I had my second weaned by 9 months due to health problems. It doesn’t make you a bad mom. You can always just supplement with formula too,rather than completely weaning if you’re just not comfortable with it yet. Pumping is difficult because the more you pump the harder it is to keep your supply up, and if you do wean your baby off breast milk it’s ok to feel bad and miss it afterwards as well as feel relieved. I went through it and your not alone
Absolutely not!
There are options to try to increase your production if you DON’T want to switch to formula just yet, but you absolutely have to keep up with it.
But you absolutely would not be a bad mom for switching or even supplementing.
Fed is mandatory, you can’t starve your baby. Don’t feel bad if you want to switch. 
There are tons of moms who feed formula from Day ONE. Whether it be because she cant breastfeed, can breastfeed, chooses not to. A good mom isn’t defined by formula or breastmilk. That is the least of what defines a good mother. Breastmilk is great, but formula is NOT bad. Please change this mentality.
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I carried my daughter around literally 24/7 attached to my boob when she was a baby up until 6 months. I really wanted to breastfeed but I felt I wasn’t producing enough and I couldn’t handle carrying her around all day anymore. That’s when I decided to make the switch. My daughter and I have an amazing bond and I don’t regret for one second switching. She’s now a happy healthy thriving 6 year old 
don’t feel bad mama do what’s best for you and the babes, you will know what that is 
Not at all! Fed is best, don’t stress yourself over the source.
Absolutely not! Fed is best no matter how you do it: formula, breast or donor milk.
My girl was formula fed the whole time and she’s amazingly perfect. My son was half breastfeed and half formula from about 5 months on, also amazingly perfect. Fed is best, you’re all good Mama!
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Omg never a bad mom. I decided formula before my son was born because of my anxiety. He is a thriving, chunky 25lb 8 month old.
Happy mom=happy baby
Of course it DOES NOT make you a bad mom. Good moms feed their babies whether it is formula or breastmilk. if it is a good fit for both momma and baby then it is good. Don’t stress about it. You do what’s right for you and your baby. 
Absolutely not!! You are not a bad mom…
I’d be interested to know how much she is pumping, why she is pumping, how old baby is and is baby being pace fed.
Not at all!! If you want to keep breastfeeding, push through and you’ll do it! But if not, that’s ok!! And you can do both!!!
Not a bad mom at all!!! Fed is best. Do what works for you and your baby!
No you’re definitely not a bad mom! I had an unplanned c section and my supply did not come in right away. Not to mention my son had difficulty latching. I saw a lactation consultant, was taking all sorts of things to boost my supply, and tried pumping which I managed to do for the first few weeks but the stars didn’t align for breastfeeding to happen. My son has had formula since he was born and he is flourishing. Fed is best! Don’t let anyone shame you for doing what’s best!
Hell no. You do you girl. What’s best is taking care of your child. Breast or bottle doesnt matter. You do what is best for your family and yourself. If this is what you want to do then embrace it and go for it.
Fed is best. Point blank period. Anyone that tries to tell you differently is an idiot.
FED IS BEST!! I breastfed for a month. My sons latch wasn’t right and the hospital wouldn’t help. Once I got help he got use to a bottle. So I pumped for 3 weeks and then dried up. He has been on formula since being 2 days old but that’s because my hospital nurses just wanted to do what was easy for them. My son is completely healthy and happy.
Trust me I cried when the hospital gave him formula because I felt like I failed already but then I remember that food is best for my baby and that I’m not failing.
I know its hard not to feel that way but trust me food is what’s best. There is no shame in switching to formula
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My baby is 5 months and on formula. After being discharged from NNICU he just could not latch, I ended up having to pump all the time. By month 3 he did not want breast milk and I was shattered. I had to introduce formula and stopped breastfeeding. He is doing very well.
