I need some advice on how to get my 21-month-old off of bottles and sleeping through the night. He’s never been a good eater and has always just wanted the bottle. He sits down at every meal no matter what but maybe has two bites, and that is it. I have offered him milk in a sippy cup, but he won’t touch it. He wakes up every 2 hours at night for a bottle. I have tried watering it down and have tried the cry out method, but he ends up crying until he pukes. I am just not sure what to do anymore. I am so worn down it feels like I’ve had a newborn for the last two years. Any other mommas go through something similar and have suggestions?
Cold turkey. It’s rough but I had to pack ours up and put the. Away so I wouldn’t cave.
Yes, my almost 2 yr old hardly eats, I give her anything she will eat and try new things. I also get her the pediasure side kicks to fill the gaps
Say enough is enough take bottles throw them away their probably a comfort to you as well break the cycle
I did the out of sight out of mind method got rid of all bottles that where in the house and gave sippy cups (my daughter also didn’t care for bottles at all she was breastfed)
Throw away the bottles. Once not there he have rely on eating more and drinking out of the cup
Strictly cold turkey. Throw them completely out so you don’t give it to him at all.
He’ll have to drink eventually.
My daughter never liked sippy cups and we’ve used the 360 cups since she was 1.
So try out different styles of cups for him. Good luck mama💕
My son was crazy with his bottle and I hate to say it but cold turkey worked for us he lost his bottle and I wouldn’t look for it and he just went with out hard week but he doesn’t use it anymore. Good luck momma!
Have you tried the bottles that have the shape of a sippy cup nipple?
Throw it in the trash. Offer him drinks in his sippy cup only throughout the day. He will get it. There is NO reason for an almost 2 year old to be waking every 2 hours for a BOTTLE. Putting him to bed with one can also rot his teeth. Try different foods. Chopped up avocado, banana, scrambled egg, green beans, the same foods you eat. Make it colorful. Not baby food, He is past that. (Cereals and solids can be introduced at 4-5 mths. old). Its hard to let them cry it out but, if he has a dry diaper and was fed before bed…he is fine. And you ALL need some sleep sweet momma. (I am a mother of 5 that all made it to healthy adulthood)
Do a ceremony throw bottles away and give a sippy cup
Up every two hours, for 2 years?! You are wonder woman to have survived this! Best of luck…plan for some support for “Cold Turkey” week, if you have people. Then sleeeep. You definitely deserve it!
My guy was just over 2.5 and one day I brought his milk in a sippy cup and told him the bottles are all dirty and that he could have it in that or nothing at all. We never looked back.
We started slow, and only offered him a bottle at nap and night time. Then slowly weaned off naps, then slowly the night.
Talk to your doctor. My kid doesn’t eat, but never turns down a bottle either. He still has trouble sleeping past 5 some mornings without one, and he will be 2 in March. I’m working with an OT through “early intervention”. It’s been good. Your doctor will have ideas. Could be a sensory thing. could be a neuro thing. Could be a stubborn ass baby. Can’t know unless you explore different ways to change the behaviors. OT is great for that.
We just stopped and our daughter is 2 1/2. She would ask for it…and I’d say we are a big girl and we dont drink from a bottle… never had an issue after that
I feel like your making to bigger of an issue dont worry so much.my 4 kids now grown had bottles until 4 ish they ate food but had one bottle after preschool or going to bed they are well adjusted adults who have great diets all in the correct weight range with good teeth , you can create problems by putting your worries into your kids they will be fine
Try the Nuk Active sippy cup! My son would drink his bedtime milk out of that but fussed for like 4 days getting that cup in the morning next thing you know he drank it and never made an issue out of a bottle again
I have one that came home from school want her bottle.the food part doctor said give anything she want to keep her eating one day came home pick up her slippy cup. Trouble days done.
I got my 18 month old to put them in the bin herself. At nap time she asked for a bottle and I reminded her she put it in the bin and offered a sippy cup instead. At bed time she asked and I reminded her “you’re a big girl now” and she didn’t ask again!
