How can I get my husband to put his phone down?

Anyone else have a spouse that is always on their phone? like what are you even looking at? i am right here, YOUR WIFE. I know he is a grown adult but I need attention to…how can I get him off his phone and more in the moment with me and the kids?

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Unfortunately you don’t. I’ve been with my husband for 9 years and he seems to care more about his phone then me and our 4 kids. We’ve talked about it and he just says sorry and nothing changes.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How can I get my husband to put his phone down?

If i have to beg for my spouses attention,I am not gonna be with them

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Create tech free spaces and stand by them. At one point our tech free space was the sofas. No phones at all. It actually worked, we held each other to it. Then he went to the field or something and we said F it :rofl:

I know the feeling all too well…

No. I’m that person. Either on my phone or my pc :woman_shrugging:t5:

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Disappear and see if he notices…

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Need attention too :joy: geebus

Same problem here…me and the girls lack his attention :worried::cry:

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Sit him down and explain to him how invalidating it feels to be ignored for his phone
If he doesn’t want to be a part of the family he can leave, but if he wants to be a part of the family then he needs to put his phone down and participate

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Get your phone too and get busy

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Sit by him and start a conversation on social media with him😊 compromise

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Don’t pay the bill and let it get turned off

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Restart the modem randomly, unplug etc. Just to mess with him :joy:
No but actually communication is key. If you have told him time and time again and he still doesn’t give you the attention you deserve then maybe you deserve more

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If i want attention I’ll sit on him, flash him. His pretty response! LOL :laughing:

Call the phone company and suspend his phone line LOL

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I am so Guilty of this myself.

Tell him to get off of his phone

Send him a tinkerbell meme😂
That’s what I do with my guy.

Me and my parther are always on our phones and we still give each other attention aswell as the kids​:woman_shrugging::woman_facepalming: if I was you I would Join him sit on ur phone Aswell :rofl:

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All y’all are childish af. Leave the man alone, he’s not bothering anybody. It’s not like he’s cheating. This is the same as video games or watching tv. I’ll admit I’m on my phone a lot and it’s just because I like to see what’s going on in the world. I like to see what my friends are up to. I like to see the news. I like stupid games. I like watching funny videos. It’s just relaxing downtime.

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Yep… that’s their escape. Don’t nag just carry on without him

Take shit ton of pictures and post them…

Especially if how the kids are growing up so fast

If you post anything about him he’ll just have more reason to escape.

…get in the buff…:woman_shrugging:

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Find someone who gives you the attention you want

Have same issue with mine. Our 6 year old will try get his attention and he’s stuck on TikTok or a video game. Stupid annoying

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I don’t have that problem
As we are all glued to our phones
I’m in a family of 6
When it’s dinner time a txt goes out for them to wash their hands and come and get their meal

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Talk to him. Tell him what you need.

Tell him its the phone or u and the kids

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Mine sits on the computer :desktop_computer: constantly :expressionless:

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Glad I don’t have that problem. He works 12-13 hour nights, 5 days a week. He can’t wait to get home to me and when we’re together, we are never on our phones. We have so much to talk about and do on his days off.

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Y’all do know we are all on the phones now​:joy::rofl::joy::rofl::joy::rofl:

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Meee! Mine is either on TikTok for hours watching dumb stuff or he is on his ps5 & if not then he’s taking a nap.

Unplug the wifi and see if he puts it down

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Joined the club years ago. I get so angry I want to break it

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I’m looking for an answer to the same question myself. I wake up in the middle of the night and he’s on that damn phone. I get up to start the day and he’s on that damn thing. He’s always on that damn phone!

It’s no big deal I do the same,

Momma just find a way to take his attention away from the phone try to be apart of what he’s doing rather it’s videos or games, be honest I mean we all are extremely into our phones it sucks but it’s reality

Mine has a head phone in his ear 24/7 cracks the shits if yiu talk to him too much or he doesn’t get to watch his shows. Generally car shit of shitty TV shows. Conversation is dead and that’s just about where this relationship is. Fought for so long and just tired. Only holding together for my kid but she and I deserve so much more than this.

Deed for that is afair game,

I tell him all the time. His excuse is that his always at work and this is his only tiem to be on his phone. I tell him well since your always at work this should be the time you spend with the family. Sometimes he gets home late from work and his coworker calls him to keep talking about work. Like really? You just got home and we are waiting so we can have dinner. It gets me so mad.

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Mine is colouring in on a picture paint app​:woman_facepalming:. All the time. He’s my rugged man in the day and the night… Colouring in :joy::roll_eyes::woman_facepalming:

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I’m gonna be the odd one out here. Maybe his love language is just spending time around you like mine is. I don’t much like physical touch or gifts or anything. I’m completely satisfied just existing in the same space while we do our own things as long as we’re in the same room. Anything more is just draining and it’s nothing personal against my partner, it’s just how I best show and receive love.

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Set boundaries and rules. No phones at the dinner table. One hour phone free a day. Etc.

Flash a t*t intermittently. I bet that’ll work. :man_shrugging::joy:

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Yes yes yes omg yes and it bugs the ever living shit out of me

Easy, Take it off him

The one and only time I had this problem with my husband was when we were dating. He invited me over but spent the whole time playing COD. we’re both gamers. That just isn’t my kind of game. First person view gives me a headache. Anyway, I took matters into my own hands as well as a few other things. And my mouth got involved. He put down the controller and I haven’t struggled to get his attention since

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It may be an addiction. Talk to his doctor. Negotiate for specific hours he has to put his phone away. Get a little safe, put it in there & only you know the combination. It may be how he relaxes, so find other ways to do that—take walks, have the kids scratch his head, rub his back & give him kisses when he gets home. Or let her m take a cat nap before he deals with everyone. See if he’ll go to therapy to learn to deal with stress better.