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Oh god, please don’t feel bad, it makes those of us for use formula as an option feel like we’re doing something wrong. Whatever works for you and your baby, as long as they’re getting fed that’s all that matters
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I couldn’t even produce and I felt like such a failure for my little girl. But the formula is great! Shes happy and healthy and perfect according to her doctor. Formula fed is not bad!!! Its a life saver for mom who cant produce or dont produce enough. Breast isnt best. FED IS BEST!!! Do what you need to do to care for your daughter
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This is what is wrong with the world 
this whole stigma around breast feeding vs formula feeding… no, it will absolutely not make you a bad mother for formula feeding
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Absolutely not!!! Excuse my language but f**k anyone who makes you feel that way!!! You have to do what is best for you and your baby and if that is formula feeding then so be it!!! As long as baby is happy and healthy that’s all that matters!!!
I tried breastfeeding but apparently my daughter was rejecting it so we had to switch to formula. It doesn’t matter what anyone says that is your baby. As long as that baby is fed, that is all that matters. Besides you’re always gonna have that “I think im a perfect mom” trying to tell you what to do. Tell that person go play in traffic & leave you be.
Mama, Fed is best! You do what you think is best for you and your baby!
Please don’t feel bad. Our beautiful son is bottle fed and he is a happy and healthy 14 month old boy
Fed is best! Don’t let anyone guilt you into thinking otherwise.
I wanted to breastfeed so bad with my youngest. My older ones were all different stages of preemies that I pumped for. But guess what, preemies don’t need as much as full term babies. And at best pumping every 2 hours I would get 2ozs each side. I just don’t get a supply.
My second night in the hospital I was in tears delirious from lack of sleep. I “knew” my baby wasn’t getting milk from me. So I asked them to take him overnight and feed him. The nurse the next morning said it was a good call, because when they weighed him, he was down 9 1/2% of his body weight. The hospital intervenes at a 10% loss, had I waited 1 more day, he would have been dangerously over that.
Your newborn constantly cluster feeding and crying IS NOT NORMAL. It means they aren’t getting fed enough. And some women don’t get a supply. Don’t let anyone bully you saying otherwise!
I continued trying to nurse for 30mins, followed by pumping for 30 mins every 3 hours, for a week when I got home. The stress of it was insane. The lack of sleep even worse. My older kids suffered, my newborn suffered, my mental health suffered. My nipples and breasts hurt to no end and were cracked and bleeding. And finally, one day, I said f*ck it. I’m over it. I can’t do this. And from the very first formula only bottle feeding… that very first hour of my 3 hour increments I skipped nursing and pumping. I literally felt better, the stress was gone, I felt happy. Switching to formula was literally the best thing I did.
As my sons discharge doctor said when I guiltily told him I asked the nurse the night before to give my son formula said “You know, there’s a movement out called “FED is best” which, to me, sounds and a lot better than ‘breast is best’. Most of us doctors, we were raised on formula, so don’t let anyone guilt you into believing otherwise. You knew your baby needed it before our staff did. They would have let him starve another day before intervention. That’s all you should need to know to realize you are being a good mom.”
Switching to formula so your baby is fed and no starving makes you a good mom. Ignoring your babies cries of starvation to meet some personal or social breastfeeding standard would make you a bad mom.
Dont let others define you by their standards. I had a nurse who berated me and called me selfish and s bad mom because I didnt breast feed BUT what she didnt know was that I couldn’t and didnt produce milk. So you do what you have to do in order to keep your baby healthy and alive.
I did both from day one. I wanted to have my husband to be able to feed her and I knew I was going back to work when she was 3 months old and it made it so much easier. I breast fed in the morning, after work and before bed. Worked out great. Good luck and congrats on your new baby.
Absolutely not!!! I have 2 new grandbabies neither one could do the breast feeding! But once on the bottle they have thrived !! Chubby little sweeties now!! As a mother you have to do what’s best for the baby!! Breast feeding doesn’t work for everyone!!!
Breastfeeding, no matter how much or how long, is good for the baby. (He/she will acquire Mom’s immunities) If you must supplement with formula, also good for the baby. As aforementioned, just feeding is the best.
No. Formula won’t hurt her. Just make sure you get the right kind that she can drink.
My son is a month and I just made the switch. A month was all I could give him. My depression and anxiety was bad and I was barely taking care of myself. It’s nice to let someone else feed him and not have to be connected to a pump if someone else is feeding him.
