Okay so I’ve been with my husband for 9 years and we have an almost 3 year old. I work full time and do all of the cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. He does outside stuff but it’s nothing compared to what I do daily. I have a rare auto immune disease that leaves me exhausted and in pain almost daily. I’ve told him a million times that I need help and he always promises that he will but doesn’t follow through. We haven’t tried counseling because he refuses to go. When he wants to make love I deny him most of the time because I just am so angry that he doesn’t help me. Why would I want to go to bed with him after doing ALL the house stuff and putting the toddler to bed. I feel like I’m pouring from an empty cup. I’ve gained weight, I barely do my hair or makeup because I have no time. I just don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be told to leave him, though. I love him very much and love our family together. Any advice?