I’m begging pleaseeeeeeeeeeee how to cut off a 16 months old from nursing!!! There is no telling her no… she’s a baby. Bandaids and aloe haven’t worked. Nursing her literally infuriates me at night. I want my body bsck. I want to stop being the only person to put her to sleep. I’m sooooo tired of it. She doesn’t even suck for milk she just wants a nipple in her mouth to chew. I can’t anymore. She won’t take a binky or anything else
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I just wanted to say I know how you feel. Mine will be 2 in a month. It’s hard when they use you for comfort,
I have read several articles that were about this. Most say to put a pillow between your chest and the baby so they are still getting your comfort but learn there is no way for them to nurse. Best of luck!
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The first couple days will be the hardest but it’ll be well worth it in the end. I almost gave in but stuck to my guns.
I had to do it the hard way… just had the heart breaking, saying… “No, im sorry… no more milk”. and rock her alot… was so hard… I gave her all snuggles and walked her around alot… was a very hard time… but it had to be done… my other children stopped on their own… took alot, but I didn’t stop snuggling and rocking… lots of distracting, playing, and keeping them covered…
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My cousin took my daughter for a weekend and when she came home she didn’t ask for it so try to leave for a couple days if you can.
Mine is almost 2 and I have spent days away! Nothing has made him not want it and as a working mom I can’t imagine having to do it. My daughter self weaned at 18 months so I’m in the same boat as you with this one.
I used to turn their backs to me and rub their backs. 2 to 3 days will be the hardest
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I’m in the same boat with my 2 year old. It doesn’t get any better mama. Do whatever you can to get her done now because a fiesty two year old… 
Coming from CLC experience and knowing the touched out feeling all too well myself from multiple standpoints…
Is there by any chance you may be pregnant again?
Sometimes a pregnancy (either known or unknown just yet) can increase the feelings of touched out heeby jeevies feeling and induce an absolute avoidance to sensation of feeding times 100 fold.
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If it’s not self led weaning, then it’s going to take a lot of love and resolve to do.
It unfortunately may take a few days of crying and letting someone else take over comforting baby.
Can you get anyone to take her for a day? My bestie watched my son at a couple weeks shy of 2 years old. She kept him overnight and when I came back in the late afternoon, I just decided I would tell him I went to a place that made my milkys go bye bye. At first he was upset but it didn’t even last an hour of him asking for it.
I saw where someone used apple cider vinegar to break her kiddos off Pacifiers
What I did was…I started telling my daughter that mommy’s milk would soon get old and yucky. Kept telling her that every day for a few weeks. Then I got some of that bad-tasting clear nail polish, put just a tiny dab on myself, and when she went to nurse…
poor baby. She literally puked all over me 
But it worked!!! I told her mommy’s milk had gotten old and yucky. She had been mainly doing it for comfort too, and i knew it was the only way she’d quit without too big of a fuss. I couldn’t just take it away from her. She was 22 months old. You might try it. Worked like a charm for us! Best of luck!
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I have never had this issue as I losty supply early on. However, I like to try thinking outside of the box. There is a “bitter yuck spray” at tractor supply. Buy that and put it on your nippies. Safe to ingest (I very much doubt that baby will ingest much) and super easy. Baby will cry for the first handful of days but just understand it’s baby’s way of communicating. Baby can’t yet verbalize that momma is the only one who grants them the comfort of sleep and safety. Now the comfort is hindered by not having a nippie so baby is upset. My baby loves being sang to when he is upset 
You just tell her no and stop. It’s not easy she will cry but that’s how you have to do it. My daughter nursed for 23 months. I get it. You just have to put your foot down.
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Do it the hard way, tell her no! Itll be hard the first few days but its the only way to go
This is the reason what always put me off breast feeding! I couldn’t cope with the attachment of it😔 and I don’t agree with them breast feeding past ONE PERSONALLY!!!
And don’t people start with their comments about my comment because if you read it properly I said PERSONALLY!!
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I went to naps and bedtime then just bedtime … she hated me still does but two years was wnough
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Put some apple cider vinegar on nipple and let her taste that tell her milk is bad. A couple of times tasting vinegar should do the trick. It’s no harm to her or you.