I took my daughter’s bottle and paci the same time. It was hell. You just have to do it. My daughter did not like any of the cups I just kept offering her different ones when she wanted a bottle and that was that. After 3 days she would take the cup
First off you are not alone my baby just started sleeping through the night and I’ve had the same struggles. Try to figure out why he’s not eating. Talk to your pediatrician or better yet what does your mom gut tell you might be the possible reason for your baby not eating? Baby will not sleep well at night if his/ her belly isn’t full. Also I would get a transition sippy cup I got the nuby grow with me transition cup at Walmart. It comes with a nipple that is more like a bottle and one that is a sippy cup nipple. And it has handles so it’s easier for baby to feed himself. I gave my baby the bottle nipple for a few months and right now I just randomly switch his nipple out to the sippy nipple and the first night he was upset and whined but now he’s ok with it and uses both! Hope this helps!
Have you had him evaluated by his doctor to rule out this isn’t something like an undiagnosed tongue tie? Both my children had them and were fixed within a month of birth, but when we talked to the specialist who did it he told us stories of children just like this who were diagnosed much later. It could be a texture thing also. I would talk to your pediatrician. Good luck Momma.
My son will be 3 in May. We just got him off the bottle a few months ago. We bought sippys with his favorite characters and one day just said the bottles are gone- we gave them to a baby! You’re a big boy now… it was a rough nap time that first day but after that he was fine! As for not sleeping during the night I can’t help Bc mine has always slept good:( maybe give him a snack before bed, get down a bedtime routine, or get a white noise machine. You got this momma!
Just stop giving him bottles.
Take him out, let him pick a cup or few and tell him these are the trade for the bottle. Have him toss the bottle so he knows it’s really all gone. You might have a hard week/weekend but it’ll be worth it. I know, my daughter use to puke when she got that upset as well.
We did warm milk before bed and then water they get to take to bed (so far it hasn’t affected potty training) my oldest was 2.5yrs and said no to her last bottle I made and the days before she would just hold it I let her choose when to be done. It will stop eventually, maybe try more finger foods through out the day banana, avocado, or if your giving him more solids but making sure he’s not going to bed being hungry, and if he’s not at 1 nap in the middle of the day I would try that, he will be more tired and sleep better letting you sleep better. Just some suggestions, hope this helps remember everything is a stage all stages come to an end and at some point you will make his last bottle.
Put water only in the bottle and milk in the sippy cups. Eventually he will chose the cup with milk. Buy sippy cups that have soft nipples to start. No drinks at meal time if he is refusing to eat, he’s just filling up on milk. After a few days throw the bottle away. It will be hard at first but after a few days he will get it! No milk at night. Only offer water. An almost two year old shouldn’t be waking for a bottle.
Yeah I started early with them because I hate bottles . But when he started eating solids and was 9 months I started with sipy cups . Only just stopped breast feeding 3 months ago. He is a year and a half now. It’s hard either way. Good luck
My son didn’t stop having a bottle until he was 22 months… he was also a bad eater. I hid them. It wasn’t fun for the first two days but after that he was fine. Leave food out with a silly cup even if he doesn’t want it. He will eat when he’s hungry and use the cup when he needs a drink. Good luck
I had mine go with me to the trash and throw away the bottle and give him a cup in return. He was kinda pissed but he got over it quicker than I even thought about giving in lol He will drink when he’s hungry, just mentally prepare yourself for the meltdown cause there’s gonna be at least a day of hardcore meltdowns
Hang in there I was in your shoes a few months ago and just last week my 26 month old finally took to his sippy cup and we haven’t looked back. He’s sleeping great now too. Try the Nuk Learner Sippy Cup. It’s what my son took with no problem, no tears. Try not to stress it. I know it’s hard when you’re desperate for sleep. This will pass.
I couldn’t imagine that with my son, once he turned 1 years old I throw the bottles cold turkey & gave him sippy cups , he took & didn’t give me no problems as I was already introducing them to him. he’s a big boy now & big boys don’t use bottles .
Occupational therapy, may be a sensory thing
My two year old was the same. Not eating a lot and asking for the bottle! At two and half, it was time!!
Be consistent, I told her no. They will cry and scream but don’t give in. It take 3 days and she had no more bottles. It’s hard, but I cut one bottle feeding at a time. Morning, then nap time then bedtime. Morning and mid-night waking bottles were the hardest. But decide when ur ready, be consistent and remember it will pass!!
