Your mother should be told. He doesn’t deserve her love and devoting.
Girl tell your mama! If the thought of him seeing photos of your baby girl makes you want to puke there is no other way out no other way to find peace. Let that shit out before it destroys not only you but it will destroy your daughter also it is poison. Do not give that man the satisfaction of still taking up part of your life and never ever let him have one single photo of your baby girl. Tell your mama what he did to you. Tell her it has been eating away at your heart for the longest time and you thought no one would believe you, tell her how it made you feel when he wanted a photo of your daughter. Get rid of this poison and set yourself free. The little girl he did this to so many years ago deserves to be heard and free…
Tell them all everything you will feel better
Hay. YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN THIS. PLEASE FORGET ABOUT HOW THEY ARE GOING TO FEEL. SIT YOUR MAMA DOWN AND JUST TELL HER. WHAT HE DID TOO YOU. DONT CRY. THIS IS IN YOUR HEART AND SOUL AN IT NEEDS TO BE TOLD. YOU SEE HE DID THIS TOO YOU AND LOOK WHERE HE S AT NOW.KARMA. KARMA. LOOK WEATHER YOUR MOM BELIEVE YOU ARE NOT TELL HER. YOU WILL BE FREEIING YOUR SELF. THIS IS ABOUT YOU RIGHT NOW. FREE YOURSELF AND TELL IT ALL. MAMA WILL SAY WHY DIDNT YOU TELL ME? WATCH HER. PRAY AND TELL GOD ABOUT WHAT HE DID. BETTER STILL FORGIVE HIM.DID YOU HEAR ME. FOR GIVE HIM. AS YOU YOU TELL HIM YOU FORGIVE HIM. YOU WILL BE SET FREE. FREEDOM IS WHAT YOU WANT RIGHT???SO FORGIVE HIM AND ASK GOD TO DEAL WITH HIM. AND HE WILL. BE BLESSED MY SISTER. BE BLESSED.PS
SOME PEOPLE WILL SAY I CANT FORGIVE HIM. BUT THEY HAVE A FREE WILL. DONT SAY I CANT. YOU CAN.
YOU ARE A STRONG WOMAN. GOD MADE YOU. READ GOD S WORD. THE BIBLE.LOVE YOU GAL.
It’s not your job to continue to keep his secrets. He’s the one hurting people, not you by the telling.
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You have to talk about it to someone. It will continue to eat you up inside if you don’t. I hope you are able to find peace.
Until you deal with what he has done to you and stop hiding this secret it will continue to eat you up
This will also help you sit down and right how you feel now and how you felt then right everything you feel down it will help with closer it will be hardest thing you have done in one way but the other will be easiest thing the words will come so easy
This is for you nobody but you can read or see what you have written down unless you want to share good luck to you
Go to the police department talk to a detective
I would tell them how you feel about him and why if that can’t trust their daughter then too bad for them
First see your therapist and do it with their help.
Tell your mom tell her everything he is trying to intimidate you that’s what they do tell her with your husband there
Absolutely not you should expose him for who he truly is and for what he did to you. Your family needs to know about this monster.
You should of told when it was happening.
Living two lives is unsustainable. I’m 83yob& never see it end well. If he’s in prison someone has a clue he’s a criminal, so I’d suggest maybe at the right time & place to confide someone you trust first. Eventually the rest will want to know why you aren’t writing him.
Write your WHOLE experience down in your own journal as you’ve begin here & then leave it alone, only to share with those of trust if you choose.
But trust or not, maybe in a protected counseling session, your MOTHER MUST know about YOU, & in this case includes him. She’s unlikely to take it well, so be prepared for whatever. You should have someone with you.
These kinds of secrets never work out well, eventually can be a slow erosion like DANGER alarms going off ofwhat you are feeling naturally now, if you follow this family. You CAN’T send those pictures, NEVER of your daughter, I don’t even post my grandchildren now almost adult, one your age. Gov guidelines talk about this too. Wow, this uncle is audacious & manipulative, give him your daughter even in regular clothes or just face for prison Porn??? Beware.
You’ve answered your own questions, it’s right before you all along since this man came. Your instincts AND Body are so right on, makes me gag too. 
. I didn’t learn this soon enough to avoid more inevitable misery & even then karma follows, you won’t EVER forget. Like Buckaroo Bonsai said, “Wherever you go, there you are!”
Stay far away from this man & his predator influences. These folks rarely change even with help, most always get worse… You are young & need YOUR life, from what you’ve said keep doing this good job & believe yourself, not them.
Good Fortune to you, a smart, wise young woman ! 
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U need to forgive him for yourself. It’s about ur healing not his. See a counselor. I never told my parents. I see a counselor. I’ve forgiven my brother. For me not him. God forgives us for our sins. He can’t hurt u anymore. U R WOrthy 
don’t forget that:heart_eyes:
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No. Tell them. Don’t wait until thanksgiving dinner and blow up letting everyone know how badly they failed you. Tell them.
You need counseling only way to help you emotionally
No tell them. Maybe that can help you to move on.
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I wouldn’t send him any pictures or write him.
