How can I increase my sex drive?

The birth control pill decreases sex drive.

My ex had erectile dysfunction and refused to get checked for it. I have had another partner for over a year now. My sex drive is much better. It may not be just you in the relationship. You can try the supplements that were suggested. You also need to think about the current situation with your partner to make sure it’s not just you.

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In my situation a new partner would do the trick lol

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Magic mike might help

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Get your hormones checked.

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Have your hormones checked . My oestrogen was very low and I’ve since been taking a replacement that has helped

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Watch Jason Momoa as Aquaman :laughing:

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Maca root and toys as foreplay

Hmm… Christian Grey?:closed_lock_with_key::chains::lips:

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I have a thyroid problem and mine is always high and it’s frustrating at times

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Try the 30 days challenge. It might help.

A new man. :woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging::woman_shrugging:

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My dr recommend horny goat weed. I got it off Amazon

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Fake it till you make it. Have sex everyday even if you want to or not for 30 days. It resets your hormones to natural levels. TRUST ME it has side effects, like weight loss and a big increase in self esteem :rofl:

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For me it was getting a new partner. I used to never have a sex drive. My bf of 4 years now gave me a sex drive :heart_eyes:

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I stopped taking birth control and it helped me. NOT SAYING THIS IS FOR EVERYONE. Just what personally helped me

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maybe I will try the new partner :thinking::grin:

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Depending on your age-could you be going through perimenapause or menopause?

If so, check with your doctor and go over options. Have hormone levels checked, make sure it’s not health related.

If not, try a weekend getaway. Leave the stress, kids, EVERYTHING behind and just hang out with partner and have fun. Sometimes stress will lower libido. Just go and relax, get couples massage and just enjoy each other’s company.

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A younger man (35) worked wonders for me…good lawd

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I am living for these comments ladies!

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I honestly got my tubes clamped and came back :rofl: I think my fear of pregnancy would get the best of me! We just had #6 in December. Also I’ll add it’s been gone/ on and off since I lost myself after my son who’s now going to be 4 this year! my birthcontroll made me gain a ton of weight and I never felt the same after since I hope I get myself back again!!

You should try pelvic floor stretches throughout your days. It will tighten your downstairs and it also always makes me wanting it more when it comes to the night time with hubby​:blush: hope it helps. And try to take your vitamins incase your needing them.:heart:

Thanda Passion Booster herbal capsules

Ask your doc about testosterone injections

Take vitamin D! Seriously!!

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How old are you could be pre menopause

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Birth control can also be the cause

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U can try role playing or things that are spontaneous.

Looking at him maybe as a dad too much an not the man you fell In Love with at first or even before the baby. Have y’all tried date night or weekend get away?

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Try watching porn together or foreplay is important :thinking:

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Go to the dr get things checked out

Id definitely talk to your obgyn. They maybe able to proscribe something to help.

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Go to a sex shop together

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You need to have your hormone levels tested

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Foreplay toys tell your doctor maybe a health issue

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Talk to doctor -Get some hormones!

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Stop blaming yourself! Their are numerous things that can cause this, pre menopause, lifestyle changes, no ring after 10 years ( joke ), hormones. Speak with your gynecologist!

I’m the same way. Basically after I had my son my drive went away. He is 9 now.

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Birth control. , talk to gyno

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50 shades of Grey trilogy.

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Talk to your Dr. You could have hormone imbalance post having your child. It’s normal to get into a rut form time to time. Be gentle with yourself

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These are amazing I’ve had absolutely no sex drive whatsoever ever since having gastric bypass 4 years ago I ordered these the pills and they have honey pouches also

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I have no sex drive either. I’d say the biggest thing for me is foreplay lots of foreplay.

There’s certain vitamins you can take for low libido. Google how to raise your sex drive.

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Get your thyroid and adrenals checked!

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I am in the same boat! We probably have sex every three months or so. Dead serious! Our relationship is great so it’s not because of that I just literally never want to. Neither does he really. Our doctor said it’s normal because we’ve been together for 12 years, but I don’t think it’s normal for our age. We are 32, but we have been like this since we were around 25. Nothing I’ve tried works I’m just literally never in the mood ever

Having a baby can affect your hormones. Although I don’t condone prescription meds over holistic first. Also try date night and a lil alcohol lol Sometimes people get comfortable and change into someone you aren’t attracted to anymore. Have that talk if that is true. Good luck

Baby is two… this is postpartum. See your doctor for estrogen testing.

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Go to your gp they can help you

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Seriously get some toys … it will help …

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Definitely talk to you OB.

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Spice things up! Try new things! My husband knew I was bisexual but I kept it a secret and he said to just come out the closet already I did to family and friends. Everyone was supportive. Now he knows if I’m not in the mood or I’m eh about it he suggest I go watch a “video” :scissors::scissors::couplekiss_woman_woman: and I get in the mood after getting myself in the mood and he comes up and enjoys watching me do my thing which turns us both on. Or if he’s into :kissing_cat: eating. Maybe see if he tries to :peach: :tongue: too. It definitely spiced our sex life up! I get 2 for 1 and uhhhh AMAZING! But only if your both into that. We’re freaks of kink over here lol try something new see if you like it. (We semi role play, i liked being choked, having my :kissing_cat::peach::tongue:, and dirty talk, and it rough. I call him daddy and it’s a major turn on especially when he’s dirty talking you! Ugh so much more sensual or try sensitive. Like booty rubs (the best) or let him rub on your body. I know some men (mine does) like being called daddy and having there neck bite. And back scratching. Try starting out sensual and sensitive first then let things get rougher. :sweat_smile: Sorry I had to find something to spice ours up. It was hurting us both mentally.

