This is long. So my fiancé and I have been together for a little over five years. I have two kids from a previous relationship, and he has two as well from a previous relationship. When he and I first got together, he was able to pick his kids up every day until evening and then would take them home. Winter came; the mother stated she didn’t want them out in the cold so much so he could only get them every other weekend and that he didn’t have a choice. After this happened, court papers came in for them to establish child support and custody. She was granted physical custody (he didn’t know what it meant, and the mediator talked him into agreeing to that), and visitation is based on mutual agreement. Well, she only allows him to get them every other weekend. Every time he asks for extra time, she states they have plans. He hasn’t been able to get them on any holidays either. She is always switching up weekends to suit her needs as well. For example, this past Father’s Day, we asked if we could please keep them overnight so they could be with their father, and she responded, “no, I’m taking them to see my father for Father’s Day.” She is always screwing him over with his time and puts her side of the family over him. This past weekend he was supposed to pick the kids up on Friday (July 2nd), and it was his daughter’s bday. Well, since it was her bday, the mother said she had to spend time with her nanny. Whatever so we picked them up Saturday. As soon as his daughter got in the vehicle, she said, “I told momma I wanted to be with y’all yesterday, but she said I had to spend time with my nanny.” This upset us. Fast forward; the mother stated she wanted them home very early Sunday (July 4th) since they had more “plans.” After bringing them home, he confronted his ex about the time that is being taken from him. He asked her if he could start getting them on Wednesday-Sunday so he can at least double his time during the summer. She said she would see. Well, they took it as him having an attitude. Her significant other got in his face screaming at him, telling him he is a piece of sh*t father and that she is 100x a better father than he could ever be. She asked him what he ever does for his kids. All because he doesn’t call them throughout the week. She explained he needs to understand his time has to be cut shorter sometimes so that they can spend time with her family, and since she works late, so she doesn’t get home until they go to bed. But how is that his fault? He only gets them every other weekend as it is! He is a great father and gets so upset because it is out of his control. Child support takes pretty much half of his check every week, so we cannot afford a lawyer. Would he have a chance at fighting in court without a lawyer? He wants one week on, one week off. He knows she won’t allow it simply because the child support would get lowered. His kids always ask why they can’t come over more and always say they want to live with us. They are only 7 and 5, so I know they can’t speak for themselves in court. We are fully capable of being able to care for the half-time. I do not understand why she doesn’t see that’s what would be in the best interest of the children. Do you think he would have a fighting chance without a lawyer? We are in the state of VA. Oh, him and I have one child together and have another one on the way. So they are also missing out on being around their siblings more often. When he tried getting the child support lowered for having more kids, she told him that her kids shouldn’t have to suffer just because he decided to have more kids!! My fiancé is so lost and upset, not knowing what to do. He obviously has to take her to court but always gets shot down when he goes. They also told him good luck if he takes her to court because they have “dirt” on him. He isn’t abusive and doesn’t do anything wrong. They are always well taken care of when they are with us, so we have no clue what they mean by that. He just needs some advice and see if anyone else has ever been in a similar situation.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Does my fiancé have a chance of getting 50/50 custody?
Get a good lawyer and go back to court
Yeah. Go back to court. ASAP
If you can’t afford a lawyer look into just filing for mediation through the courts. It’s cheaper and can make it so she can’t do that to him and it’ll be court records she’s denying his time
Go back to court …document everything and the court will do visitation times…
If you haven’t already, start documenting “everything” including her excuses for cutting his time!! Make sure you have that with you with dates etc when you go back to court! I would most definitely get a lawyer! A father has parental rights as well!!!
You don’t even need the lawyer. The courts love good dads. Change it to set days and not “upon mutual agreement”
My husband’s an amazing father and my stepson wants to be with him too, but his ex wife CLAIMS he was abusive NO EVIDENCE we have evidence against HER, but the judge didn’t care because she has a lawyer and we don’t. And the judge always sides with her. We went from 50/50 to 3 hrs every other Saturday and on holidays too. Wisconsin is a MOM state for sure and the kids get screwed. She is ruining her sons life and doesn’t even care bc she’s bitter, wants control and money bc she doesn’t work
When your asking for more time do everything through text messages and document everything and bring it to court all her excuses.
