It’s sad when you literally can’t get any sleep in your own house! So ready to move at this point I’ve barely slept the last 2 months because of our new neighbors that live above us and yes I know living in an apartment your going to hear noise and that’s not the problem but the people that lived there before them we never had this issue at night the day don’t bother us I know they can’t help it to a certain point and that they have a young child but when it’s 8 at night till 3 or so in the morning that you are hearing running screaming jumping stomping as loud as possible I don’t have the heart to say anything but I really need some sleep me to top it off my husband has to be up at 5am every morning so he’s not getting any sleep and not mention my children aren’t getting sleep either and idk what to do anymore I just want some sleep I don’t want to sound like the rude or mean neighbor idk how to politely say anything to them I need advice. Also please add I have 3 children of my own and I know kids are going to make noise but I do try to be considerate of others especially at night time
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Say something to them or Call your landlord and report them
Complain to the landlord or call the sheriffs office. There may be a noise ordinance in your area that they legally have to abide by
The last apartment I lived in was so bad from one neighbor we moved. Saying things just made it worse hopefully you have better luck. Maybe just ask them or speak to the apartment manager.
Go up there and say. Hey so I know kids are loud and crazy I have 3 myself, but could you try to keep it down after 10 we aren’t getting any sleep and my husband works very early. I really don’t want to have to bring this to the landlord.
Just talk to them about it… Maybe their kid has autism and thats why its late at night since some kids with autism have a hard time sleeping on a schedule
I would ask them first to please keep it down at night but if that doesn’t work report to the landlord. Where my friend lived she was the top floor and they even had to have showers done by 9pm. They had a laundry cut off too but I can’t remember the time for it. Common courtesy is hard to come by sometimes.
I went and knocked on the door after 10pm. I also have 3 kids. We’re loud, but we’re respectful.
Record it so you can play it back for them.
Have your husband hold you upside down and you run and stomp along the ceiling for as long as the blood rushing to your head can manage. Rinse and repeat.
If you live in an apartment, you should be able to bring this to the attention of your apt manager and they will talk to the neighbors. If they continue to get reported and warned then the manager has to invoke a punishment
Put peanut butter under all their car door handles, even the trunk, their house door, and whatever you can. I bought a garbage can, filled it halfway with water and leaned it on their door so when they opened it they got flooded. Follow me for more advice…
Report…sorry but normally ppl sleep at 3am…11 is late enough for being loud…and that’s being nice.
I’m in property management and noise complaints are the number 1 issue. It’s really hard to resolve it. Talk to your apartment office staff. I’d first contact my residents verbally. If issue persists, we deliver a nice written notice then a harsher one. Keep a log of what time the noise occurs and explain exactly what you hear. Record the noise. Show that proof to the leasing office so that they have more than just a verbal complaints…this way they can take more action if they hsve 100% proof of the excessive noise. Also, know your state ordinances when it comes to quiet hours.
Additionally, the neighbors may not be aware. You could talk to them.
Hope this helps. Let me know if you have questions!
Call Kathryn Bargers office in Palmdale they will be warned then fined
Record it, go try to calmly talk to them , if they have attitude then take recording to management. At that point ,game on
I call the landord as often as possible and maybe if he’s called enough times at NIGHT hell evict them. Let him handle it.
Contact apartment manager✌🏼let them handle it.
I do a sound machine loud with white noise or water whatever sound you like with a fan either facing on me or away from me. Helps alot with noise. I’ve lived at my apartment for 5 years and same with the lady below me. I find that it is apartment language to do 3 loud pounds on the ceiling when I’m being too loud or 3 pounds on the floor when she is being too loud 
actually works amazing for us 
Also find out when your “quiet time” for your apartment is. Mine is 10pm - 8am. But to start off I would just politely knock on the door whenever it’s pretty bad and just say “hi, I’m ___, I live below you and sorry to bother you but it is really, really loud downstairs and my husband and I get up at 5am for work, it would mean so much to us if you could please quiet down around this time so we can get some rest. Let me know if you ever need anything, thanks!”
Then after that I most definitely would do the 3 pounds, they’ll understand 
I have same issue…a fan works amazing
Couple options-
Ear plugs
Complain to management
You could just say something since it is bothering you enough to ask for advice
You could consider maybe the child/ren has special needs and the parents are having a hard time themselves. It sounds like from the post it is the child you are hearing. Maybe that child is undiagnosed and the parents don’t know what to do or how to get comfortable with that possibility so they are choosing to not find out.
Maybe the child is recently diagnosed and they are just getting skills to handle it.
