I feel bad for having to ask but I’m at the end of my rope. My son is 3 and a seriously BAD kid. He throws fits the size of 12 kids. Screaming, kicking, hitting and biting on occasion. I tell him no about something I’m told to shut up you b**ch or his new one is mfer. He throws anything and every thing he can and I don’t know what to do anymore. Any suggestions??
Don’t react to the bad words. That’s what he’s looking for.
Potty mouth. . Soap. Dirty mouth? Clean it up.
Also whose teaching this behavior and words? Probably something to look into so you can keep him away from those people.
Where is he hearing this language if he’s only 3??
A good old fashioned butt whipping
Seriously, stop feeding him sugar
Sounds like to me, he needs a good ole ass whooping. And before anyone says anything about whoopings, don’t go there my kids are disciplined and are very good respectful kids. If u don’t wanna visit your child in jail when he gets older, you better handle it now.
Get him to a child therapist…they can help and him
Ignoring the bad behavior worked for my daughter. Also early bed time as well for misbehaving. Favorite toys r put up for the rest of that day. And no outside time.
Where is he hearing these things though
Ignore, ignore, ignore. I would also put an end to him hearing that kind of language. I am the queen of swearing, I NEVER let my son hear it.
Pop his hand, mouth, bottem. Not hard just enough to shock him for real I can’t stress this enough don’t beat him. A simple pop. Is he hits back pop his hand again if he continues nose and toes. Hands above his head with palms on the wall nose and toes on the wall also.
Whoop his ass An let him kno wat a Bar of soap tastes like
Corporal punishment works
A spanking might help…( a mom advise) sounds like he knows what he is saying and can Express himself … try just ignoring and walk away tell him when he is calmed down and ready to talk like a good boy to come get you… he needs to breathe and think and make good choices… ( daycare teacher advise)
Let him be in his room by himself till je calms down. If that dont work bust that ass its only gonna get worse if you dont fix it now
sounds like he is learning from someone. change adult behavior and he will change.
We whoop kids in our house. I can’t imagine if one of our daughters actually used that language! It’d be a real bad day!
Request a behavior evaluation. Contact your Dr and local public school to find out how in your particular area.
1.) see if you can’t go see a therapist\child specialist. 2.) figure out where he is learning to talk like that \ who is teaching him to talk to you like that. 3.) take away everything he has…besides a blanket and pillow. Tell him until he knows how to act, he can sleep on the floor and he gets nothing. 4.) HE IS NOT A BAD KID!!! 5.)HE OBVIOUSLY LEARNED THIS BEHAVIOR SOMEWHERE.
Have you taken him to Dr. About this problem .? Where did he learn those words ?
He’s 3… He’s learning that behavior from someone
Be a parent! Apparently you have been lax in this area. Kids don’t act like this out of nowhere. If you would have actually parented back when he was 1 or 2 you probably wouldn’t be at this point. Not trying to sound harsh but sometimes people need a hard dose of reality!! He is hearing those words somewhere my guess is in the home! As for fit throwing you are the parent be one and nip it in the butt.
Have you tried whoopin his ass? That will help a whole bunch. Pull his britches down and spank him like your great grandma would have
Beat him & bite him back!!! Be the parent , not a fucking door mate!
Kids will repeat actions and words of what they see. It’s not too late to change this behavior. I would start by shielding him from who ever is acting this way in front of him.
children learn what they live. he clearly is learning this behavior and words from somewhere. I would get a hold of it now or it will get much worse. maybe counseling is in order or some kind of behavioral therapy?
Where did he learn the language? After he speaks like that or throws a fit have you tried an immediate time out in his room, or a room without toys?
I’m old school spank his little ass, take TV time away, toys, tablets whatever else. Get a chair and sit him in the corner nose to the wall. The more he moves the longer he has to sit there .
Wow that kind of language and behavior is learned and not something a child is going to pick up from hearing once especially at that age. Definitely need to make some changes in the behavior he sees. Hes not a bad kid hes 3 he’s still a baby.
Less is more. Don’t feed the chaos with more chaos. Don’t use bad words around him. Go outside and get some air. Go do something fun and simple. He sounds frustrated and overwhelmed. That’s normal for a three year old, but how you react teaches them how to handle it.
I’m probably about to get some hate for this, but WHOOP HIS ASS. Guess what, I got my ass whooped as a child when I done wrong, and I turned out just as I should have. He’s spoiled rotten and wants whatever it is he wants and thinks you’re supposed to cater to him.