He can represent himself. Just make sure their is proof that he is trying to see his kids more and that she fights him every time. Document every thing. Date time who said what. Record if possible. Text so there is proof.
Should be no reason why he can’t get 50/50. Probably just need to hire a mediator yourself
He needs to go to court. If she isn’t abiding by their court ordered agreement then he needs to push it. I would also call her and record phone conversations asking for more time that way if she denies him he has proof of him calling asking for extra time. Also document when she asks for him to send the kids home early. He also can refuse to send them home early if the court documents state that they are to be returned at a certain time. Document everything!!!
Sounds to me like she is in contempt of court as she is not even sticking with the court order. Get a lawyer and record everything
Strength be with you all, I hope you can smooth things out. It’s an uphill battle, for sure.
Mediation should not be forcing one party or the other to do things. They are supposed to get parties to compromise if it cannot work in Canada it goes on to court.
Write everything down times and dates, and any type of text messages you can get between him and her keep them. She’s super in contempt of court too taking away his time if it’s court ordered so you can definitely get her on that as well.
Unless there is a court order specifying specific times a parent cannot withhold a child from the other the judges call that “playing judge” and they highly frown upon it. Every time a request is made to see the child document it. Yes there is a huge change for 50/50 depending on age as well usually school aged children judges prefer to keep child during school week in one house hold and weekends on other house. A lawyer is 100% needed even an affordable one like half price lawyer.
Document everything.
Have him communicate with her as much as possible through text, so he has a record of things.
Consult with an attorney.
I hope everything works out for him.
There are lawyers that you can go to and they’re based on income you just have to look for them
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!! Phone calls, texts, when y’all drop kids off, when you pick them up. Take her to court and have an actual visitation schedule set!!
Lawyers are expensive but that’s your best bet to deal with her effectively. Try for a small personal loan to help pay if possible
Get a pro bono lawyer, and document everything, calls, emails, texts, even interactions with the other party (record) and take it with you to court. Also request a no contact order, this way you do not have to deal with the other parent. The child is droped of 15mins before hand by one parent at designated place, and picked up 15 mins after by the other party. This will be monitored by the designated parties, and if any party is late or not doing thier part, it can be taken back to court.
Document everything and take her to family court. No reason why he shouldn’t get 50/50.
I don’t know what state you are in but the state I am in DOESNT like 50/50 because then the child has no real home base. They are forever shuffling back and forth. However, you don’t need a lawyer to motion your case back into court and get a solidified visitation agreement based on the fact she’s not giving him a reasonable amount of time. That would at least get you every other weekend, one weeknight, every other holiday, and a few weeks during the summer.
Call your local legal services for help with a lawyer. Modify the original agreement, per the kids request, cut the child. support get the tax deduction too.
He should have never agreed to sign the papers. Very hard to undo what is already done. My son has his 2 every other week no child support. She agreed to it,fast forward a year later and she wanted to move 2 hours away and give him every other weekend and him pay child support. Didn’t happen and she didn’t get to move either.
document the dates and times of all the things she says and does, all the stuff you just said, the times she has not let him take them on his weekends, has to bring them back early etc. Do you live near her? If so there is no reason he shouldn’t ahve 50/50 custody, he should also be able to alternate holidays with her. It doesn’t look good if she doesn’t get home from work until their bedtime. You really do need to get a lawyer and if you can’t afford one then get a court appointed one–of course not sure in a child custody case they do this, if your income level doesn’t qualify for that then get a loan or whatever you need to do!! Once you get a court date, they will have the parents attend mediation first and hopefully then you will get a child advocate who will do home studies and recommend to the judge what he/she feels is in the best interest of the children. I really feel though that your best bet is always to get a good lawyer!!!
