How about you don’t fucking ever throw misogynistic rules at another women and force her to dress a certain way wtf
That’s a you problem in my eyes. If she’s not treating the kids badly, it should matter what she wears as long as her private bits are covered.
I’m always half naked this time of year, it’s too hot!
First of all, what is your definition of half naked? Like is she without a shirt? Clarify please
Are all the important bits covered? If so then I suggest not talking to the father or his girlfriend about how she should dress. You cannot mandate a dress code in someone else’s life, and especially not their home. I promise your child will see it in ads anyway.
it’s like 700 degrees out there she’s probably just trying not to die of a heat stroke.
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That is not your place. You can only control what you can control. And I promise… you can’t control your ex or his gf. This alone is the beginning of a high conflict control tactic. Try to get ahead of it now and stop worrying about the things you can’t control.
I would need to know what half naked means …. Like legit walking around in a thong?
Or wearing short short and a tang top .
If it’s the second option time for you to get over it 
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Unless she is purposely showing her genitalia to your child, no you cannot dictate how another adult dresses. If she’s distasteful that would be on on the ex to bring up to her.
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Unless it makes the son uncomfortable I wouldn’t worry about it.
You can’t. It isn’t your body. It isn’t your house. It isn’t your SO. Unless she’s naked there’s nothing you can say. Read what you wrote again… it makes YOU uncomfortable. I guarantee ur 4 year old doesn’t even notice.
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If she’s walking around in a thong… it’s sounds inappropriate. If it’s like a tank and shorts there’s not much u can say. Does your child feel uncomfortable about it?
Hun just tell her ,be blunt .
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It honestly depends on what you believe in half naked on what my advice would be…
I don’t see shorts and a cute little belly shirt as naked. I don’t even see a bikini as naked. I mean…it’s summer time here now and people are going to dress to keep cool and comfortable. And I don’t see any issues with that.
So…I really don’t know what to tell you.
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I’m with the others, leave her alone. The only thing you need to worry about is how she’s treating your child. If she’s being the wicked witch of the west then you confront her. If she’s nice to your child, nothing else should matter.
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Girl. Mind your business🤦🏼♀️
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You can’t control what others do just because it makes you uncomfortable. Unless she’s harming your son in any way then stop being judgemental and mind your own.
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Her home, her rules. I am curious what your definition of “half naked” is, honestly.
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Ugh some of these comments… 
you have the right to be uncomfortable around someone by how they dress. You have the right to be uncomfortable for your son too. It’s not body shaming. It’s not you being a prude. It’s not you being judgmental. Not all of us have blinders on.
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Define half naked? Like she has private parts hanging out for your sons to see?
Or are her clothes just a little too tight and a little too short for your liking?
Because if it’s too tight and too short for your liking then you just have to be OK with being uncomfortable
He is 4 he doesn’t care or notice
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This is a tough one. I would say discuss it with your child’s father. If she has her breasts and privates covered there is nothing really that you can say to her! It is at the end of the day her body and her choice.
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Do you take your son to the pool or beach? Heck, going to the mall you see half baked people and ads. No need to be so puritanical. Nudity isn’t inherently sexual, don’t make it be, don’t make an issue of it.
She probably changes back into sweatpants after you leave. Lol
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Well, you can’t tell another person how to dress. Maybe this is a great way to teach your son how to not sexualize and objectify women’s bodies, instead of criticizing them for dressing the way they want. Clearly at age 4 he isn’t going to do that, but eventually he’s gonna reach an age. I should add that I’m all boobs and butt so everything I wear in the summer looks pornographic to those who choose to see it that way when in reality, it’s hot as balls and I’m not trying to die. My point here is, teach him to respect women no matter how they look, and understand that we’re all free to wear what we want.
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She’s an adult in her own house…kind of weird that you have a problem with her clothes…? I mean if she was in a thong and bra when you came to the door that’s a little different but still not much it’s still her space to be comfortable.
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That is not your business.
I read quite a few of these comments and I think that here in America what you see on TV should be more of a problem than what’s going on in people’s private lives
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Always with the commands! Its her house . Jelous
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hmmmm noooo shes a whole adult
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Is it bothering your son or is it bothering you? I highly doubt your son cares.
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See I’m Petty as hell I would be going over there half-naked myself just to piss her off… don’t follow my example
Lol then what she is trying to do has worked… lol she is trying to get a reaction/rise out of you. And it worked. You can’t control what someone else is wearing IN THEIR HOME. what she wears is not your concern. How she treats your child is.
