I’m kind of freaking out, I have an almost 1yr old daughter & am due to have a boy in April. I’m in a 2bdrm apt that because of health I can’t pay for & my mom has been “helping”, but under her own circumstances & only when her husband lets her. Well, 1 of those is that their dad isn’t allowed to be around.
That is why I’m freaking out, I have no support out here other than her & am having a hard time getting into housing where their dad would be allowed to help when he can & I’d have more support. So basically, in less than 3mo I’m going to be taking care of a 1yr old & new born on my own while dealing w/ my health issues.
So I’m asking for any advise on getting into housing or anything, because I feel completely alone & have no clue what to do!
Have you applied for government housing? Foodstamps and WIC
The baby boy better be your last one. It’s going to get harder unless you get yourself educated.
Sorry I can’t give you good advice because you don’t say what health reasons are that stop you from working and therefore don’t really understand your situation.
On one hand, your mom probably wants the best for you and so whatever her reason is, you really should give her POV some real thought. She may have a point about the father. She may be trying to look out for you. But again, you didn’t really give more details so that’s all I can say.
Every state is different, so you Should go down in person and speak to someone about your situation and what to do
If baby daddy hasn’t stepped up now he isn’t going to when the baby comes either. Your mom probably has good reasons to why baby daddy isnt allowed near the kids. I woukd trust her on that. As far as housing goes there are requirements, waiting period and a lot of time that needs to go in to searching for places that acceot housing. Good luck
Well you have really fucked up
I just wanted to say your not alone…i have 13 month old and am due in march. I have my wonderful husband but he just got laid off from work and i am disabled with many health issues…ao sorry i cant be of help but just know your not alone
Keep your legs closed. Housing is a 7 year wait.
What the hell?? He don’t look like a momma to me!! 
Stop playing pity me. Get up and get a job. I have two kids twenty months apart. I have a job pay Bill’s, and I’m a single mom that doesnt get support from their fathers. I dont have my hand out waiting for the next sorry person to hand me money. I do what I have to so for my kids. Noone else raises them but me. Do you know how many moms I seen struggle with disabilities and work their ass off to give their kids what they need!? Alot. Dont use a disability as a crutch…
damn this poor girl came here for advice not to be judged she is pregnant and emotional and most of you want to drag her… she’s on baby number two not baby number five and most of you would be up shit creek if your men walk away or god forbid something bad happened so dont be so damn harsh… you never know this could be you some day
Nicole Carneiro so this girl is a very close friend of mine. She was trying to not make such a long post. But here are some details. Her & her now ex were together for 2 years before having their baby girl, which they both wanted as they were ready to start a family. She had been working & saving up money, so all was good. 5 days after the 1st baby she had to have an emergency surgery to have her gall bladder removed. On top of that, she fell down the stairs (there’s 21 @ the place) & it caused her sciatic to act up even worse & she also has a slight fracture in her tail bone, she’s delt with gerd her whole life & is now having upper gi bleeding due to it & has ibs as well.
& yes, they were using protection & had no clue she was pregnant until she went for routine blood work & found out she was 9wks. She was upset, but her now ex told her it would be fine because they were about to buy a house together & the kids could grow up together & be close. Well, 3 days later he switched up on her & said he wasn’t happy & wants to go live life. So please be a little less judgmental, she wasn’t just getting knocked up by any one or being stupid. He has already put her through a lot & she just needs support right now. As far as her mom goes she is very mentally abusive toward my friend & expects her to do everything her way & always threatens to not help out if she even tries to stand up for herself.
Why isn’t dad allowed to be around? If your friend that commented that he left because he wanted to go and live life, then why would you try and save your money to move closer to him? If he told you goodbye, moving closer to him isn’t going to make him want to be involved. Just save your money for a bigger place where you are. No need to try and involve a father who doesn’t was to be one. So I’m a little confused as to why you would say he’s not “allowed” to see the babies but then you are trying to get a place by him
Do you have a township down there that can help with a months rent? Or a crisis hotline that can direct you in the right direction?