Honestly i understand completly with everyone saying not to tell her. But if you have proof I would tell her. Cuz 1. You dont know her personally 2. Even if you do get backlash, thats when you back off and never talk to her/them again. Say what you have to say and leave it at that. I would want to know. Idc who would tell me as long as they have proof.
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Also, get checked by a doctor. Diseases are dormant mostly in women than men.
Send her an anonymous letter with proof, that way nothing would get back to you. I would like to know if it was me.
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Unfortunately the messenger always get shot.
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Everyone saying no is the other woman.
Girl code: tell her!!
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You must have some type of proof to know this happened. I would tell her, tell her how you know and if she turns ugly or doesnt believe then that’s on her!! I would most definitely tell her though!!!
Id gather evidence. Pictures timestamps whatever. Make a secret account and be very scarce of who you are. You’re just looking out for another woman that doesn’t deserve such hidden disrespect. If let her know with a fake account and move on after that. That’s all u can really do.
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I’d want to know so I’d say tell her. Send her a letter or email. 
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As a married woman I would want to know if my husband was cheating or not.
I would tell her doesn’t matter if I know her or not.
Ppl saying “stay out of it” to me, just perpetuates the covering up of this bullshit. WTF?!?
How about if it was your husband?
And backlash?
I would just tell her
“Do what you want with this info, if it was my husband and you knew I would want you to tell me whether you were my friend or not. Didn’t mean to cause anything but you deserve the truth about what your husband is doing behind your back.”
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I’d definitely appreciate anyone telling me. My ex cheated on me with a lot of women and every guy he worked with kept it a secret. It hurt more knowing that people knew and didnt care enough to tell me.
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Everyone saying “don’t” ???
Please do. She might blame you but guess what - who cares. Especially if you feel morally obligated to tell her. I would.
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Most women don’t want to know the truth. Chances are that she already knows. Telling her will feel like humiliating her and expecting her to leave her marriage.
Girl…MIND YO DAMN BUSINESS 
that is NOT ur place 
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I would want to know so I say tell her
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What’s your reason if you dont even know her? That’s their business… Not yours. Worry about your own life and stop trying to cause drama into someone else’s. For all you know they are swingers.
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I’d want to know! for many reasons. 1.) std’s are a serious thing & I’d wanna be checked.
2.) she already probably has suspicions about him because face it: women can just feel it & no one deserves to lay awake at night wondering why they feel like they’re going crazy inside /won’t good enough.
if anything send proof anonymously…
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I would gather evidence and tell her anonymously
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Why risk your peace and your job for a situation you know nothing about?
Maybe they have an open marriage?
I think it’s an honest attempt at nobility but not your place, especially when you don’t know her.
The other piece to this is that if he’s cheating, if it’s not a personal marital arrangement, then chances are she already knows. Women have good intuition!
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You don’t, you mind your business… she’ll find out, we always do…
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Uhh you just tell them. I’ve even sent screen shots and still got called a liar so I don’t anymore🤷♀️ not my man not my problem.
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alway speak up. If you have the means of doing it, do it. Put yourself in their shoes, would you wanna know? I know I would love to be warned so I can save myself from an even harder heartbreak in the future.
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No partner in life deserves to be cheated on - period !
Make a fake profile tell her and send proof that’s what I do
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Mind your businessssss
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If you’re doing it to be the better person, what outcome are you hoping for…is this guy someone who has authority over your job, are you willng to rush your lively hood to tell a woman she may already infact know about…I believe in karma and the truth will always come to light be by your mouth or her own instincts…I would hope you are at a good enough standing with your place of employment if you care to meddle in coworker affairs…just sayin
Having had a husband who went outside of our marriage, I’d be just as mad at YOU for knowing and not telling me!! You’re enabling and helping by doing so.
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Tell her anonymously… otherwise you’re just condoning and enabling.
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This has some personal motive behind it bc if it was truly a concern of yours… you wouldn’t have waited two years later to tell her. Why do you have this sudden urge?? Self seeking motive is what I’m gathering.