You, or whoever the kid is around, you need to watch your mouth if you don’t want him cussing, kids repeat what they hear you know
Bust his ass!! Whatever environment hes in is how hes gonna act. A 3yr old isn’t gonna pull those words out his butt, its learned behavior so fix your surroundings before you punish a child
Call 211 find mental health in your area have him evaluated
Oh his little a** would be on FIRE.
My son slaps me , I’ll be nice the first time , second time my hands across his head , BOY I TOLD YOU NO. Wanna try me AGAIN? He’ll reply No. I ain’t above being a little harsh to mine , we gonna set limits before we can’t set any.
Watch Nanny 911 and other shows like that. They have awesome tips for kids like this.
Spank him. Hard. It is not illegal to spank your child. I worked for CPS, you can spank you child as many times and how hard you want as long as it doesn’t leave a bruise it’s not considered abuse
I’m sorry but a 3 year old dont know those words unless someone is saying them around him this is 100% learned behavior
Spank his ass! And I mean good and hard.
Stop teaching him how to act that way. He’s learning that behavior from someone.
You have allowed him to behave this way without consequences and now you’re seeing the result of that. He is learning that language from someone, usually parents or siblings. I would evaluate your behavior and see how it is causing this acting out in your kid. Maybe take some parenting classes, establish rules and discipline and most importantly follow through. He is at an age where this can still be corrected
If he’s acting like that at 3 years old you seriously need to evaluate your parenting! Wow. How would a 3 year old even know those words? Who do you allow to talk to you like that in front of your child? Why have you not whooped his little butt and taught him how to act??? This is 100% the parent’s fault. Not the child…
Really people. He’s 3 not a felon. No kid is a bad kid. There are reasons why kids act out. This behavior usually starts with the parents. And not trying to be rude. And I understand it’s hard for parents sometimes to accept the blame themselves. But come on.
Have him checked for ASD
Also throw some SOAP IN HIS DIRTY MOUTH.
Psych consultation if you have tried diet, discipline
My son was kind of like this… I had to go through every form of punishment to find what worked for him. Swatted him he would laugh, put him in his room, I would make him sit and look at a wall, I tried everything. But then I picked one and was consistent and I didn’t pick and choose which ones I disciplined and I my husband got on board… little consistency and he’s leaps and bounds better. Good luck I know it’s hard. Also they know what they hear change the way EVERYONE speaks around him.
Go through local school for an evaluation of early intervention.
Sounds as if he may need behavior therapy that your entitled to for free from public school system at age 3
My son acted up like this when my boyfriend and i fought infront of him almost all the time. It was the lowest point of my life, and i am not proud of it… But once i realized the why behind it, it absolutely brought me back to reality. We shaped up quick. Not saying this is the reason for your childs behavior, i just think it’s why my child acted that way.
I agree with Ashley Thomas above…you need to calm the situation down …I did timeouts with a blanket, sippy cup, and cartoons or tablet… Once calmed then it is much easier to work on attitude…it’s not rewarding bad behavior, it is refocusing your child
I wouldn’t let him watch anymore FOX NEWS or Thumpy Boy rallies.
He wants attention even if it’s bad attention. Spend some quality time with him. Reward good behavior.
My kids karate coach has us use pushups for punishment. Correctly. Kids will get tired of doing them lol
As far as the language hes hearing it somewhere and shouldnt be. The other bad behavior he needs to be punished and seen by a counselor. Good luck
I’m all for spanking, but it usually doesn’t work. When I spank my 9 year old, she doesn’t learn anything from it, she instead turns around and tells me I’m horrible because her daddy never spanks her. If he’s doing this at 3, he needs to be evaluated. There’s no shame in having him checked out. I wish I would’ve done so with my 9 yo, but her dad made me feel bad about it.
He needs discipline and consistency. Also, have him evaluated for ADHD, and avoid foods with red and blue food dye, especially those koolaid squeezes. Also limit his sugar intake. Although these behaviors are learned to a degree, they can be exasperated by food dues, sugar, and inconsistencies. Try to establish a schedule and stick to it.
Get him a pschy evaluation. Even though he is 3 check with the public school system. What you are describing i lived as well. My son is now 23 but i can remember those days like yesterday. Im not saying your son is crazy but he may have a condition like my son did and still does. Good luck and stay strong, i know how hurtful and frustrating that is. Dont let people keep telling you, spank him, wash his mouth out, things go much deeper than that, i know they did with my son.
It’s called spankings and timeouts. Unless you enforce them when your suppose to as punishment for bad behaviors he’ll take you as a joke and continue to walk all over you. It’ll get worse with age
Wooden spoon always worked for my brother and i…
This little boy is 3 not 13 okay so probably dont “whoop” him. Not to mention you as a mother are calling your toddler a bad kid. Toddlers throw tantrums that is normal for a child this age. The language however is taught I hate to be rude but maybe dont be a shitty parent and allow that kind of language and behavior around him.