Maybe they are long term diagnosed and sometimes there is just nothing you can do other than move.
You never know unless you ask. It’s not hard to be nice if you normally are if you go into your questioning with an open mindset such as the options I’ve presented you with. I know it’s hard, but there really is no reason to go about rudely even though you’re frustrated. And it may not get you the response you want if you do go into it rudely.
Get yall some fans. Turn em on high. Cant hear shit after that
Hey, I have kids of my own and I know they can be loud sometimes… I just wanted to ask if you can try to keep them a little quieter at night ? My kids aren’t getting any sleep and my husband works at 5am. I understand that some noise is inevitable but most nights no one can sleep bc of the noise from your apartment.
If they start a fuss, record it and bring it to the landlord for nose complaint
Next time knock or pound the ceiling w a broom handle. Make sure it’s loud so they hear it.
That should politely give them the hint…don’t apartments have quiet hours? Maybe check your lease and see.
I’d say try to talk to them personally, maybe they want to stand in your unit while you walk in theirs
Damn… that’s a lot of missed periods
1st go upstairs and tell them that you and your family can’t sleep bc of what you hear all night long. Ask them if they would please try to contain the loud noises to daytime. If it continues #2 call your leasing office and file a noise complaint. Keep filing them until the neighbors stop it or move out. #3 The leasing office will probably tell you to call the non emergency police line if it’s loudness like loud music late at night/loud parties etc.
I would also wonder why they let their kid run around the apt all night long. Are they even watching them? They could be asleep while the kid is running around
Talk to them then Managment
Why are the running and jumping from let’s say 10pm-3AM! People generally sleep at that time
Ask for another apartment
Leave a note on the door. And than contact your landlord.
I definitely know how you feel! We live in a apartment on the bottom level! The lady and her roomate above us are so loud! Up at all hours stomping, dropping things, yelling!! I use a fan which definitely helps with the loud noises above us. I keep the fan on 24/7
All you do is go knock on the door at 3am with curlers in your hair and black saggy eyes and scream “shut up”!! … … then stomp off muttering…
That’s warning #1
If it doesn’t settle down after that then time to talk.
Maybe swap apartments so you’re on top🤷♀️
I’d definitely make a complaint to the office there love and maybe record whatever noises you hear for proof💕
Hard to give good advice here. I lived on a second floor a couple times and the downstairs could even hear the wheels of my vacuum. The one complained and accused me of riding a scooter in the house. It was plastic vacuum wheels at normal hours of the day.
They may not realize what you can hear.
Fans are good like white noise but above us on the second floor of my apartment I swear they were practicing river dance night and day! This went on for over a year and with a serious sleeping problem now but a great new caretaker that moved in he booted them out with in the week and far he is so loved here as he is making good changed here for the better. You pay good rent, talk to the caretaker or the owner they will straighten them out!
do you have a landlord? if so tell him the problem; there may be a noise provision in the lease
I would turn on a show and let that play so you aren’t focused on listening to the noise. That’s what I did in my apartment. Don’t turn it up super loud but it makes a good background noise to focus on and be able to sleep. I put on shows about the ocean 
and animals 
Just remember we all don’t know each other situation.
Talk to management.
My brother lived in an apartment above others but his daughter has special needs so being quiet was not really an option—she liked to run and jump and had yelling fits. Management knew about it and ended up moving other tenants but wasn’t always the case.
I know my schedules are wonky and so is our household so apartment living would be tough for us.
Like mentioned earlier they may not know what you can and can’t hear.
“shout up, people are trying to sleep!” That’s what said to loud neighbors. They did not understand so one morning at 6am we played Pantera full blast! Get the hint now neighborenos?
In a personal situation like this where you don’t always know the routines and lives of others, communication is the best 1st choice. Rather it be a simple knock with a small peace offering when introducing yourself if haven’t already. (Especially knowing they have kids)
If you don’t want to face the initial confrontation then maybe a very simply worded letter or note explaining your situation and routine and leaving it for them in an area where it can be easily seen!
If you take the communication route first and you get no response or improvement. Review your lease agreement and see what terms are stated about other tenants and noisy situations.
I know Im in a housing community that allows non emergency calls after 10/30 minutes for barking dogs. Petty in a way but it’s there.
If there are absolutely NO Changes after these steps and you have more then one documented accounts of noise complaints ask your landlord or housing office and request a move over to a different unit if possible due to the lack of problem solving 
same i used the app to locate bathroom so if i ate i new how far one was
I had this problem. I got them kicked out & the next ones with their kids were worse. So I left & moved into a house.
