how does everyone handle tantrums cause i’m at my wits end. I need ideas she’s just screaming and hitting her head on things
I just tell my daughter that when she’s done screaming and throwing herself around she can come talk to me so we can solve the problem and put her in her room and walk away lol and I’ll take toys away. I also explain to her that we don’t get what we want all the time depending on the situation or that when we don’t follow rules there’s consequences.
I was stern with mine after the first one at 2 and she’s never done it again. I recorded it and still watch it with her. I didn’t play with her bc I knew she would never respect me if I did.
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I used to just walk away and ignore mine , sometimes the most you try to solve it the annoying they get .
My daughter once tried the hitting herself and pulling her own her but I put it a stop right away. She pulled her hair and k just walked right to her and puller her hair , hard enough so she knew I was not playing but not hard enough to hurt her: I told her that if she wanted to do that I will help her and asked her if she wanted more , she said no mami and never did that again .
I know it might sound hard but sometimes you need to be hard
Depends on age & circumstances.
Assuming she’s 5 years or younger, neurotypical and upset she’s not getting her way…I’d hold the boundary, but validate emotions. I’ve seen adults throw tantrums plenty of times (you probably have too, they just look slightly different than your daughter’s because you’re older), yet, we expect kids to not have big feelings over things. If she’s tantruming because she’s not getting her way, validate that it absolutely is tough and upsetting to not get what she wants, but that hurting herself or others is not okay. Offer quiet, alone time in her bedroom, hugs from you, a walk outside, etc. Figure out what works for her. Idk about others, but punishing her for getting upset just doesn’t sit right with me. If I, an adult, get upset, I don’t want to be punished…I want to be understood. 
But again, depends on age, circumstances, severity of tantrums/hurting herself, etc.
What I would do most people frown on.
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I would swat her on the bottom(depending on her age).
get her checked out by a pediatrician, there may be an issue with autism
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It really depends on the age. With my son I would put him in his room and tell him when he’s done throwing his fit he can come out. We do the same with my grands if they are pitching a fit they can do that in their room until they are ready to come out.
Time for tough love. Schedule, chores, take away privileges. Basically become a drill sergeant. It works.