€œIf youā€™re bored than youā€™re boring.ā€ So instead of thinking about what youā€™re unhappy with, try looking at the many ways youā€™re blessed. Good luck.

Yes. It happens to EVERYONE (possibly a tiny tiny percentage are an acception) but most definitely get bored. How would it NOT happen?? Itā€™s day to day life, not an everyday adventure. Even our vows said for better or worseā€¦ bc there WILL be worse.
Just gotta get creative and not give up bc no matter who your with that WILL be a part of the equation.

All relationships that last have these moments. Totally normal. A good relationship, takes a lot of fucking work. One of my jobs is a Mama, one of my jobs is a Personal Trainer, one of my jobs is to keep my relationship hot and strong. Busy lives and the routine of everyday life can be exhausting. But I always make time to work on our relationship cause it means so much to me.

See a doctor for a regular check up, maybe your sex drive is low for a reason you can fix. Low on something your body needs. Hit a sex store, spice things up. Plan a date night where you can leave work and the toddler alone and have together. If you are building new memories and doing exciting things, you have new stories to talk about not the same old boring ones.

Iā€™ve been with my Bf for 10 years. We almost fell apart a few years ago because of this exact reasonā€¦ we both stepped up cause our relationship meant enough to both of us. Itā€™s a full time job, but the pay out is greatā€¦ :purple_heart:

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Iā€™ve been with my husband for almost 10 years we have two daughters, the best advice I can give you is change things up make sure you make time for each other, we take our daughters on our dates and honestly itā€™s so much fun we get to be kids again by taking them somewhere fun (trampoline place, zoo etc) where we can all enjoy our time together.

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Your low sex drive could be caused by depression, anxiety, birth control etc

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If your sex drive is low, have you gone to the doc to see if something is wrong?

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Come to an adult store and let us help you :heart::heart:

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Have you ever talked to your partner about that? I think better communication helps with getting what you really want out of a relationship by being honest. You never know your partner mite be feeling the exact same way or worse! Talking about sex and what you really like and want and whatā€™s too far with your partner, should really help improve your relationship togetherā€¦

Iā€™ve been with my husband for 19 years we have 3 kids, 15 and 13. It happens, but u have to communicate that that is how ur feeling and u have to make an effort to change it. For us, we go to the adult store, watch porn, flirt more, when we r in the mood even if itā€™s in the afternoon we make it a point to step away to have our moment.

Have u told him ur bored? That might be a great place to start. Tell him what ur into, get a vibrator and spend some time alone if I donā€™t already. And like the others have said , if a low sex drive is not ur normal maybe talk to ur doctor.

I feel like this is completely normal in every long term relationship.

I think is tour hormonesā€¦ happened to my sister a while back

You should see a doctor

Commitment is staying when youā€™re bored

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I am a mother of 4 kids and I never keep things boring, we are always changing things up in bed, from position, to outfits and diff. Places around the house. Try a sex store and order some sexy lingerie.

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My sex drive was zero when I was on the implant birth control. Got it out and things went back to normal not long after that. But talking to your Dr can help if itā€™s something else.

I think everyone goes through the dry spell of a relationship. Me and my husband did. It was awful. We hardly had sex much less time for each other. Then we started do dates together. We would go and just get a bottle of wine and an appetizer and just sit and talk. He opens my doors for and makes sweet jesters towards me. Itā€™s so nice. We have been married 14 1/2 years have 5 kids that r mostly grown. We now have sex everyday sometimes twice a day and we r both in our 40ā€™s. If u want it to work u have to put forth a lot of effort and be willing to try new things. Itā€™s tough with kids but it does get better the older they get.

Iā€™m going through that now. Iā€™m 30 weeks pregnant with our 3rd. I have 2 toddlers at home as well. Between the kids and all my dr appts itā€™s hard to find time for adult time. By the time we get alone time Iā€™m exhausted and I feel bad for my husband. But he understands. With my last pregnancy from the moment we got a positive test I didnā€™t even want to be touched. Which is completely normal. Your hormones change so much after you have kids. Even if itā€™s not sex try to find time for one another. Rent a movie go for dinner and if money is tight like it is here, we put on a tv show and make food at home. Cuddle on the couch. Yesterday we took 15 mins or so and just slow danced in our living room.

