Ladies, I have a question that I really need advice on. I feel absolutely lost. I am married and have a two-year-old son. My husband is the absolute best father I could have ever asked for. Absolutely no complaints there. We have been married for three years and together for 10. During my pregnancy, he was the most loving I had ever seen him. After our son was born, we were on cloud nine. I was crazy about him. I just felt so in love, and he looked to be just as in love, if not more. We were in a very good place. However, that spark slowly started to fizzle out. He works two jobs, and I work 1. On his days off, he likes to fix cars, and he will spend hours outside fixing up his cars. He’s not making much time for me at all. Call me crazy, but I feel it is important to put in time and effort into our marriage. He has pretty much stopped putting in time and effort into our marriage but is still expecting our marriage to magically be ok. He has ZERO romantic gestures with me. ZERO!! So when we go to bed, he wants to climb all over me, and I am absolutely turned off. TURNED OFF!! I have turned it down every night, and he, of course, gets upset. I have had a conversation with him many times about how I feel. How we don’t have much of a love connection anymore, and I have tried numerous things to spark it back up, but nothing is working. He is not putting in any work on his end. I am working at it completely alone. Am I doing something wrong? What else can I do?
Have you thought about seeing a therapist? Ask him to have date nights, even if it’s at home. Do something yall used to enjoy doing in the past and make time for each other!