Never too young to teach your kids that is perfectly ok to take care of their mental health and to discuss their feelings.
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Thereâs no such thing as too little for therapy
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My niece needed therapy at 5 when her beloved Grandpa diedâŚshe is a healthy adult now leave her in but make sure she is ok with it
Please consist Art therapy. Art is a universal language and kids donât always have the vocabulary or ability to use words to communicate. I know Art is subjective but I think we can say a lot through Art without even speaking. Also, this age is critical for development and if issues arenât dealt with in a safe and healthy manner at the time of the trauma, they will reappear later in life.
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If you feel she needs therapy and think she was/will benefit from it then have her go momma. Donât let anyone peer pressure you out of it. You know your baby and whatâs gonna be best for them. Try talking to her about it naturally and letting her ask questions. Also Iâve heard of many parents having their child watch the movie coco to help them cope and understand better about losing someone. So sorry for your loss and hope things get better. It to shall pass, it may pass quickly or it may take awhile but no matter what let your baby know you are there for her and sheâs not alone
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You cannot make parenting decisions based on other peopleâs opinions or to appease others. You need to make them based on your childâs best interest. Even if therapy wasnt necessary (and odds are it was benefitting her), the sudden change of quitting it cold turkey could cause regression and make her struggle. Death to a child isnât what death is to adult - more than anything itâs just a Big Change.
So now that sheâs been pulled from therapy, sheâs having to cope with yet another Big Change that she had no say in and no power over. Helplessness and confusion are very hard emotions for kids to deal with and are often caused by changes such as deaths, custody changes, and yes, being pulled out of therapy before a child is ready.
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I feel this honestly. My 5 year old witnessed our dog getting run over last month right in front of us. Heâs still waking up crying. Ugh.
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If you have seen a change for the worse since taking her out of therapy, I would def get her back in, children grieve differently than adults, she may be afraid, especially if grandparent was elderly and she has other grandparents, since kids that age donât really understand years, she may fear loosing you, and no sheâs not too young for therapy, they are specifically trained to work with kids, wishing you and your family the best, sorry for your loss
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If your husband passed how exactly does he have an opinion on the kids therapy or lack thereof? Also put her back in therapy.
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Girl put that baby back in therepy! You had no business pulling her out all bc your dumbass family told you too! She OBVIOUSLY is having issues, why in the hell would you pull her out just bc you âgot tired of hearing about it from your familyâ?!? Selfish much?
I put my kiddo in therapy after trauma. Had the same bs talks about how he wasnt old enough to understand and how he would forget as soon as I did. Even when i stopped talking about dad, sonâs pictures still had him. The family finally saw that the little guy NEEDED to find his own way to cope and let go. And he did, in his own way, in his own time and with the help of Therapy! It doesnt matter what the objections are, if you are doing something to help your child, continue to do so.
But also, you need therapy. You deserve to greive privately. Its a process, and a hard one for moms because we never really get to complete it without interuption, so it takes longer. Sometimes, yes, kids need to see us greive to understand the process. Sometimes they need to see us heal. But keep in mind that we act as their teacher in that way, and that it will take longer for them to put into practice what they see us doing. Consider how long it takes a child to learn to brush their teeth properly. It takes so much longer to wrestle the emotions! Having a professional work through it, as well as a mom showing them the way, is only doubly helpful.
And taking some time for yourself to greive privately only allows you to help little one tackle their own emotions without the distraction of your own.
Im sorry for your loss. I hope you all heal soon.
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Get her back in therapy. Always trust your gut MommaâŚthats your baby and you need to take care of her and not listen to those Yahooâs. That obviously dont get that she is little yes but has big emotions and therapists are trained for that especially children therapistsâŚ
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Growing up my grand daddy would tell us that every star is the sky was an angel. And when some one passed that we loved he would take us out in the yard, look up at the sky and point to the stars. To this day I still carry that with me. And I passed it on to my babies. If someone or a beloved pet passes, they just wait for night time when the stars come out and go see their angel. As long as their is a star in the sky then they know their angels are watching over them.