Not everything now a days is a behavioral problem sometimes its just what a child watches & whom they learn from! My lil one tried it at the age if 1, while at Walmart he saw a lil boy throw a toy & himself to the floor. When I said “No” he did it & I immediately stopped it by raising my voice & whooped his behind. He’s tried to whine, scream & the Wha wha crap from watching another lil girl do it & Again I told him no need to whine & do all that other nonsense! I stopped nonsense like that! All parents are different, maybe its time to get strict & hard on the lil one kids know that’s why they learn so quick! But that name calling & throwing stuff is a no go!
I have 4 children and NONE of them have ever disrespected me like that, I would never allow it for one thing. I truly believe a child will do what you let him think he can! I am stern with my kids and they are the best most respectful children. Get control. Especially now when they are little!
Good old fashioned ass whoopin’.
You need to remember something with children : You only get treated how you ALLOW yourself to be treated…
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Counselor ASAP. Cut out tv. All of it. Zero screen time, change his diet. And just focus on discipline . Wow
Just don’t give up Momma, you got this. That’s your child, discipline, time-outs, don’t give in to whatever he asks for, unless he deserves it. But, on top of all that, never stop loving him. Good luck to you Momma, you got this!!
Bust that wooden spoon out. Let them know afterwards why u did it and what they can do to not fet it again…if that dont work call the uncle or seek evaluation or sports.
My suggestion is to quit having him around people who say mfer and call people a bitch. Can’t punish him for saying the words you’re allowing him to hear
Whoop that ass and get him in to be evacuated for explosive disorder
First, whoop his butt! For the bad words, oooo I’d pop him square in his mouth. Not hard or even enough to hurt, but enough that he’ll think twice before calling you a bitch or mfer again. And start taking stuff away. His TV, his video games, iPad, tablet, his most valuable prized toys. No going to play, you can tell his teacher at school no recess. My 18 yr old called me a massive bitch 2 weeks ago, I whooped her butt but good. She’s been watching what she says really closely these days. Also, I’d curb his contact with those who say those words. He’s getting them from someone. Good luck.
Whip his ass plain and simple when he cuss pop him in his mouth when he get back to throwing tantrums his age or basically acting his age pick your battles but right now you have to get a handle on it
I just started the positive parenting courses on FB. It helped with just the free one they offer. Try searching for it on FB (pps-positive parenting solutions)…They discuss things like you’re saying is going on. It has helped me and I’m just starting. You can also look into counseling or evaluations to make sure there’s not more going on. Also, pay attention to what he’s watching on TV since the language had to come from somewhere and if what’s he watching is violent, that could be adding to it as well. So maybe less TV/movies and more creative play or outside/active play.
Well sounds like you need to look at yourself in the mirror
First there’s no such thing as a bad child. They’re misunderstood. Get him evaluated. You never know what he has going on mentally
There is no such thing as a bad child. He is either learning those behaviors or has some sort of issue. It sounds like he’s learning this. Kids just don’t make up sentences like shut up you b*tch or mfer. He learned those sayings from someone. Sounds like someone is being very violent near him. This is why you always make sure you don’t fight around kids or say bad things about eachother near them(not just the parents but anyone at all).
Psych evaluation. No shame in it, mama. You got this
How do you allow the man in your life to talk to you?? Or any other women around him, how are they being spoken to? Hes seeing it, or he wouldnt be repeating it. If someone in your life, or his… is behaving in that way, remove them immediately.
He learned it from home.
Dont react to the outburst. Just walk away like you don’t care. No reaction=no reason to keep throwing fits. That is very hard to do but after a few days at home, it worked for me. Just something you could try. May not work for everyone. As for the cursing, we practice redirection and of course get to the source of where hes hearing it from.
When mine acting up it was time out in the corner or the couch. No tv. Because if you sit them on the couch with the tv on then as they get older they know they get to sit and watch tv when punished. Mine knew as they got older they knew mama meant business. now all I have to do is give a look and they know they’ve crossed the line. But take away his favorite toys and his tv time. if you have children let them go out and play but make him stay inside and watch them having fun. and when he has a fit tell him he can go if he settles down and behaves. but each time extend the time of punishment.
Ok so I have 5 boys with ADHD, 2 also have a seizure disorder, 1 also had ASD and ODD.
There are several steps to take.
- Modify diet. That means lessen sugar, white flour, and red dye intake.
- Modify you. How you react must be appropriate so he can see how he should respond when upset. He curses. You kneel down and say use your nice words. Do not overreact and do not take his attitude personally . You are the grown up.