Try 16 years together and the last 2 years have been so lonelyā€¦ Your hubby doesnā€™t feel anything anymore. No love, no affection, just nothing. :frowning: I feel Iā€™m in a relationship with myself.

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Try going on a ā€œfirst dateā€ he leaves to get u flowers and picks u up from the house, dress up nice, flirt with each other like itā€™s the first time your going on a date. Then go to the movies or for a walk in the park til late.

18 years and 3 kids. I got so bored. I divorced him and regret it to this dayā€¦:pensive:. Worst decision i ever made. I miss my soulmate :broken_heart::cry:

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I have the same problem, but even if im not in the mood for sex, a couple times a month i just put on a sexy nightgown, and offer him ā€œsexy massageā€. Not all the time, but most times just rubbing on him and just being near him in that context puts me in the mood, or atleast puts me in the mood to do ā€œotherā€ things for him.

No, my relationship with my husband has lasted 32 years. Yes if it Is a little difficult to not be bored. But weā€™re doing good

I donā€™t know I have 18 1/2 years in with 3 kids 12,15 and 18 all in home sure u have some boring times but thatā€™s life with anyone! I canā€™t imagine life without him he is 10 years older then me so we are 39 and 49 we are both super busy owning a large house with 3 kids and many hobbies in between everybody however we always make time to keep relationship happy and parenthood happy but we are not perfect def we do sometimes fight which is rare but we do but we have excellent communication so maybe thatā€™s why year 19 doesnā€™t seem hard at all

Try the two week thing. Me and mine have been together for a while but every two weeks we get a babysitter (even though we have teens) go out have a dinner together and some alone time at home.

Wow only 5 years, you should still be in the honeymoon phase. If you feel nothing for him, do something to change that tell him how you feel before one of you cheat! Good luck and if you committed to making it work do all you can.

Yes long term couples everywhere go through this

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Talk to a Dr to check your hormone levels and maybe seek a marriage counselorā€¦

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Pick different things you like to do write it on a piece of paper place it in a jar and on every week say Sunday you take one out and you have to go do it. It could be a picnic or walk, swim, skywalk, movie, what ever you wrote down and no you can not change it.

It could be due to menopause that you loose interest.
Take care and good luck

Omg-yes, to all of this.

All relationships have a patch where itā€™s boring you just have to work on it

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Whatā€™s your fantasy? Tap into your kinky side- you have noticed that things are standing still but do you want to change that? Enjoy each other, life is short. Start by doing some exercise 3-4 times a week. Biking, walking, swimmingā€¦get yourself some energy first and get those endorphins flowing. Regain your energy and your beautiful light will follow to spark things up in the right direction.

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Low sex drive. Spk to gp and get thyroid levels tested

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Go to md, and get your hormones abs thyroid blood check.

Shared mutual interests. Couples grow apart if they donā€™t develop some shared interests eg excercise, reading together. Shared activities where you both experience personal growth helps but ultimately we all get bored eventually.

Swinging whilst not for all can add some variety into a relationship. High risk

If u have a good man. Id get over the im bored. I can tell u a good man is hard as hard as hell to find. Life single. Gives new. Meaning to the word bored. Sounds like u need to deside if its worth the effort to u. Or not. But when u cut lose a good one be sure u are ready to watch him give that to someone new. Cuz he will

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you have to work at it get excited about being alone while kids asleep take a shower pamper yourself put something a little naughty on . do a dance.

If youā€™re trying to spice things up ONLY in the bedroom that may be the problem maybe try other areas to have sex in, outside the home in the car, quickie in the garage something in a different area not only the bed in a room

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Also try non sexual related bonding time. Soak in a bubble bath together,wash each others hair, massage each other. Cook together and cook each otherā€™s favourites,try new dishes. Go for walks together, take bub to the park and have a picnic. Thereā€™s lots of ways to re ignite the spark. Sometimes we just get in those little ruts of work, housework,kids, repeat. Spice up your whole life by doing new things together as a couple and with bubs.

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Are you sure youā€™re ā€œboredā€ā€¦ it sounds a lot like me before I was diagnosed and treated for depression.

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The problem here is youā€™ve lost connection due to the monotony of life and not prioritizing time together. Going on dates and making time for only each other is a necessity to a happy marriage. Arrange child care and plan no less than one date night per month. A happy, connected, and fulfilled marriage leads to a happy home.

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Have your self tested for thyroid issues. Some of the symptoms are low sex drive and depression. Feeling like your in a never ending circle.

