Id pack his bags change locks and when police come tell them hell no, it will become a civil matter or u can give 3 day notice then go file at courts prob cost u around 125 and he can then go depends on what he will do and how he may react
File. It seems your mind is made up. He doesnât have to leave the home as you purchased it during your marriage. I hope he doesnât fight you on it. I also would delete this from your history in case he snoops through your Facebook activity. You wrote he does contribute to your mortgage. He can definitely use it in court. Unfortunately, you canât just throw him out. If he leaves it will look like abandonment if you file for divorce. I wouldnât be surprised if he is waiting on you to make the first move. If you arenât married, start an eviction process. Legally you canât throw him out.
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Go to a mediator and get help negotiating a conversation.
Serve him with an eviction notice
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Just because the house is in your name doesnât mean itâs yours. Yall are common law married and therefore the house and cars are community property. You said he pays the mortgage so itâs half his. Sorry but you will have to go to court
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Stop doing everything. Tell him he has 60 days. Call a lawyer and of hes not gone the police will remove him. Or pack up his stuff and move it to a storage facility
Higher a good lawyer
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Start the eviction process
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Have him evicted change all the locks all passwords to he knows have doors reinforced that seem easy to get into (french door) an take a short trip have time alone with your children explain the change
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Since he has lived there for more than 30 days, and, I assume, gets mail there, itâs technically his residence. Since the house is in your name only, youâre technically his âlandlordâ. Send him a letter via certified restricted mail. This means that ONLY he himself can sign for the letter. The post office will continue to bring the letter, but will only hand deliver it to him, so he will have to sign and canât say he never got it. In the letter, give him 30 days to vacate the premises. When that 30 days arrives, if heâs gone, great. If not, you can then go to your local court house and file an eviction process. The sheriff will deliver the papers to him at your house, youâll go to court, a judge will order that he vacate. Once thatâs ordered, you can schedule a time and date with the sheriffs office for them to come out and physically escort him from the property. He will have to take all of his belongings with him right then, because he wonât be allowed to return to the property. You could also sell your house. Since the deed is in your name, he would have no say in you selling.
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Girl why I canât read this what do you need.
Serve him with an eviction then he has to leave within 30 days
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If you have a job ,youâre taking care of the bills why donât you move?
Depends on what State you live in? If itâs AZ, after 5 years itâs considered common law, community property estate, so that means all is divided if he contests to get out. My advice, stop getting the mortgage money from him, tell him to use it to find a place and get out as itâs affecting your children. He still needs to pay for support of the two you have together then again that all depends in which state you live in. Best of luck!
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Depends on state some states parent with kids gets house etc but youâd have to ask an attorney
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Two words: Eviction.Notice. clearly youâre running a single parent home With an extra mouth to feed.
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Um pack his shit. Leave on porch . simple. Change the lock . tell him good day .
Serve him with a 30 day notarized eviction notice and find a place to stay till he leaves.
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Get a lawyer and they can help you evict his ass
Not sure if this is an option⌠but since the house is in your name⌠sell it⌠buy a new one!
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Give him a 30 Day eviction notice.
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File for divorce and then get a 30 days notice once hes served the divorce. Make sure you do it by a server so its properly served. Fairly sure since your married he still has claim on the house. I could have claimed my soon to be exs van even though it is in his name anything after the marriage became final is both yours. Anything before is who ever had it.
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Seek legal aid advice to see if this fact is true about the house because your married.
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Consult an attorney that specializes in things like this.
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I saved the bond and rented a flat and gave him the keys and half of everything
I would go ahead and file the divorce papers and give them to him, tell him this is the end and he needs to find another place to go. Is there anyone heâs able to stay with until he can get on his feet?
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You may have to legally evict him. But, I would talk to him first. Tell him itâs time. Set a date. If heâs not out by then- evict.
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You set the tone for the relationship, he got away doing too little for too long.
Youâre either going to have to tell him that or go through the eviction process since legally, everything is yours.
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If you guys are not married then you have to go to and get a 30 day eviction to make him leave. If you guys are married thatâs going to be completely different.
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Talk to a lawyer, they will tell you what the law requires where youâre live and stick to your guns.
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Before allowing him to go back yâall should had talked about the cheating or gotten some counseling. If he was out already and the issues were always there why let him back in? Why be upset cuz he bought himself a bike. Yâall both bought a house together you say he pays the mortgage and you staying with the house cuz itâs only under your name. Yâall need to sit down and talk and tell him he gots to go. Itâs not a healthy situation for you or him or the kids
Call the cops and have that loser escorted off of your property, file separation and divorce papers with a lawyer, file emergency custody of the children you share and literally call a lock smith have the doors locks changed. Maybe a PFA on File as well if you see it getting on ugly. Good luck all of that sounds like a toxic mess.
