Hey iam young 20 years old iam unhappy in my relationship and my man is very stubborn and loves to be on his phone and video games and basically are relationship is dead he says things that are out of our names so do I we argue almost everyday and every time I try and tell him I’m not ok or want to be with him he doesn’t care no response he is no help around the house he hates changing our daughters diapers he is very immature at least he works at Qdoba and he is not for me I tried to ask if he wanted to go to counseling he refuses I have a feeling it’s not going to get better everything he does annoys me and I’m trying to find out how I can possibly take care of my daughter and me soon I just want to ignore him I can get mad easily but one thing is that I don’t work right now I get social security I’m just unhappy I feel like he’s not trying at all he’s so frustrated and I’m return iam so I’ve tried but are there any exercises that I can do for myself or and suggestions for activities maybe I need to get out I’m just want to save it there is still love and potential
You can try and do whatever you want, but it takes two people to commit to the relationship. He is showing you he is not interested. Please get yourself some counseling to find out why you think it’s okay for this man child to treat you so poorly.
You need to tell him that if you’re not willing to try and work on this relationship he needs to go. Before you have this conversation have a exit plan ready in case he leaves or throws you out. If he doesn’t care you need to end the relationship.
Well if he’s unwilling to put in any work then you know where it’s headed. Relationships need all the people involved actively working on it. Start planning for the end and how you and the kiddo are gonna keep going without him. You may even find life easier in ways without having a deadbeat partner!
Sounds like he’s still a child and you’re better off without him. Also sounds like if you walked out he wouldn’t batter an eye lid. Piece of advise, do what makes you and your child happy. A happy mum is a happy child
Saw this Online thought I’d share
So true
PAY ATTENTION ⚘
did you know that when a woman
say goodbye to you, a long time ago,
in her mind, she already left you?
Women have several phases.
FIRST:
They talk to you and explain
what they need
[ BUT YOU DON’T PAY ATTENTION TO HER ]
Then they go to phase TWO:
where are they are sad
and where they cry for everything.
[ BUT YOU STILL DON’T PAY ATTENTION TO HER ]
Then comes the Worse stage for you,
where everything you do
It bothers her.
You both fight for everything and it seems
like you can not stand each other
but even so…
[ YOU DO NOT PAY ATTENTION ]
Then comes the phase
where many men
get confused
You can say what you want.
Do whatever you want.
Go wherever you want.
And she acts like nothing
would change her mind
And then you say:
BUT SHE HAS CHANGED…
She’s already doing much better.
She doesn’t fight anymore
She hardly bothers you anymore…
And when you believe
that things are going super well
she grabs her suitcase and leaves you…
And you wonder…
WHAT HAPPENED?
It’s been a while
I had already left you CHAMPION 
Girl don’t blame yourself for being mad and frustrated blame him for not growing up! Having a child means both parents should be a team. You said it yourself he is not for you. His refusing counseling also. I would have a serious conversation with him then you can decide what to do.
He’s not mature enough for a meaning ngful relationship He’s still a child
A man will do what he wants. He will also show you how he feels about you. Listen to the words and actions the first time. It sounds like the relationship is done. If he won’t try counseling nor try to do better …Time to go.
He’s taking you for granted tell him to hit the road
You might still feel love for him. But your relationship has zero potential.
Talk to people at a women’s center, the county & state (or maybe there’s info on Web sites), look at what jobs you could do now, what education you need for a good career to support you and your child in the future. Train for computers or a trade for max income.
Develop an action plan for leaving before you do anything, but sounds like he’s ready to get rid of you now. You will have to get a job. You may be able to get subsidies for housing, food & day care that will help a lot. Can you move back with family until you get on your feet? Homeless shelters are an option, but not a pleasant one. Be sure you get child support. Chances are baby daddy will get custody every other weekend and one weeknight with your daughter unless you have proof he’s an unfit parent. He’ll have to change diapers while he has custody unless he can get someone else stupid enough to do it for him.
Expand your network so you have backups for your backups for child care and babysitting. You’ll need all the help you can get as a single mom, and things seldom go as planned. Make sure you get child support. Keep meticulous records for court. Again, women’s center, county, state and free legal consults will help you navigate all the paperwork & benefits you can get as a single mom.
Also read when you can, especially books on emotional intelligence/maturity and positive, constructive communication. If you take the information to heart, this will help you in everything you do and make life better and easier for you, your child, and any future relationships. Use birth control faithfully until you can afford more children by yourself.
Good luck. Sounds like both of you are too immature for a good relationship. Work on yourself and concentrate on your child for the next 1-2 years before you get into a new relationship. Then get to know them really well for at least 6 months before you commit to anything or even introduce them to your child. Be independent and be able to support yourself and your child even if you do get married to a rich, handsome prince of a man because it can all end tomorrow.
I don’t think it has much to do with him. I don’t think he can please you because you know he’s not the one for you. Life’s short, move on!
he’s selfish to be using his time for games & who knows what else ! Got any good points for him ?
You’re 20 and just gaining life experience. This man child isn’t going to change and you don’t deserve to keep feeling like this. When you decide it’s time to leave, there are tons of state programs that will help get you and your daughter settled.
dump him like yesterdays trash
You gave yourself the answer in your text–leave this guy—now
Exactly what Carolyn Davidson said
Why are you still there? And why are you asking Facebook for an answer? Geeeeeze !
Your now deliverd from Ancestral in Jesus mighty name Amene. Be sure to thank Jesus for your Deliverance and Miracle healing Amene
Say bye and get a life with a real man, you don’t need a kid
Don’t waste your youth on a loser.
My ex pretty much wanted me to be a 50s housewife I cook I clean I take care of kids and he works I was always angry bc I got no help and if I did it was minimum which I got to a point where I was emotionally done. I never wanted sex and I hated where I was. When I wanted to leave he finally realized how he needed to act and at that point I was done and left after 8 years together and 2 kids later.
Honestly, I would first take an English class, then I would dump him.
Your child comes first! If she knows your not happy she will see it. You don’t need to make your self unhappy especially with your child. Sounds like he’s not going to change. I think it’s time to leave.