Iā€™ve gone through this. It sounds like you both are just uninspired and have lost touch with your individual selves, which is what attracted you to one another in the first place. You guys should try rediscovering yourselves individually and then make time for one on one dates

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Maybe you need to see a doctor. You could be depressed or have a hormone imbalance.

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How exactly will your life IMPROVE if you leave him and get with someone else?

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#adventurechallengecouplesedition

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So i just ordered thisz read reviews, now tonfind the time to do it. Every relationship gets ā€œroutineā€ ā€œboringā€ Im hoping this helps

Date nights are a must. If you canā€™t go out on a date night try watching a movie after the baby goes to bed. You could also try having a ā€œdate nightā€ in the back yard. You have to stay connected. Iā€™ve been with my husband for 16 yrs. It is not easy you have to communicate. There will be ups and downs you have to get through them if want your marriage to work. I have been there trust me more than once but at the end of the day I love my husband and canā€™t imagine my life without him.

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Yes I was with my childā€™s father for 7 years and left him a year and a half ago.

I was not happy anymore. He worked to much and was a drunk and we had no time for each other. I took care of the baby most of the time.

He always wanted to have sex but I was not sexually into him anymore. I had to finally separate myself from the relationship.

One of the hardest thing I did. But I did it. I see a counselor once a week and it helps me so much.

Our relationship got really boring over the years. I felt bad for leaving but Im happy with my decision.

Iā€™m happier than ever and we co parent really well.

Do whatā€™s best for you Mamas. Either way you will be fine. PROMISE! :white_heart:

Um thatā€™s just messed up.

Relationships are going to get boring but you have to find ways to keep Yourself connected to each other. Iā€™ve been with my man 10 years And we have 2 kids And we both have jobs but we just Make time for each other when we can and we talk about things communication is a big thing Talk to him about how you are feeling And I know a lot of people said it already but date nights words just you and him focusing on each other are a big thing

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Yep. And I know I have been depressed also. Not sure what one came first.
But we have worked together and lived together for 10 years. It def gets boring.

start new hobbies something alone and something together

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Send pics, dress up, spontaneous sex rather than just at bed time, have Date nights at home :heart:

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I was married for 61 years .Yes , you will have
times like that. Never stop loving each other.Things can change at a blink of an eye.

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Guess if he all of a sudden dies from canser you wonā€™t be bored anymore, Get over yourself and make him your priority while you still have the chance

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The way I see it is, if your board off this guy then you will end up board of the next guy, every day Life gets boaring no matter who you are with but what I always find that helps is knowing I can sit there and end up board with the person that Iā€™ve had the most fun with weather thatā€™s everyday or most days. We all get board but itā€™s best to figure out weather you wanna be board with that person. And as for the low sex drive that can rather go up but in most cases it goes down for ladies after kids. And if the sex life is down a little and he isnā€™t complaining then it should be you to spice it up, even suprise him with a few things you would like to tryā˜ŗļø

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Talk to your doctorā€¦maybe hormones, some depression ,could be anything,

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Stress could be a contributing factor. Definitely talk to someone and get to the bottom of the change in sex drive.

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No, weā€™re great friends as well as lovers. We dirtbike ride, shoot, race cars, axe throw, go to rodeos and do family stuff with our kids. How are you bored?

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Be thankful u have a partner as mine deceased I wish 2 God I had my partner back

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Iā€™ve been married for 13 years it happens time to time. When u have kids. And we have 3 it happens. Try new things. Make date nights. Watch anime together. Or a movie or anything. Play games in the bed room. It works but dont leave over this it will pass.

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Yes just be bless that you have a man to come home and enjoy you and family and you start different things in bedroom have a little pick next outside one day my daughter use to put rose leaf on floors leading ing into the bath and both took a bath together. Try different times donā€™t be shy dress sexy for him when he comes home try you have nothing to lose

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Been with my spouse for almost 10 years. We have our ruts, but once a year we go out to an adult store. He will buy something for me to wear. I also will go get something from Victoria Secret or a naughty store. I am also 6 months pregnant with our second child. I am tired from working, helping with our preschooler, social life, and ect. I know we know we need a date night, but we do make time for each other. It is just everyday life. Another idea take a mini vacation just the two of you. Get away from the everyday life stuff. We went hiking in Hocking Hills. No cell phone reception in some areas. It was so nice to reconnect with each other without technology.