- Take him to pediatric dr and get him referred for neurological consultation. It could be a medical condition that could be treated or cured.
Good luck mama.
Sounds like he has a role model somewhere in his life. He can not possibly know these words at this age on his own. Likely the fits he is displaying goes along with the language he has picked up on. Someone either you or someone in your home or that he’s around needs to clean up their act. If it’s not you, then you need to get your child out of this situation regardless of who it is.
It’s time for me to go to Jail, But wait first i"ll Get who ever taught him to say that because actions from a 3 yr old is learned. they watch even when you don’t see them watching:pray:t5:
My boy is exactly like this, to the point where he was kicked out of daycare & I lost my job because of it. I’ve taken parenting classes, occupational therapy for kids & have a healthy family worker coming every week giving me tips on how to deal with him. For the hitting I grab his hands firmly, get down to eye level & sternly tell him we do not hit. If it persists I sit with him in time out and we talk it out, I never leave him because he will forget the punishment. The swearing is a hard one, I haven’t found the best way to deal with it other than the time outs and watching who speaks in front of him. Through the occupational therapy I found out he has above average sensory issues which means certain sounds, busy environments or textures can trigger an out burst. He’s not on the autism scale or labels add or anything, just sensory issues which can come from a stressful pregnancy or stressful environment. Our house burned down last year and I was all over the place, moved three times & didn’t give him the attention he needed so it was definitely my fault. Now that we have stability, set routine, things seem to be a lot better.
I’m sorry your going through this . It really sounds like he’s hearing or seeing this type of behavior somewhere and is repeating it. Or you need to have that evaluated to make sure there’s not something more going on. But stand your ground and punish him how you see fit.
You might try 1 on 1 special attention play games with him toss a ball back-and-forth play hide-and-seek in the House I know it go probly wear you out but maybe it might help
My l.o doesnt cuss, but he has issues with screaming, biting, hitting, or harming himself. He is on the asd and has spd/ ppd issues. It can be an issue of environment for your little ones behavior or something that he is not really able to control. If you have tried numerous approaches and nothing is getting through, i would reccomend seeking a specialist
A good old fashioned spanking will do wonders a strich
First thing is maybe seeing where he is getting this behavior and language from because hes seeing it somewhere.
Well kids react to their environment. They copy what they’re around.(not saying you’re at fault per say or a bad parent) do you cuss or fight with your partner or whoever you live with? Do you scream at your son? Or cuss at people at home? Look at the environment around him. It could be why. I know when I was with an abusive ex my daughter started cussing some and acting out really bad. When I got out of that situation, over time she calmed down a lot. Sometimes we don’t realize that what we do is shown in a way through our children. Look at how he’s raised. You can ask his pediatrician about his behavior. He may have an underlying issue that you haven’t caught yet. It never hurts to get a referral for a mental health professional and it doesn’t mean there’s anything that you did wrong. You might even take a step back and look at what you are doing as a parent and change somethings. Spanking and time outs don’t work for everyone anymore.
He’s’ 3 you said, so apparently hes hearing this language from adults someplace. Does he have older siblings that act out in this way? I would speak to his pediatrician and look into positive discipline techniques but if you dont take action now it is only going to get worse. Good luck!
Yes , go to a dietitian, for a new died, cut screen time, I literally strapped my son in his car seat until he realized time out was going to work, then before you know it I could do the time out in a regular chair, I kept the car seat near for threatening purposes, and be sure the pediatrician knows, get him in counseling now because he may need meds before school
I would defiantly talk to a doctor. Ot sounds like there is something else going on mentally, and maybe he doesnt know how to properly express himself
He’s learned this behavior somewhere. Evaluate the people in his life and show the toxic ones the door. He’s 3. Its a tough age but if you don’t get to the root of the problem he can end up on dr. Phil, in jail, or dead. If you’re a spiritual person, look into having someone pray over him.
He could have Some sort of autism etc. Get him checked. My kids are rotten allot so I get it… Hang in there mama
Look at where he’s learning to call you a bit$% or mfer. All the other stuff is pretty normal kid stuff. Nothing a little spank on the butt and a nose in the corner can’t handle. I honestly wouldn’t even blame TV. My kids watch all kinds of stuff and have never said stuff like that. Kids do however copy other important people in their life. So, who ever else tells you to shut up and calls you names, that’s where I’d start.
Try getting him checked for add or ADHD if that’s not the case maybe better discipline. IDC what anyone does with their kids, here we believe in respect and that’s far from it. we also believe in spankings, and other forms of punishment (nothing that leaves your kid terrified)