Y’all I’m too busy to be horny, she doesn’t have a medical condition 
OP just needs a break, my 2 year old is the biggest mood killer cause all I wanna do I spend time with him instead hahahaha it’ll work itself out, everyone has slumps
See your dr for a hormone imbalance. Also, maybe try spicing things up a bit. After we’ve been together for so long… It kinda seems a bit like a chore or we get in a rut. On average, it takes a woman 15-20 minutes of foreplay to get ready for intercourse. I have a ladies group that i run on fb, and we talk about personal issues and women’s health. I personally had this same issue. Been with my significant other for 10 yrs as well and 2 kids later. No sex drive at all. Your more than welcome to pm me about the private women’s group. Hope you find something to help hun. Yu dnt suffer alone!
Time for a doctor’s visit to run a hormone panel.
I was this way too. Makes me have so many regrets and feel super shitty because I lost my husband almost a month ago. I have had no sex drive for over a year now. I always told him that it wasn’t him! After I had my hysterectomy I thought it would come back, but it still didn’t 
prayers to you!
Are you on any medication? Certain meds like antidepressants and mood stabilizers kill sex drive
I had something wrong with my thyroid. Im now recieving hormones replacement for the lack of horomones due to my thyroid. Get checked. It worked wonders for me!
Get hormones checked
Dr for test hormone imbalances can cause low sex drive.
Are you on any kind of birth control? Cuz I’m telling you that’s what it is! Or that’s what it was for me. After my second child I got an iud and after the second year I didn’t wanna even be touched at times. About t o months after it being removed I was back to my normal self…kinda sorta
See a doctor boo boo
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Excersize and get on birth control
I know the same feels expect my partner he got the low sex drive and ive just got mine back
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First off are you exhausted? Is he helping in the house? Being an amazing dad is one thing but also being a partner? I use to get turned on by my man for doing laundry and vacuuming the carpet…just saying.
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Nothing is wrong probably just post partum go see your gyno and have your hormones checked.
Date nights with no kid is a must.
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Date night, spice things up in the bedroom, try new things, quality time (even if you’re not doing anything at all) it’ll help you reconnect, get your hormones checked, if you’re on birth control it can cause a low sex drive for some people. There’s a lot you can do to fix it. Just keep trying. Don’t get discouraged. It takes time.
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This is NOT your fault… Please don’t blame yourself and this problem is common among new moms…
Try to consume more foods that are known to improve sex drive in humans
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If you are asexual that’s just something you have to come to an agreement on. 🤷 Also check out some weed stuff
I find contraception affects my libido really badly xx
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Get off face book and talk to a doctor maybe🤷🏻♀️
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Everybody is different I have 2 kids an after they were born I still had quite a high sex drive my partners is quite low. I started experiencing pain after sex for the last 12 months so sex was a no no. I had my smear test done an now sex is off the cards for a while I had to have a biopsy on my bits on Monday. Keep up with ur smear tests an maybe ask the doc for an MOT app where they test for everything I found out it was my hormones. I know its not easy goin to the docs about something so personal but I’m glad I did it may have just saved my life xx
Go see your Dr… My birth control was causing issues like that for me. Sorry that it’s generic, not the advice your hoping for but that your best bet.
Go see your Dr.
It could be your hormones.
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Go see your doctor to rule out any possibilities. It could be depression, you’re tired, your hormones are out of whack, or there’s some other mental reason as to why it’s happening. Us as women are mental creatures when it comes to sex so we have to be in the right state of mind in order for it to work.
Also, I would figure out to what your five love languages are, the both of you, and see if that helps. Sometimes you guys might need more quality time, or you may need him to help out with little things around the house, or tell you good things about what you’re doing and give you praise for certain things. Make sure he’s helping out around the house so you’re not exhausted, because I know firsthand that exhaustion makes you not even wanna think about sex. And also make sure that he is trying to spice things up, and trying to wind you down first before he asks for some. Some people just want to be in and out and don’t want to take the time to get you turned on and relaxed and away from the stressors of life.
Kiss, kiss & more kiss before hand as it heightens tetesterone!!
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See a Dr.