Have you talked to the property manager…maybe talk to them first and see how to move forward. Its hard living in an apartment. Maybe by some ear plugs that way you can block out the noise. I mean what else can you do? If you confront them, they may make the noise worse at night for you guys.
Go talk to them before u do anything. They may not know that you can hear them. I lived on the second floor with my teenagers and my baby our first neighbors said they never heard us, she was actually a lady who worked in the rental office. Our new neighbor as soon as my baby started walking they were complaining all the time. They would bang on the ceiling as soon as his feet hit the floor in the morning. We went to bed at 8 pm- 7 am so they couldn’t say anyone was loud at night. But than one day no one was on the floor we was all watching a movie and they started hitting my ceiling it got to where we couldn’t do anything, finally my husband went to them. It ended up making big argument and they moved for other reasons. But just try to talk to them u may have really thin floors.
I had This problem when i rented out basements from the landlords theyd have their kids running and playing from 10pm till 4am. And i couldn’t understand it. I ended up moving because of it. Ive also done the old tap the ceiling with a broom stick lol
Maybe the child is autistic ?
What about a kind letter? “Welcome to blah blah! I’m so and so. Myself husband and three kids live under you. Unfortunately these walls are made of tissue paper and we pick up everything every neighbor does. Happy to have you here!” Or something to kindly make them aware of how much the sounds travel.
Call the complex and let them handle it. They can leave an anonymous noise complaint
I felt this in my soul. Im dealing with the same thing.
Play your music very loud during the day… If they can’t sleep all day maybe they will go to bed at a normal hour
Leave your sound equipment on loud during the day is my suggestion.
I would talk to them.
This is hard because sometimes the floors are super thin. I was staying at a hotel last month and was shocked how much we heard above us. Every step they took we heard, and it was just 1 guy in the room above us. Some people are night owls so it’s hard to accommodate. My suggestion (this is what my mom did) is to move to an upstairs apartment. You should definitely talk to the neighbors, but it’s very possible there’s not much that can be done unless they are playing loud music and purposely being loud. When my mom talked to her apartment management they told her the walls are just very thin but she would get used to it 
I’m in the same boat unfortunately, during the day I can’t get mad because well it’s daytime and my kids are loud, but my upstairs neighbors are young males who stomp, jump, drop crap and pound into the early mornings…we have actually taken my son, flipped him upside down and told him to stomp on the ceiling, hit the ceiling with the broom stick, yelled stfu and it still continues. The only time they actually quieted down for a few days was when I went to lay back in the bed and whacked my head so hard I shook the bedroom and gave myself a concussion.
I’d definitely blast music early in the morning 
if I can’t sleep neither are you sorry not sorry
Use earplugs? LOL… I hate confrontation so that would be my solution Xx
Ask them to come inside your apt when they are awake. Ask them to leave the " noise" on so that they hear it. This worked well as people do not realize how sounds travel. God Bless
It’s unfair for you to keep a grievance from them, you never know, they may not think it’s an issue because no one has complained.
Just have a polite conversation an then if it’s still and issue go to the office.
Talk to your apt manager. Neighbors need to quiet down after 10 pm in our units here in Oregon. In the interim, ear plugs might be able to help.
Have you tried fans? I live right beside train tracks and We all have the metal round fans in our room to drown out the sound of the train at night. I would have a fan regardless of where I live but, it has helped my husband and kids sleep.
You should report it to someone. So management can tell them. Or you could talk to them. I think it’s inappropriate for them to be loud at night. If we can get in trouble for a loud disruptive noises at night. I don’t know why it’s any different in an apartment.
I would think this would be considered unreasonable noise
Get a box fan and use it for white noise.
Make a complaint to your leasing office. They’ll issue a general noise complaint to them that shouldn’t say exactly who made it. I used to work in a leasing office. I’ve sent out many. If it gets bad enough over time request to switch to a different unit on the property.
Record it and contact your landlord. Let them handle it.
I would talk to the neighbour first and tell her that all you hear is screaming and pounding at 1 to 3 in the morning and your whole family cant sleep.?..it that doesnt work and she is rude then contact your landlord and after that dont work i would put a speaker to the ceiling and play rap for a bit then change to screaming music and put it under the the bedroom so it keeps the kid and parents awake…ask the landlord to move you to a top floor
Talk to your landlord and ask if there quiet time rules in your complex. Most do have certain that is quiet time.
I’d report it to management. If they can’t figure out that a kid running around or making any noise at 3 am is bothersome to others then I doubt they’ll care if you try to talk to them anyways.