He can file his own motion to change the order himself at the courthouse without a lawyer. They should have the forms at the clerk’s office. However in anything that has to do with child custody I highly suggest going to see a lawyer and hire one, see if you can find one that will let you do payments. Save up to get one if you have to. As everyone else said document everything the best you can. Every time she denies him picking them up or cutting his time short.
He needs to document everything with…
Day
Dates
Times
She sounds like a piece of work 
sounds like you have a very good chance! keep files of everything!! times of everything as well anything at all it really will help!
If he is a good dad as stated then he really need to try and get a lawyer or else her lawyer is going to get what they ask for and as far as 50/50 there is a very low chance without a lawyer and also sounds like her new man is the one manipulating her to do this and they do not want to give up that child support so there is no way unless he gets a lawyer
Try to get a lawyer some will let you make payments or sometimes you can get some college students that are studying law to do stuff for free . There’s no reason why he shouldn’t be able to get them every other Holiday and his full weekends
Most of the time they won’t lower child support just cuz he has more kids. She needs to make plans around his time, not DURING it unless he agrees to it. He might have a chance but his best bet would just be to take her and demand his days are his and get a specific holiday schedule
You need to start documenting everything. Use our family wizard to communicate with her. Every text message, etc holds up in court that is done through this app. Get a lawyer & get the kids a guardian ad litem (GAL) that will speak to the judge for the kids. If they are in school, they will more than likely give primary/weekly custody to the parent that has them enrolled in their school district. During the summer though, they should be able to come over whenever. That’s really ridiculous that she doesn’t let them! I let my 8yo go to her dads every single time she asks or her dad asks for her (or if his girlfriend asks for her) because she needs her dad just as much as she needs me & I want her to have a relationship with her other siblings, too. My 4 & 5 year old don’t have a dad (he committed suicide) but I’d give anything for them to have a daddy! As far as child support, I’m not going to say much on that other than, regardless of how many children he has, he still has a financial obligation to help support his oldest two children. I know you aren’t saying he isn’t try to pay CS at all & I know you might think it’s unfair but CSS does give “the most” to the children that were born first. At least they do in my state. I’m sorry! I really hope that you guys get more time with them.
This is very sad! I’m sure the father is hurting in this situation, but the main ones being extremely hurt are the children 
from experience of similar things as a child, seems to me that the mom is using the children to hurt and control their dad. Things like that never go well in the end. All she’s doing is causing her kids to have hurt feelings towards her and she’ll be the one to pay for in the end. As an adult today, me and my dad are very close and sadly I don’t have a very good relationship with my mom due to the things she done during my childhood.
I know my comment doesn’t help the immediate situation, just wanted to give you and your fiance a look into what the future will be if their mom doesn’t change the way she’s doing things.
Praying for those babies and y’alls family 
Not alot of judges will do week on week off. Especially if kid is in school. Standard custody is every other weekend and wed. Been thru this twice
If there are court papers that state when the father is to have the children then it needs to be followed if it is not being followed he needs to take her to court. Don’t wait for them to do it, don’t speak to her about taking her to court, get your information in order write up statements that you can submit to the court. Providing dates and evidence that the mother is keeping the kids away on days that they are scheduled to. You can find parenting plans for your state online, fill one out stating days you would like to have custody and sounds like you should shoot for 50/50 custody if things like living near or within the same school district and all that being taken into account.