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I would put her back in Therapy
My son died 3 years ago and I put his 3 year old son in therapy to deal with the loss, if you feel it helps do it. Kids feel everything and donât always know how to express it.
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Be honest. A healthy understanding of mortality and the value of life is never too early (based on a childâs maturity level). Things I can tell one of my children (age regardless) may not be the same as I can tell my others. Death is an inevitable fact of life. Why avoid the topic as it arises naturally between you and your children.
definitely put back in therapy my daughter went through our family pet passing and it hit her hard. she still talks about the passing of the dog. I get her to draw pictures let.her emotions. give her a safe place to talk
Please send her back to therapy! Tell your family itâs not up for discussion if you even mention it to them. Only your husband needs to know & he can talk to the therapist if he has any questions.
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People often associate therapy with medication and other intervention when itâs most often just having someone who is really listening to you and helping you process your trauma meeting up with you once a week. We could all use a little more of that. I think you should take her back. Wish I would have gone as a child.
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Your in laws donât get a say I your parental decisions!!!
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Tell her that her grandparent and her dog are watching over her from heaven they absolutely miss her also. They are the stars in the sky watching over her with love. One day she will see them again until that day arrives they love her a send her kisses every morning the sun shining on her face. The wind is them chasing her around and they are always with her watching over her. Do you say a prayer at night before bed. Tell her if she wants to, to draw a picture of her loved ones who have passed away your grandparent and the dog. Donât growl her if she wets the bed just say to her before bed come on honey I am going to the toilet before going to bed shell we say a prayer afterwards and tell our loved ones who have passed away we love and miss them. Draw pictures or write a song.
Donât let others determine what you know is right for your child. I would take her back for therapy. Thatâs too much trauma for a child her age. Please see that she gets the help she needs or she could be traumatized for life. God bless you both!!!
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Ignore anyone who says therapy is not for everyone of all ages. Our family friend lost his wife suddenly and their two children were put in play therapy and grief counseling at age 3 and 9. It helped immensely and they are still in it two years later. Put that child back in to get help and talk to your family about toxic behavior
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Iâve lost 3 grandparents in less than a year, which means my kids have lost 3 great grandparents in less than a year. My oldest is 4. She also had a baby sister come into her life in December. And she starts school in less than a week. Sheâs had a rough and exciting year. Itâs been difficult sometimes. I just explained to her that they are in heaven (weâre not at all religious, but a family member is and has talked to her about heaven and Jesus, so she understands that part) and with Jesus and no longer hurting or sick and that theyâre happy and healthy now. I told her she can talk to them whoever she wants too, that they would hear her but that she wouldnât be able to hear them. That seemed to help her the most. And if you feel therapy is what she needs, then do it! Iâm in therapy and she went with me today and the session became about her. I felt she needed it but wanted to do a âtrial runâ first. And I believe I might stick with it with her.
Who cares what others say!!! She isnât too young at all to have emotions and need to talk about them. Get her back in tell them to shut up
Take her back and tell everyone that they need to keep their mouths shut
So sorry for all your pain and heartache!
I believe your baby needs therapy and⌠donât give up until you find the right one and see results. Shell be ok.
(Donât let her drink before bed) Talk to her and âlistenâ to what sheâs saying 
She needs to be back in therapy. Poor thing. Donât listen to anyone else.
Youâre her mother, you decide. Stop listening to other people.
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I wish I got the therapy I needed when my mum passed when I was 4 years old 
I grew up not learning how to deal with those emotions properly and it wasnât until I was 18 did I reach out and seek therapy !!!
Mind you Iâm now 25 still in therapy and still canât process emotions accordingly 
My 2 year old does play therapy just because of the rocky start we had when her dad went to jail⌠she might not remember those traumatic events but any kind of therapy is good therapy, it teaches you so much and as a 4 year old I canât imagine how hard it is already trying to process information as well as trying to process grief without the tools to do it 
But at the end of the day you are her mum and should be ignoring those outside voices and do whatâs best for HER and yourself !! 