No more milk. Water in a sippy cup only. He will eat more. Throw out the bottle. U might have a couple rough days but he will adjust.
I went through the same with my oldest and now with my youngest. My daughter is 2 and still use a bottle strictly for night time, but I water it down like 99%.
During the day she uses straw cups! Those stupid character cups are a god send she also has a water bottle. She HATED sippy cups and 360 cups. She only wants the straw one.
What exactly is the rush? Is he otherwise healthy? What does his pediatrician say? Seems you have a timetable and he isn’t sticking to it. I do not understand what the issue is?
I introduced at 6mo, and threw all bottles away by 7. But, I watch a little girl who will be 3 in July and she still uses a bottle with her mom. I’ll have her literally all day, and not touch the bottle. Nap time, she’s fine. Meal time, she uses a sippy and eats everything on her plate. But the second she’s with mom, she refuses to eat & won’t touch her sippy. Honestly, he may be doing what she’s doing and playing you. He knows if he screams long enough, or hard enough, you’ll give in. I’d honestly go cold turkey, throw ALL them away. He can’t take what isn’t there.
Give them a proper cup. Mine never had a sippy cup and was so proud to copy Mummy.
Has he seen a dentist? You need to get rid of them. Make the decision, throw them all out with his help and that’s it. No going back.
Following. My daughter just turned 2. No bottles but breastfed and still trying to wean from night feeding. She doesnt wake up every 2 hours but still wakes up 1-2 times per night and can rarely soothe herself to sleep. I too feel like i have had a newborn for 2 years. It is very tiring. She does eat at meals and at the sitters she eats quite a bit. But i still cant get her off the boob lol.
The only real solution is just STOP. Theres not a magic answer and then they decide they dont want it anymore… you make the decision as a parent that its time and you get rid of all the bottle therefore it’s no longer an option. They will get used to it…
I accidentally gave my son formula in a bottle as my daughter was born and I was so used to getting her bottle ready. After that one time, he no longer wanted a bottle. I inadvertently ended bottles for him he was almost 2
If you haven’t tried, try the soft spout sippies, they are similar to bottles, so it might be easier. Nuby ones is what I had to use with my son, the hard spouted sippie are harder to get stuff out, then gradually switch to hard spout or straw or whatever you want to use. Good luck.
Stick to bottles only at night. It seems like this is baby’s comfort? Let him pick out a new sippy from the store. My son also used to throw up when crying. Ended up being acid reflux. Might be an issue to look into for your baby?
Just don’t give it to them. That’s what we did. 3 days later bottle all gone
Try the sippy cups that have the closer to a bottle nipple topper then try to transition to the straw sippy cups and then the 360 cups. I’m a foster momma and I’ve had to transition 3 toddlers off the bottle and this is what worked for us. My toddlers all take a sippy cup of water to bed. If they wake through the night they find it and take a few sips and go back to sleep.
I threw my kids bottles in the trash and gave them a soft top sippy cup they whined for maybe a day or 2 then got over it.
Mama I understand been in your shoes and at the moment my 2 year old is still in a bottle but only three time in a 24 hr one before bed, nap, and one at midnight. First cut down the milk at night with 1 or 2 oz of milk the rest need to be water. Notes changing diaper at night they pee more. But this will help them eat more during the day. Also remember toddler eat small amounts and each day is different I put my daughter on pediasure and I give her one a day. It’s help us both she getting enough and I know she doing good. Also always offer meals before milk during the day. I only give my daughter a bottle for nap and I give her half her pediasure with water or milk and nothing until before bed. I would focus on there first before getting rid of it. I plan on doing cold turkey with my daughter when I feel she ready. I at one point only gave her water in her bottle and it help it took a few days there was a lot of crying but once she understand I wasn’t going to let her win she gave up also get to the point where not wanting it as much or just giving them water or you could just throw the bottles out yes it will be hard but it the fastest way to cut it off completely my daughter does better in the beginning with what I said in the beginning she now at the point I know she be okay and isn’t fight me to hard like your 21 months does. Also don’t mind what people and the hate they give you… they don’t understand and therefore no help to you
My daughter snacks throughout the day we give her healthy options and set it out she will just eat while playing or whatever she still gets 1 8 oz bottle in the morning and 1 before bed throughout the day we use a sippy cup with only water and she has full access to it all day she really enjoyed going to her munchkin weighted straw cup they’re easy to learn and use. If she wakes up at night we just go soothe her back to bed, no milk we do offer water in a bottle at night. She is also 20 months I hope this helps
Just give him the cup and if he’s thirsty enough he’ll drink it. Sounds harsh but it’s the truth, i had to do that with my daughter to switch her to sippy cups when she was a year old. Did it when she went to sleep put the cup in there in case she woke up and wanted and she drank it.