Talk to a lawyer, they will help you know what the law is.
Here in South Carolina, I had to give him a written letter giving him 21 days to leave then I had to have him eviction, but we didnât have kids together, if your state have common law marriage u have to get a divorce , so if you can talk to him and see if he will just leave
Eviction papers, give him a date. You tried, twice to give him the chance. You donât owe him any more than that.
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Donât say anything to him until you retain a male, Attorney who will help you get you and your childrenâs future & financial House âin orderâ.
Talk to a lawyer. You may be able to evict him.
The rules around what he is and is not entitled to depends on where you live, if your married and or common law at this point it may not matter if the house is completely in your name or not. If itâs over and you want him out thereâs no real nice way of putting it other then to say it.
You have to legally evict him if he wonât leave. Itâs been his residence for awhile now.
Change the locks,put his stuff out on the lawn
You have to get an eviction from the court in your area.
Kick him out and move on and enjoy life , start treating yourself , live happily ever after
Sounds like all you can do is give him an eviction notice and get the courts involved. If he is not on the mortgage but giving you the money for it then heâs technically a tenant at this point. If you have asked him to leave and he doesnât, the only thing that will work is a court order.
hes not leaving. he has a place to stay and no responsibilities. you have to make him. no more mrs nice girl
File for divorce and include a 30 day eviction notice
Oh man this is so hard and itâs not even my situation.
If it was me (and he wasnât abusive in any means ant youâre not afraid of him) I would change the locks while he was out, and leave some of his belongings in a safe spot outside (enough for a week or so).
Send him a message explaining the situation and that it was for the best because heâs not taking the step himself.
After he has left, calmed down and taken the hint that itâs over, let him come get the rest of his stuff.
Thatâs literally best case scenario though. Emotions make people crazy. All the best to you lovely 
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He doesnât need to father the first two kids if there not his, thereâs nothing wrong with just being there friend. He should give them a cuddle every now and again but they already have a Dad. If he pays mortgage itâs still his house no matter whoâs names itâs under.
I wouldnât stay with someone whose cheated. Could you sell the house and give him half and let him have 50/50 custody of the children?
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This is not a partnership at all, youâve been clear you want him out and heâs not taking you seriously in any way shape or form, his lack of care for your children is quite frankly worrying and Iâd say bordering abusive, he may not be nasty but a lack of affection sticks with a person.
Youâll never be able to forget the cheating either, from experience, you can paper over it and even still have a good relationship but in the back of your head it will always be there that sickening feeling of what if, you donât deserve that and your kids donât deserve to witness it.
Iâd bag up his stuff whilst he was out and get the locks changed, maybe also get the kids elsewhere for a sleepover for the night incase youâve few choice words for him when he gets back. Reclaim your space and your life because it sounds like this guy isnât really bringing much to the table. He may work hard but what is your family seeing from it other than you crumbling under your mental load.
Money and jobs mean nothing if youâve got no support and nobody having your back
My suggestion? Change the locks put what he needs in a bag outside clothes for work phone charger etc etc. call his mother or his sister or his buddy or whoever it is that he will go and stay with. Tell them what youâve done.
Then sit down have a glass of wine and be damn proud of yourselfâŚ
Your post says that he and the kids may be hoping that youâll figure things out. Thatâs not fair on anyone⌠youâve got to think about the kids first⌠then yourself. And quite frankly you ainât gotta think about him 1 bit. Throw him out on his arse. Heâs got money coming in youâll see how quick he finds himself somewhere to live after that. Job done.
Keep us posted!
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The best advice i have seen everyone give is get a lawyer. Even though itâs your home he has been living there all this time so you just canât put him out by changing the locks you need to do it the right way to protect yourself as well. Get a lawyer.
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I would consult an attorney and see what the divorce and property laws are and I would go from there.
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Change the locks. . eviction noticeâŚcall the copsâŚbring a guy friend over to deal with it⌠being all nice and " not fighting " isnât gonna make someone leave chicâŚ
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speak to the local police first, since the house is in your name they may be able to help escort him from the property
otherwise seek legal advice
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You need to make it legal. Get a legal separation and see if your state allowes eviction notice. Be ready to change the locks. If there is any way to get in the house without a key. Fix so he cannot get in. Put his stuff on the porch or rent a storage unit. Give him a key for the storage unit.