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Therapy would be so helpful for her, I would put her back in therapy Prayers for your sweet little oneâ:heart:
Honestly⌠it does not hurt them to be in therapy⌠one of the main things that therapy can do is help our kids understand their feelings and how to express them. Itss difficult losing loved ones so to put her in therapy would be great because she gets to be a kid away from the reality of home and talk about her feelings and how her day went. By taking her out of therapy is like saying she understands what happened to grandma and her daisy but in reality she has no clue. Itâll take some time for her to understand what happened and express to you how she feels about it. When you said that she felt too tired to get up and use the restroom is a huge red flag. Sounds like she may be depressed and needs reassurance and a little extra love and attention. Put her back In therapy so she can distinguish how sheâs feeling and you 3 can come up with solutions on how to help her feel better and in control of her emotions so she can have a healthy balance. Life is literally about balance. Sometimes weâre even and good. Other times we tip over and need that extra hand to help us balance again so we can feel good.
My mom used to get me books on death for children⌠I try thatâŚ
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What I did wen we lost our dog was make a special box with some pictures the dog collar ect so my kods have a little memory box and spoke of all the good funny memories and said she was so special and was needed in heaven thereâs no quick fix bed wetting would be due to her worries a counciled is a brill idea it will def help her to understand better and her emotions i would put her back in because she is obv struggling which is normal wen u loose loved ones but for kids itâs extra harder coz they donât understand tgeir emotions as well and u can tell her itâs okey to miss the dog and be sad do wat u feel is right mums know best
Put her back in therapy screw everyone elses opinion. If u see its helping ur daughter then keep her in therapy. What matters its ur daughters well being not ur husbands concern or ur inlaws concern
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Donât worry about everyoneâs feelings just your child
If you feel she needs therapy keep going if it was being helpful I had to put my daughter in at 5 yrs old also because I lost my my son at birth an she is 13 now an still goes because she has had a tragic things go on with custody orders an other death she doesnât understand till this day an therapy helps on them days
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Sheâs your child , itâs your responsibility to make decisions based on whatâs best for her, no one knows her better than you. Tell the others when you want or need their opinions, youâll ask for them, otherwise please keep those opinions to their selves . Good luckâ¤ď¸
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Therapy is a great thing for her, donât listen to everyone else and how they want you to parent.
Put her back in therapy⌠she isnât too young.
Always do whatâs best for your kid/s. Everyone else can go kick rocks. I would never allow someone opinions to effects/hurt my children in anyway.
I would have left her in therapy to be honest. Especially with bed wetting.
Play Therapy helps young children express their emotions in a healthy and developmentally appropriate way. Yes, leave her in until she decides that she doesnât want to go anymore.
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If sheâs old enough to have the feelings she expressed, sheâs old enough to see a therapist. Please do what you can and get her back in counseling. Possibly have the therapist speak with those who donât think sheâll benefit. This can continue to be an issue and possibly snowball. 
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Unless your family members have a degree, put her back in with a professional. There are also lots of books on death, dying, loss for children. Ask your library and get her a few to read together. Do research on things you can do to help. She needs reassurance right now so do things as a family as much as you can. Simple things like cards, walks mini golf, drawing etc. Donât make it the topic of conversation all the time but have her select a special spot that she can go to when sheâs sad, wants to talk or ask questions about things. Like a special chair etc.
I went to therapy as a kid it helped. Never too young. I would do what you feel is best. No one elseâs business. Your children you raise them and care for them. Donât let someone try to tell you how you need to do things. Use you intuition. If its grandparents they want to help but they raised you so itâs your turn. Advice is ok but the ultimate decision is yours. I know everyone wants to help and that is ok but not trained therapist or doctors.
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she should be in therapy one is never really âtoo youngâ
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First, get her to her family physician to be sure she doesnât have a bladder, kidney, or other health issue. Then discuss it with the doctor. Go from there.