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Stay in your own lane that leads straight into your own business.
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If it was me I’d want to know and even if I did already know the fact that u were looking out for me and didn’t even know me would at least be told about but as someone who’s (ex) husband has cheated on me I would have some sort of proof to back it up.
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It’s literally not your business to tell!
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Mind your own! That’s none of your business!!
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All of you saying ‘mind your business’. If she knows obviously he isn’t minding his own business. And STD’s WILL GET YOU. I’d be thankful someone told me that way I could clear it up if I happen to know about it or leave that man in the dust. And maybe she didn’t find out until recently about the past 2 years?
I call this looking out for my fellow WOMAN. I would definitely be subtle and have some kind of proof or else it just looks bad on you. And definitely be anonymous. Y’all shady ladies baffle me…
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Unless you know their situation etc. It’s not really your job or place to tell her. It’s not for you to worry about. You could do it anonymously if you feel the need and so forth. But if you want to risk it. Maybe present evidence. Her husband should be telling her…
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I would want to be told.
If you think its what would be best for this person. Then by default, be prepared to wear it. Because the messenger always get shot.
it takes a lot of courage to tell someone this but honestly I feel like it is absolutely the right thing to do and if her husband didn’t want her to find out he should have thought about that before he cheated I would 100 percent say something via Facebook anything just make sure you use details because she will confront him and to keep him from gaslighting her and lying give her some ammunition 
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Too many women in here saying “protect the cheater” and be complicit…
Yikes
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Ummmm mind your own in my opinion your just looking 4 drama
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I’m sure she knows. We sense those things, we feel the distance. If she was my good friend I’d call him out first. I’d call him out first even if she wasn’t a friend
Tricky. I once had a friend who cheated on her husband. I was close with the husband as well. I had let the husband know what was going on and a few months later it led to his suicide. I will never do that again.
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She probably already knows.
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I would tell her. Don’t be that women who laughs at another women being played. How sad some of these comments are. I would reach out how ever you could. Honesty is best.
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You better come with receipts or you’re just another one who likes to stir the pot.
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Do you know for a fact he’s cheating and he’s not poly or they don’t have an open relationship?
Tell her , it might be the confirmation she needs to be able to make the right decisions for her self
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Why. What personal gain do you get from telling her? Most women have an idea. Some are pretty sure. A lot are choosing to let things ride out to avoid the conflict. Once you let her know that you know, now she has a choice to make. She has to either do something about it, or make the choice to continue as is. She then has the judgment of whoever brought it to her attention. Unless he’s renting meth heads, it might be better to mind your business.
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Idk why everyone is saying it’s not anyone’s business but theirs. If another woman found my husband cheating, I’d want to know. Idgaf if I know her. I’d rather know than be there looking like a fool. Miss me with that bs. Definitely come with the proof if you have it but if not, do it anyways. Let her figure the rest out 
she probably already suspects it anyways.
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Yes reach out through Facebook messenger if you have nothing else… all of the people ok n here saying it’s not her place, just remember if that happened to you wouldnt you want someone to tell you??. That woman deserves the same
I say mind your business because you should have told her the first time. By now she knows.
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I was in this situation I actually was the other woman. Once found out he was married I stopped it, he kept msg I just screenshot the msg and sent them to her through messenger and I kept apologising sadly she stayed with him so he thought that was he allowed to keep screwing random women.
Stay out of it. Its none of ur business. Im sure she already knows her husband is a cheating dog alleady.
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Mind ur own business sounds like ur a shit stirer
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Be ready to have proof
Because she will come at you and you will be the bad guy, and in the end she won’t believe you ( there is a possibility she already knows) but yeah… have proof.
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Nope. Mind your business. She already knows I’d be willing to bet. She will hate you and she will say she doesn’t believe you.
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You should mind your business. After you tell her, it may backfire on you.
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Don’t tell her! It’s a lose/lose situation. If they stay together you will always be the one who tried to break them up. If they break up, you will always be the one who broke them up. I would arrange for her to catch them herself. Then you are not to blame.