Your hormones might be unbalanced
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Are you happy? Are you in love with him? Feelings can make a huge difference. I didn’t even like my exhusband touching me. Now that I am happy, being intimate is no problem at all.
Hormone replacement therapy. Get a full workup done to find our where your levels are at. It’s been life changing for me.
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I was told I have the female version of ED. I forgot what its called though. I have a slew of health problems though. Your doctor will start by requesting labs.
Check your testosterone.thyroid.vit D levels
Love urself and go to counseling. None of us are qualified. this is your life honey. Invest in it. Good luck
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I went through this with my husband and did the 30 day sex challenge it brought the spark back and we didn’t even have to do the full 30 days
I had same problem. Thought it was my hormones. Umm no Im diabetic. Basically my brain was telling my body that my body was not suitable to carry a baby. So hormones were a mess. Worked on my diabetes and other things have improved. Not saying your case, but this was mine.
Go Asia store n get Wu- long tea n maca… Consult with one of the herbal doctor there… Eat less meat to put your natural hormone system back in sync…
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I have zero desire for sex. Especially after having a birth control implant in my arm. Kissing, cuddling or having sex grosses me out! It kinda sucks!
Bring someone in the 
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Firstly I would see a Dr then go from there.
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Go to primary doctor maybe is you hormones o he maybe recommended therapy ,o is you birth control ask doctor
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Firstly I would do some research. Then go see the Dr.
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Hey hun , how do you feel about yourself ? Confidence in yourself is also important
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Get to know yourself. Inside and out. Wake up the sleeping Goddess.
I was like that with my ex husband when I had my first son but with my bf now and we have a child together it’s like I can’t get enough
Just before bed-time forget about all the troubles of the day and try to relax( with kids we tend to put self-love at the back burner), ask your bf to massage you and maybe the two of you can take a glass of wine in the warm water tub, often times a good foreplay is the key to frequent sex… rest is as told earlier by others to get your hormones checked… all of us have low sex-drives at some point in life, don’t worry too much:+1:t3:
… KY to the rescue:wink:
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Go to the doctor and don’t ask fb
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Following this is exactly what im going through as well
I concur with the advice to see your doctor. It’s sometimes a medical issue, sometimes it’s mental from stress and just life, but your doctor is a good starting point.
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I went to my obgyn for this and honestly it did me no good he gave me the runaround and told me to read some book that all has to do with my self-confidence which is a bunch of baloney perfectly fine with my self-confidence lol I just wanted to scream at him just give me a pill to make me wanna have sex all the time 
By having a small kid, sometimes the mommy switch stays on and we forget we’re desirable, real women first…agree with most comments, especially Mehreen Shahid.
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Please go and see a dr…it just might be your hormones are out of wack.
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A doctor is the place to start. Once determined no physical issue, set one evening or day a week for date night. It doesn’t need to be costly. One on one time away from the toddler.
Sounds like your testosterone is low.
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- I don’t feel like being intimate if I’m asked every single day… it gets annoying
- You may have a chemical imbalance
- It could be an emotional thing as well… usually women pull away when they’re dealing w emotional issues…
- There isn’t a pill that’ll fix you like there is for a man with ED.
- Talk to your doctor and be honest w how you’re feeling, if you’re having bad thoughts, if you’re bored w the husband…if there’s been abuse in the past or neglect and now you’re just shut off
- One on one time without the kids is very important in a relationship
Best wishes and good luck
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If you’re on birth control that could be why
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Pls don’t beat urself up over it. U are probably exhausted daily from all the work that raising a child takes, and perhaps a job, and other life stresses. And I would guess u don’t want to just be intimate and “go through the motions,” as that may feel fake and ur partner might pick up on that. Maybe speak with ur doctor to see if they can do blood work. That doesn’t mean anything is “wrong” with u. Is there any way of having a date night alone, without children, at least once or twice a month? That may help rekindle some interest. I would try relaying what uv told us, to ur husband, if u haven’t already. Ask him to pls be patient, reassure him that u love him and some reasons u think he’s great, and that u hope to get some blood work perhaps to make sure everything is ok, and that u would love to try and have time together (minus the children) a few times a month. Maybe suggest that it would be nice to do nice things for one another, with no expectations of anything in return. Also if he could perhaps not ask for sex for a bit, until u can try and get things figured out, that would be helpful and appreciated. I know it is hard to get in the mood when ur exhausted and little ears may be close by as well. That, on top of always giving selflessly to others, often putting urself last, and sapping ur energy. So, pls cut urself some slack. Maybe if u both ease off of different things for a bit, u can both someday be back in each other’s arms. But, for now, one step at a time. I wish u luck.