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My son who is 3 also lost his grandma (my mom) 4 months ago. If he was going through what your daughter is going through, i would put her in therapy. Dont listen to what other people say, your her mama and you know what is best for her. They may not think she needs it, but it may help her with the grieving process. She needs to let out what sheâs thinking and a therapist will know all the right questions to ask her. It will be good to talk about how she is feeling.
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Remember children donât understand what heaven is. If Grandma can go to heaven and not come back, could you go to the store or somewhere and then not come back. It maybe be beneficial to talk about the physical body and what death is and then the spirit part of people and animals. She may be scared that when you leave her you may not come back.
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Sheâs regressing put her back in therapy
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Donât let people talk you out of something that is in the best interest of your kid. Iâm 32 and lost my best friend last year and my dad the beginning of this year. Itâs been pretty traumatic for me as an adult. Put her back in therapy
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Therapy is awesome! It has helped my kids process death.Losing there dad wasnât as bad as losing the dog ! She died 2 weeks after my partner. They took it way worse. If Therapy is a family issue giving you a hard time.Look on Amazon has a lot of books on loss for very young children.
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Sounds like she is still needing help. Put her back in therapy to see if it helps the bed wetting. Sometimes mothers know best
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I definitely would have talked with her therapist before stopping her therapy. Ask your daughter if talking to the therapist made her feel better. If she says yes, thatâs all you need. Sometimes keeping our lives to ourselves is needed. You donât have to tell your parents everything. Husbands never want therapy, heâs afraid the therapist will want family therapy-and they will. Do not let others make you second guess your judgement. Your daughter needs help coping & you know that & did the right thing. Iâm betting she felt better in therapy & needs to go back. Please do what you need to for her sake. You seem to be the only advocate she has.
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The best advice my pediatrician gave me a million years ago-âA MOTHERS INSTINCTS ARE NEVER WRONGâ. If you think she should be in counseling, then that is where she should be. Itâs up to you & your daughter. NO ONE ELSE. 
My daughter went through something similar when she was younger then yours. She came out the other side & is an incredible mom, wife & daughter now.
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No sheâs not too young. While the others are parents themselves, you are the momma and a moms intuition is MUCH stronger and if you feel like that is the best option then put her back in therapy!
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A really good book to support children (or anyone) through death is The ten good things about Barney.
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Look for books on her age level that will explain why people go to heaven
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Definitely therapy. Therapists are trained to help children, or do a family session. Maybe she doesnât want to upset you so she is holding in her feelings and since she is 5 she doesnât understand. Maybe have her draw a picture of your MIL and dog of her favorite memories. 
Good luck and hope she feels like herself soon. 
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I agree with gwenn sheâs not to young for therapy your mom and if you feel itâs helping her then stay with it itâs about whatâs best for your child and it honestly sounds like she really needs help understanding what has happenaround her and speaking from my own experience in therapy as a young child I know it truly helped me cope and to eventually understand so go with your gut momma
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My grandchildren have gone thru death 1st their dad to cancer then their grandpa to Parkinsonâs. Children will try and hide their pain. Please if you can get them some help. Someone to talk to it can make all the difference in their life
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This is such a complex issue. Many here have said continue therapy. I would not disagree, but trauma is, unfortunately, a natural part of life. Children learn how to deal with trauma by the adults that they trust. Going to therapy when young tells them that trauma is bad, and not something they are capable of dealing with.
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Sheâs not too young for therapy. Please put her back in. Grief counseling helps people of all ages. I wish the best for you and your family 
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Bed wetting is often a call for help. For a little girl, this is a lot of loss for her to handle. She needs the opportunity to talk it out with an objective, trained person. Please give her the chanceâ:pray:t3:
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A grief therapist saidâŚif they are old enough to loveâŚyhey are old enough to grieveâŚallow their grief and painâŚ
Death is a part of lifeâŚwe dont like the pain of loss but we can not deny itâŚ
Art therapy is especially helpfulâŚ
Sanction nothing that is saidâŚthank them gor being so honest with youâŚ
Listen more than you speakâŚand remember ot is the pain of loss that carries the love of lifeâŚ
I am 25 yrs a grief counsekor for young children as well as adults.