This transition set has been great for us
switch to a soft spout sippy like nuby. i did it for both my daughters, they’ve been off bottles since 1
As someone with two children with swallowing and eating issues PLEASE bring him to an ENT, he make have dysphagia
So sorry to hear this. I’m sorry I interrupted your day earlier
When my sister had this issue she just put plain water in the bottle and juice, tea or milk in the sippy cup after her son realized the sippy cup had something good in it he picked it every time. It only took a day or two.
We have recently started using a soft tipped sippy and eating often and my son has given up his bedtime bottle on his own. Sometimes he wants a bottle but we try to redirect to a sippy of milk instead. He’s a year old and could care less unless he’s had a rough night and wants to cuddle but being as he’s not crying for a bottle I don’t have any worries that he’ll give it up completely soon. I’m following his lead. He doesn’t want it so we aren’t forcing it nor trying to eliminate it completely since he does want one sometimes during his bad days of teething (stupid molars)
Dr. Browns Sippy Bottle… I have twins and one took milk out of a sippy no problem but they other straight up refused milk in a sippy. Now a few months later and we just had our first day of no sippy bottle! Yayyy!
Throw them in the trash and give the baby a cup.
My daughter was like this but she was 2 and half I told her I was throwing her bottles out and she seen me do it so she knew there wasn’t none here, and just gave her water through the night in a sippy cup. it wasn’t easy but she soon got used to it she just needed reminding everynight that there was none here she had a little cry but eventually got used to it x
I had this issue but with breastfeeding. My son would nap every day at the same time and go to bed every night at the same time but with being breastfed. He wasn’t entirely broken of breastfeeding until he was 2. I just stopped offering it and he would wake up so much during the night for breast milk and if I didn’t he’d cry until he threw up or until he cried himself to sleep. It was really rough but I just stuck to it and took away night time feedings first (for some reason he fell asleep fine without it) and then after a few days nap time feedings as well(would not lay down without it). He doesn’t nap now but he’s been off the boob for a few awhile. He also sleeps mostly through night too!
Ok I have a 2yr old and he absolutely hates sippies, he doesn’t understand that he can suck them like he does a bottle nipple and instead he chews them to get stuff out, so is there anything I can do to help him understand how to use a sippy? He was given a sippy at 6mo at meal times but he’s always bit the soft tips to get liquid out and I’ve tried hard tips and he don’t understand he has to suck, same with straws he just bites it so idk what to do🤷🏻♀️ can’t use a real cup cuz he will dump it, also tried the 360 cup and he bites it as well lol
My son was completely attached to his bottle at 2, we went to the store and picked out a cup he wanted. He liked the ones with the straw cause he could chew it like his bottle. Told him he was going to start drinking out of that cup and in 7 days he was going to throw out the bottles. He did it and not gonna lie the first three nights were rough after throwing the bottle away but it got better…
Cut the top of the teat off and show him it’s ‘broken’ then remind him it’s broken every time he asks for it. This is what I was going to do but we put them all in a box and santa took away his bottles and dummies for babies that need it and it worked a treat x
Offer him food first, keep finger food available like fruit or veggies cut up? Good luck mamma!
Both mine were off a bottle at 1
Cold turkey. May scream for 2 days straight but by day 3 or 4. Will be done. Out of sight eventually out of mind. I did mine when dad went on a business trip. He couldn’t handle the screaming and would cave in.
My only advice is to force the sippy,if he wants to drink he’ll use it. Even after crying and puking.
Switch his liquids to pediasure so he’s getting more calories and will fill up more. The chocolate ones. If you aren’t ready to stop cold turkey then don’t, get him drinking more calories to be fuller longer and maybe he will sleep longer. Good luck, you can do this
Have you tried the sippy cups that basically have a nipple top? Maybe that would help transition. Or start putting something in the bottle that he doesn’t like?