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A four day weekend away is the easiest. When I wasn’t there my kids adjusted to a bottle and there dad. By the time I got home it was almost over.
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Instead of saying no, say its all gone. I found they understood that better
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I weaned my 2nd kid at 17 months and the 4th kid around the same time maybe a bit longer but it was pretty easy they really didn’t want it much. Try to give more chocolate milk and tell them no more milk it’s all gone. It’s empty cause your BIG now
I nursed until my daughter was almost 3 I weaned her by using that stuff you put on your nails to get you to stop biting them. Brushed it on my nipples, told her they were yucky now and she tried once and never again
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Just stop. You can wear a bra, and you can tell her no. She just won’t accept it at first, but if you’re firm, she’ll catch in after a day or two.
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Just stop.
Put a bra on and gently tell her no. It will be rough for a day or two, but it will end quickly. Once she realizes you mean it and she can’t get to it, that’ll be the end.
If you’re not able to stick to the ‘no’ plan, then put something bitter on your nipple like apple cider vinegar or similar.
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She will still likely only want you to put her to sleep.
Have your husband put her to sleep and go to another room
My best friend made a book about weaning (their name for it was “mabu”, as in "mom’s boobs 
and the book was called “no more mabu”. It stressed the idea that the baby was a big girl now, and that “mabu” is meant for babies, etc. They read it together every night for awhile and she’s convinced the book helped the transition.
I have no advice but if you get a chance read “A Tree Grows In Brooklyn”. There’s a part in it that talks about a one of the neighborhood kids and he’s still on the breast at like 5 and his mom is just done so she somehow made a scary face on her breast and it broke him immediately It’s been a while since I read it but that part always stuck with me
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Be firm. At this point she thinks she’s the boss .
She’s old enough to understand the word “NO”
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You can tell a 16 month old no.
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I did it by going on a girls weekend she was stuck without and when I got back I wore tight high neck shirts and she gave up pretty easily! Good luck momma
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You want to stop without saying No? Lmao cmon now. Start with saying No, and these other suggestions.
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My little is three and still nurses but my nipples have began to get sensitive and I ask her is it working? Because she’ll pop off the boob and tell me its no working but then continue to nurse 
lol so good luck on your weaning journey! I’ve had spurts away from her and immediately she’s back to nursing once we see each other again. Im a sap and want to gently go about ending nursing because my son only stopped nursing a little over three and a half because I was pregnant with her and my nipples were so sensitive and he understood i was hurting when he tried to latch. Your little is much younger but with all these suggestions you got this!!
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Put vinegar on your nipples every time before she tries to nurse. That’s how I weaned mine when she was 2. She looked up at me & said “Yucky”.
I had to do it a few times but it worked!
Buy stop and grow and paint it on your nipples. That’s how I weaned my son in 25 minutes
my baby is 18 months and i’m in this situation right now… my son won’t take a binky, bottle of milk anything either… so far im making sure he’s eating solids throughout the day and no breast during the daytime. today he needed to take a nap but i refused the boob to put him to sleep… my bf and I laid next to him on the bed and comforted him while he screamed his head off, im laughing now but it sucks cuz you just want it to stop. he got up many times while crying he would lay down and ask for milk and then keep crying. eventually he calmed down to whimpers and i held him and he went to sleep for an hour! no boob no milk! for night time i breast fed him for about an hour and then said milk all done. because i need my body. and i’m done letting you use me as a binky… i’ll feed him at night but then when he was done eating i took him off. and yes he cried and got up a few times and i had to keep laying him back down. he cried the whole time but eventually he went to sleep. probably 30 min… im gonna try to feed him to sleep every night but only every other night i’ll feed him and then take him off as soon as he’s done so he doesn’t use me as a binky… he still wakes up around 1-2am to eat but i’ll do the every other night thing until i’m sick of that lol probably a few more days or a week and then i’m gonna stop feeding him to sleep all together since he is eating throughout the day he doesn’t need milk.