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There could be a medical reason for that see a dr to rule out medical issues

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First go have a complete health check. Yep us girls have been known to be a little ā€˜under parā€™ and a good check and a chat does wonders!!

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Look up Ted Talks by Ester Perel for more information on what you are experiencing. She offers understanding and advice on how to tackle the issue.

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Talk to your doctor maybe hormones out of wack there are things they can help with for female sex drive

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Well if think what it would be without it. You will really appreciate what you have get help

what you feeling is not normal. the bond between normal couples is like that of mother and child. time cannot decrease but rather increase the bond. you just need to check your hormonal balance

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All relationships go through this.

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Yes I just deal with it

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Yes, everyone gets bored at times, but we make sure things donā€™t stay boring. Married 49 years.

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To be honest Iā€™ve been through the same thing with the sex part. Try something different. You barely have time to go on dates because you decided to have a child. Children can be a lot of responsibility and take up a ton of time. You can still go on dates. You just have to find a sitter. But as for the main question, try new things in the bedroom. It could help.

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Remember being his Girlfriend? Do that!

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Try a different hole.

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Check any meds you are on for side effects such as this. Could be a simple fix

Both of you swear off sex for a month.

When you married you made a covenant to work things out together.

Iā€™m with my husband 33 years and I feel like that

It sounds like you guys need a holiday !

For sure work harder.

Itā€™s just a phase it will pass

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Yes thats why Im single

Try harderā€¦make time for each other.

There are different phases to every marriage. The last phase is thoroughly enjoyable because you have stuck it out with a partner that you share memories and a family with. Every relationship will get old and stale, but you need to work at it and recreate that spark periodically. Having a toddler can be tough and likely will put you in a slump (female more than male). Ask your partner for patience and understanding. Lastly, always talk to your daughter when it comes to a decrease in libido.

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Not every day is going to be a fun filled whimsical day. Your priorities change. Stress, kids, every day life can be a cause. I am now 9 months pregnant, before I was pregnant & the earlier stages our sex life hadnt changed much, it was still the same, hot & heavy. The closer I get it to delivery, isnā€™t that way anymore. My feet & hands have swollen, just walking is a chore & I become so tired, so quickly just doing simple every day tasks. We still have great sex but it isnā€™t always what it used to be pre-pregnancy. Iā€™m a firm believer that sex isnā€™t the only type of intimacy! Iā€™ve grown closer to my husband in the other types of intimacy since sex isnā€™t always an option/comfortable. And YOU HAVE TO MAKE ONE ANOTHER A PRIORITY!!! My husband and I have been trying to save up $ since his paternity leave is unpaid. We sat down & had a long conversation, I told him leaving has NEVER crossed my mind. I love him, he is my person and my best friend. But I was really lonely, I love our pets & oldest child but itā€™s hard when heā€™s gone. :heart: We made a planā€¦we go on dates, sometimes those dates arenā€™t out of the house but rather a bonfire & smores, then a movie inside with popcorn. Sometimes itā€™s a nice restaurant. :heart:

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Talk to your doctor. Could be hormones

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Try pure romance the company helped me n bedroom

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Every relationship goes through this. You both have to make a genuine effort to make each other a priority. Toddlers suck all of your attention and energy. But make plans for date night. Get a hotel room for the night, even if you just soak in the tub and watch TV itā€™s just fantastic to be alone together. Take a cooking class, go bowling, wine tasting, sip and paint class, beer making class. The possibilities are endless with a little local research. Remind yourself what it is you love about your chosen life partner. All couples go through highs and lows. Keep strong and fight for your relationship. Good luck! :blush::+1:

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Yes. Toddlers take up a lot of oneā€™s feminine energy, which then needs to be replenished. Fifty years ago I formed a ā€œplaygroupā€ with other mothers where we did exchange babysitting. After the kids got used to it we even exchanged weekends. That would give you time to go camping with your husband etc. however 50 years ago, none of the married motherS I knew had jobs outside the home.
Low sex drive can be diagnosed and treated with medication now.

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Iā€™m extremely bored every day & night with man I am married to I sit alone all time

Make the time to have date nights! We get into a routine and stop feeling sexy and important to our partners. Find the fun for your relationship again. Life is never 24/7 perfect in a relationship. Being married is work. Never take each other for granted. Figure out your love language, and his. Communication is important!

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