My almost 2 year old still gets a bottle at bedtime. I couldn’t imagine every 2 hours! Hang in there mama
There’s two different things you are wanting to do. Don’t try them both at the same time. I would do sleeping through the night first. Let him have the bottle. Does he wake up every 2 hours for a bottle or something else? What do you do to get him back to sleep?
Throw it in the trash. I broke mine at 5 months old bc she started drinking from a sippie then and switched to milk at 6 months she was already eating table foods
Toss the bottle out…out of sight out of mind. Most kids don’t wanna eat around that age, but they are not hungry…a little bit.
Find a sippy cup that had more of a nipple to start off with . Hang in there
Only put water in the bottle.
We we to a dental check up and the dentist said tonight the bottle stops… I went home and trashed it. I bought one of those 360 cups. He used that at night. Now he’s almost 3 and the dentist said to stop the 360 cups as well. So we’re trying to transition to straws. He can use a open up but I don’t want to clean up messes every 5 minutes.
Maybe he’s waking up because he doesn’t think you are there? Try white noise in the backyard and a small night light.
Alot are probably saying this, but throw them away. If bottles and pacifiers are not there, they will turn to their next thing, the sippy. Also invest in soft nipple sippys, my son takes those easier than a hard top. He’s also 20 months old and he found a pacifier under the bed and regressed to like a baby and cried for it, but we threw it away and let him cry and kept offering the sippy
I literally threw them away overnight and replaced with a sippy cup with some of their fave characters (pj masks) and told them that they were big boys now. Soft nipple sippys are a good start
I replaced them with soft spouts first. Work on it especially when they take naps.
You can start by watering down the milk. 90% milk-10% water
70% milk- 20% water
Etc …
Until 2% milk-
98% water
Meantime, give whole milk in sippy cup He will start to associate “good milk” with sippy cup.
I am a dental hygienist. This is the advise we give to parents. I have witnessed baby bottle decay in children as young as 20 months.
Baby teeth were not designed to withstand the sugar and acid found in milk when it “pools” on the front teeth ( this occurs because of the nipple on bottles).
As a mom, I would just find three days where you and dad can dedicate the to weaning. Throw bottles away, he cries and forgets about it. If you have two days to only concentrate on weaning, you will be less likely to lose patience and give in.
ps don’t even start with juice/chocolate milk, Gatorade,
Lemons are etc.
Apple
Juice has the same amount of sugar and acid per oz as coke
Cola. Milk at meals in sippy cup and water in-between.
There are sippy cups from Tommy tipper that resembles a bottle, also add baby food to milk so it thickens and fills him up
My oldest, I took the bottles and threw them away the day he turned a year old. We were all miserable for 2 weeks, then it was over. My youngest is 3. He has a feeding tube. And I give him absolutely anything under the sun that he wants to eat or drink just for the sake of him putting it in his mouth. If the child doesn’t eat, you will have to discuss methods with the peds so your child doesn’t begin to lose weight.
They make dr browns bottles with sippy cup nipples I got my grandaughter off the bottle at 8 months old it was easy gd luck
Each child is different i had one off my 1 one off at 2 and my last off at 8m because of medically needed but iv always just thrown them away just be careful my son could not use the bottle after surgery at 8m but we also had to get a gtube for him to get fed my middle was the hardest we started to go down each day to one less time he would get a bottle say he got 5 bottles a day we went from 5 to 4 then the next day 3 bottles till it was to 0
Take the bottle away by the sign of the moon. I’ve weaned both boys bottles & pacifiers by the sign of the moon. We’ve weaned all of our foals by the sign of the moon. When I did the boys for pacifier, it didn’t even phase them one bit. They were 10 months-ish. When I did the bottle for the oldest, it didn’t phase him but he did refuse to drink out of a sippy for about 3-4 days but I held my ground!!! He was 12 mos. Then he got RSV & was hospitalized a month later so I had to give it back but the next wean dates, I took it away and it didn’t phase him at all. The second son had no problem when I took his bottle at 13 mos. just Google “farmers almanac best days to wean”
Pediasure for more nutrients if that’s something you’re worried about and because it’s heavier it might help with the sleeping longer. There are different flavors so just see which one your kiddo prefers. Start it in a cup from the very beginning. Is he just not good at a cup yet and so he gets frustrated? Try different ones to find the right fit for him. I found the ones with handles worked best when we first made the switch because they were easier to hold. Once I knew my kids COULD use the cup they didn’t have the bottle as an option anymore. I just packed them all up and threw them out. This was for me as much as them! If they were gone then I couldn’t give in if they started crying or throwing a fit which we mommas sometimes do because crying babies can break a mommas heart. Ultimately I just told myself this was a health decision for my baby (teeth) and even though they didn’t understand the whys of changing it was my job to make the best decision for them and that’s what I was doing. As long as he CAN get his liquids from a cup and it’s just a preferred thing to have a bottle you’re not risking dehydration or anything else. He will get desperate enough to drink out of the cup at some point and when he does it will be there waiting. Put your drink in the same type cup and set an example if you must. It will only last a few days I promise. Just hang in there honey. This is completely normal. Kids don’t understand change. Just be consistent!