Lawyers r very expensive yes. But u need one to get what u want. Period. The price u pay is what you’ll get. We unfortunately learned that. R 1st lawyer only costed 1500 for entire case. My fiance basically lost his kids to their mother and got them only 4 weeks in summer. They lived in IL us OH. He paid over 500 a month for them in cs. It was very hard time. Kids always wanted to live with us. They were 6 and 3 at time. Skip to 2nd round of court. We got a good lawyer. Top 5 lawyer in r county she was extremely expensive. We spent over 7k for her. However. After long fight he got them full cousdy and mother now has supervisted visitations. Bc how much she had piled on. She never worked with the court or GAL We got. Never paid a penny. And didn’t show up to court nor called. Failed drug test every time. She played alot of games and r lawyer finally got the courts to see how she truly was. The judge order a in court hearing with both kids who were 7 and 4 at time and they both stated where they truly wanted to be. After total of 3 yrs of fighting we got full cousdy and it’s worth every penny. I guess my point to all of this is if ur willing to be broke for a min for fight of his kids then your outcome will be worth a top 5 star lawyer.
What county are you in? I am a Family Law Paralegal in Virginia.
Sorry in cali they must be 12 to speak up in court and I wouldn’t allow it its pinning a child against one parent he needs to for custody hearing but do not make kids take stand.
First off, if he wishes to seek a modification, y’all should get married first. It looks better for ‘stability’ for the children. Get a lawyer and a guardian ad litem. Document everything. Holidays should be split equally. He should automatically get them for Father’s Day and her for Mother’s Day. For split custody, you both have to be in the same school district or be willing to drive them daily. Sorry you’re going through this. Sounds like she is spiteful.
Unfortunately it sounds like you wont get anything without a lawyer because it sounds like they have plenty of money since she can afford a nanny.
If I were him I would go to court once every 3 years to fight to have support lowed with no lawyer. If you can get the support lower you can afford a lawyer. Next I would fight in court with or without a lawyer once every three years for the kids as well. If you get shot down at least the kids knows he tried and he loves them and he is willing to fight for them. Next: She asked what he does for them? This is important. Does he offer to take off work if kids are sick? Does he offer to take kids to doctor appointment? Does he offer to pick up from school? Does he do stuff with them when he has them? Does he make sure the kids have a good time? Do the kids have some of their own stuff at your house? Do the kids have a bedroom and a bed at his house? Courts normally do home visits. If he dont have a room or a bed for the kids he won’t get 50/50. He will still most likely get every weekend, or something more than he has now. Also when she does follow the court order you NEED TO HAVE TO file contempt of court. Once a judge sees she breaks the law or is in contempt of court all the time she may lose custody due to that. If he really wants to see his kids more best Route to do that is file contempt of court charge on her. Lots of them. Keep prefect record dates, times and exact words said. Never NEVER lie to the judge. You will get caught and it will hang you.
I’m no help here but good luck babe you are going to need it in the long run you’re gonna get what you wanted and those babies want keep fighting for them even if you don’t get what you want and the kids are older they going to see how much fights he had for them 
Go to your local juvenile and domestic relations court and file for a motion to ammend visitation DONT TELL HER because if she beats you to it the judge will likely favor her side. State in the motion why you want visitation changed (everything you just explained here) She will be served and you/dad will go before the judge any judge in their right mind will see he is paying like he’s supposed to and wants to be apart of his children’s lives more no judge will deny that. It will then be ordered by the courts once its ordered if she pulls that oh they cant come this weekend or doesn’t work for me or we have plans blah blah blah she’s in violation of the court order and will be held accountable for doing so (violation of court order is a class 3 misdemeanor in va when it comes to visitation). So file that motion and get those babies they deserve to be able to know their father you and their siblings. Id also ask while motioning for one week on one week off visitation to have child support adjusted I know many parents in VA. Who have this arrangement and pay 0$ in child support because of caring for the child during their weeks. She could be civil but she wants to be salty show her salty gets you no where and it’s just hurting the kids in the long run. The judge will see it. Good luck
He can go and get 50/50
He should have a state schedule to follow for visitation as is. Typically when it’s left to agreement there is a clause saying if an agreement isn’t met schedule a, b, c whatever of the principal county dictates visitation.