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nothing about her casual lounging body is innappropriate and you making her wear more is only showing your son that her body is a sexual object to be put away unless in use.
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I feel like if you take your kids around people at a pool or beach that are wearing bikinis then really she’s fine. In the summer I wear a sports bra and shorts around my house when I’m cleaning. No matter who’s there. I may look like a busting can of biscuits but ima still wear it. In my house
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Pick your battles. This is definately one i wouldn’t be getting into…
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It sounds like it’s just you that is uncomfortable … and you can try but I don’t think you’ll get very far. The child’s only four … as long as she treats him good does it really matter what she is/isn’t wearing at this point ?
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If it isn’t making your son uncomfortable I don’t think it’s a problem? It’s her home. You could ask if it would be possible for her to cover up more BUT it is her home & if your ex doesn’t see a problem then you really don’t have a say.
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Imagine how different these comments would be if mom’s boyfriend always walked around the house in nothing except boxers, around her daughter. 
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Not your business what she wears, sorry.
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Well since I know it’s not your 4 year old son sexualizing it. You don’t. 
the kid probably doesn’t notice it or care. What she wears in her/their house isn’t up to you. Taking your kid to a beach or pool is the same thing as what he sees there. That’s assuming that she’s in a bra and underwear. For all we know you could be complaining about her wearing a t-shirt and underwear. Or even a tank top that you might think is see-through and short shorts. Which both cover more. 
Unless she’s walking around naked and your son has said something to you about it- WITHOUT you bring it up or making a big deal about what she’s been wearing, I don’t see an issue.
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What she wears in her house is not your business if it isnt harming no one. Why are you sexualizing her? It’s summer. Girls are going to be dressing “half naked” as you put it in shorts and crop tops or bathing suits. Sounds like you’re either jealous or just want something to complain about because she isn’t hurting no body.
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the fact that people keep forcing this into a “sexual” topic is highly disturbing. In one end some are acting like this lady is making lewd acts towards the child or in front of the child and she isn’t… she’s simply not wearing a freaking parka when mom comes to pick up and on the other end some people are acting like it is okay to teach a son as early as 4 yrs old that he has control over what a woman has over her body…. You know what one of the biggest excuses for rape are?? “We’ll she shouldn’t have been showing so much skin!” what some of you WOMEN are saying is no different than that kind of mindset and it is sickening.
Unless this child is in harms way and she is acting out of line than I don’t care if the Pope comes over to her house. NOT ONE SINGLE SOUL has the the right to tell her what is acceptable for her to wear. The exact same thing applies if it was the opposite sex. Teach your children about their bodies autonomy and their rights to protect their bodies instead of going around teaching them that their “comfort” and “wants” is all that’s needed to ignore that they have no right nor control over another individual’s body
Sounds like a you problem.
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A child will only see it as inappropriate if that’s what you teach them, but there actually is nothing inappropriate about her clothing or lack of, there isn’t anything inappropriate about the human body. The only inappropriate thing is you ssxualizing someone for what they choose to wear in the comfort of their home
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ask yourself what about her body makes you uncomfortable. Woman’s bodies are not inherently sexual and i highly doubt your child notices at all
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He is 4…she is grown and at her own home and your the one with the insecurities not her seems like your just trying to nit pick your exs new women for some small thing that’s not really a big deal seem like your jelly of alot going on…
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Depends on court order. And what exactly she is wearing- or isn’t wearing. Talk to an attorney. There’s no such thing as being too protective when it comes to your child.
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Define half naked… is she walking around in her bra and underwear? Because if not, leave it alone. Your kid is gonna see half naked people everywheee he goes…at the park, WalMart, the gas station, beach/pool… if you don’t sexualize the girlfriend, neither will your son. That’s learned behavior.
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I mean shes getting her way and shes gonna do it regardless since you cant see whats going on when you arnt there. I mean honestly what are you expecting to happen here…
My daughter is always seeing my arse hanging out and my fat gut I think most kids take no notice anyway
What do you mean “half naked”
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If u mention it, odds are good it will get worse. She will automatically think ur just being jealous and insecure. I say let it go. Ur child is 4, not 14. She’s not naked and I highly doubt ur child has noticed, let alone is being traumatized. Good luck
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Imagine you live where I do and it’s legal for women to go topples are you going to lock your child in his room with nothing to do since women show just as much on tv
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As long as she’s not in bras and panties it shouldn’t be an issue.
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Sounds more like jealousy to me…
Does she have clothes on?
Yes
Do you approve of her clothes?