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Too many people on here “mind your business” but if your significant other was out creeping you’d want to know, right?
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Mind ya biscuits or you’re causing drama at your work place
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Lol
You don’t tell her.
She may already know
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How many of the woman saying to tell her have actually done it? Because let me tell you it will go bad for the person 9/10. Keep in mind if she works with the husband it could mess up her workplace. Most woman end up staying with the guy who cheated and the woman who spilled the beans is looked as the bad guy. Men are so manipulative and could be turned around like “oh she likes me but I turned her down” “oh shes mad cause I got the position she wanted” etc etc. A lot of the times the woman will attack the girl who told them. Trust me it’s best to stay out of it if you wanna keep peace in your life.
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Don’t tell her. None of your business
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I told my BFF her bf was cheating on her even though people told me not too and for her she thanked me and told me she would have never left that toxic relationship if she hadn’t seen that
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Mind your own business
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Will tell her. If you dont know her you dont have anything to loose so if she mad at you, so be it. But if it was me or my husband i would want to know. Some woman live in denial or have narcs for husbands. She might have picked up something but he might be excellent in convincing her otherwise. Ill tell her.
I would personally send her a fb message and say my peace what she does then is up to her, if your trying to keep it drama free set up a new fb account first 
I don’t understand this mind your own business BS everyone is saying. I would want to know as long as the person has proof. Wait until you have proof then send it to her. Don’t get yourself evolved personally. Send it anonymously then let her make her own decisions.
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You need to mind your own business. Something really bad can happen because you chose to but in someone else affair. What is done in the dark will come to light. Did you ever think she may already have that deep gut feeling and is waiting on her own time to deal with this infidelity. But Out and get some business of your own
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So snap some photos, pick up some chocolates, tissues, wine, print the photos and send her a box in the mail with a sympathy card. 
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Coming from someone who was cheated on and everyone knew but said nothing!!! Tell her. We already feel like a fool and are embarrassed when we find out but deserve the truth. Send her a letter through the mail. No need for your name. If she doesn’t believe you it may cause her to pay closer attention and find out the truth on her own.
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I say tell her, you have nothing to lose. You might be saving her from an already bad situation.
I knew a old boss of mines husband was cheating. If I have information like that I vow to tell the woman. Every woman deserves to know. I sent her a Facebook message, with proof. She thanked me. They divorced and she is remarried AND SO HAPPY NOW. Stop with the mind your own business and have each other’s back.
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You mind your business because you most likely won’t be believed.
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It’s really sad how many people wouldn’t tell another women her man’s being un faithful.
She deserves to know. No matter what. How she handles it is her business. I would want to know if the person I was with was cheating on me. No matter what. That changes a lot of serious decisions.
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If you feel in your gut you should say something. DO IT. It’s your business if it’s affecting your conscience. Let your voice be heard or not, just say your piece and step back. The only way people should be saying mind your business, is because it’s a coworker. It’s not professional to get involved in their personal matters. If you don’t work there anymore, go for it.
Non of your business. Butt out.
I would not tell her…but I would tell him that the disrespect he shows to his wife shames him.
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You don’t. You stay in your lane and mind your business unless you want to lose your relationship with your friend.
Many women suspect but have trouble getting proof. They would expect their friends to tell them but when they don’t it’s like being betrayed twice. The worse thing is wasting your life when you could be starting over with someone who actually wants and values you.
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Tell her. My ex cheated multiple times and multiple people knew and didn’t say anything and I felt like even more of a fool because of it
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I have been in your friends situation, I was so upset and felt betrayed that so called friends didn’t tell me. Be a good queen friend and tell her 
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Screw minding your business or staying in your lane. Multiple people knew my sons father was cheating and never said a word they let him until one day a woman I never knew of messaged me and yeah I didn’t believe her at first but then I found proof along with hers and since left. It wouldn’t have hurt as bad if someone would have told me. He’ll message me and I’ll tell her. We all need to stop protecting the cheaters and narcissistic behaviors of others. Stop thinking this stuffs okay to keep a secret
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Yes!! It’s the right thing to do 
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“mInD yOuR bUsInEsS” Y’all keep that energy when your man starts playing around on you. Unpopular opinion, I always tell. Every time. Like “I don’t know you, i have nothing to gain from this but your husband is a cheater etc” I send proof if i have it. if they don’t believe it, that’s on them. but if it was my dude i would absolutely want to know. i don’t want left looking stupid, that everyone knows my man is a cheater except me.