If he does nothing wrong don’t be threatened by the claim. Just file with a lawyer outlining the 50/50 and first right of refusal. That way he can watch them instead of a sitter if possible.
ask the court for a child advocate they will interview the kids and deem if they can speak in court or not on their own behalf. If not the advocate will voice what is best for the children based on the interviews
Also keep all evidence of her being difficult so a pattern can be shown if needed.
I can’t see the other comments due to my internet issue but he is allowed to petition for child support modification so he can file for that and also for placement modification. Let their “dirt”
On him come out and just handle it head on (not saying he has done anything). A lot of folks claims crap but there ain’t anything to use. Judges see it all the time too. Just lay out your game plan for the kids and how it will benefit them. Also if she isn’t even home until they are in bed, I just find it ridiculous they can’t be with you guys more. They deserve to have their needs to be met over their mothers “plans”. Father’s Day is for your fiance and not her dad with regards to the kids. That is absolutely ridiculous. It’s one thing If he was working and couldn’t see them
Then she made plans elsewhere but that is a holiday for their dad and not for her to dictate.
Have his papers ready and every time she refuses document it and if he needs to call a sheriff. She is breaking an order by the court. She doesn’t get to do whatever she wants. This isn’t how it works. What a bitch!! I fking hate women who do shit like this!!
I would go 50/50 without a change in child support at first. Let the judge know you want too always support your kids. Then let her try and mess up on the visitation slap her with visitation violations every time. Then 6 months to a year down the road ask for a modification in child support
I’d go back to court with or without a lawyer
You really think his previous kids should get less in child support because you guys chose to have more kids??? Wow. What a joke… He agreed to giving her custody, now he regrets it and wants to fight it. Most judges will not do one week at each house. That is so incredibly disruptive for a child. He should get every other weekend and one evening a week. That’s what is standard. No child should be dragged from house to house every week.
All I can say is record everything, the times she rescheduled ,the times she cancels , the convos with children saying their wants to you . Voice record aswell as written.
Oh, no girlfriend. The children can absolutely speak for themselves in court. Take it to court anyway. Court is free, all you have to do is show up, have proof, document everything about her SHIT behavior. What a terrible person. I hate women who do this to their kids.
50/50 and joint custody are two different things.
50/50 means they have to split everything. Usually Sunday though Wednesday after noon with one parent then Wednesday Eve to say night with other parent. Which means which ever parent kids are with is responsible for getting kids back and forth to school on those days. Opposite parent picking kids up at school on Wednesday. You’d have half of each holiday. It’s confusing for the kids no real stability. And if parents are in two different zip codes. It won’t happen at all.
Joint custody is more common. Custodial parent gets them all week and non custodial gets every other weekend and they get every other holiday. Half of summer… etc. It’s really what ever court ordered parenting plan says.
Depending on state it’s usually 12 and older before kids have a say on court.
If there are already court orders then go and file for a modification. If you’ve already done that and the courts are still on the mother’s side of things and has not been changing anything then you may be on the losing end of the battle and could possibly mess up the visitation he has now to a supervised visitation. You can ask for child support to be modified but unless the income of both parties changes they usually wont modify it. Doesn’t matter if you are having another child from him either. It may also be beneficial for a modification if y’all were married. Apparently it shows “responsibility and togetherness” on his part. However I dont agree with the whole institutionalization of marriage as being a “stability and responsibility” thing. A lot of judges look down on that if one isnt married with children. But anyway good luck.
First off document everything. And petition the court for a change in the parenting plan.
Physical custody in some states means residential… first find out if that’s the case. 2. Yes he can go back and file for joint custody and get more time with them. If he didn’t lose any rights, he can always go back and file for joint custody and visitation. I always suggest to go prepared. Take a calenders with you and highlight the days starting from father’s day. Alternating birthday and holidays. Weekends. Including Halloween. Easter. July 4th. Summer time. Uninterrupted 30 days. Holiday break. And also… go to LabCorp and take a drug and alcohol blood test. When you send in the court papers. Send in the results with them. And state that she is a narcissist and is trying to lie to the courts so I want to have proof of anything. Document everything. Text messages. Facebook. Everything. And take them with you.