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You canât just kick him out but you can file through the magistrate to evict him. If he knew you wanted him to leave and still paid 9K for a motorcycle I would say he isnât planning on leaving ever. Tell him you donât want to evict him but if that is what it takes you will. Life is too short for this⌠I canât believe a father that lives with his kids has no clue what school they attend 
find a partner that will love the kids and you equally and want to be an active part of their lives. Good luck!
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Change the locks donât give a key, serve him at same time with divorce and eviction papers
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Where is the father of your 3 children, if he isnât their father why did you try to impose this responsibility on him. Did he know that was your expectation of him. Why isnât he a good parent to the two kids in common. Answer those questions and you will get some answers. If thelive is gone hire a lawyer and get the ball rolling.
Just remember how hard it is to be a single parent so I would proceed very carefully.
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Hotfoot powder in his tracks or serve him divorce papers. Could also pack all his things while heâs out and drop the off at a friendâs or family memberâs house.
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Like Elizabeth Kenney says if he gets mail there u have to do it legally through the court and evict him plus it would be a lot easier to and he wonât be allowed there if there was any kind of problem!! Best of luck to you!!
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depending on state- married or just living together may have to get a divorce- first step should be attorney
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Find a good lawyer to help you navigate your exit.
Legally you are the sole owner of the property but he sure thatâs not what he thinks since he pays the mortgage.
Since you have two children with him there will be child support for them, depending on his income it may be enough to cover your mortgage in a new house. I wouldnât stay in a home where he has some type of connection.Also be mindful of custodial arrangements / visitation.
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Well it seems like youâve made it clear to him. Iâd say something like âI give you this date (pick a specific date) to get yourself moved out. If not, it can escalate to police escort as I have asked you multiple times.â Iâm assuming itâs your house as in you own it? Is his name on it? He needs to prove a few years worth of consistency before you take him back, if you wanted to.
Go to the courthouse and file for an eviction
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If yâall are not married then he has no claims to the house! You can ask him to leave nicely or go ahead an file an eviction. You can give him 45 to 60 days to find his own place. I think thatâs fair enough. But if you donât like peace, then keep him there just or his portion of the mortgage and the insurance.
Bring a guy home one night and Iâm sure he wonât want to be there 
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Get a lawyer and start divorce proceedings. Probably file for eviction, but talk to the lawyer first.
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When heâs gone change the locks. If heâs unreasonable get a restraining order. He doesnât respect you, or your children. He doesnât deserve kindness as he never showed any to you or your beautiful children. You are very lucky its in your own name! Good luck.
Get an eviction notice for him, otherwise he wonât leave. He may even fight that down to the last days, but an eviction notice would be the best way to go.
Meet with an attorney. Request him pay all legal expenses even yours. Since he is giving u the money for the mortgage and you are in a common law marriage with children you will have to divorce the normal way. If you left, a judge would give you the house back or evict since u have the children. Do it legally. Have him served.
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Send him an eviction notice and stick to it. 60 days to move out is fair. You better make sure he is obligated legally to pay child support he sounds like heâs the type that needs to be ordered by a judge. Keep everything business like and legal
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You can do it in a month or you can do it in 6 months. Itâs inevitable he needs to leave and he isnât going to accept it any better in 6 month or be any more amicable toward you because heâs set on not leaving. Do not put yourself through any more torture . Give him 24 hours, take the kids and stay out until heâs gone if itâs the him actually leaving part that makes you uncomfortable. Get a friend over to support you /him/both. Donât remain stagnant any longer , you will thank yourself in 48hours xx
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I think you need to give him a date to move out by ie 2months and if he doesnât then you need to decide what you want more to be free of him or keep your house. If itâs in your name you can sell it and he has no say he will be 100% forced to live out or you tell him youâll be changing the locks on whatever date heâs expected to move out by so he knows youâre serious. Maybe that night/ evening arrange to have your kids go to sleepovers so if he decides to make a scene you wonât give in for the kids sake so they donât have to see it
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I would get a conference with a family law attorney to know your rights.
Do not start an eviction or selling house without legal advice, especially since you have children.
If your state is a community property state, he gets half the house.
The attorney should lay out a plan for you.
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A. Donât get legal advice from f.b. B. Get a lawyer. You are going to need one.
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You have to make it sound like it is for his benefit and he deserves more and in the end it has to seem like it was his idea to leave for it to work.
Depending on what state you live in, he will get half of everything sadly. He is paying rent as he should be. But if you have a 401k or savings, stocks âŚ. Anything like that he gets half. And same for you. The motorcycle was bought during your marriage. He can pay you for half to keep it. And I would file because then he needs to pay child support. Rip the band-aide off. Life is too damn short for bs games.