Is there any chance you can pop up to their unit and ask if they could try to keep the noise down if possible
Perhaps suggest some floor mats
Also is it possible they are getting up for work during the night
But no matter how hard you try to keep young kids from going bursicue they will just get louder
Notify apartment security for a loudness complaint, or call the police and they will come and nicely tell them that since they have other neighbors they need to keep the noise level down.
Get a sound machine for sleep…and also address them before speaking to landlord…pull up your big girl pants and speak up!
Unfortunately that’s living in a apt. To tell someone to not live their life the way they do or want to isn’t a option.
This is my life as im layin here listening to what sounds like a herd of elephants above me w their barking dog…do u have an apartment office u can give a complaint to…let them tell them to shut up
I would use ear plugs but only one parent at a time if your kids are small .
Just ask nicely. From someone who had never lived upstairs, they might not realize they’re making THAT much noise. I know I didn’t realize my kids playing was making so much noise. My downstairs neighbor never just said anything to me and it ended up getting me thrown out of my apartment because she kept complaining to the leasing office and they never said anything to me. If they get crappy with you, then go to the leasing office. Just talk to your neighbors.
I would much rather have someone communicate directly with me. Tell her all of this! As a mom, I’m sure she would understand! Sending you positive energy & good vibes 
I would introduce yourselves together and then talk to them about it. They may not realize it honestly. And if it continues go to the landlord but pre-warning they’ll know it’s you guys and may retaliate cause of it. Just be cAreful because in this day and age you just don’t know how people will react nowadays
Stay away from them -let management and police handle it all. You confronting them nicely or not ,can backfire. I was made miserable for 2 years after speaking to owner and condo association. Finally escaped with my sanity
If these people are living in an apartment and 3am not being considerate about noise at 3am please don’t go up and talk to them tell management I mean really.
People with children should live on the first floor !
Leave them a kind note on the door asking them to please be quiet from 7 until morning.
Then, if nothing changes, contact the landlord.
Just approach them and be pleasant.
Record it and keep a diary of days and times then hand it in to management thats what we do here in the uk xx
Communicate directly if possible, and get sound machines! Rain sounds and river sounds are so nice! 
How about just knocking on the door and just saying can you please keep the noise down and if that doesn’t work just call the cops. My fiance has done this before and he lives in a block of flats
You need to tell them politelythat you and your family can’t sleep . People have to have consideration for others , especially at that hour. Kids have to get up for school, and people have to work. If no luck , talk to the landlord . . Good luck Otherwise I would move .
Put in fake tears, and politely go to their door crying about it and invoke sympathy lol
I would do ear plugs or sound machine or fan to help drown the noise
Talk to management and tell them what the problem is let them handle it. If it continues contact police for noise.
Talking to them sounds considerate and polite, but you don’t know these people… they may not be considerate and polite. They could be crazy. I asked someone to turn their music down and they wished Covid upon me and then called me racist since I am white and they were playing Spanish music on a PA system in their apartment all day and night.
I get the noise with children, but up until 3am is just ridiculous. You have every right to say something!!! I’d just try to be nice about it, and if it continues, record it, so that you can show the landlord, because that’s absurd. I have 6 children ages 13 to 3 and yeah, nope I would never allow them up after 10 pm. How disrespectful!!
Most places have a noise ordinance 10:30 or 11:00pm until 6 or 7 am.it was in our contract tho,when rented apt.let the officers handle it cuz they disrespected the whole complex and dont care who dont sleep.i think they warn you,fine you,3rd time prolly a free ride.
Pound on the ceiling with a mop handle. They should get the message real quick.
They may not realize how much noise they are actually making. I would talk with them.
Many years ago I lived bellow a couple with 4 kids they where between 5 and 11 there little one played with ours all the time. One day she came down for coffee leaving her kids upstairs and she asked are those MY KIDS making all that noise… I starting laughing and told her we HEAR EVERYTHING!!! she was so sorry and asked why I never said anything. From then on out they where quite after 10 every night
Beat on your ceiling with a broom
I would bring them a bag, with some children’s melontonin, lavender bath wash and night time lotion. And politely say, kids are rough, especially at night. These helped me a ton with my littles, we’re having a rough time getting the sleep we need, but I hope these might be able to help even a little.
Contact your landlord. Record and document everything so you have proof. And if you must, call the police.
Had same problems council sad just be more considerate of each other recording and writing it down didn’t help guess what still screaming shouting banging awake at daft times three years later