His financial responsibility to the children he has with his ex do not decrease just because he decided to have more children with you.
Go fight for 50/50 as long as you can care for the children and take them to school when in your care you are capable of 50/50! Don’t let them or any lawyer tell you any different.
He needs to file a visitation order. Typically there is a self help center at the court house with nice older ladies to guide you. Or depending on income legal aid. But from this day forward DOCUMENT EVERY SINGLE CONTACT. Get the app Mighty Text. It will sinc the phone to your computer and save every single text so that even if you lose your phone or their delete it off your phone they are still on the computer and you are able to log in and print them up and take them to court to show as evidence. Lol It saved my ass during my divorce and custody hearing. You are going to want to have all the evidence you can get. Try to make sure that no conversations are over the phone verbally unless you get an app that will record them such as Google Voice it’s just easier to have all conversations in text that way you can print it and file it with the court.
But once you start the process of filing don’t you ever stop until you get what you want.
Go for 50/50
The mother of his children is just being selfish
Wait…yall been together a little over 5 years but he has a 5 year old child with his ex…Girl bye…This is y’all karma coming for ya…
You might wanna do a background check on your 'fiancé ’
The 'dirt ’ they have on him may just be how he does YOU and your children dirty later…
Why can’t the mother see that there’s additional help when she works so the children can be with him/you.The bf sounds like he’s over stepping granted is he is there. I wish more dad’s were like this and its not about the parents, if you just discus the kids it shouldn’t get personal and they will be happier with all co parenting. Good Luck! Xx
Have him bring everything piece of paper(printed out from text,email,fb messages)back to court and show the judge.The judge will not be happy at all.She and I’m sorry for this,is being selfish.
If he agreed to this in mediation and it wasn’t by a judges hand then it shouldn’t be a problem to file a modification. Everything done by mutual consent is allowed to be addressed again after a year in my court papers. First it goes through mediation again, and if the parties don’t agree, then it goes to trial. I would think long and hard if you are able to care for two extra children half of the time though. A lot of dads think that moms are collecting a couple hundred dollars a month and living in the lap of luxury, but raising a child is sooooo expensive. I pay more for my 3 month old’s daycare per month than my SO pays his ex wife in child support for two kids. Having to rent a bigger place to accommodate them, childcare costs, medical care, food, entertainment, clothes, extra utilities adds up. “Pretty much half of his check” will be gone no matter what you do.
I love a man that pays child support and is divorced, and I knew what I was getting into from the beginning. Make sure you are making this choice for the right reasons. This is coming from a mom with 50/50 and gets no child support by choice. The court wanted to award me primary custody. I asked for 50/50. I’m not an anti-dad crusader.
Collect evidence, time and dates, and honestly just go through a lawyer, only legal way to make her stick to her word and what in the children’s best interest.
If y’all cannot afford a lawyer google “Legal Aid” in your town
He needs to get a lawyer and file contempt. Hopefully he’s been keeping track of the refusals.
I think he should at least try taking her back to court the week and week is what’s usually done here.
If there is a court order, even thru mediation, of his time with them, and she alters it WITHOUT HIS CONSENT, she is in contempt of court and can be jailed.
Yes, make sure he documents everything and keep asking for more time.
Document everything that happens. Be very detailed on everything. Also there are apps that help with keeping track of things with the other parents like messages and recordings but always make sure to let her know when you are recording. I would really check into the papers he has cuz usually its stated in there for what parents have. I’ve never heard of visitation being up to the mother or mutual unless either something happened with the dad or he agreed with the mom of having said mutual visitation. You don’t actually need a lawyer to go after her for more time. I would even request a guardian for the kids in court and maybe counseling so this way they look at the best interest for the kids and the children would be able to tell them they want more time with their dad etc etc etc.
