Do what you want but it’s probably a good idea if he’s there so he gets to bond w the child
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At the end of the day, you are the only one who can make this decision. Labor is a hard, exhausting time as well as mentally and emotionally draining. I’d having your mother there is going to be less stressful and more helpful than that is what you should do. If he was that worried about it he would have tried harder from dqy one. Go with your gut girl, it’ll never steer you wrong
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It’s ultimately your right to choose who you want there. If you don’t think he’ll be a good support for what you’re going to endure, I wouldn’t have him in the room. You’re definitely going to want someone in there who will help you out. If you don’t think he’d rise to the occasion, I’d choose your mother. You’re not telling him that he cannot be there at all, so that’s one thing to try to explain to him.
A right? No. Would it be a nice thing to do since it is also his child? Yes. But if you aren’t comfortable with him there then that wouldn’t be good for you or the baby to handle that stress during the delivery.
Nope. It’s your choice and not his.
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no, its completely up to you
It is YOUR choice. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT UNLESS YOU SAY SO. YOUR BODY YOUR CHOICE. It doesn’t matter if he has been the best support system during the pregnancy or not. It is your choice.
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If he didn’t care about all you’ve had to do about the care of your unborn baby why should he be in the room. Put your mother in there and then have him come in afterwards. After all he said he’d sign the papers saying he’s the dad and giving it his name. And he will also be paying you child support. And you better make sure he does. He didn’t help out before.
There’s tons and tons of evidence and research that shows that if the laboring person is not comfortable with he environment (including people who are in the room) it can slow down or even stop your labor. If you feel more comfortable with your mom or anyone else, that’s your choice. I would personally allow them to be at the place I’m giving birth while in labor but not in the room until after baby has been born.
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Yes let him see the horror
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He doesn’t need to be in the delivery room to get to sign the application for a birth certificate as the hospital provides the proof of birth paperwork before your discharge for you to apply. The father can still be in his childs life without seeing you all sprawled out and in pain for delivery unless its c-section or having an epidural administered. YOU are the patient registered so whom you want in the delivery room is up to you and you alone! Perhaps your sister, Aunty, Mum, bestie can be your support person and if you allow it can take after birth photo or video with you and bubs in it and a copy to daddy.
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You have the right to not have him there, have him there or insist he leaves during the delivery. It’s up to you. Just keep in mind that you should be doing what’s best for you and the child now.
After the baby is born your sole focus should be what’s best for baby.
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I would not had him in room he can hold baby right after it is born
No way do u have to have him there, tell him to feel free to wait outside, a nurse can get him when ur both all cleaned up and refreshed, do not like him bully u in to having him there, good luck with little one xx
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Childbirth is hard enough without added stress. If you feel like your mom would be more supportive, just let him know kindly that he can visit once baby is safe because you’ve already promised your mom.
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No…your no longer with the dad.
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Maybe have your mom in there for the labor part to help you through it then as you get to the pushing delivery part switch and have him come in. He wants to be involved and I feel it’s important to allow him that moment as well
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I understand your mom might be your support system right now, but without having “got together” with this man, there wouldn’t be a baby at all, so be fair to him and let him be involved in the birth of his child…especially since he wants to be involved in the child’s life. Your mom didn’t make this child with you, he did.
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No offense shouldn’t be a choice it’s his baby just as much as it is yours… he wants to be there should let him.
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I couldn’t imagine purposely choosing to have my babies father not in the delivery room. If there is a safety issue that’s one thing. But watching your child being born is incredibly amazing and could change his life for the better by realizing he has this sweet little baby to care for and it would reinforce to him that he is co-parenting with you. I’m surprised at how many people are downright set on HIM missing HIS child’s birth. It’s a life changing event for everyone involved.
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Absolutely not, you’re the patient, you call the shots.
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He can wait in the waiting room. He doesnt need to be there for the delivery. He has a right to your child but not to you so until that baby is fully delivered, he doesnt need to be there.
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Do what feels right to you, you are the mother and you are the one that have to push this baby out. But just set down with your mom and baby’s daddy to talk it out and come to a decision together.
I wasn’t with my sons father when I was giving birth. However, I did let him in the room because I was not the only one who created that life. Just because we weren’t together, I wasn’t about to be bitter and have him miss his son entering the world, you only get to experience that once. Your child will never be born again. In all honesty you do sound like you are being a bit bitter because of the break up. But you’re going to have to learn to co-parent and make decisions together for your child. If you feel like he is going to stress you out then you need to communicate with him and let him know how you are feeling. This is a big moment for the both of you. And if its his first child I highly doubt he would want to miss it.
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No. If you are not together.
Hey it’s totally up to you who you have in the room, but don’t feel at ALL guilty if it’s not him…my daughter had me, her Mom both times. Whoever you’re more comfortable with. I would sure be going after him for child support once the baby is born…
I think the father has a right to be in the room if as u say u think he will be a good dad.He needs to bond with his baby.
Ur Mom will be a great support in the days following the birth
He should not be in there.
Nope!! I wouldn’t even call him until after the delivery, you can definitely decide when that will be. make sure your mother is very aware of your choice and voice it to the nurses. they will not allow him in there. If he comes he will be held at check in.