but i try to give him water through out the day too… i’m gonna start taking teas/supplements and cabbage leaves on my boobs to stop my milk production in hopes that it will help me make less milk. i’ve read certain things can decrease milk supply
peppermint oil
parsley (cause dehydration caution)
sage tea (very potent)
jasmine flowers crushed on breast
cilantro
spearmint
rosemary
thyme
lemon balm
citrus/tomatoes
below this cause milk to taste bad but also have gas so be careful
cabbage leaves on breast chilled
brussel sprouts
cauliflower
chasteberry (dried) helps to make prolactin the milk hormone to drop…
i haven’t tried any of the products above yet but when i get some time to go to the store i will definitely be drinking sage tea every day and maybe take the chasteberry supplement and see how that goes… i hope reading this gives you ideas or hope! i have no idea what i’m doing cuz this is my first kid but i’ve talked to a couple people about what they have done so definitely follow your own gut/intuition of what you should do, you can message me on fb anytime. even just to say this part sucks about being a mother lol but the takeaway is they are gonna cry no matter what, but refusing them is not a bad thing you just need to transition them to another stage of life and using you as a binky is over with. and it’s gonna be hard but you need your independence just like they need it 
When I stopped breastfeeding I just stopped cold Turkey. Told him there was no more milk and it was empty now. And offered him a different drink instead. There will be fits for the first few days but you just have to stick with it and try to re direct or let them cry it out. Also wear tight fitting nursing bras and clothes so you’re not as accessible lol. Good luck you got this!
I told both my girls it was “all gone”. They had fits and broke my heart at times, but 2 days and they were over it.
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Can absolutely relate! Had a rough time around 14months in as I didn’t know I was pregnant and so latching her on was WAY more painful than usual and it only got worse. Eventually I had to stop so I went cold turkey and offered a bottle. If she cried for a latch on I only offered the bottle (if milk supply is still high I suggest pumping some and mixing in a bottle to start until your milk supply drops).
Good luck and remember to go easy on yourself! Us mamas can be pretty hard on ourselves! 
Weaning. One day her normal routine. Next day eliminate a feeding and so on until it’s all eliminated. Communicate with her each day that she’s not getting your breast at that time. Don’t make a big deal about it, just put your foot down and that’s it. She will scream and she will cry, but at the end of the day it’s what’s best for both of you. You’re an amazing mom. Once she’s completely weaned you’ll both feel much better❤️
Ummm at 16 months she is considered a toddler and not a baby and she should be able to understand you telling her she’s a big girl who needs to drinks out of cups!!! She might be upset for a few weeks but keep praising her on what a big girl she is and be firm
Unfortunately you’re probably gonna have to let her cry it out. It may take a few days but she’ll eventually figure out that she can’t get her way.
Jalapeño will work…seriously and fast!!!
What helps is say ok one more minute then at the end of the minute say no more. They fight at first but eventually they don’t, and it helped mine finally sttn
rub some vinigar or lemon juice on there tell her it bad and yucky now n if she insists do it everytime and a nice bit too…
Just stop nursing if it’s causing duress. Better mom is happy and calm than feeling that. I know it’s rough, been there. Get some good formula or donor milk if you so choose. Your baby will feed from the bottle. Look for nipple shaped one’s. Good luck🥰
I am in the process of starting to wean my second and I’m dreading tf out of it so I feel for you… with my first the first 24 hours were a nightmare but after that she got over it
I just stopped. When my youngest started biting at 9 months and wouldn’t stop, I just cut him off. Still pumped for the milk but no more sore nipples for me.
Just start cutting back in feedings. When my daughter was 15months old I was still nursing her. So what I did was cut out night feedings for a week, so after that week I was only
nursing morning, afternoons, and evenings. I then cut out morning feedings for a week, and after that week i was only feeding her afternoon and evenings. i then cut out afternoon feedings for a week, and after that week I was only feeding evening feedings for a week and once that week was over she was completely weaned from nursing without any complications. I would substitute with regular milk, if she just had to have milk and I didn’t have any issues with her screaming and crying. It was a smooth transition
What do you mean there’s no telling her no because she’s a baby?
YOU’RE the mother, tell her no
Let her cry
Put vinegar on your nipples. It taste gross and not harmful. When she questions the taste tell her the milk is no good anymore because she’s a big girl.
Hun, she is ild enough for NO