How do I get my 5yr old to start listening and somewhat respect me? I’ll be talking to him & he will straight walk away from me & ignore me .
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I get down to my daughter eye level and talk to her they have very short term memories unless it involves something fun .
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You’re talking too much. Keep it short and sweet and to the point. Make sure you follow through with getting him to do whatever is asked though. Help if need be but don’t give in. Oftentimes our kids get disobedient and distant because we are only paying attention to them when they are being bad or we want them to do something. Try having fun and doing something down on his level. You’ll get more positive attention that way.
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Good luck. Wait till they get in their teens.
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I have found that my 5 year old daughter will listen if I whisper. I can yell her name 2 feet away from me if she’s watching tv or playing amd she doesnt even hear me. but if I whisper her name she will answer.
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Do the same to him a couple of times he might get how it feels when he does it to you
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build a relationship with him
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And then what do you do ?
You are the parent and you set the boundaries. It’s way more work to discipline and stay on top of a disrespectful child as opposed to ignoring it. Parenting is indeed difficult. I have a head-strong 5-year old. There are consequences for her actions/choices.
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Make him stand in front of you and look you in the eyes as you’re talking, hold his face in your hands if necessary, have him repeat what you say, if it continues consult your Dr
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Go to him. Kneel down so that you’re eye level. Put your hand gently on his arm or shoulder, and say what you need to say in as few words as possible.
My son has ADHD and he has troubles with this at first. We had to have him sit while we spoke to him so we could stay eye level and keep grabbing his attention. Try to keep it short and to the point, kids learn from example so make sure that he sees you show just as much attention when being spoken to as you would expect him too.
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He’s 5, you need to control him and make sure he’s actually paying attention. Get down on his level or sit down with him. Don’t let him walk away. It doesn’t really sound like a respect thing, it’s sounds like you need to make sure you have his attention.
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Find out why he is walking away. Could it be a hearing issue? If it is just plain disrespect I would sit the child down and explain what respect is and what is expected of him. Give him examples of respecting someone else. Parents, elders etc. Then if he continues to do the same I would punish him.
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Could it be an attention or hearing thing ? Rather then being disrespectful.
If not, consistency with boundaries is key. It can be exhausting and repetitive. But CONSISTENCY and say what you mean with follow up actions. Consequences have to be realistic and followed through.
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Wow these comments are all over!! Hope you can piece some together that fits your needs. Yes it gets harder as they age. Make your area quiet/ no electronics. Turn off the internet-new password…. Set down some rules- when we talk—- hold a hand or shoulder so he knows your not done talking . Best of days ahead!! The indian culture held a feather and passed it to the next person when they were done talking- no one talked until the feather was theirs.
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Consequences! A time out chair maybe…
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Show him who the parent is!!! Otherwise he will disrespect everyone!!
Let him know what he is doing is not ok. Give him clear consequences for poor behavior and stick to it. Do not give in.
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Taking Privilege away from him.
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You bring him right back to where you were having your conversation. Explain to him that’s it’s rude to walk away while you are talking to him. And once you are done talking to him he can then go play or continue what he was doing or do what you were instructing him to do. Each and every time he walks away take his hand lead him back. If he continues to ignore timeouts are warranted or other consequences however you see fit. Early bedtime, shorter screen time, etc. You got this!
Always look at what your doing first
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Get him to engage more with you. Go for walk, play games, talk about what he likes.
You start with respecting your 5 years old. And the respect will come back to you. Simple as that. Respect is a mutual thing. You don’t get it if you don’t give it. 
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Ignore him and his request maybe
Some of the comments on here explains why the world is like it is today.
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I ask my 4 yo to tune up his listening ears, which helps grab his attention. Keep it to one thing at a time. One idea, one task, one question etc.
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Keep it short and to the point they don’t understand long therapy sessions their brain is not developed enough to understand.
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Maybe be interesting? 5 year olds are about imagination…maybe start a conversation about poo…or butterflies. …or alien eating unicorns. Then …they might not walk away. 
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Better stand your ground now when they are young and demand that respect. Make them stand there and do not allow them to walk away. Follow through with your threats of punishment. Don’t let them get away from them or they will continue to think you aren’t serious and will not listen ever. Once punishment is over and everyone has calmed down… explain to them why you did what you did and that their actions were not ok and if they do it again, they will get the same response. You have to stay consistent…
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When my daughter is disrespectful to me, I’m disrespectful back to her. She asks me why I’m being “rude”, I tell her, because you are being rude to me. If you don’t want people to talk to you and treat you a certain way, then you don’t talk and treat them a certain way. She changes her attitude very quickly.
