I need advice… I’m getting this unhappy feeling again with my relationship. Last time I felt this way was last month because I got sick of not being allowed to do what I want, not even a single shower! He said it was too hard to keep the kids. (3 yr old & 5 month old) Like its only 15 damn minutes 
so I broke up with him that day and he was understanding and he told me he would try harder next time. So he gave me a week to feel like if that was what I really wanted. I went to go stay at my aunties for the week. Which only lasted for a day because I felt like he really meant it when he said he would try harder so I went back to him, it’s been a month now and he’s going back to his old ways 
Will he ever change? He never lets me have naps either or not even a “have a nap, I’ll take care of the kids” when I let him have naps every single day smh… he stays up all night gaming until the morning when we wake up, stays up with us until 3 in the afternoon then sleeps the rest of the day away. Mind you, we stay in a small room in his parents house so when he sleeps half the day away, it gets frustrating with the kids and with no help 
Btw we’ve been together for 4 years
He doesnt work? Hell naw. Make his ass get up and help. Dont give him a choice.
He wont change… sorry 
been there
Boot him out. He will never change.
That sounds like another child! If he’s not helping in any way then why stay? 
Sounds like you’ve got an extra kid. No responsibility, no respect for you, and no idea the duties of a father. Just because you’ve had 4 years is no reason not to better for yourself. You owe to your children. Leave that lazy—, and get on with YOUR life. He won’t change😔
Not sure how old you guys are, but he sounds very immature. If you’re not getting any help and he doesn’t respect you enough to make permanent changes then you need to go. You deserve a partner, not a 3rd child. And if he stays up all night and sleeps all day when is he working? Take those babies and move on. You’ll be glad you did!
That’s who he is. He doesn’t see an issue with his behavior. He’s lying and you already know this.
Honestly I dont think he will change
Been together 4 yrs…soooo were you together when you were 12 cause you sound like children.
Pf. Screw that shit. Leave. He will never change. He sounds selfish and controlling and incredibly lazy. Just leave him.
Get rid of him, he’s just another child that adds to your stress. He don’t understand what responsibilitys are and it will be easier if he’s not around. And you can get breaks when he wants to see them xxx
Hell to the nah. Hes a child himself. You will end up raising him too. Dont do it.
Well I will be the one to say it so he has all this time to game and sleep but no job?? Leave him unless u want a shitty life your CHILDREN DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT!!
He’s still a child himself! Some of these men easily can make kids, but when it comes to taking care of them they can’t do it. It seems he wants the benefit of having y’all there, just don’t want to put any work in. You shouldn’t have to ask to take a shower I’m sorry, but it don’t go that way. It’s not fair to you at all he can do whatever and you can’t all because he can’t take care of his kids. He needs to grow up big time. I’m assuming he’s rarely had to lift a finger his whole life, he himself was being babied by his parents. I’m sorry your going through this, just leave girl it’s not worth it I pinky promise you, there is a MAN who would be more than happy to watch the kids while you nap and shower. Good luck
Been there. Don’t that for seven years. He will never ever change. Sorry you have to go through it but get out while you can.
He won’t change. My ex never did after 6 years so I kicked him out once I’d had enough.
He sounds like a child and definitely acting like one. Tell him boo hoo and get you and your kids out of there
Move out and get your own place, wow you all stay in one room those poor kids need their own space and own rooms to sleep in!
Time to kick the deadbeat to the curb. His parents are enablers letting him live there without working .
Sounds as tho’ the dude is a Loser
Honestly he won’t change and it sounds like he is not ready to be a parent
You are wasting your time and giving your kids a pitiful example of a “grown man.” A four year relationship in one room of his parents’ residence? Where do you plan to be when he is 30? He’s a professional loser. Decide where you’re going to be when the kids start school, and get there with or without that video game-playing grocery sack around your neck.
It takes more than a day to give them a “wake up call”. Stay gone a whole week to show him you’re serious and make him PROVE hes trying to change.
Sounds like he is already controlling you and it will only get worse. The fact that he does not help with the kids at all and it sounds like he doesnt work so what are you actually getting out of this relationship? I say leave him you are already doing it on your own. You can do it in your own in your own place.
Four years together and no place of your own?
Sounds like an absolute parasite to me get organised to get your own place with your kids. If he would rather game and sleep and nothing else rather than work for his family and their future, he a deadbeat.
Sounds like you both have a bit of growing up to do…work your ass off…get your own place and ditch that man child
So… you’ve got 3 kids 
Well I told a friend of mine the other day who was having some issues leopards don’t change their spots if he’s this way now he’s not ever going to be any different
Had an ex the same way woundent even let me have my phone to talk to my family I told him if he did not change I was not going to be with him we have a daughter Toghter I always was the one taking care of her and he was very controlling over her he never changed said he would but never happen so I moved on and now I am very happy with who I am with and he treats my daughter like his own
You really have 3 children to look after . You may as well be a single mum then maybe your life would be healthier n happier im sure. Leopard never changes its spots. Just the fact he is still living at his mums house should tell you thats all your life will be if you stay .
Run and run fast!! Get out while you can!!!
I would get rid of him and not take him back again hes obviously not going to change
Get Counseling, and if you live with his parents, can his parents watch the kids so you can shower?? He needs to step up or you need to move on
Het a job and he can watch them… Be good for you to get away time and money coming in.
No a leopard🐆 cannot change his spot’s
Leave him & run fast & away from him
Time to go. He is supposed to help with the children too, he is the father right? If he’s not helping, leave
If you stay with him you will be taking care of the kids,if you leave him you will still be taking care of kids. I guess you need to decide if you want to be with him.
