I have a 4th grader who is in competitive cheer. her practices are Monday and Thursday. It’s a very time consuming and expensive sport. So my delimma; she got a note last week that she needs to go to math tutoring to get her Iready test scores where they should be. That was a surprise to me because she’s always tested above or at grade level. But I guess this time she didn’t? Her math grades ranges from b+ to A. Her tutoring conflicts with her cheer, so I’m just going to send her to cheer practice and NOT tutoring as we’ve made a commitment to that sport already. Is this the choice you’d make?
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Those tests are a judgement based on one single moment in time. Maybe she was tired that day. Or Not feeling it. Whatever. If her grades are As and Bs, I’d let her do cheer and skip the tutoring. Honestly when did we start telling kids As and Bs mean they need tutoring!? Many life lessons are learned through sports. Those are just as important as one single math score.
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The only way I’d be ok with this scenario is if you got her an equivalent, private tutor to prep her on non cheer times or days. Like it or not school should be #1 priority and the teacher is clearly seeing that she needs extra help.
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Nope…in my home, school comes BEFORE extra curricular activities. If my daughter is struggling in school, then it is my job as a parent to help her, whether it’s tutoring or whatever, so that she can do her extra curricular activities. If her grades are good…and it’s just one test, then I’d let her do cheer…but if the test determines her next placement or anything like that, then I’d work on that first.
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Grades need to be at least a C or above across the board. School/Education is first always a priority over extra curricular activities.
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Isn’t it no pass no perform?
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Okay so not sending her to that tutoring that was scheduled is fine. However, if she is having issues with math she still needs a tutor so figure out where to fit it in. It is very important that our kids get help and no sports should not be put in front of education.
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I think I would first want clarification on why she needs a tutor if her math grade is consistently bw a B+ & A? What test scores are you referring too in regards to her tests? State tests? Unit tests in class? Maybe she was just tired from cheer before the test??
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You are sending the message that school isn’t important.
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Sports will teach them far more about team-building, cooperation, dedication and respect than math will. Tutor on the off days.
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You’ve made a commitment to her education as well. Should focus more on what will be the most beneficial long term and that would be her education over cheer. Sports should come secondary.
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Is this even a real question…. Obviously, you need to reevaluate your parenting skills because if you’re asking for my opinion, I’m here to tell you that math tutoring is way more important than cheerleading!!! Cheerleading is a luxury, knowing math is a skill that’s needed, and at the end of the day cheerleading aint shit and Math will always be needed in life. ISWTFISIDGAFIYAOD!
I wouldn’t worry about the test score too much. That test doesn’t determine where she actually is. If her grades are good, that’s all that matters. Those tests are are holding our kids back, imo.
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Grades. If she fails grades she’s not going go far in cheer.
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I wouldn’t. Cheer will not be her future unless she goes to nfl or professional somehow. Grades are way more important.
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Ther s nothing wrong with a b to an A grade, let the kid have fun, get a private tutor for different time if needed
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As an educator myself, that “math test” will not determine if she advances to the next grade level. Be consistent with her, print off your own material (for her grade level), hire a high school student who excels in math to tutor her on the off days of cheer.
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I’d let her go to cheer. There’s more to life than school work. Schools focus so much on tests now they forget that kids need to have time to be kids.
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Nope. Cheer is gonna get her nowhere in life without the grades to back it up.
It appalls me how many people keep saying school is important and sports is not. Her happiness is important. If cheer makes her happy, she needs to keep doing that.
For those of you saying there is no future in cheer, there are so many jobs today that was unheard of during our time (80s, 90s, even the early 2000s).
(on a side note, my business is hiring full time coaches with cheer / gymnastics / calisthenics experience. So it’s not true that cheer doesn’t have a future.)
If she’s failing, I’d hire a private tutor to help her out. Her grades don’t have to be great - as a mom you’d know if this is one of those subject she just doesn’t excel in (she can’t be great at everything). If that is indeed the case, assist her enough to maintain an average grade. But don’t take her off cheer especially if this makes her happy.
Education is important But remember that mainstream education system is terribly flawed. It’s changing, but we’re still a way from being inclusive to all levels of learning ability. Until then we as parents help our kids as much as we can while nurturing the activities that ignites the fire in them.
Is tutoring on both days of cheer? If not, send her to one day of cheer and she will still make it to tutoring.
Grades need to be kept up or no extra curricular activities.
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You are. A parent.
You need to make that decision with your spouse.
And that’s it.
If you want a lazy bum for a daughter with no real bright realistic future sure why not
Ummmm your commitment should be for her EDUCATION…sports should not be her priority…If she were in HS…n her grades were failing in any subject she would not be allowed to play…regardless!!.It doesn’t matter how much u have paid …obvious she held back on her math issue…Which was dishonest…N that should never be rewarded!!!Don’t be blindsided…She knew this n never disclosed it to you…n allowed u to pour money into this…Think about that one…IT STARTS WITH YOU…IT ENDS WITH YOU…MEANING…she needs to own up to her errors n accept the responsibility of her actions!! N yes there are consequences …Such as in this case…Math tutoring first…!! Your not helping her by looking the other way either.Good Luck.
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If my kid had a B then y’a I’d pick cheer too. A B is good enough to do extra curriculars. Talk to the teacher.
My son gets all As & Bs, & just got a note sent home for tutoring. I was honestly shocked. I plan to send him, only because it fits into his schedule. If he had an extracurricular, like your daughter, I wouldn’t send him. Unless the grades are suffering, I wouldn’t worry about it. & it sounds like hers are not.
There’s more to life than one test. You take that test as a learning experience and you grow from it.
If she had good grades I wouldn’t sweat it.
Just because her grades have ‘always been’ at a-b range doesn’t mean they currently are. If she’s struggling with IReady then it’s possible she’s struggling with math in general. I know my son’s IReady testing reflects his knowledge of the material he’s learned.
This is where it’s your job as the parent to reach out to the teacher and discuss the situation…like adults.
Is it just the IReady? Is it just this one time? Is she doing well in class this quarter otherwise? Is there alternative tutoring times? Or something you could work with her on at home or even in the car?
Just dismissing and ignoring a concerned teacher doesn’t really help anyone…nor is it teaching your daughter how to actually handle conflictive situations.
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Grades need to come first because she starts failing they won’t let her continue cheer…
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Ask which math concept she is having trouble with, and maybe review it with her to make sure she doesn’t fall behind in math. Each new math concept will build on the previous one, so if she doesn’t understand it could hurt her in the future. If she wants any job in the tech, science industry she will need the math.
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I’m going to be that parent. School is EXTREMELY important. However, it isn’t everything in life. Some kids don’t test well. Kids aren’t going to be perfect in every subject. If she’s pulling Bs & As, I would not be taking away something my child enjoys.
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In my house grades come first, bc if it was a school sport they wouldn’t be able to participate if grades aren’t good
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In my house school/grades come first I don’t care the $ or commitment we’ve already put into extracurricular activities. My daughter attends a magnet school so she has no choice but to but school before her extracurricular sport (she’s in competitive soccer that’s damn near year round)
Tutoring for Iready testing? How is your child’s grades in class? Teachers are doing a lot of teaching to the test these days.
Why can’t you get a tutor at different times?