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No. Tell them, and you will feeel much better.
I would let everyone know. If they don’t believe you. Then you don’t need them in your life.
You cvan;t keep t bottled up, You have to have the truth revealed because you are valuable person and come before the scum bag who used you, You have to tell your Mother and if she loves you she will recover from this truth because she loves you.
Tell them ALL!!Only way you will have peice
You do what you need to do to heal yourself. The rest be hanged. He is in prison for a reason and that is enough to say you don’t want him knowing you or you family.
Tell tell tell. Tell everyone husband mother and father. Etc. then you will have peace
No why should you suffer, you did nothing wrong. Therapist first & tell everybody what a dirtbag he is.
Tell the truth clear your con
Tell your Mom.You should not be burdened with this for ever.Never writ to this piece of shit.Or spend your child’s picture.Why should you.You owe him nothing.Your family should know what he did to you.Dont cover for him.If he’s in prison then he is right where he belongs No telling what he has done to hurt others.
Obviously he is a looser, and the fact that he is in prison just proves it. Get it off your shoulders and tell your mother. Shell be more hurt that you felt you could not tell her, and kept it to yourself all these years.
The time has come for you to tell your mother, sweetie. She needs to know. He has no place in you or your family’s life for their protection. Maybe you can send her this post?
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Speak up to begin the healing. He has to be held to account for his actions! Your family have a right to know about his behaviour.
If you can’t tell your mother face to face… Write it in a letter what happened how you feel let her know she’s the only one yiu e confided in and as much as yiu know its going to hurt her she needs to know because you don’t want to be sending pics of you and yiur child to a man that’s abused you… He may be your mums brother but yiur her daughter and shel be hurt and disappointed and somewhat angry because yiur telling her something bad about the brother she loves still yiur her daughter and her loyalties lie with you she may advice you to go to the police or she may ask you to keep it between yourselves until she can process the info she’s yiur mum and knows you well enough to know its not something you’d accuse him off if there wasn’t any truth in it and she will help you deal with moving forward…
I think it would be better for YOU to tell someone in the family,some one who you can trust , to help you decide who else needs to be told if any, but go and have counciling, that’s a start ,to tell someone else is the start of healing ,your uncle, is in prison for doing something wrong ,!! His problem not yours, not your fault, he’s not worried about you, he was in the wrong all those years ago he knew what he did was wrong ,you are not to blame you were only 6 years old a small child, take the first step and get yourself the help you need, good luck to you ,you can do this , you are stronger than you think xx
I think if I was in your shoes I would seek counceling first…then I would tell your family…but don’t write or send pics
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Don’t do any of it . Tell your mother what this arsehole did and if she doesn’t believe you cut her out of your life and that of your child’s. There is no way you want that pig near your child or even looking at her.
Your mother or family will probably not give you the response you need. Talk to a professional. The professional will help you sort things out and how to present it to your family in a way it will help you heal.
I passed thru that when I was 5
I can relate how you feel
I finally
Said it when I was around 30
Some believed and some didn’t
At the end
The true came up.
Then I had to have a lot of therapy and when I found God
That was the only one that helped me to forgive
Not for the person
But for my peace
I can say now
It doesn’t hurt my me any more
And I don’t feel that big rock hanging from my neck
That was so heavy yo carry!.
Open your heart and talk to your Familly
Is always the best
Tell your mom to ask her brother why you won’t EVER send him a picture of your kids or a letter to make him feel better. He can rot and he can’t explain it all to your mom. Walk away if a single person doesn’t believe you. Protect your kids by protecting yourself
Trust me, they will not believe her. All she needs to tell her mom is that she prefers not to send any pictures or write to him in prison for fear that it will be seen by other prisoners and she would rather keep photos of her daughter out of the hands of criminals. All of you telling her it’s a shame she’s carrying the blame and it’s not her fault, in her letter she never said it was her fault, I’m pretty sure she knows that.
Tell the family. Tell them that He said “the family wouldn’t believe you “ and then see what they say. If they seriously don’t believe you, then I would never forget that and whoever did not believe you would be on a special list. I couldn’t have an open, honest relationship with people who didn’t believe me, when I revealed my horrible story, that STILL HAUNTS YOU!!
They think he’s this great person but he’s not . He’s a pedophile. Tell them today. You’ve carried this for way too long.
I would tell your parents. Hopefully they’re nothing like my adoptive parents. I told them that my older brother was raping. Called the police and everything several times. They told the officers that it was all for attention. So after a year of trying, I gave up. It went on for 8 more years. They still don’t believe me. I haven’t spoke to them in 10 years.
Tell them! If it hurts them oh well. They will deal with it. Its time they take off the blinders and realize the kind of male he is. After all he landed in jail so they already know he’s no prize. At least if you tell them they may back off about writing and pictures. Its time to do whats best for you…not your family.
Can you speak to your father…sorry but mom seems like a bit of an enabler.