Who works in this family
He needs to get a god damned job for starters. Sounds like you have 3 children… You only receive what you tolerate… Run forest run…
Run run as fast as you can.
Is this the life you want for you and your kids living out of one room don’t you want better for you and your kids you should have left a long time ago this man has no ambition it sounds very self-centered I think you can do better you should have moved on long ago imagine your life 5 years from now 10 years from now because it’s going it’s going to be like nothing changing from now get out give you and your kids a life
He will always tell you what you want to hear, but he will never change. You need to get rid of him and find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. Your kids deserve better also.
Throw him away. He’s taking advantage of you and doesn’t seem to care about you or the kids at all. Waste of your time.
He ain’t gonna change babe, sorry. Went through the same shit, don’t fall for it
Seriously leave. Dealt with crap similar to that with my ex husband. Youll be so much happier when you leave.
They never change
If you can raise them on your own do it. A man/child seldom grows up
Let him go and just co parent
Run as fast as you can. They always say they will try harder or they will change. Do Not Believe it. It will be that way for your whole life.
you need to leave that fool. My Lord what is wrong with women in todays world.
does he even work??? u say he stays up all night n sleeps all day? wth? who takes care of those kids financially?? im not sure how comfortable u may feel living in that situation but id b out the door so fast
I would leave!! No he will never channge.
Sounds like my brother
But my brother is actually worse
He expects my SIL to wake up early early to prepare food for their 8mo
Feed him and bathe him and tuck him back in and then do his laundry
Take care of the restaurant business while taking care of their son
Do all the changing and cleaning and cooking
While he goes out with his friends or sleeps all day. And he gets mad at her for being slightly tired from all the work.
Umm NOPE ! I would pack up my kids & I and be gone for good … he needs to
Grow up get a job and be a dam parent !
Been in that situation before with my now ex-husband. I ended up leaving him because of that and how he treated our kids. It was a toxic cycle where he would “change” for a short period of time then slip back into his old ways. One day I had enough and started saving to move back to NC my boys and I lived with my sister for a while before I bought my own house. Sometimes you can work things out sometimes you cant. You have to do what is best for you and your babies. What was best for me and my kids was to leave the toxicity and create a brighter future. Find your support system and dont be afraid to ask for help.
Girl run don’t walk it will never be any better
Get rid of him right now. If you’ve been together 4 years and he’s not helping you or giving you any relief he doesn’t feel like he ever will have to and has no intention of changing. Hurry up before you’re PG again!
Get out now he will never chance I promise u that I have a friend that has been going threw the same thing now for 5 years I went threw it for about a year when I said see yeah thats no man u already have 2 kids y do u need 3
Don’t even have to read father than, “it’s been a month and he’s back to his same ways.” The answer is no, he’ll never change.
You should stay with him another couple of years it will probably ger worst .
Advice only matters if you are willing to listen and accept. For you to be holding on this long - means you know better but you refuse to acknowledge your fault. You must first accept that you are blinded by selfishness. Second - you must accept that your opinion means nothing in comparison to the future and well being of your children. Third - you must give an effort on #1 and #2. Only then can you be willing to accept advice and truly know when you have faltered at your own undoing. You must be strong. Be strong. Take control. Your emotions are holding you back. But your children are more important. Dont be selfish. Continue to ask for advice but be weary of your selfishness. We are all capable of selfishness. We resent those who acknowledge our flaws because we despise their opinion. No opinion was made without some reason behind it.
Will you fight for what is right? If so, please do.
I hope that one day you realize - if you want something done : you have to do it yourself.
This is a motto that I live by… And it is the closest thing to truth as much as the sky is blue and grass is green.
He “gave” you a week to decide if you wanted to break up? I know the obvious answer is for you to just leave but I really think you need some counseling/therapy to get to where you are going to let yourself leave. Or is there any way you could move in with a supportive family member?
There are kids involved which means you guys need to try to make it work. Communicate. But also being in a small room isn’t good for anyone especially four of y’all. It sounds like he doesn’t work, it that is the case he needs to get a job and get y’all out of that situation. You have a five month old so I can see how you might not be able to work but y’all need to
Work as a team in order to get ahead in life. With growing kids you will need more space. I don’t believe in breaking up a family unit especially if there isn’t any abuse but if he doesn’t want to change and help you ultimately he’s affecting your mental stability which needs to be 
in order to take care of y’all Kids, at some point you will know you have reached your limit and you must follow suit and do what you have to do for you and yours. We have no choice as moms but to take care of ours… dads sometimes just do whatever they want to do… it sucks it does. I wish you the best!
Wow u both sound lazy af
Is this bloke disabled or something? Because if not he needs to get his lazy arse up off the lounge go out get a job so he can find a house and take care of his responsibilities.if he can sit up all night gaming he can find a job that does night shift or what ever . And as helping you with his & your kids he wants to wake up to himself try going to see a family councillor and if that doesn’t work show him the door .
Welcome to mom world were we do everything i have 5 kids i make sure i have sitters or what not to do what want never relay on a man
My ex was exactly like this. Not exaggerating. He won’t change. I tried for 4 years. Leave, honestly xxx
Cmon leaving him just bcx he doesnt let u sleep?? Or just bcx u have to takrcare of kids all alone?? Do u think its justice with ur 4 year’s realtionship or with ur kids? U gonna take their dad away just bcx u were not ok to handle everything all alone cmon dont be a child… i cnt believe how every on every single matter says “just leave” as if a game is going on not a relationship…
Try to relax and as long as he loves u cares for u fullfill your and kids needs he is good… compromise is key of a successful relation u dont get everything perfect both have to change a bit for on another
Leave. Take the kids and start fresh. Don’t even say goodbye