Maybe solids are challenging for him to swallow. But formula isn’t enough for him now…try pediassure. Or start mixing baby food veggies and meat into his milk (nipples need bigger holes).
I got my boy off with the nuk soft spout zippy cup. Told him his bottles had to be thrown away because there were holes in the nipples and he finally took it. He drinks less milk now throughout the day and eats more due to it
Personally I let my nearly four years old have his bottle but it’s water we have jut cut out day ones thou. He still has them at bedtime (water only still) he has maybe two to three a night. But it’s quite warm here but mostly it’s one to go to sleep and one during the night. Dentist said his teeth are really good when they got in there.
I would try blaming someone else for no more bottle. Something to the effect that “the doctor says no more bottle, it is not good for you at your age, the doctor says we need to throw them away” You might even ask him for his help. If you start giving veggies and meat into his bottle, you are only reinforcing his need for it. Talk to his pediatrician for help and to ask if he even should be fed during the night. Physiologically he probably doesn’t need it, but is in the habit of getting it.
Make fun with sippy cups etc. straws. Etc. idk I’m 11 years since I had my son. The cups are different now but I remember pretending to sip on his cup he laughed. I laughed. From there transition.
I used to thicken up that night bottle with a spoon full of baby cereal.
Cold turkey he will cry for a bottle but you can’t give in. At his age he shouldn’t be getting milk every 2 hours at night either. 1 cup before bed and after that, offer water only.
For the bottles try a shot glass lol! Saw it in another mom group and it’s basically a toddler sized cup. Also my son preferred straws and regular cups.
For food, are you offering what you’re eating or baby food? Make sure hes not having milk before meals. It helps to let them choose things, like if im making roast I ask what topping he wants. Let him help cook. Even if its stirring and putting things in the bowl.
For sleep, my son was ready around 2. But he was a bad sleeper too. I also tried everything. We moved and he got a new room and bed and I think that could have been part of it. But I think sometimes its good to just do it when they’re ready.
Speak to your pediatrician ! The food might hurt his tummy , you need to find out why this is happening . I really feel for you . You must be exhausted .
Have u tried to just stop giving it to him? That’s what I just did at 13 almost 14 months. Same issue as u until then. Just transition no matter what u feel like on the inside. So what if he only takes a couple bites keep reinforcing it
But mine still won’t do soppy just let him drink from a cup and straw might take right to it like mine has
I just recently took my daughter off the bottle at 11 months and let me tell you it was absolute hell. My son was off the bottle by like 6 months no problem, my daughter on the other hand refused, cried and screamed and hardly drank much for the first day or so. The first day I was ready to cave and give her a bottle because I thought I was gonna have a mental breakdown from her refusing and screaming and not drinking anything. But I knew if I gave in I would have to again go through the same fight with her. I threw all bottles away and we had a rough couple days, I didn’t think I’d make it but I had to tough it out and after about 2 days she drank out of her cup and took it at night like she never had a bottle to begin with. It’s hard, but if you keep giving in you’ll find yourself having the same fight. Let him cry, or puke, and clean him up. I know it sucks and hurts to see them so distraught but when he finally gets hungry/thirsty enough he will eventually give in.