I was in the same shoes as you…go for counseling and tell your parents the truth you are a survivor…you are not at fault…he is…and who cares who gets hurt for something you have no control over…if you don’t want to write to your uncle you shouldn’t have to…what happened to me I turned into a runaway…not going to high school…living with abusive men…I was a mess and I found out that when you are abused you turn into a mess…I was bullied at school and molested at home…to this day I can’t be woken up at 3 in the morning …I’ll freak out…just remember you did not do this…your parents unknowingly had a monster in the house
No tell them what he did and hold your head up high you did nothing wrong
You might not be the only one. Tell them
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At least talk to someone like a therapist/counselor You gotta get it out
Trust and put your problem in Gods hands. He will help you if you pray sincerely to him.
Talk to a therapist… Then have them help you find the right way, and time to tell the people you choose to tell…
Write him a letter telling him what a horrible person he is, that he deserves to be where he is for many reasons, and what a disappointment he is to everyone that actually loves him. Maybe the trash will take itself out. It isn’t feet first into a wood chipper like he actually deserves, but at least the world will be a little better of a place.
If you can’t tell your mum face to face then write to her …I would write to him and tell him you’re going to report him …let him sweat
You need to tell your family. It will help you start to heal
What ever you do don’t send any pictures of your children.
You need to just tell them the truth
Release your pain, tell them.
I Definitely think you should see a therapist. You DON’T have to send letters and pictures. That’s for sure. As far as telling your family?
That’s a hard one. He’s in prison for life. He’s not “getting away” with anything now. Yes…he deserves it…but do you? Does your mother? Do you deserve to open up a huge wound and cause a huge risk of a lifelong rift with your mom? Tell the therapist. DON’T keep it in. If you feel you need to…write that bastard uncle, and say your piece to him. If he, in turn, tells your mother…Well…he’s told on himself.
If he weren’t in prison for life…this would be different.
If your mother didn’t love her brother so much…it might be different.
One thing’s for sure…YOUR healing is the most important. And risking alienation of your family…probably isn’t worth it. Especially since your parents didn’t foster his behavior somehow…AND he’s away for life. It all depends on Your feelings. If you feel you must get it out…go get it out with a therapist first. THEN…if y’all together feel you Need to tell your mom…you could do it with the therapist together.
Hugs 
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No , please tell them .
Write him and let it out. Tell him you removed and you hope he Rots in hell. DO NOT SEND HIM A PICTURE other than maybe on of him photoshopped of him
Burning in hell
Trust them tell them you need to heal
Tell your Dad. He’ll know what to do. Oh by the way your uncle is a scumbag.
You need to forgive him.
Time to spill.the beans on this perverted scum bag. Being in prison is where he should stay . I would not send him squat. Time to.let your parents know what he did to you
Time for a good therapist darlin
Seek out a councelor
Speak up so you can can find peace
Cindy Ball well told 
you have said every thing I was going to say God is good
Tell ur mom sweetie.
Prayers that God will help you through all this.
You Should Boldly say ," I Will Make An Appointment With The Prosecutor Of That Jurisdiction & talk On Tape & Tell the Bitter Filthy Nasty Ass Bastards Did To You.!!! That He said ," If You Tell on Him ,That He Would Hurt You & they Won’t Believe You "!!! Tell Your Mother ,Father, Priest ,Pre her , Neighbor Dog,Goat Spyder anybody & Everyone. They Need To Add More Time to His Sentence !!! You Will Never Be Able to Deal With It If You Keep "Protecting " his Bad Ass. You Must Do it Fr. You & your Future !!! You Have The Right To Be Heard. Be Strong - & of Good Courage !!! Stick It To Him…Like He Probably Stuck It To You !!! You Bear NO ShAME. He Is the EVIL Person. State What You Know !! Say it !!! GOD Knows The Truth !!! Just Free Yourself !!! Don’t Lock Yourself Up Like He Is. He Is a Bad Person !!! You " lol Feel Better & it Will Show On Your Face that Your The Winner !!!
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Please get some therapy.
Much love 
Tell someone. Remember you have a daughter. I’d send him rat poison
That is a hard one to answer
Please tell for your peace of mind and to protect others
Hope you have a family that is there for you
Time to tell. Talk!!
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Expect not to be believed
Pray about it . Pray pray pray
She’s your mom , tell her
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Quit tippy toeing around everyone else’s misconceptions. Get your family together and tell them you were abused by that person. Tell them you are ready to walk away, and do so.
Don’t send pictures of your own family to that predator.
For some real help… look up EFT… https://www.emofree.com/
Id write him and tell him what a piece of s*it he is
Talk to your mom. You’re her daughter and loves you!
Write him a letter call him out on this
Talk to your Mother about it.You will feel better.She needs to know.
Tell yo mamma. Let him rot in jail
Talk about it to someone you trust.
You need to TELL THEM.
Speak up,and you will hopefully find peace.
Please get professional help.
Time to tell your Mom
Just tell them straight up.
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Don’t send pics or letters
Praying 
for you
Talk to someone any one
No tell them the truth
You will talk when your ready
Talk to them with a therapist
Get help from a professional.
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Tell them definitely tell them if they love you they will believe you do not send him anything
Talk to your minister or a counselor!!
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