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My step dad has a lawyer but still only gets his kids every other weekend 4 days out of the month and has 2 pay child support he lives in Cali… he does get ever other holiday though…
Get your children a child advocate for court, and get all your paper work and facts right and he will have a good chance to at least alter the arrangements
Go file for a change. In VA they always ask for mediation first, and he needs to stand behind what he wants. If they can’t come to a conclusion at the mediator, then off to court. Mediation costs money, but it’s split between the two parties and the agreement holds the same weight as in court. Judges would rather see mediation than constantly be in the courtroom. Also, depending on where you’re at in VA, the courts are leaning more towards the dad. There’s no harm in going to the first trial, really it’s a pre-trial, and seeing the feel of it. And go from there. An attorney may be expensive, but most will work with payments (other than the retainer). It’s worth it for the kids.
I would attempt the courthouse. This is unfair. Definitely try to see if you can get legal aide so you can get an attorney!
Go back to court. Redo parent plan.
They’re just empty threats; go ahead and take them to court…make sure you keep notes on everything she says and does, such as changing plans, threats, and anything else that you can use in court…note times and dates and every excuse she uses, also write down things your kids say too
If your not the parent stay out of it . It will only make things worse and second he can take her to court . Not trying to be ugly in any way just been there and it’s not helpful by haveing step parent or any one else involved just let the mom and dad handle it .
He needs to take her back to court and he needs to stand up for what he wants. None of that sounds fair and I’m shocked that’s what the agreement even is. Look into legal aid or lawyers who take payments.
Keep a journal of all the times he tries to contact them and take screen shots of all text messages of her turning him down do this for a few months to establish a pattern that she is intentionally keeping his kids away. Also, download a phone call record app that will record all calls btw them. And when he goes to drop them off in person tell him to video the drop offs turn it on and stick it in his pocket
I would document everything and petition the court for more visitation
See what legal aid is available and maybe see if he will keep child support the same if she will sign a paper for one week on and off?? If that works out for a while(6months) then go to court for a CS mod., I know that seems like she is still getting what she wants but sometimes you gotta take small steps to get there and to show she is only wanting the money.
Definitely get a lawyer for any custody battle. You can get legal aid. He definitely has a chance for 50/50
Custody has already been said and done. The only way somebody could take those kids away from their mother now is by showing the court system she is a bad mother. And that’s not the easiest thing to do. Sometimes you can take them back to court and fight for the fact that they’re not complying with the visitation. But it must depend on where you live because my husband’s ex-wife didn’t have to bring the children to the visitation if she didn’t want to. From that point forward I didn’t give a damn if he paid or not. Normally the judge goes for the mother and that’s the way it is.
Try apply for legal aid. From there, get the lawyer
Ask for a guardian ad litem first thing when you petition and at pre-trial. You can write the request on the petition.
Go to court and ask to revise the parenting plan !! The ex sounds very controlling and if he is a good dad and wants time with his kids who is the ex to say otherwise? If his kids are not in any danger and they WANT to spend more time with their dad they should be able to…
If she’s not letting him see them or get them on assigned weekends/holidays he can take her to court for contempt of child support orders….also file for a review….documentation is key.
What do the court papers say about visitation? She has to go by it or it is contempt of court also Father’s Day is always to be spent with the father I would charge her with contempt and ask judge for 50/50
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Does my fiancé have a chance of getting 50/50 custody?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Does my fiancé have a chance of getting 50/50 custody?
I wish my sons father would have wanted to c him. She should be happy her kids have a father that cares, loves them and wants to spend time with them. Good luck!
The court usually gives the father every other weekend. That was my visitation agreement in the divorce. Joint custody and he gets Every other weekend, he never picked her on the days given by court, but that’s the agreement anyway, From Friday night to Sunday, the court also gave my ex Wednesdays after school for a couple of hours. We didn’t have a lawyer.
You might be able to find someone who can work as an advocate. Document EVERYTHING. He has a chance, but it’s going to take a lot of work.