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This is the problem with society. All these people saying mind your own business. Bullsh*t. My ex cheated on me and I would’ve praised any woman or man who was adult enough to stand up and say something. Trust me, several people knew and no one had the guts to say anything. I had my suspicions anyways. In the end, I found out myself and then found out people knew and didn’t say anything. Tell her, if she chooses not to believe you, that’s on her. Chances are, she already suspects it anyways.
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Just walk up to her and tell her the truth. Woman power! Women need to stick together. U would want someone to tell u the same truth. It will help avoid wasting time with a liar and a manipulater
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If it was me I would want to know. Sorry for everyone saying stay in your own lane, but I wouldn’t want to be the fool! I would definitely appreciate another woman coming forward and telling me!
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I personally would let the woman know. Now I know from my own experience I’ve been confronted by the other woman which I was honest with her. But her husband was the lowest of the low. After everything it ended quick
Stay out of it. Period.
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It’s was made the posters business when the husband put his cheating ass on display for the poster to see or hear about. As a woman, it’s unforgivable not to tell someone they are being cheated on. She may believe you, she may not. Shoot, she may already know but you should FB message her & tell her. She can decide how to handle it from there.
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I promise you, that you will be the bad guy in this scenario. That being said I would set up a fake fb account and send her a message
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You message her and say “girl you need to check your man’s dms because he is cheating on you” that’ll work. Girl code.
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I don’t understand the stay out of it comments. So you would want other women, who knew about your husband cheating, to not tell you that your husband was cheating!? You rather these people that know mind their business and not tell you?? Hell no. Tell the girl! His pig ass deserves to get caught and deal with the repercussions!
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Please tell her, I had my ex cheat on me many times and wouldn’t give me a straight answer when I asked him, I had others tell me of the things he did and who it was with and I at the time I didn’t believe the people that told me but I was greatful someone did tell me but even though I didn’t want to believe them I felt inside me that it was all true.
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Just tell her but also have proof.
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If you have solid proof, yes.
Tell her! Who cares if she makes you out to be the bad guy, that’s on her. But for you to tell her the truth shows what kind of person you are & your conscious will be clear.
No one deserves to be in either situation, good luck 
welp…I was the woman that was cheated on. Multiple times. I gave up my career to work in the school system so I had the same hours as the kids. He had his own professional business and of course he had to work alllllll sorts of late and weird hours to help clients. Lots of people knew and never told me. At his funeral (yes I outlived him and yes I’m super happy and single!!!) all those women hugged me and told me how sorry they were. I never knew. Until later. Then I called them all and told them that I knew. Some were sorry. Some were mean (“if you had handled your business he wouldn’t have came to me”) and some said almost nothing. I sold everything, didn’t have him buried in the military cemetery with honors, left town and started over. I couldn’t be more happy! If only one of those people who supposedly my friend had told me…I’d have been free a long time ago.
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If I was being cheated on and someone knew and had proof, you’re damn straight I would want to know. I don’t care who tells me, I would want to know. Nothing worse than being the faithful wife and mother and have some lowlife cheater running around screwing other women behind your back while you have the whole world on your shoulders! Tell her!!! 
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She knows but doesn’t want to know.
I wouldn’t, that’s a lot of drama to be stirred up in
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All these women who say mind your own business? What if this is you? Your friends see this happening there not your friends. Women need to stick together. I was really surprised at these comments. If you want to be anonymous put it on a piece of paper and put it in her mail box. If your close to her you need to take her out and break it too her
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