Nah eff that. Divorce him. He wants to do whatever he wants to do unrestrained but still wants to be able to bang you is honestly whats happening and that’s extremely unhealthy for kids to be in the middle and witness to that.
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Tell him he can come home and you will leave. You can go stay with a friend or family member because the extra living expense is creating a financial burden on the family. Then go find you another man bc he aint it!!! This is childish narcissist behavior run while you can and don’t look back.
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Sounds like he is just tying you down while he play around. If he truly wants to work at it, he should be or come home to do that… dont fall for it, if he can’t choose, he’s already chose. Just playing with you.
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Throw the whole man out
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Get read of that s.o.b what a looser he don’t no ball
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So basic line is he wants the fun but no work??
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Some couples do separate bedrooms some do separate homes 
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Divorce unless he willing to work on your marriage together under the same roof
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A house divided cannot stand
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Never been through anything closely related. I can tell you without a doubt , he wouldn’t be using me for his sexual pleasure during weekend dates… Nope
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He wants to date you😳Yea ok. He already left. Hes working on his Plan B while you wait around.
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Honestly ,no…it will not work…esp if he needs space…give him all the space(change the locks) …u can do it …I promise…believe in yourself.
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tell him to shit or get off the pot. I say get smarter than you are.sound like he is a control freak.?its his way either way.lol hell beat him to an attorney .
He’s got someone else, plain and simple. Hence the new place, trying to sort things out, blah blah blah. You’re only his back up plan in case his new chick doesn’t work out. Leave him and keep moving forward with your and your kids lives. He’s not worth it, girl.
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That man is just hanging on to remnants because of kids and guilt and because of the years spent together but thats familiarity not love
He’s going to leave once his conscience lets him, his feelings have changed so be wary of believing his words
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Sometimes they have someone else they cant make up there minds who they want
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I’d like to try this but my husband won’t hear of it. Some things happened and I would love a separation to process it. We’re both part of the problem. He thinks he’s faultless.
we as women tolerate alot. but we also deserve so much more. and your not getting that. seems its all one sided
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He wants to have his cake and eat it don’t let him use you like that it’s make ur mind up time
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I would personally consult with a lawyer.
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Schedule an appointment with an attorney ASAP. You need to know your rights.
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Definitely not…can’t have two different lifes as and when he wants
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ALSO- get Your money out of the joint savings. He might spend it all. I am one to take what is mine. Leave his money there.
100% you can… there is no such thing as a normal relationship… each person is diffrent and never feel what one person is doing should suit everyone… I live separate from my partner. We lived together for 4 years and have lived apart for the last 5years. It works so much better for us as I like my own space and so does he… we see each other most days still but I can just get on with running the house and looking after our son without thinking I need to fit around his times too. I do me, he does him and then we have our life together too… we never argue now, we have disagreements but they are resolved and compromised are made…
It works for us, some my friends and family think its strange and you can’t be happy ect. But we love it and it works for us which is the main thing… im finding he stays more over at our house now too as the years are passing so who knows on the future maybe we could live together again but for now its what we needed… there is no wrong or right way to have a relationship, you need to find your happy medium and just because your husband wants to move out dosent mean he dosent love you… he may actually be doing it because he loves you… he may need some time and feel less under pressure as he may be struggling a bit and having some time out from the family home could have a great effect on his mental health where he can sort what he needs out and may come back home permanently then. He may feel tense and arguments may be happening at home ect… you may not argue but I’m just giving examples…
There could be numerous reasons but by supporting him on this it could make your marriage so much stronger… I understand you may feel lost, lonley, confused and have many questions… so him moving out may make you sad but him staying could do the same. Its something you both need to discuss and find your happy medium… maybe he stays couple nights a week to start with or just have dinner couple nights a week… respect each other and each others decisions but make sure you tell each other how you feel about the situation and what you would like from it. Dont argue over it as its feelings and everyone has episodes in life where they just rather close the door and forget about the world… Once we have taken some time out we feel bit more refreshed to deal with situations…
Sorry its prob all jumbled what I’m saying due to my dyslexia but I’m hoping I’m coming across OK and showing its ok if its needed right now… I live through it and its the best thing for us. Like I said so many reasons out there so dont take reasons ive said as gospel but for some examples I’ve placed some down…
Please feel free to DM me or comment here for further info on how we have our relationship for 2 houses… there are always negative and positive points with staying or going but being open minded really does help. Xx
I think he wants all the fun of a single life and be a husband or dad just on the weekends,
Just Get divorced, if he really loved you he wouldn’t have left
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Sounds to me like he has something on the side and you’re getting played. He can’t make up his mind and like other ladies have said, you’re his back up plan. He’s testing the water with someone else honey. I know that sucks and hurts but trust me you can go find yours too!