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Doesnât matter that the house is in just your name he has a legal claim to it as you have been in a defacto relationship plus you also admitted he has been payong the mortgage, jusy a fyi
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Sorry but this man is never going to stop taking advantage of you until you stop letting him.
Give him a deadline and if he is still there you pack his stuff up and you change the lockd
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Only my opinion butâŚwomen need to learn to stop being so forgiving when a man cheats. That totally crosses the line. He had a choiceâŚcheat or go to counseling or see a clergy and ask for help. You let him get away with by taking him backâŚmore than once! You also allowed him to get away with not helping in all kinds of ways, with the kids, sharing bills, why should he want to move out. You have another kid to raise and he is taking full advantage of the situation. But âŚyou are the problem! You are allowing him to walk all over you, use you, sleep on the couch! The worst thing of all is you are teaching your kids that this is what to expect. This is ok! And itâs not! Iâm not saying these things to be mean! I was cheated on too and had three kids. I didnât want my daughter to think all men are supposed to treat you this way. And I didnât want my sons to think they that this was the way a man treats a woman. You need to go to counseling, get him out of your house, and stop being a fool. He bought a motorcycle!!! He is so comfortable being able to get away with his games, because you have never stopped letting him use you!
Yeah, he is a huge problem, but you are guilty of allowing that man to use you. Please, I beg you, get rid of him! Go to counseling! Obviously, you need help or you wouldnât have let this go on this long.
I pray for you and your kids to get through this situation!
Without him!
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Maybe in the only one wondering why you had kids by him if he doesnât do right by the kids you already had, we canât expect a different result when ppl show you who they are.
File for an eviction heâll have 30 days to leave. After that you can call the police.
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Youâre going to need a lawyer since you have lived together so long and have children together. If the court does not order him to pay child support you will never see a penny. Keep seeing a lawyer a secret from him. Go talk to every family court and divorce lawyer around. Tell them everything then decide which one to use. Since you have told all the lawyers about your case. In many states they can not ethically represent him. He wonât have much to choose from.
As you have been together for over 2 years legally he is entitled to half of everything as you are entitled to half of everything. Go and speak to a lawyer as soon as possible.
If he does so very little, you are essentially making it on your own without his a**. Kick the useless space and air taker to the curb.
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File for
Divorce and file an eviction to make
Him leave. Seek legal counsel. Donât let him control
You by having life easy and a place to stay!
Basically, heâs ârentingâ from you. Give him a 30 day notice to vacate the premises. Send it to him at his business address, certified, so you have proof. And also, hand one to him in personâŚafter 30 days, if heâs still there, pack his things, set them out and change all of the locks. Police donât like to get involved with domestic situations. If, he starts getting weird on you, thatâs the time to call them though and thatâs when you should get a restraining order. Itâs usually more beneficial to the person who starts legal action first. Be prepared! After, he receives the eviction notice, he may seek legal council. You will have to be smarter than him.
Give him a date to have all his things gone and then serve him an eviction notice âŚheâs one of the kids anyway
Sit down see a lawyer u have asset together home business savings etc get all savings and put in kids bank check his business out is it worth same as house if so agree he has business u keep ya home. Sitt him down tell him want divorce and this what gonna ha0pen or u going court and taking half his business he go as say itâs his baby his business
Would you ever consider selling your home and moving? The energy in your house after years of this toxic relationship is probably very detrimental to the health of you and your kids anyway, so it might be a good idea to cut your losses.
Go to the courts and file and eviction notice. This is where you start. See an Attorney.
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You said it in your description. His name isnât on anything. Draw up a lease make him sign it if he doesnât have eviction papers ready or have Police on standby
Ask him why he is even in the relationship? I think he wont leave cos he gets a cooked meal and clean clothes and clean home. Put him out and get child support for the two kids
Put dead dead fish or smelly cheese in the sofa he sleeps on make him a nice pie but with canned dog food and a nice gravy clean the toilet with his toothbrush leave property brochures on his bike say you met someone else x
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You would have to have him evicted. Even though the house is in your name it is considered his
Residency
Think you will find that if he has been living in the home you bought together for 3 years, that he has a claim on the house .
Talk to a lawyer in your state. Is common law a thing there? Are you requires to give him a notice? At this pace I would go the legal route
Go talk to a laeyer and go from there. You donât have to evict him if he is served with divorce papers. I wouldnât stay with a man thatâs cheated. Itâs up to you to decide how to handle the situation. Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
Serve him a 30 day notice to vacate and then go see a lawyer. Do not lock him out youâll be breaking the law
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