No! Whether breast or bottle…fed is best!
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No!! As long as your baby is fed!
No! Never feel like a bad mother for something like this x
Your never a bad mom for feeding your baby! Food is food. Your baby will get what he or she needs from formula. Don’t feel bad about it!
HELL. NO. Best decision I ever made. I grieved for 3 days and then moved on. Best $3200 I ever spent for my sanity. (She was on specialty RTF.)
As long as she is fed. You’re a great mom!
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Never ever feel like you’re a bad mom for putting babies health first! You don’t have to switch fully, you could also do half and half if you really want to keep breastfeeding. As long as babe is healthy you’re doing your best!
Absolutely not ! Do what you need to do !
Fed is best! I tried everything with my son. We made it about 6 weeks and I had to switch. My letdown was too strong at first so he choked. Tried different positions. Tried pumping. By the time my letdown slowed he wasn’t latching well anymore. I was angry. He was angry. Eventually I started drying up. He’s a happy healthy baby on Similac Pro Advance.
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Never never feel like a bad mom!!! You are making sure that your baby is fed. That’s what is important
Not feeding your child would make you a bad mom. It’s your child and your choice what they get and anyone that says otherwise can fuck off
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Simply NO do what suits you
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No and don’t ever think it does! It took 3 months to figure out what formula was best for my son because i didn’t produce enough breast milk, come to find out he was lactose and now he is the happiest baby!
Dont feel bad… i had to switch but i wasnt happy about it at first and felt guilty but its what my little man needed…
No not atall !! I felt the exact same with my little fella he was such a hungry baby he wasn’t getting enough from the boob so I put him on the formula, does not make you a bad Mam atall
Not at all.!! If baby is fed that’s all that matters!
I dried up when my son was only 4 months. I was upset because I felt like a horrible mother. The doc said it’s perfectly finnne to switch to formula of you feel like you can’t breastfeed your litle one anymore.
As a Peds nurse I will just say…FEED YOUR BABY!! There is so much pressure on moms to breastfeed! Yes…it’s best…but you also have to take into account mom’s mental and physical health. We want happy, healthy moms to raise happy, healthy kids. If that means you feed them formula then we are ok with that!
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I had to switch because of not producing enough milk… you have to do what’s best. For a while I combined milk with formula.
I just love seeing ALL the support in these comments Fed is best !!!
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Not at all and don’t let anyone tell you different! You just do what’s best for you and baby 
Nope. As long that baby is fed. You’re doing your job!!
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No! You do what’s best for you and your family. Anyone who doesnt like it can f*ck off
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Feeding your child= good mom no matter what!!!
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Nope! A fed baby is best! Period! However you make that happen is awesome!
Oh God as if!!! Save those bad mom thoughts for real problems like middle school or high school 
Don’t ever feel that way! Fed is best!
Oh no, I’m sure your wonderful! As long as the baby is getting fed that’s all that matters. Breast feeding is HARD
No. A fed happy baby is best!
No sweetie your doing great
hell no. i dealt with the guilt of not breastfeeding too. i tried so so hard but i just wasn’t making enough. my son was crying screaming because he wasn’t getting enough and my body wouldn’t produce enough for him. i gave in to formula feeding and although i felt bad at the beginning i felt so much better knowing he was content and fed. and i could sleep peacefully.
Fed is best. It does not make u a bad mom
Ask yourself these questions… Is she healthy? Is she fed? Is she happy? If the answers to these questions are yes then you are a great mom. The only thing that would make you a bad mom is if she isnt being fed at all. Period.
Switch. Do what’s best for you. Even a month of breast milk is great. I switched after a month. My kids are just fine
No … Do what you gotta do to feed your baby. Alot of moms breast and formula feed. Never think you’re a bad mom for wanting your baby to get its belly full.
Girl no breast feeding is exhausting I formula fed my 2nd baby from birth and I have no regrets about it.