Start having morning devotion and prayers allow each to pray n them read a Bible lessons. Them explain it as time goes by she will understand and be greatful
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Screw what everyone else says, put her back in therapy, or ask her if she wants to go back. Youâre the mom you decide whatâs best not everybody else
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Yes. If she needs it, go with her if itâs allowed since she is young. Also spend more time with her doing some of the fun things she likes. Give her opportunities to express what she feels also.
Please please let her back in. You can see she is desperately upset and canât articulate it. Lego or play therapy are fab. You are doing it for her not them. Perhaps it is them with the issue as it is too much for them to acknowledge the extent she has suffered. Therapy does that to other people
I personally say ask her pediatrician for advice but my thought is that as long as we keep talking and feel like their is someone who is listening and understands us then we will be ok.
Itâs when we feel alone in life that depression and mental break downs start (typically. Iâm sure this isnât every scenario)
Read the book DOG HEAVEN by Cynthia Rylant to her. I recommended this to many of my students and it really helped! Hope it does for her. Pictures are so sweet.
Your child needs therapy play therapy is excellent she will really benefit I know sheâs young bless her but maybe she doesnât open up to you completely because she doesnât want you to be sad
As Rosie Boatner also suggested art therapy is also great sheâs your daughter please do what your heart is telling you god bless you both xx
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The day of my grandfatherâs funeral, my uncle thought it was a good idea to give me a puppy. The puppy was hit by a car ten feet from me a week later. Keep her in therapy.
These are life events. Help her adjust with this being just that. I am a mental health therapist. Donât make this abnormal. People in our lives die. She might be reacting to your reaction about the deaths.
Sounds like she needs to express her feelings to someone as it sounds like sheâs suffering some form of separation and anxiety due to the recent traumatic events in her life. Hope all goes well
Donât listen to anyone but your own motherly instincts. There are online psychologist as well, Iâd imagine they take children too. Stay with her during sessions.
I would suggest getting her evaluated by her pediatrician to rule out urinary issues, then if you feel like she still needs therapy, stand your ground and put her back in therapy. Also, have you thought about getting her a puppy? That could make a huge difference.
Follow your instincts. If you think she should get back into therapyâŚDO IT. Husband, mom and dad arenât psychologists. Husband, mom and dad know how to deal with deathâŚkids donât. Ignore them and help your daughterâŚshe needs it and you to help her get through this.
If you as her mom thinks she needs it put her back in. A childâs grief is as real as an adults. Even more I believe.
Put her back in therapy! She is Your child and you make the rules for them. There is no age too young for therapy.
Yes yes yes get her back in the only ones who have a say in this is you and the childâs other parent.
Yes, sheâs on an emotional rollercoaster. Donât look at it as therapy itâs someone she can talk to about her feelings.
Thereâs a book called chicken soup it deals with the death of our loved ones they have a version for children Iâm not sure how Young the book goes to in age I got it for my daughter from the library when her father died it did help and put it back into therapy because these people are trained and a child sometimes is more apt to talk to a therapist and they are to their parents if it doesnât work then you can try something else good luck
Her need is to know where they are now and theyâre ok. Still watching her grow. Her dog might be looking for another pet for her to have a friend.
Listen to your instincts, as a mother youâll know. Therapy canât hurt, usually n gives them another outlet.
I donât disagree that therapy can be a great thing but also try to be cautious of your own worries. We can project a lot on our children.
By invalidating your daughter needs, your family is saying that their own real adult problems are more important and should always come first over a mere childâs concerns, which they conveniently dismiss as too trivial to address.
Fact: Unresolved childhood problems affect how people see the world (e.g., friendships, relationships, studies/work) for the rest of their lives. If the root causes are not addressed, then it will not be just a phase.
Therapy does help if you have the right one!!!
OKAY MOMMY LISTEN UP. THIS IS GOING TO SHOCK YOU.
BEEN IN YOUR SHOES BUT MUCH WORSE.
my girl was 4 when we lost her dad to cancer. She saw most of it. Chemo, Radiation, was hell.