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Antidepressants will lower your libido
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Not your fault at all, he needs to be patient with you. It could be as simple as not being felt pushed to do it or it could be hormonal issues.
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Go on a nice little mini vacation just the two of you! Try some new stuff, pamper yourself so you’re feeling yourself and you can always make a doctor appointment if you think it’s something that needs help like hormones. Nothing to be ashamed of
I don’t think anyone on here is in a position to tell you what’s wrong and you need to see a Dr.
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Naturopath! To balance hormones 
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I lost my sex drive going through menopause. I started naturally at 39 and completed it at 42, now I have zero drive.
Go see your doctor maybe have your FSH levels checked.
Get your thyroid hormone checked at the doctors and maybe plan a weekend away for you and hubby
try the herb Damiana and ask your Dr for a temporary priscription for hormone replacement
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Definitely might be a hormone issue. I’d recommend seeing an integrative medicine doctor who utilizes traditional and non-traditional treatments to adjust any imbalances in your hormones. It’s a little pricey, because insurance may not cover it, but it might at least be worth looking into. 
Being tired really messes with us moms even if we don’t notice it. Start asking your bf to do more. Sometimes I just want help with getting the kids to brush their teeth before bed
Also, pick a day you are feeling good and just think about it throughout the day. Kinda prep yourself for it.
Don’t beat yourself up. I get the same way, especially when I have a lot going on with family or friends. Maybe let your bf see these responses so he knows it’s not just you. Hugs mama!
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It could be hormonal. Go see your doctor
Maybe if he marries you
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I had a similar issue a n.v d I saw a doctor and found out I had major hormonal issues, might be worth looking into for yourself!
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See a medical professional. A woman who listen & do the necessary testing.
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I am on certain medications. That has taken away any kind of sex drive for many years. I have talked to multiple doctors, and they told me I could go on male hormone drugs. I told them yeah but no. I do not need to grow a beard or have my voice changed to a man.
Go to obgyn it’s your hormones, it not your fault
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Maca root or Ashwaghanda, both adaptogenic and balance hormones. Maca is best for sex drive. Both at whole foods or natural foods stores.
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Go see your doctor and get a blood test to see what your testosterone levels are ( yes girls we have it to) because that’s what gives us sex drive.
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Maca will also cause weight gain. I tried Maca root for 6 months and it didn’t seem to work for me. I just gained weight
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First of all, are you on any antidepressants? Several things could cause this. Talk to your dr. 
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I suggest going to the doctor you could be low on certain vitamins or maybe even need some hormones!
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Stevie Vela can you give some advice??
This happened to me back in my 40’s. The male gynecologist I went to told me to think about sex 10 minutes a day:woman_facepalming:
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Birth control pills can affect your sex drive. Maybe it’s not pills but talk to a doctor, it could be hormonal.
See an alternative type Dr. He can check out hormone levels
Even women depend on testosterone for their sex drive. You can want to have sex drive all you want but if hormones are off…if the estrogen to high, which can push down testosterone… can make a world of difference…
You could have a deficiency. But also I’ve found that my spouse "trying everyday " actually hinders things. It takes away from the heat/romance of it.
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Sounds to me like you guys need a romantic reminder towards each other. See if you can take a weekend, have family watch your daughter, and the two of you take time to spend with each other and reconnect. I went through this with my husband after having my twins and it all boiled down to me feeling unattractive which led me to lose my confidence in myself. Without that confidence I could not give in to his advances. We went away for a weekend and spent an amazing 3 days just hanging out, going to dinner, and watching the sunset together. He then tried something new in bed and it drove me insane. Now I’m practically begging for his time.