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You just feed that baby however you see fit and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. You do what’s best for that baby and the fact that you even asked, shows what a great mother you are and how much you love your baby and want to do your best. Anything you decide is the right thing for you and your baby and don’t let anyone make you feel different, because there are people out there that will try. We’ll just pray for them and their ignorance when we cross that bridge.
Not at all!! Do what is best for you and your baby 
Fed is fed . it doesn’t matter if it’s by breast or bottle. I myself had to supplement with my youngest b/c I was having trouble keeping up with him from month 2 to month 6.
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Absolutely not! Fed is best, always. If its making you stress, switch! Being a new mom is hard enough.
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Nope. I got so frustrated with it that I switched to formula. Wasn’t producing enough and the pump was horrible. Tried different formulas and finally had to put my son on Nutramigen because he was very colicky and had acid reflux and needed medication for it. Never feel bad. Fed is best.
I thought is 2020 and we left all this stigma behind us 
Do what works better for your family and never forget that the baby needs a happy mom not a “perfect“ mom!
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Nope fed babies a best baby. Well done for all you efforts. If it means that much to you get a referral to a lactation consultant they are amazing
Absolutely NOT. Feed your baby however you need to and let the mom guilt out the window! 
The only important thing is the baby eats!!! You do what you have to.
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I gave up breastfeeding after a month for personal reasons, and my 4 month old has been thriving on formula ever since.
Feeding your baby is always right!
Nope not at all. Two babies I didn’t produce enough to feed. 4 were switched to formula sometime between 3 and 6 months because I wanted to and one was breastfed until he was two because his dad made me feel bad
Never!!! Do not feel like a bad mom, you’re doing the best you can! It doesn’t work for everyone! I remember when I had to stop and switch to formula, I felt guilty at first but then they were fulfilled and everyone was happy and it was a weight lifted off my shoulder !!! You got this mama don’t be so hard on yourself
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As long as she’s fed, you’re a good mom don’t let anyone tell you differently.
No that doesn’t make you a bad it makes you a concerned mother
You’re not bad at all! Fed is best. Don’t be hard on yourself. I tried everything to get mine to latch, to pump, and to get my supply up and nothing helped; I had people pressuring me to BF and were more okay with me starving my daughter than to formula feed her. Do what YOU think is best mama!
I had to change because no matter what I eliminated, the baby still would scream and spit up with my breast milk. We switched to Similac Sensitive and he did so much better! Do what works for the two of you mama.
No thats yuhr baby yuh are the mom
I used to work in the Infant Room at a day care. Fed is best!
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I felt this way but I had a bad delivery and complications weeks after. I felt like I was on to many meds to continue breast feeding so I switched to formula. I felt great about my decision bc my milk dried on one side anyway. I’d rather have a happy baby then a hungry baby.
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No. Fed is best! Feed your baby whatever you please cause I’ll tell you what even a breast fed baby eventually turns into a 2 year old terror that wants stale doritos out of the couch cushions.
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No! So what you need to do for your sanity. I only wish I had switch to formula sooner!! Don’t feel bad at all. A happy mom is important.
My doctors all recommended that I supplement my son with formula because he was still hungry after draining both breasts. Maybe you could see about supplementing if you still want to breast feed
Oh honey. Go look in a mirror and repeat after me. I am beautiful. I am a great mom. My childs needs are meet and I am enough. Stay strong.
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Im sure there a million other things that would make someone a bad mom and switching to formula is not one of them … you do what you think is best trial and error no mom is perfect .
100% doesnt make you a bad mom ! I had the same issue and switched to formula !!! It was much better for me and my baby was getting everything he wanted/ needed !
Fed is best
No, you can only do what you can do. Sometimes it doesn’t work out the way we want it to
. No I needed sleep I worked full time. Still do. You do you… Baby will live
Only you can decide what is good for you and your family. You will never be a bad mom for feeding your child
No I literally am going through the same process right now you’re doing what’s best for your baby
Sweet lady FED Is best . Feed your baby formula and relax love that baby to pieces and don’t worry your self !!!
No … Definitely not… Identifying and meeting the needs of your child makes you a GOOD mum:heart:
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