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He has checked out a decided what is best for himself before thinking of your feelings or his children’s feelings and the impact it has on you. Ask the questions. What was so hard about living with his own children that made him decide this was the only option?
Its an unacceptable thing to do. Having his cake and eating it is shirking adult responsibility. He made this cake called the family but he wants a donut, leaving you with the financial burden and physical burden and responsibility of eating the whole cake yourself. It’s unfair and it’s not ok. Seek Counselling or call it quits. You deserve 100% support and 100% love from your husband and you should be able to give him 100% love and commitment as well.
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“It’s cheaper to keep her “ - the ex- husband said that to me.
I still divorced him and it was the best decision I ever made 
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Sounds pretty fishy to me.
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No way would I put up with that. Hope you sort it soon x
I think he has met someone. Sorry you’re going through this!
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I would retain a lawyer and explain the situation. They deal with disillusion and child support and you’ll be able to get information specific to your circumstances & location.
I wouldn’t wait. Good luck.
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He would be paying child support and spousal support while he lives”lovingly” elsewhere
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If you believe that you will believe anything. He wants you on a weekend when he can not get laid. Take your money and run. You do not need a man who has no respect for you. He helped make these children so he should not be abandoning them when things get tough.
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He might love you but he isn’t IN love with you
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Don’t let this toxic man destroy what’s good in you, tell him not to darken your door nor your life. Move on, without him, all the best.
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My granny and pawpaw lived separately for 20 years. They were just fine. They argued when they were around each other too much. They never divorced or separated.
Sure it may SOUND like a lot of things people but we do not walk in her shoes or his. Putting in opinions is fine but alot are slamming the cheater role on him…he may be but there is a chance even if it is small, he isn’t and he really is working through something. I myself would talk to my preacher or sister through Christ…and I would pray. Good luck and God Bless.
Cut him loose & get divorced. He obviously does not want to work at your marriage anymore. Best of luck🙏
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Walking out is not working on it. He can’t have his cake and eat it too. Sorry deary but I’d hit him with an ultimatum and just do me for awhile. He’s had enough time to himself. It’s your turn. If he wants to work on it later, great. If not, atleast you didn’t waste anymore of your time. Don’t let him string you along like this anymore. You deserve more.
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He has someone else and is using you. I experienced this and my ex just said he wanted to move out for same reason. He had mistress on the side. Get a lawyer and divorce!!
Sounds like a smart man…probably wouldn’t keep dating you though…go get a lawyer…see how that goes…he might have the upper hand 
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I have a great friend whom him & his wife decided to live separately & they are stronger & happier than ever now. I guess it depends on the mind frame
Me and my fella have been together 20 yrs, we were not getting on so he moved into a mates in january this year, he works all week so we just see each other at weekends, and its working out good so far!! We talking about moving bk together (we been living together 19 of said 20) But dont want it to go bk to where we were, i guess only you and your partner will be able to decide what works for you both, i do wish you both love and luck xxx
The Lord sent me one of his Angels, I can’t sleep without knowing she’s next to me ever night.
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Ditch the rat! Doesn’t even have the decency to be truthful. I feel sorry for you and your kids. That selfish prick is going to have a big impact on your kids future x
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He has something going on OR wants to start something with some one else. Using you. Get the divorce. He can support his children and you and figure out how he can live his separate life alone.
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The min he signed that lease means his time he wanted for himself was long term he’s expecting you just to be there on weekends while he has his cake and eats it no im afraid im with most people on here hes playing you for a fool get the upper hand and walk away for your own sake
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I do think some relationships can work living separately but the fact that he signed a lease on somewhere else within 2 weeks of ‘needing space’ screams a red flag to me. In my opinion it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it.
Maybe he just needs the space to see how he feels without u around, this will either make u stronger as a couple or break u both, only time will tell, know one truly knows what they have till its gone, hope all works out for u both
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He could have just moved into a different bedroom…sounds like a divorce is coming
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He might be trying to be slick …he can prove you’re self sufficient without him in the home then he can go ahead and file for divorce without giving you anything ! I know it’s not all about money but people do the most craziest things when they’re getting their ducks in a row for the future! It’s one thing if you both decided to live separately and wanted to actively work it out but it seems like that was a one sided decision ! I say , you just need to prepare properly and get your ducks in a row on your end!