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Talking to eachother is a huge step and really concentrate on foreplay, take things slow, love and appreciate eachother, even if its just date night with a takeaway and a drink that ends up with you both spooning, if that doesn’t help then speak to your gp, but don’t shut him out, work through this as a team! Good luck
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HSDD can be caused by anything. Mental issues to stress to medicstions like anti-depressants or Blood pressure pills. Best to see your doctor because for women there really isnt a cure for all for this. You may get it back tomorrow or you may get it back never.
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Watch porn and buy some oils and just do it… don’t be afraid to tell him what you want him to do to you.
Its common in women. Talk to your doctor about a hormone shot. After you have kids sometimes your levels fluctuate causing no sex drive. I have this too. Best of luck!
Learning your partners love language definitely helps and of course him learning yours. It is not always a sexual turn on. My husband and I entered counseling for this reason and we both learned many things we could do to positively affect our intimacy.
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Watch some porn together. Maybe that will help.
Also I seen a comment about him trying to everyday is annoying. I agree. I got annoyed when that ws all my SO would wanna do.
Seek out a dr. Advice from fb isn’t the way to go about it
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Firstly, slow down Mama! You are not at fault! Do not, I repeat do not start pinning this on you. It will only escalate the problem adding pressure.
It is completely normal within the first 5 years following baby!!! That’s Chemistry.
That doesn’t mean you can’t or won’t rekindle that flame. It’ll take a certain mood, or stars aligning to kick start it.
I recommend seeing a doctor to rule out hormone imbalances. There’s that awful chemistry again 
Otherwise you’ll need an assessment. I’d begin by asking questions like “Is my disinterest related to a wandering mind?” Or “Might there just not be enough energy or time to get this right?”
Sometimes it’s just the right amount of together time mixed with tone and mood. Other times it’s a bit more cryptic, have you tried massage?
You’ll need lots of time. Time alone, time together. Something you just won’t get alot of until wee one is a bit older
Hang in there Mama! You’re on the right track. Don’t be so hard on yourself
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I’ve noticed when I’m eating poorly my drive goes down but when I’m eating healthier my sex drive goes up, especially when I drink alot of water, I have no sex drive if I’m dehydrated
Following. I have the desire in my mind and heart, but i have fibromyalgia and am always in pain, which makes it really hard to even be touched sometimes:sob: good luck to you, maybe someone will have some good advice!
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Talk with your doctor
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I am on the DEPO shot and it makes me have a super low sex drive!
Talk to your Dr…very likely a hormonal issue or something that may have an easy fix.
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Hormones, stress can be contributing. Have hormone level checked and practice self care and/or eliminate stressors
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First of all it’s not your fault!! There is no fault to be had. Becoming a mother does a lot to your hormones and being a mother is exhausting! Take the pressure off and let it be something you want because it will feel good and make you happy. Try to find ways to get yourself excited separately, try a vibratory or watching porn or something that excites you. Spend some time with yourself quietly and ask yourself, what do I want? What turns me on? Who am I as a woman besides a mother and wife or partner? Try to find a way to make it enjoyable and exciting not guilt ridden. You’ve got this! You deserve love and patience and pleasure and you’ll find it 
Well first of all, and I can’t believe it hasn’t been said yet, it is not your fault and there is nothing wrong with you. It happens after having a baby. It happens for many reasons. Try speaking with your gynocologist. It could be a hormonal issue. If u have a reg dr speak with him or her as well. And if that doesn’t get u the answers u need, speak with a therapist. There are so many things it could be. I wouldn’t worry so much with planning weekends away or a night without your baby right now because that puts the pressure on you to have to have sex and when u don’t feel up for it or can’t then you’ll be that much harder on yourself. Speak with your husband, tell him there’s something wrong there and you don’t understand what it could be. That you love him and are attracted to him but your drive is gone. Make sure to love on him, hug him.
I personally recognize as asexual, so I understand none-low sex drives.
I have honest communication with my partner and he understands and doesn’t pressure me.
Like others said, learn each other’s love language. There’s more than sex to be intimate with each other.
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