Start seduction mode
Start being who you was when yal met if that don’t work out than idk :woman_shrugging:t5:

Yeah it’s a deal breaker for me too. Life’s too short to be always staring at your screen rather than talking to your wife or the people right in front of you. Its sad but thats the truth and it kills relationships daily. I’m so mad I don’t even wanna talk to anymore guys because of it … super annoyed

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Pick yours up lol seems like that’s when my kids wants me and he starts talking to me.

Stand naked in front of him lol

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Is he 12 ,sounds like he want to go to (school)work then be on his phone the rest of the day,and not be a grown man with responsibilities

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Don’t nag, but make home and yourself so appealing it will interest him more than the phone.

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I lost my shit and said if he wants to be on the game all the time, I gotta think about where I want mine and our sons life to go. If it’s gonna be me looking after a child and a man child…. No thank

Has he been at work all day and just sat down to browse while he chills or is he constantly on it all day?

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Suggest a movie or going out to eat. Maybe a family game. Do you play cards? Make snacks if you do and get him to join in a card game if you can. Give him an alternative.

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I honestly say what are you looking at? I believe our relationship needs more attention then your phone so you better get to it boy. Sometimes I’ll text him and tell him after a while of him being on his phone I’ll say "it’s time to put your phone up and come back to us because you don’t have many days off and we want to spend it with you

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I once read something about dealing with men that has always worked for me. Whenever a man isn’t “rowing the boat” (doing his part in the relationship), YOU stop rowing too. So, don’t ask him to put his phone down. Don’t ask him for attention. Just focus on yourself and not the relationship. He will most likely begin rowing again. If he doesn’t, the relationship will “sink,” and then you’ll know he’s not really in it with you.

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I threw my husbands in the toilet a few years back for this reason. :rofl:

He has changed.

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Have you discussed this with him?

I Know a lot of people who do that & it drives me Crazy!!

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All these people saying he shouldn’t be on his phone…what device did you see this post on?

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Phones are pure fucken evil. I wish they were never invented everyone I’ve ever been with is obsessed with it I only scroll when I’m completely bored or the kids aren’t fin with me lol. It will be the other parents loss when they have zero bond or ur kids don’t love you because u gave ur phone.more attention then anything else in the world. Take care of ur self and kids and let the other parent figure it out 10 yrs from now when they are miserable and all alone or with another loser like them who can’t not look at there cell for.5 minutes

Yes i know the feeling and im tired of it to.

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U shouldn’t have to do anything to get him off of his phone. He is an adult he needs to figure out he’s part of the family and he has responsibilities. The only thing I would do differently is not do anything for him like cook clean do his laundry. When he asks you why you’re not doing it say well you don’t seem to be part of the family any other time.

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I am all over mine though, I love hugs, kisses,little things. That’s something I love, let’s me know hey it’s busy but muah here’s my kiss and big body hug to remind us to stay present.

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Ask him to put his phone down and be present with me/us

Koralee Quinlin :joy::joy::joy: is this you???

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I think you’ve gotta give , to get . And if he feels that you’re boring and just sitting around waiting , I’m guessing he’s gonna sit around and wait as well , but instead , on his phone . Maybe think of ways to stimulate a males mind ?? What does your husband like , and what are things you can do that’ll actually interest him ? Otherwise I think the phone is just a stand-in time kill :blush:

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Ppl get addicted to all kinds of things… u need to find out if he’s looking at important stuff …job related OR
Porno, lady friend, or just man stuff…
It can cause a break up due to Elination of Affection…

Something has his attention… ?? :thinking::thinking::thinking:

For me it is video games.

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I mean have you tried talking to him about it

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Start introducing him as an addict :joy: explain to them that he’s been struggling with the phone addiction for a while. … that should change his tune pretty quick. :joy::joy:

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Just tell his ass to get off the phone :joy:

Did you perhaps try a blow job :face_with_monocle:

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Following because same😞

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Mine either had the tv, video games or his phone… Im in the same boat. I just get naggy with him. I’ll sometimes just plop down in his lap and make him pay attention. :sweat_smile:

Leave us alone​:man_shrugging::smirk:.

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If he’s on his phone, send him pictures!! Maybe that’ll get him off the phone and onto you!:heart_eyes: I can be like this too and it’s mostly our of boredom or stress, not because I don’t want to be around my hubby. There are times I need to remind myself to be present. :heart:

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You can’t he can do what he likes within reason

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Following this cuz mine does this every day from the moment he gets home til he goes to sleep. Takes it in the bathroom with him. I’ve tried talking , threatened to move out. Nothing works ! It’s constantly a fight and he won’t put it down for anything. I shouldn’t have to beg or tell him I want his time.

Mine is constantly on his phone also. I’ll have to tell him to pay attention to the kids. Mine is either always on his phone, Xbox or is trying to get down my pants. It’s quite annoying

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It used to really,irritate me when people are constantly on their phones. Now I’m one of those rude people. It’s sad because it’s the way of the world now

Mine gets on his listening to music :notes: with headphones with everything he does I have taken headphones away .I’m trying get him pay attention me too. This all the time :headphones: :sleeping_bed: :headphones: cleaning :bathtub: :headphones: dishes :headphones: laundry when he helps around house :house: I don’t even get listen music .and sometimes listening and watching other things.feeling neglected and he works 3rd shift .

This is a two way street for most people

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Me too and he has his headphones on too.

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I’m always on my phone because I have a business (online boutique) so I feel like I’m always checking & packing orders or posting stuff

Hide phone charger, lol

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Phones are addicting ! Have a time you put them in a basket ! When time is up here is your phone