Ever hear of a good ass whooping
Take away everything from his room , toys electronic devices
And ground him
Start practising tough love
Do it now become the older your child gets the worse it will get
Trust me once they hit their teens
You will need to make friends with a bottle of vodka
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I know the exact feeling ! But with my 4 year old 
Either discipline them now or don’t cry when their out their in a gang and get killed ! I got spankings not a lot because I knew my grounds . We weren’t in trouble by the law either we had a time to be home n know who we were with not allowed with many people to spend nights with either . We respected our parents n elders . But yes there’s some things you should talk to them about instead of spanking first talk . Then if u explained things n they still do it but don’t spank while your angry which it’s very hard to spank then so there fire you won’t really hurt them. I rarely had to spank mine when I did I cried n later I found out they went and laughed at me because it didn’t hurt them though it did break my heart .
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Sit them down and face to face talk. All kids are different. I have one the same that’s very stubborn lol
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Shame on anyone who laughs at this. This is the age where they have to learn that behavior is absolutely not okay.
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There have to be consequences for the undesirable behaviors, and you have to be consistent so that he knows you mean business.
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Do you respect him? Do you listen or yell and talk over him? Do you pay attention to when he is speaking? Are you condescending? Maybe you’re respectful to him (and to others around you, they watch everything we do) but looking at your own behaviors can help
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Ha. Please please please get him in check. Not acceptable at all. It will lead to more and more bad behavior
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These comments… whew!
He’s five. He’s not 16. He barely understand what respect means, and at five, he’s doing what he sees.
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There is a Nanyang show where she helps parents get back on the right track with children.Cant remember name at moment.
Sit them down and make eye contact. Don’t allow the disrespect
He’s 5 
he hasn’t even learned the meaning of the word respect let alone what it means to respect an adult. Because he’s 5! Gentle modeling of the behaviour is what you need to do. Eye level conversations, sweet, simple and to the point. If he’s distracted move him to a distraction free area but he is absolutely NOT being disrespectful because he walks away when you’re talking, he’s 5 with the attention span of Dory from finding Nemo. It’ll get better with age but don’t sit there and expect him to act grown beyond his years
And honestly, absolutely ignore the people who were suggesting psychical harm as a solution to him. Coming from a place of experience, spanking his bottom, holding his face to force him to listen. Taking everything away from him will grow that resentment when he’s a preteen, teenager and adult. You can ask my step dad who has lost all contact with me and doesn’t know my children due to his views on how children should be raised. And I’m telling you, that’s not it!
Or you can just ignore this comment all together and do whatever you feel is best for your kid. 
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A good spanking never hurt.
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Good old fashioned a$$ whooping
Man. Wait until hes committing crimes at 13. Hes five. You’re the adult.
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Kids learn from adults, seems he hasn’t been taught how to be mutually respectful. Do you get to his eye level? Understand his needs and concerns properly? Do you listen to him properly? I’m sorry momma but usually kids like this get it from the parents
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Smack that ass and he will.
What’s with the idiots laughing at this post?
I’ve seen control…train…hit… You all know she’s not talking about a puppy right?
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Snatch him up slow him dow he will be bossing you if not
Take EVERYTHING away from him. No tv. No tablet. No going outside. No fun. NOTHINGGGGGGG!
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It may not be about respect. Check on his attention span, you may need to learn how to phrase things shorter. Since this is the only concern you listed I’m not convinced it’s about respect. It might be part of his brain type.
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Be hard on him now so when he gets older life won’t be hard on him. Boys need structure and discipline and anauthority figure.
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As much as people wonder what the hell is wrong with kids these days… I always wonder what the hell is wrong with parents these days?? HE’S 5 YEARS OLD!!! NOT A TEENAGER! NOT AN ADULT!
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Tear that ass up one good time and he will straighten up
Do you show him respect? Lead by example. Kids listen to parents who listen to them.
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Lead by example. If you scream, hit, whatever, they will do the same. You can’t yell at a child if you do the same to them. Kids are more difficult now, we live in a world that has no respect or kindness towards one another.
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I would have gotten spanked
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Get a handle on it now or you won’t be able to control him.
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I swear half of you shouldn’t be allowed around children 
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You need to put your foot down. If a child is walking away, chances are you’re talking too much or talking down to him. Your child simply doesn’t respect you. Yes respect is earned not given, but you have to TEACH your child respect. Do you talk over them? Do you sit and listen when your child is talking? Children learn by example.