Who gives a fuck
End of discussion
if she lives there good luck telling her what to wear in her own home
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No different then seeing someone in a swim suit
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Are you sure it’s your child that you are concerned about? Maybe I got ur panties in a wad because u think hers are prettier?
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It’s a literal 4 year old. Nudity is not a sexual thing. Don’t sexualize it.
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Oh don’t start shaming what she wears you wanna keep that to yourself i mean you don’t want your son growing up body shaming woman or even having an opinion about what woman wear, all because you feel insecure around her…
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Unfortunately, I think if you feel uncomfortable you have to talk to your ex and not her directly. It’s one of those “stay in your lane” types of things…. Who knows if she’s dressing like that the entire time she’s with the kids, or putting on “nothing” when you pick them up 
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You talk to your ex. But as long as all the bullet points are covered on her body then unfortunately there’s not much else to say
She’s not being insecure about the woman’s body itself. She’s not insecure at all. She’s CONCERNED that a grown woman is walking around half naked around kids. And that is very concerning if anyone is walking around half naked in front of kids that aren’t there’s.
But, all you females are shaming the mom for being CONCERNED? Wow. Maybe you should ask yourselves if you would honestly be okay with someone else being half naked around YOUR kids. Disgusting.
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Define half naked because I know some women think shorts and a tube top is “half naked”
Truth of the matter is, as long as she has clothes on, you need to mind your business. That’s her house, you can’t go around telling people what to do in their own home unless she’s putting your child in danger.
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If she is wearing would be legal our of doors (covers the same a bikini) then MYOB.
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A 4 YO, a four year old 
You in for one hellofa ride during the teens then girly!!!
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My kids have never seen me walk around in my own home half dressed… kids learn from what they see…I can honestly say I cringe at the way some kids are dressed by there parents or the way the parents allow them to dress. I guess the older I get the more I appreciate the values my mom raised me with.
Talk to your ex. If nothing happens and if it’s more than a bathing suit half naked… and he does nothing. Talk to a lawyer… not fb.
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Very nicely, say I dont dress like that around him, he is old enough to notice body parts and we dont need him noticing that kind of thing
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What does her clothes have to do with you? You sound super jealous. Your son is 4 and he will as he grows up realize it and say something himself. Urgh mind your business.
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By half naked im taking it you mean wearing clothes just not shit you like
You can’t tell anyone what clothes to wear as long as she is wearing some
We aren’t back in the 1800
Who are you to judge or criticise what others wear not your body not your choice
Sounds like a you problem. People get to wear or not wear whatever they want. Regardless of your feelings. Do some soul searching and determine the real reason you have such a problem with someone else’s outfit.
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What is “half naked” mean to you What would please you? If she has no top or bottom on then I would be concerned. You are doing more damage to your son about how she dresses than the way she dresses around him. If she shows some belly, legs and cleavage mind your business. If her nipples are hanging out or her 
is showing then talk to a lawyer.
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The comments here 
Honestly it depends what u consider 1/2 naked… Thong and bra, id say something… Shorts and a sports bra like “workout” clothes i think your over reacting… This is a situational question needing a situational answer
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Why do y’all have to be so damn rude. Ugh.
The amount of people acting like she’s in the wrong is concerning … IF SHE DOESNT WANT SOMETHING DONE IN FRONT OF HER KID ITS HER BUSINESS TO SAY SOMETHING … What does being insecure or petty have anything to do with the fact that she just ask it not be done in front of the kid ? Y’all people are so weird to me … HER KID HER RULES … Simple as that
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Did you read what you typed before you posted it ?
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wow this Amy girl is really going the full mile on EVERY single person’s comment who doesn’t want their kid around some stranger half naked, that says more about you than anyone else, sheesh, wonder if it’s the girlfriend
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What does half naked mean ? Cleavage and shorty shorts are not exactly half naked and if she walks around in a bikini 
does she tan or have a pool ? I mean even these silk tops and shorts with no bra for bed is normal. No some people won’t wear it but some do. I mean even a tube top and daisy dukes is normal attire. It sounds like it’s just bothering you personally and that’s not a reason not to say anything you still have a right to make your feelings known. It would be up to them weather the would like to respect your wishes or not but hopefully you all could have a civil conversation about it.
You need to talk to your ex first. Tell him that you are not comfortable with her lack of clothes she wears around the child when he visits. And if she would wear something a little more appropriate.out of respect for the child. Then go to a Plan B. Talk to her.