I hear Golis in the blue bottle…

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Are you on birth control? It killed my sex drive

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I had 0 sex drive for along time went to the vitamin health store and fot a cream because im allergic to. Synthetic hormones and they gave me a cream natural hormone s and i lost weight had sex alot best stuff ever dont know if they make anymore but it waa called pro cream look for it wonderful stuff

Go on dates, get a lit with him, try doing it in the bathroom, get toys or lingerie, watch porn, talk to ur doctor get a check up make sure u dont have something going on down there or u at alllll

Try Addyi, currently getting a prescription for it, I’m in the same boat love your not alone :two_hearts:

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Get your hormones levels checked.

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Find what your love language is. He might be reaching out to you intimately in ways that don’t work to get you aroused. If you know eachothers love language, things become alot easier.

Get your hormones checked! May need testosterone yes we have it natural as women. Couldn’t hurt!

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I have the same exact problem

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Glad I’m not the only one experiencing this! My husband is absolutely wonderful and I love him to death and been together for 15 years but no matter how hard he tries anymore, I’m just not into it. I assume it the birth control implant and stress. It sucks bc it does cause problems :disappointed:

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Alcohol , Irish sea moss and maca root

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Carnelian :relaxed: you will thank me

I was like that until my kid was 3 and it all changed lol give it time

Elliots Whole Foods has a cream, that I put in different spots n my body! Wrists, stomach, thighs.
It tells you how much you need.
Maybe you need, some you time too!:heart:

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Briana Houde maybe it’s my hormones :rofl:

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It could be a series of reasons… Trauma from past relationships to your body telling you theres something the matter. If youve tried foreplay try role play. Live out your fantasies without embarrassment or passing judgement

I have the same exact problem but I have also been antidepressants for years and years and when I had a tubal it messed with my bladder so mainly for me it is a self conscious thing

I had the same problem and i havent even had kids yet. Then i bought these off of amazon and they have helped TREMENDOUSLY!

Hormones or birth control

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Has it been since you had the baby? If so then definitely have hormone levels checked, and when they fix the problem be ready!!! :wink::rofl:

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See your gp and gyno to check for hormone issues.

Everyone is different but definitely speak to your doctor about this! Probably a hormone imbalance

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Sounds like you’re telling my story😞I wish I had answers for you, but my marriage is slipping away currently because of it.

Try talking to your doctor that’s a good start!

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Me too somewhat because I ain’t ready for another baby

Blood pressure meds killed my mojo as well as hubbies.

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Gin is a leg opener……haven’t tried it myself……but I’ve heard it is :stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye:

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You need to see your GP or Gynae… There could be an underlying health issue or hormone imbalance.

Most all anti anxiety and depression meds can cause it as well. I have this issue as well we just have to have alot of foreplay before hand and we use different kinds of lube during to make it possible for me to climax.

Get drunk 🤷 congrats on your new baby in 10 months :rofl::joy::joy:

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How old are you honey? Are you taking any meds regularly? If so I would talk to your doc about it. There are thing prescription and organic that can help. Also and I’m not assuming anything, but I’m older and it takes more than a fellow just wanting to stick it to me to get me in the mood. Communication is a player in my sex life these days.

See an Obgyn they can help u I have Pcos and I have terrible hormone imbalance my testosterone was super low now I’m doing creams and getting back to normal just takes time

Following, im so glad im not the only one who feels this way :roll_eyes:

I was like this until I went on birth control and it fixed my hormones

And here I am getting laughed at by a dr asking him if there’s something that will help calm down my sex drive. It’s way too high!

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To everyone saying see a doctor… let me tell you they basically from my experience checked my hormones and blamed it on kids. Then said there was nothing they could do for me… so I don’t think a doctor is always the best help.

Well if you are aware of it, and you feel bad about it. Do it anyways when he asks for it. He needs sex too

Y’all I’m too busy to be horny, she doesn’t have a medical condition :roll_eyes: OP just needs a break, my 2 year old is the biggest mood killer cause all I wanna do I spend time with him instead hahahaha it’ll work itself out, everyone has slumps

See your dr for a hormone imbalance. Also, maybe try spicing things up a bit. After we’ve been together for so long… It kinda seems a bit like a chore or we get in a rut. On average, it takes a woman 15-20 minutes of foreplay to get ready for intercourse. I have a ladies group that i run on fb, and we talk about personal issues and women’s health. I personally had this same issue. Been with my significant other for 10 yrs as well and 2 kids later. No sex drive at all. Your more than welcome to pm me about the private women’s group. Hope you find something to help hun. Yu dnt suffer alone!

Time for a doctor’s visit to run a hormone panel.

I was this way too. Makes me have so many regrets and feel super shitty because I lost my husband almost a month ago. I have had no sex drive for over a year now. I always told him that it wasn’t him! After I had my hysterectomy I thought it would come back, but it still didn’t :sob: prayers to you!

Are you on any medication? Certain meds like antidepressants and mood stabilizers kill sex drive

I had something wrong with my thyroid. Im now recieving hormones replacement for the lack of horomones due to my thyroid. Get checked. It worked wonders for me!

Get hormones checked

Dr for test hormone imbalances can cause low sex drive.

Are you on any kind of birth control? Cuz I’m telling you that’s what it is! Or that’s what it was for me. After my second child I got an iud and after the second year I didn’t wanna even be touched at times. About t o months after it being removed I was back to my normal self…kinda sorta