Devil’s advocate… The last 6 months my now ex and I were fighting horrid. He had suggested while I was still living there that I go stay with my mom for a bit… I was way hurt thinking what be everyone else was saying yours is up to. So I declined and stayed. Shit got way way outta hand one night I took our 2 year old myself and my dog to my grandparents. A little more than a month later… I’m absolutely hitting my head against a post. He’s as good as done with me and now after stepping back… Have learned I was acting like an asshole literally a good majority of the 3.5 years of our relationship. Had I taken his suggestion as then… I may not be explaining to my 2 year old he just visits dad now and that isn’t home anymore. Sometimes a step back is not wanted but needed. If he’s saying he still wants to work on things and he needs therapy… My opinion he’s telling you he needs you to trust he needs a bit of time to focus on getting his mind right. I didn’t even realize how bad mine was until I spent some time away from him. If you’re worried about another woman being an issue face that conversation and explain if that’s what it is then either you decide to let him figure that out, or you decide to end it.
Everybody so quick anymore… And I get it most people are garbage anymore… But it MIGHT actual be a benefit. As far as financial… Discuss that and maybe try giving benefit of the doubt that he’s NOT out to hurt you. I wasn’t out to hurt mine throughout our relationship but I was and not seeing/understanding HOW cause I was focused and only seeing what I was dealing with. Biggest mistake of my life so far and pretty good chance I’m not getting a do over.
All these comments instantly going to end it all… This shit is why relationships don’t last anymore. By all means know you’re worth… But might be a benefit for you too.
He wants to have his cake and eat it too … in other words he wants u not in love with u dosent want another man to have u but wants his freedom to root around … and his taken a new lease that’s at least 12 months !!.. nope sorry no grey areas in or out … his just got his foot in the door while he checks how green are the pastures over the fence!!!
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Agree Deidre Bird protect yourself your children and your financial future
The questions on this page can’t be real 
. Seriously 
No… You and your children deserve more respect and solidity… NO
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He just demoted you to girlfriend. Peacefully move on.
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Cleverly done by him it seems, kids bouncing between you so no need for maintenance etc… Gets his cake on the weekends to and clearly lieing if he’s signed a lease as that’s planned for longterm?..
I’d just seek some advice if only to save your finances.
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He just wants his side peices and his family too… imagine what he’s doing that you don’t know about at his place …don’t let your kids visit over there don’t encourage his behavior tell him to move back or your getting a divorce
My exhusband tried to do this, when I called him out on how rediculous it was, it turned out he had been sleeping with my good friend and was trying to figure out who he really wanted. I’m a give you infinite chances kind of person but moving out isn’t going to make it better. That’s not working on anything.
I would start seeking a divorce attorney if I were you. He left you for a reason
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Depends on what has gone on… distance isn’t always unhealthy… is the love still there? Is the support??? Sometimes we need space… just because we love someone doesn’t mean our entire life becomes theirs!!! Is he showing you way’s he can trust you??? I hope so 
Do not give him the time of day. He has someone on the side…
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He’s leaving the home = leaving YOU to take care of everything while HE does whatever he wants. Noooooo. Don’t know the whole story (mid life crisis) but I would see it as he either has something going on or not sure if he wants to continue the relationship aka marriage… don’t be an option. I would scream 
GOOO! And if you’re strong enough to do this, tell him you might not be available when he makes his decision
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Me and my husband live separately for the most part and it has definitely helped us
I would take this time & play his game as you get your finances in order. Find what you can before he hides it. Then give him all the space he needs.
No one who really wants to work on a marriage signs a 12 month lease because “he wants space”.
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I think we would miss eachother so much, I cant see it working, for us. We are best friends and we love spending time together. Id say he’s out the door and not coming back or has someone on the side.
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You should contact an attorny now.
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Wanting to move out instead of taking the couch isn’t love or working on anything.
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Its possible he needs space. when yall got together was it rushed? Do you have a mutual trust?
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I hate to say it but I agree with some of the other comments. He is seeing someone else and trying to keep things convenient for himself. If you don’t file for the divorce, keep your eyes open.
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Your first mistake is coming here to ask what you heart feels of. What one persons way of isn’t the same as what y’all have going on. Build y’all’s own walls, if it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t. Everyone is different. Every relationship is different. Build it how y’all need it to be. And everything will fall into place, or show y’all other wise.