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I’m just here for the comments 
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I’m going to take the less brutal approach…
but I feel that her body is hers to dress how she wants. I think if you tried to bring it up even nicely it still won’t seem nice. Also your child will see many, many people in public places dressed the same possibly worse. Best you can do is teach your child to dress with modesty because it shows respect for themselves and for other people. She’s in her own house. So it’s their rules unless his/her dad has a problem with it then tf hey can fight about it.
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Ahhh yeah
Her body, her rules. 
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Okay I’m sorry if I’m out of line here… but as a Male, men and boys have already been normalized to running around half naked. It pretty common for boys and men to swim topless or sleep topless yet it doesnt bother us or even be looked at as strange because it’s not a new concept. So with that, I personally think that as long as all the essentials are covered then it should be fine but that’s only because we have seen it all before through a Male perspective
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Honestly I would teach your child not to judge the way people dress she could of a medical problem that makes her hot so she enjoys wearing close to nothing. Either way you can’t shelter children from everything even if you go to the beach sure they may state no thong bikini but I bet there is a handful of women walking around with a thong bikini. Half the shows on TV have naked to half naked women on there even commercials do. A simple trip to the store you will find girls with a$$ and kitty sticking out of their shorts and crop top on. I personally walk around in shorts and a crop top its hot why should I be fully covered instead of comfortable? If your worried about your child sexualizing women start teaching them to be respectful to women and not to treat them like they are a s!UT by the way they dress. If you try to control the way your ex lives their life in the long run your only hurting your child relationship. As long as your child is being treated good leave it be.
You can’t tell someone how to dress in their own home. Your just gonna cause problems. You have a right to your feelings but unless you want an argument I’d let it go.
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OMG I hop it’s doesn’t make your 4 year old uncomfortable
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Get over yourself. She’s at HER home she should be able to wear what SHE is comfortable with. She’s not coming over to your house and picking up the child and telling you how to dress in your home. Think about what your real problem is with her cuz I don’t think it’s what she wears. Your problem with her might be that she is now around your child and you are having to share your child’s attention with another “mother figure”. You will just cause yourself unnecessary problems bringing this up to your ex and his new gf. Do yourself a favor and don’t look like a bitter petty EX and just pick up your child when it’s your turn to have the child back. You should be worried about co parenting correctly and now about what she is wearing. As long as she treats the kid with love and respect that’s all you should care about.
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My HUSBANDS ex doesn’t get to dictate what I do in ME AND MY HUSBANDS HOUSE. She had all the years she had, and it wasn’t enough for her. Who he chooses to be with and what she does is not your problem.
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You can’t make her do that I’m sorry to say. You can bring it up and it’s possible that your ex may say something to her but more than likely your request will get ignored as you’re telling a third party how to clothe themselves. As long as she’s not butt naked or being inappropriate I don’t think there’s much you can do
Duly note for the record…that half naked women…in front of kids…are usually not good role models…just saying…
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None of your business. Zero
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I need you to be specific on “half naked”
Because these days to most women it’s short shorts and a tank
If that’s the case here
Mind your own
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It really would depend on what you consider half naked. Like I wouldn’t walk around in lingerie. I have 2 stepsons ages 18 and 14. I have been around them for 7 years. I have worn all sorts of clothing around the boys. I’m generally modest, but if I feel like sleeping in pajamas that might show some skin, I’m going to. This is my house and I will dress how I feel comfortable. My 4 year old son still sees me naked. Nudity doesn’t bother him or my 9 year old daughter. It shouldn’t make a child uncomfortable. They are human bodies and a child isn’t sexualizing them. If you are uncomfortable with how she dresses in her own home, dont go to her home. Meet up with your ex somewhere.
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I would just talk to her and let her know that you would prefer that your son didn’t see that much skin, being that he is so young
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It’s summer? It’s a 4 year old and I don’t think ur uncomfortable with her around ur kid . You are uncomfortable with her around you
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Honestly I’m guessing that the clothes are probably a crop top and booty shorts that show some places that shouldn’t be popping out. If so ask dad to have her dress a little more child friendly. I wouldn’t want that around my kids but if it’s a tank and shorts that cover the areas then I don’t see a problem especially if it’s covering private parts the butt and cleavage.
Let me preface this by saying, if it isn’t harmful, abusive, or neglectful to your child you have zero choice or say in the matter. It’s hot outside now. I walk around in short pajama shorts and a tank top most of the day if I’m staying home. And when you say you don’t want to body shame but… YOU ARE BODY SHAMING!!! You child will see people wearing less on the streets. Calm yourself down.
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Sounds like a you problem to me…
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