He died the week before Thanksgiving in 1998. She turned 4 that past July.
Dumbest but smartest answer. YOU if you have a Build A Bear or Look online.
You are going to find a special teddy bear frog monkey donkey
IDC WHAT BIG AS YOU WANT SMALL AS YOU WANT put Angel wings on it. Pink purple whatever. No Unicorns. Nice Healthy Wings no foofoo fairy wings. Pillow plus wings.
Take a piece of a Blanket Dress Sock That was,Grandmas your kid will know. Make a Ribbon sew it on whatever critter you find head for a girl under chin for boy. Wrap it in a sheet
Leave it on the couch in a chair with a note.
My Dear Sweet childs name.
Grandma or cute name is sorry I had to go. I want you to know Grandma is doing ok and I have a friend of yours with me. Dog name. I built a Dog House in a pretty garden where we are. Said dog and I miss you but we are so happy. Childs name. I saw this teddy bear with Angel wings and I was told I could gift it to you. Its a special bear. You can sleep with it and take it with you to the potty if you need to at night. He or she will help you remember how much we love each other. If you stay dry sweetie he she can wait on your bed for you until bed time then its cuddle time.
Kid does not play with it, it does not go to school for show and tell kids will screw it up.
As your kid gets older it all falls into place.
Iâm sure she is reacting to your hurt ! Maybe you should be stronger for her , and that way she will have a different attitude !
Go back to therapy & make the whole family go
Give her lots of love and hugs and reassure her you are still here and are not going anywhere. Make her feel safe and loved and donât be afraid to still talk about those people and the dog she lost. Let her know it is ok to cry or feel sad when we loose those we love but that they are with Jesus and we will one day see them again.
When my childrenâs father died I took them to therapy. It added anew perspective to things. I have always been glad we were able to do this.
Talk to her about it! Ask her questions and see what you can do to grow that bond between yâall. Youâre sculpting a little mind tell her itâs okay to be sad! They were a huge part of our lives, if you still have the collar hang it up for him and her so she will remember how great a dog they were. Keep pictures of grandma around, tell her stories about them that make her laugh! Death is a shitty thing but itâs a way to bond with our children on spiritual connections and memories
I have the perfect remedy. I noticed you mentioned heaven so that leads me to believe you are Christian. I always let my girl watch the beginners bible on YouTube. My parents had us watch them on VHS when we were young but luckily theyâre on youtube now. Itâs a child friendly program able to explain the important stories of the bible (even crucification) in a child friendly way. Iâll link the first few episodes in this comment
My 13 month son died and I let his 6 yr & 3 1/2 yo siblings go to funeral home and funeral so they could see that process of death. Every night at bedtime, I sat in their bedroom and let them ask questions and I answered them. Each child separated. We always talked about Adam if they wanted and I wanted them to always remember their brother! Every night I ended up bawling in my bedroom though I did it as long as I had to. I had no trouble with how they handled it. I never even thought it might be something I might need a therapist for!! He was also in NICU and I explained he was different and had medical problems etc., they knew when he came home and when he went to Rileyâs childrenâs hospital in Indianapolis, Indiana. I explained everything!
Leave her in. No matter what age 5- up always need someone they can talk to and that person is a professional dealing with these issues. Sometimes it just works.
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Play Therapy is a great option. Is there somebody that is a close family friend that your daughter is close to? That she could talk about her feelings etc without worrying about hurting your feelings etc. my daughter lost two of her brothers with in a six year period one she was really young when he pass and she has made up memories of him that help her with grief of not knowing him her play therapist said if that helps her and the memories are postive why correct them. The one that died when she was seven she was much closer to and that was rough a rough three years her play therapist was amazing also she connected with a close family friend and she would take my daugther for walks etc and she would talk freely about her brothers with her. She had a fear that if she talked to us she would make is sadder. That helped a lot. Open communication there are some books that help but be ready to ask any question they may ask. ( make sure your emotional there to answer questions) best of luck and sorry for your loss
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Your her mother. If you think she needs therapy, take her. Your her Oort in the storm of life.