Do you hit your child? a child who is constantly hit, will stop coming to the parent. It instills fear. Do you want your child to be afraid of you?
And before you come at me… My parents Whooped my ass over EVERYTHING. I was afraid of my parents. I didn’t respect them. I don’t even tell them at 40 I love them, because face it, why would I love someone who treated me so poorly.
My kids are 18(this month), 16, 11,8. They dont get spanked. I talk to them about their actions, I take away the fun stuff. I explain how their actions have consequences. I have some pretty amazing kids with good ethics. My soon to be 18 year old is graduating high school early, my 16 year old is half a year ahead, my 11 year old is in honors in middle school. My 8 year old well she’s 8 hahaha. But they’re all athletes. Sure they have their moments they are far from angels. They have given me a hard time A LOT. But they’re 100% better than when I was a child. My kids respect me and my decisions. My kids come to me even when they know they are going to get in trouble… Because they trust that I will help them, not hit them and they know they’re going to get punished. But I have taught them that that they are going to have to deal with the punishments of their actions.
Because I was hit for ANY action that wasn’t to my parents standards I just did what I wanted because I knew no matter what I was going to be hit.
Like others have said every action has a reaction and that was my reaction. And I know damn well with the billions of people on earth I wasn’t the only one who was like that.
Here come all the boomers suggesting you beat your children into submission
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Wrath of God on his bottom. A 5 yr old HAS NO RIGHT TO DISRESPECT ANYONE LET ALONE HIS MOTHER OR FATHER. .
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If you can’t be a parent at this age .
You will always lose.
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Are these real or are we being trolled? ! He’s five ! Take control now or watch a felon be born
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Sit him in a chair and don’t let him get up! If he does then give him what we got as kids !discipline!
Yall crazy I’ll yoke my children up and dare them to walk away from me. What’s wrong with yall? I have 5 grown children we all have wonderful relationships they are wonderful parents but yall give yalls kids way to much power this gentle parenting stuff has made yall the children.
Show more interest in him aside from correcting problems. Color with him or play with toys or pretend with him. Invite him to help you with chores around the house. Listen to him when he tells you about things that are important to him.
Also, don’t place unreasonable expectations on him. He’s 5. Yes, he should listen to you, but a 5 year old’s capacity is not the same as an adult.
Treat him with respect, like a whole person, and he will learn from your example.
Whisper… it works great with kids.
You set boundaries and enforce them.
Every time.
And the next time they walk away: pull them back and correct the behavior. Explain it is rude and disrespectful.
If they do it again: start doing it to them every time they want your attention until they get it.
It works.
Looks like he is the parent
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Do you deserve the respect?
My two yr old is the same hits me bites me wat do u do at this age…
Make him come back to you and stay till your conversation is over. Time out.
Boundaries should be set alot earlier the 5. To many parents fluffing over smaller things that soon turn into bigger problems.
Because you have allowed it all this time. So he trained you. So now it will take time to change it.
Maybe you’re using too many words to get your point across and he’s losing interest? Direct and to the point.
He’s 5 try again in 5 years lol
Jerk him by yhe neck like my mom did o e time scared the hell out of me then always listen good it called teaching
Spank the little hellion. Before it’s to late.
Get him checked for Autism/ADHD
Hmmm maybe a whack on the ass ! Just a thought, prettier soon he/ she will be hitting you would you allow that. My granddaughter did that once, I hit her back . Never did that again. Because when she try’s that in the real world when she grows up she is going to get a rude awakening. Good luck,
When he goes to walk away from you grab a handful of hair or the back of his shirt and snatch his ass back where he was and make him understand who the parent is, if that doesn’t work whip that ass real good that is whats wrong with kids now days they haven’t had that butt whipped good enough to make them want to stand the rest of the day.
You teach respect the same way you teach anything. By role modeling the behavior. You can’t just fairy wish for shit and get what you want. 
Please speak with your pediatrician about this first; it’s important to rule out ASDs & other neuro / auditory problems before you start throwing your energy at a perceived behavior .
In the event it’s not any of those things-
•Be consistent
•Get on his level, literally; crouch / kneel/ bend down to help nequalize your positions.
•Make eye contact
•Hold hands
•Avoid word vomit - don’t use twelve words when three will do
•He’s five.
•That is awfully young.
•Be patient
•I don’t think this has a thing to do with respect