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The moment he moved out this is the date of your separation… there is no “let’s live separately and I still get all the perks of being married to you” hellllll NO!!! Go get a lawyer hunnie you need one 
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Kick his ass to the curb.
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There’s always a reason. Don’t be made a fool of. It’s very disturbing !
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Me and my partner have been together for 6 years. I’m now pregnant with his child and we seem to have a weekend relationship. It works for us as we have our own space. But he will always be at the end of the phone of I need him.
The only answer you need is a good divorce Lawyer. Dont allow him to win beat him at him game.
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It’s guilt that is causing him to say he wants to work it out. He hates himself for leaving but probably is going through a mid life crisis and likely has someone else. Don’t sell yourself short on this. No real man does this to his wife and family without ulterior motives. Pretty selfish !
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Get your bills paid off- get your name off any of his bills
See a lawyer who offers free consultations-
Think
Don’t react to emotions right now
Think
Get it together before he “comes to the conclusion” that it just isn’t going to work for him anymore
Take care of you and yours 
someone is having his freedom with someone else. just divorce and get over it.
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100% he is cheating on you !
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Even though everyone is different, this isn’t fucking it. You don’t just move out and ADD MORE BILLS to the bullshit because HE needs space. Girl contact a LAWYER and get a fucking divorce. He don’t love you.
I’m sorry…space is maybe a weekend away by himself or a week in a hotel to be alone with his thoughts. Not a year long lease and his own bachelor pad.
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Sounds like a bunch of bullshit. Do not let him do this too. File for divorce.
Give him the kids every other week. Tell him you need alone time too. If your only a short distance away then he can get them to school or daycare just like you can.
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No REAL MAN I know would do that and that’s not love! 
He just made you and yall kids part-time 
Go seek a divorce lawyer and make that move out official.
He’s either bipolar or he has another female or either he’s not done being single.
A boy’s nite out is what most men do to have a lil me time or go fishing or some shit like that
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Get your affairs in order and contact an attorney. He’s gone just hasn’t admitted it yet.
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This is exactly what saved my relationship with my fiancee we finally worked through some major problems and when we were where we both were happy again and we were in the process of moving him home for good he was in an accident and never made it home. So yes space can make a marriage or relationship stronger sometimes people need space to work on themselves. I feel if it was anything different he would not have moved so close to home
Yes I’ve been married 21 years, living separately for three, it’s been good for us x
He don’t want to call it separation but that is what it is. You are not sharing the matrimonial bed or house.
What games are he about. Seek legal advice please.
He want all the rights of a husband and as a side man to himself. Date nights? No ,something fishy.
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CONSULT AN ATTORNEY ASAP! ONCE HE MOVED OUT OF THW HOME YOURE SEPERATED! ID highly recommend watching Dirty John: the betty broderick story on Netflix. Youd learn a whole lot!
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Honey, I wish you the best that this works out for yours and your babies sake, if that’s what you want. However, I think you already know that answer.
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Anytime a partner request space your relationship is done. Just call and tell him you got a Lawyer
Honestly that’s how my husbands grandparents were. Happily married over 50 years. But they lived in different houses. But when she became severely ill. He stayed with her all day everyday in the nursing home until she passed. I’m not saying all scenarios like this are common but it is possible.
Time to get your divorce attorney better you file first
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Divorce him! My ex did this to me and I trusted him. I was blind and didn’t know he had a girlfriend. After we divorced and his friends learned what he did to me (he told them I kicked him out) they told me how much of a snake he was. He would take what ever woman around them and then a few weeks later he would have another woman. When the friends questioned it he said, “you know she won’t give me a divorce.” He used being “still married” as a reason to not get serious with any woman. The minute they would say the word “love” he would say “I’m still married and she won’t grant me a divorce,” then dump them for the next woman. So RUN, he is gonna try everything to make you look bad.
Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. He should file for divorce if he has moved out. He made a vow he should honor it.
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Oh honey…… ‘he needs his space’ is bullshit. He has another woman o planning on getting one soon. Living in another place is being separated. This was not a very last minute decision. He already thought about the kids to ‘bounce from house to house’. Leave his ass. The next step is to tell you that you are responsible for your house expenses because he has his own now. Please put some respect on your forehead and love yourself enough to quit paying his game.
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I’m sorry for the situation… BUT… he JUST wants to “date” on the weekends… when you all have have three kids together. Hell nah! Tell him BYE BYE! You can do better!
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